Hate My Boss
laurenz2501
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Everytime i interact with him he degrades me and makes me feel like *kitten*. So yes, it is personal now. I know i'm not the only one who hates their boss. I wish I could up and quit my job like so many other people do with no back-up plan lined up whatsoever. Because I definitely would have 10x over by now.:explode:
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You have to stick up for yourself. Being a girl in a field with mostly men, I have dealt with that too. If someone starts talking down to me, I stop them and let them know I will not be spoken to like that and when they want to have a respectable adult conversation, they know where I sit. I don't really have that issue anymore because everyone I work with knows I'm not putting up with it. Good luck. If you don't stick up for yourself, they will keep treating you like that.
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*cue "social media firing" posts0
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Give in to your primal urges and pelt him with poo like a monkey would.0
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*cue "social media firing" posts
Probably not, since a) i wasn't being specific and b) i have LOTS of bosses.0 -
Have you started looking for another job? It's good to have your ear out even when you like your job. When you don't it's essential.0
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You have to stick up for yourself. Being a girl in a field with mostly men, I have dealt with that too. If someone starts talking down to me, I stop them and let them know I will not be spoken to like that and when they want to have a respectable adult conversation, they know where I sit. I don't really have that issue anymore because everyone I work with knows I'm not putting up with it. Good luck. If you don't stick up for yourself, they will keep treating you like that.
Thank you for your advice and not being an a--hole.
the people on these forums are unreal. 0 -
You have to stick up for yourself. Being a girl in a field with mostly men, I have dealt with that too. If someone starts talking down to me, I stop them and let them know I will not be spoken to like that and when they want to have a respectable adult conversation, they know where I sit. I don't really have that issue anymore because everyone I work with knows I'm not putting up with it. Good luck. If you don't stick up for yourself, they will keep treating you like that.
it cost me a nervous breakdown but I did learn how to stand up for myself and how to simply say "no" (to any "little extra's" - be it staying at work over hours or bringing everyone a cup of coffee just because I'm female) In the end it wasn't my boss that made me quit, it was the work itself. I actually got along with my boss really well... um, meaning, I was the only one at whom he didn't yell on a regular basis and we could bicker quite nicely. I think the trick was that I finally got his sense of humour (about as horrible as my brother's) and in the end I wasn't afraid to hit back.
New job, and who do I not get along with? it's not the off-colour joke guy, it's not the passive-aggressive guy, it's not the bipolar guy... it's the snob girl. *sigh*0 -
When i came back to this small town. i got a job at a local restrant. I loved the boss that hired me. Then another manager took over and she didn't know how to talk to anyone. everyone reported her to the managers above her. She was beyond unprofessional. But what i did wht i started looking for another job. it took me about 4 months but i am here at my new job and i love my manager. So just keep lookin no matter what. You don't need to be treated like that. and yes be grateful you have a job but you can find another one. That is sometimes the best thing to do. When you leave there someone else can put up with his bull ****. Good luck girl0
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It sounds to me like you will have to nip this in the bud asap as it will only get worse. The question I have to ask is, is your boss a bully, what sort of person is he/she, for instance, is your boss an inadequate person, have problems dealing with other people,you need to sit down and assess the situation. If you do not stand up for yourself now it will get worse and then you will begin to believe your boss, I know, I have been there. If you work for a big company with an HR dept, and if taking the action the previous commentor has suggested fails, keep a diary of all such incidents. If you work for a one man band as it were, if you do not stand up for yourself life will become a nightmare, and if you do leave and go elsewhere, there is a distinct possibility that the pattern wil repeat itself, as you could not deal with it once, you will not be in a position to deal with the situation elsewhere. You also have to ask, do I really want to work for such a person, your health is more important than his/her ego. I wish you the best on thisd, it is not easy but only you can deal with it.0
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And I know others were mean about the "grateful you have a job" and i know it was in my last post but I wasn't meaning it to you in no harm. I hope everything works out0
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Something that may help you as you endure or set yourself up to transition; volunteer for something that you absolutely love to do and do that on the side or as often as you can. That may very well help to create balance. Good luck!0
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Something that may help you as you endure or set yourself up to transition; volunteer for something that you absolutely love to do and do that on the side or as often as you can. That may very well help to create balance. Good luck!
That's a great idea and something I keep meaning to do (volunteering). Thanks for the reminder!0 -
Have you started looking for another job? It's good to have your ear out even when you like your job. When you don't it's essential.
Yup, always!
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What does he do to put you down? Is it always business related?
I don’t know what type of business you are in, but sometimes things can get very stressful. For example, my yearly performance and bonus depends on the performance of my employees. I have found out that nothing works best than positive motivation. But yea, I have to be a b*** once in a while when needed.
If your feel that you work hard and put 100% of yourself into your job, I would suggest you say something. Just tell him how you feel. Again, I don’t know what type of manager he is, but I would love my people coming to talk to me, before they decide to hate me and the job.0 -
Give in to your primal urges and pelt him with poo like a monkey would.
^ this. poo flinging is the way to resolve workplace issues. go to anyone's office in HR. if their walls aren't covered in poo, they are not doing their job correctly.
all kidding aside... is the problem with your boss the sort of thing HR needs to know about? is it harassment? or something on that level?0 -
My current boss has never heard of Boss's day in the 25 years he has "managed" people.
Enough said.0 -
You have to stick up for yourself. Being a girl in a field with mostly men, I have dealt with that too. If someone starts talking down to me, I stop them and let them know I will not be spoken to like that and when they want to have a respectable adult conversation, they know where I sit. I don't really have that issue anymore because everyone I work with knows I'm not putting up with it. Good luck. If you don't stick up for yourself, they will keep treating you like that.
it cost me a nervous breakdown but I did learn how to stand up for myself and how to simply say "no" (to any "little extra's" - be it staying at work over hours or bringing everyone a cup of coffee just because I'm female) In the end it wasn't my boss that made me quit, it was the work itself. I actually got along with my boss really well... um, meaning, I was the only one at whom he didn't yell on a regular basis and we could bicker quite nicely. I think the trick was that I finally got his sense of humour (about as horrible as my brother's) and in the end I wasn't afraid to hit back.
New job, and who do I not get along with? it's not the off-colour joke guy, it's not the passive-aggressive guy, it's not the bipolar guy... it's the snob girl. *sigh*
The *snobby girl* has had it out for me since day one and has made my purposeful career change a struggle that I do not wish on anyone. My advice, always have your guard up. Have a back up plan and get to know your HR representative. Harassment in the workplace whether it be a male or female is illegal. Know your rights in your workplace.0 -
You have to stick up for yourself. Being a girl in a field with mostly men, I have dealt with that too. If someone starts talking down to me, I stop them and let them know I will not be spoken to like that and when they want to have a respectable adult conversation, they know where I sit. I don't really have that issue anymore because everyone I work with knows I'm not putting up with it. Good luck. If you don't stick up for yourself, they will keep treating you like that.
Depending on the situation, I agree with the above also.
You have to stand up for yourself. Unfortunately, sexism still exists in the workforce, and a lot of women have to tolerate being treated somehow less than male counterparts in some jobs. If you feel like you're being targeted personally or if the boss is making inappropriate or unnecessarily harsh comments to you, consider talking to someone at human resources. The company you work for should have a policy or procedure in place to deal with it.0 -
They say it's always easier to find a job whilst already been in one!
I have a friend (on MFP funnily enough) that was in the same position, after around 3 months and a handful of interviews she is now in a better paid job, closer to where she lives and is a lot happier.
Don't settle for it, get your resume out there and find a job worthy of your talents, whatever they may be.
Ben.0 -
My Dad is my boss 3 days a week when we have a problem it usually ends up very physical but i wouldnt suggest you trying to choke your boss out lol
Count to 50 if that doesnt work get the fists out oj) 0 -
My Dad is my boss 3 days a week when we have a problem it usually ends up very physical but i wouldnt suggest you trying to choke your boss out lol
Count to 50 if that doesnt work get the fists out oj)
haha now I know why he kicked you when you were 12 lol0 -
New job, and who do I not get along with? it's not the off-colour joke guy, it's not the passive-aggressive guy, it's not the bipolar guy... it's the snob girl. *sigh*
LOL...yeah, i get along with most people, i just honestly believe this one has a personal vendetta against me for no apparent reason.0 -
What does he do to put you down? Is it always business related?
I don’t know what type of business you are in, but sometimes things can get very stressful. For example, my yearly performance and bonus depends on the performance of my employees. I have found out that nothing works best than positive motivation. But yea, I have to be a b*** once in a while when needed.
If your feel that you work hard and put 100% of yourself into your job, I would suggest you say something. Just tell him how you feel. Again, I don’t know what type of manager he is, but I would love my people coming to talk to me, before they decide to hate me and the job.
Very well put. Yes, it is always business related. He doesn't use expletives or anything, of course, but it's just the way he talks down to me and/or comments that are made that really make me feel small. And I am not exaggerating when I say it has been every. single. interaction. with him since I started here.0 -
My dream job is helping penguins put on their bowties.0
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What does he do to put you down? Is it always business related?
I don’t know what type of business you are in, but sometimes things can get very stressful. For example, my yearly performance and bonus depends on the performance of my employees. I have found out that nothing works best than positive motivation. But yea, I have to be a b*** once in a while when needed.
If your feel that you work hard and put 100% of yourself into your job, I would suggest you say something. Just tell him how you feel. Again, I don’t know what type of manager he is, but I would love my people coming to talk to me, before they decide to hate me and the job.
Very well put. Yes, it is always business related. He doesn't use expletives or anything, of course, but it's just the way he talks down to me and/or comments that are made that really make me feel small. And I am not exaggerating when I say it has been every. single. interaction. with him since I started here.
it could be lots of things.
did he hire you or inherit you?
do you do your job well?
is he intimidated by you for some reason?
does he not like you for some reason?
does he treat other employees the same way?
does he treat other female employees the same way?
does he treat other attractive female employees the same way?
etc.
etc..
etc...
it's really hard to guess what might really be going on.
normally, you get a review once per year. that is your time to express your concerns directly to him, in person. that review has to be filled out and initialed and given to HR. he can't fire you if you make your personal concerns clear in your review because then you can sue. there are mechanisms in most workplaces to resolve issues like this without your job being put in jeopardy, you just have to understand the career risks if you do so (in that company at least), but unless they catch you having sex with a unicorn over the dead body of the CEO while looting the company safe, there is virtually no way they would ever give you a bad recommendation for some future employer because they simply don't want to risk a lawsuit.
BTW, some people are just jerks. for no reason. is this guy one of those?0 -
I wished I could quit my job as well... but, I'm to responsible for that (unfortunately). It's just me and my mom... and my mom is disabled, so I have to make the living. As it is now... I'm barely doing that. I get paid way less than I should with a college education.... and both of my bosses (director and manager) treat me like crap. They are constantly belittleing me, complaining, etc... They constantly find something that I've done wrong. And, when I try to kiss butt (just because I need the job), I'll do what they tell me to do to "improve", and they ridicule that too. It's always a no-win situation with them. So far, I've been told that I make a bad first impression, because I don't dress nice enough and don't wear make up everyday. I'm inconsiderate. I'm ungrateful. I'm a snob. Blah, blah, blah....
Last year, I was sexually harassed at work. When I brought it up to them, their exact words were "forget it, move on, and pretend it didn't happen".
I probably should end there. I start ranting a lot when talking about these 2 women.0 -
it could be lots of things.
did he hire you or inherit you? Inherit
do you do your job well? Yes
is he intimidated by you for some reason? Not sure.
does he not like you for some reason? Not sure (unless it's racial, which has crossed my mind)
does he treat other employees the same way? Some of them have had similar complaints, yes, but not all.
does he treat other female employees the same way? I've "heard" he has but haven't seen it in action.
does he treat other attractive female employees the same way? again not 100% sure but I've heard he has
LMAO@ unicorn partunless they catch you having sex with a unicorn over the dead body of the CEO while looting the company safe, there is virtually no way they would ever give you a bad recommendation for some future employer because they simply don't want to risk a lawsuit.
I believe so...I've heard he's like this "to everyone" but some people like him, and I don't know how that's possible. It makes me wonder what they do differently that I don't do. I've tried to figure "it's just the way he is" and I know all bosses are different so we have to adapt to each boss, but this is really getting out of hand with this particular one. I just don't know if it is reportable at this point because a) I don't have any other incidents documented and I don't remember them clearly by now (haven't worked with him for about 2 months) and b) Since it is work related, he could probably argue "constructive criticism", but it's not when you're degrading someone. It's not like he curses me out or does something he could be fired for, but yeah, it does feel like it's personal. Absolutely.BTW, some people are just jerks. for no reason. is this guy one of those?0 -
How would you like to have a woman boss who talks in baby talk all day long and still dresses in her 80"s clothes..........I want to punch her everyday!:grumble:0
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I love my boss.0
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How would you like to have a woman boss who talks in baby talk all day long and still dresses in her 80"s clothes..........I want to punch her everyday!:grumble:
i'll take an annoying voice and bad dresser over an a-hole any day!! at least she can be nice with her annoying voice LOL0
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