Serious question for the swingers.....

Chapter3point6

I found the thread very interesting and learned a lot. Pretty cool of you guys who participate to be so forthcoming for those of us who just had no idea how it all works.

Another question for those of you who are in such relationships. Was this something you discussed prior to getting married or was it something that you decided to explore once you were already married?

She is only asking because she wants to hook up with me.

SuffolkSally

Does anyone care? If iti's open and with mutual consent then fine. If not and it's cheating then it's wrong. Would never be my choice and I avoid swingers I personally know

If it doesn't bother you, why would you avoid them? you can't catch "swinging" by hanging out with a swinger.

If they know you're not into swinging they wont try to recruit you. Its a lifestyle thing - not some club!!

I bet some (more like ALL) of your swinging friends wished it was contagious and you would catch their bug.

Good question. He's an active recruiter. Also deeply unattractive. I'm not sure what her take on things is. I'm for one-to-one relationships myself - so I suppose I avoid them because my choices are different.

magerum

I'm going out on a limb here, but my guess is why people "swing" or whatever you want to call it is:

Sex is fun.

slackerwoman

I found the thread very interesting and learned a lot. Pretty cool of you guys who participate to be so forthcoming for those of us who just had no idea how it all works.

Another question for those of you who are in such relationships. Was this something you discussed prior to getting married or was it something that you decided to explore once you were already married?

She is only asking because she wants to hook up with me.

Yeah, so?

joeysox

i guess everyone is different and everyone has their own ideas of what is and is not acceptable within a committed relationships. personally i find it wrong im married, happily and we gain everything we need but thats only my view what makes us happy may not make others happy x

Why is it "wrong" if both spouses agree? How does it affect your life if I choose to be with other people?

i didnt mean wrong for you, i meant it would be wrong within my relationship as we chose monogamy its what works for us, i was trying to say everyone is different, its not for me nor my partner but i know people it works for, ive just never understood it as my friends are not open to discussing it they are very much a 'if you dont join our ways keep out' kinda thing but im a curious person!

ilikepandasyay

i guess everyone is different and everyone has their own ideas of what is and is not acceptable within a committed relationships. personally i find it wrong im married, happily and we gain everything we need but thats only my view what makes us happy may not make others happy x

Why is it "wrong" if both spouses agree? How does it affect your life if I choose to be with other people?

i didnt mean wrong for you, i meant it would be wrong within my relationship as we chose monogamy its what works for us, i was trying to say everyone is different, its not for me nor my partner but i know people it works for, ive just never understood it as my friends are not open to discussing it they are very much a 'if you dont join our ways keep out' kinda thing but im a curious person!

In that case, I totally agree.

I don't know why your friends won't discuss it though, talking about it makes more people aware, and helps break apart the misconceptions!

joeysox

i guess everyone is different and everyone has their own ideas of what is and is not acceptable within a committed relationships. personally i find it wrong im married, happily and we gain everything we need but thats only my view what makes us happy may not make others happy x

Why is it "wrong" if both spouses agree? How does it affect your life if I choose to be with other people?

i didnt mean wrong for you, i meant it would be wrong within my relationship as we chose monogamy its what works for us, i was trying to say everyone is different, its not for me nor my partner but i know people it works for, ive just never understood it as my friends are not open to discussing it they are very much a 'if you dont join our ways keep out' kinda thing but im a curious person!

In that case, I totally agree.

I don't know why your friends won't discuss it though, talking about it makes more people aware, and helps break apart the misconceptions!

true everyone has a different idea of what works within a relationship and if people are not open about it then no one can understand it. i have to be honest it baffles me but probably only because ive never discussed it with anyone before i find it hard to get my head around sharing someone i love? so i tried to discuss this with my friend but they kinda closed up about it i was trying to understand but its difficult when they wont discuss itxx

mistressfaye

joeysox, Im sure there are several of us around there that would be glad to answer any questions for you

joeysox

i always worry it will offend people especially when my friends dont respond to it lol its difficult because we lead different lifestyles but i dont see how this should stop us from socializing or make one of us uncomfortable, if they talked about it i would be able to understand it if that makes sense? i dont want to be ignorant of something that is important to the people around me x

Secret_Agent_007

"Are you crazy? This is like discovering Plutonium ... by accident." Was the best line ever.