38lbs down. No one has noticed.

lauryn0392

I look in the mirror and still see this obese person. Its like everyday im getting bigger and bigger. No one at work has noticed either and ive lost 38lbs , 20% body weight and down three sizes. I feel like this weight loss is fake and the scales are lying to me.

I dont get why I, or anybody else can not see a difference.

Any thoughts?

pamperedpenguin

I'm in the same boat: down 42 lbs and not one peep outta anyone.

Here is my thought: people just don't know what to say. If they say, "wow! It looks like you've lost some weight" they worry that you'll think they thought you were grotesque before.

So instead of running the risk of insulting you they just say nothing.

I know it's a bummer. You're not doing it for them, but you've worked really hard and acknowledgement would be nice.

Don't let that get you down, though. 38 lbs is awesome. Keep up the great work!

bohonomad

It took 30 pounds before people noticed I had lost weight and then all of a sudden I was getting a ton of compliments. It took my coworkers and family longer to notice, when people see you all the time it's hard to notice a change. My boyfriend didn't even mention it until he saw me swimming in a dress that used to be tight. Maybe you need to visit people you haven't seen in a while for a confidence boost!

AZiegenhorn

Have you bought new clothes yet?

tessa175

Please don't get discouraged, I've lost 37lbs, gone down 2 almost 3 pant sizes, and people are just starting to feel comfortable mentioning that they noticed. A lot of people feel uncomfortable makng comments about it until it's really evident. Just be proud of yourself! 38lbsi s a huge accomplishment!

bushidowoman

The mirror can lie. Take progress pictures ever so often and compare them side by side.
Even if nobody is saying anything yet, 38 pounds is a significant achievement! Surely you've felt some difference?

shrez

When I first started losing weight no one really said anything a few friends were polite but you could tell they couldnt see anything, then one day an older guy who used to sit next to me at work said.... hey I can see how much weight you have lost now... at the begining I could tell you had lost some but you were still fat, but now its making a real difference..... I am sure it was a complement but I didnt even know what to say Now people that know me well walk past because the dont recognise me. It will happen

chubbygirl253

I didn't drop a size until I lost around 25 lbs. Even then I didn't see it. Finally over 30 lbs lost I could sorta see it. But I am wearing mostly the same clothes and I've lost nearly 50 lbs. People notice but not like I thought they would. The bigger you are starting out the harder it is too see it. I have always had a round face and I can't see any change in it yet but my fiance says he can. My fave fitness instructor mentioned the other day that my face was getting slimmer.

lisabinco

Let's see, I was at least 40 pounds down before anyone except hubby said anything. Partly it was my clothes as I was wearing things that were too big for me. Once I got down about 4 sizes and started wearing the smaller sizes, friends and family began to notice. Ah, well. I was happy about it; that's what really mattered to me.

cornucopiaoflove

I would say look at progress photos (if you've taken any), and post them here in the message boards! People are supportive, and we're all in the same boat. People are uncomfortable complimenting others on weight loss, and we're programmed to look in the mirror and see the bad stuff. I don't know many people who can look in the mirror and say "wow, my arms/thighs/butt/etc look awesome today. When you look in the mirror tell yourself something positive (sounds stupid, but it really works)!

sohmui

I am very fortunate to be living in Hong Kong where the local people tell it like it is with no punches pulled. After I'd lost about 9 lbs, I was told my face looked thinner [thin is not regarded as good here]. After 14 lbs, someone I hadn't seen recently cried out, "Wow, you've lost weight! How did you do it?"

I'm sure it's as written above - that people feel awkward about it. Maybe they are waiting for YOU to say something first. Why don't you kick it off by saying, "Well, what do you think? Have I lost weight?" or "What do you think about the new me?".

amydee714

My thoughts are who cares? :flowerforyou: You are doing this for YOU not THEM! One day you are going to walk in there like BAM! and they are all going to be like WTF! On that day (if I were you) I would just raise an eyebrow at them and say "what?"

On a side note, it wasn't until I had lost about 80 pounds before someone noticed. Now I hear people pretty much every other day say things to me like "you are looking really good" and "have you lost weight"... maybe a couple pounds. :laugh: :laugh:

ang3h

I hear ya. Barely anyone noticed my weight loss either.. it wasn't a drastic loss but I think 30 lbs would be noticeable, after all it was noticeable enough to me to make me want to lose it..

jaja76

Don't get discouraged. It was only recently that coworkers started mentioning my weight loss and how different I looked. I think for the most part they didn't know what to say. Now it's a lot of how'd you lose the weight. I guess they expect me to say I have a magic pill or something but it's been through hard work. So I'm honest and open about it when someone asks me questions. I still have a hard time seeing the change in the mirror and the only way I notice is when I see a old picture of myself. You're doing great and keep up the hard work!

eris1981

I think that when people see you every day, it's not as noticeable. You see yourself in the mirror every day so you don't really notice . . . when you see someone you haven't seen in a while, it's a lot more likely to get complimented . . . or at least that's how it was for me

Rodamort

The only people that "notice" have been people that know I am working hard to lose weight. Anyone else hasn't really said anything and I'm 55 lbs down! But I liked this comment!!!

My thoughts are who cares? :flowerforyou: You are doing this for YOU not THEM! One day you are going to walk in there like BAM! and they are all going to be like WTF! On that day (if I were you) I would just raise an eyebrow at them and say "what?"

MyPaperBleedsInk

Annnnnnd sometimes if people see you every day they don't notice as easily because the change is gradual. People only noticed I was losing weight when I went home on break from college, and my relatives hadn't seen me in like two or three months.

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casasruby

Dont give up! Keep going, the health benefits of weight loss are worth it in the long run. Sometimes when you see your friends and family every single day, they fail to notice the change. But if you run into someone whom you haven't seen in a while, I bet they will compliment you... Another thing, if you started off very large, It will take longer to show.

EnchantedEvening

My boyfriend sees me every day, so it wasn't obvious to him until I showed him progress pictures. People at work see you every day, so it's sort of the same thing. It wasn't until recently people started to mention it, and a few people did say, "I didn't know if I should ask since weight is such a sensitive topic."

Make sure you buy new clothes that fit properly. I notice that if I wear one of my bigger flannel shirts and jeans that are a bit too big, I look like my starting weight. If I wear a top and jeans that fit, you can definitely see the difference.

jhall1255

when people see you everyday they rarely notice. the only people that notice with me are people at work that i run into every once in awhile.
ive lost 30 lbs and went down almost 3 pants sizes my bf didnt even notice until i showed him before and after pictures. which is how i really could tell the difference as well.

you should find an old pic of you when you started and take one of you now and compare and im sure youll really notice!

good luck!

Oaeneo

I'm getting the whole "boyfriend doesn't notice my weight loss" too. I've lost about 25 lbs total. I console myself with maybe he also won't notice if I gain a few.

Dianafrance8

I know what you mean. I have lost 83 but because I really want to be all the way to be my goal, often I don't see any changes. But you said the magic word-you have dropped 3 sizes. That is a fact, not a lie. You are doing great. Try on those new clothes and feel good about your progress. Go shopping just to try on stuff for fun. Keep a notebook in your purse and jot down every little positive thing that happens to you each day-especially those things related to you getting healthier . Just go for it.

fitmom_pam1976

I want to believe that it is the "when people see you everyday they can not see the difference" thing. But I sometimes feel like if they are people that also need to lose weight or were happy with you being the "fat" one so that they felt better about themselves, they will NEVER compliment you. I have not lost a great deal.....17 lbs. But I have toned up and I can see my body has changed. I wear clothes that I could not wear before. My family ALL see it. My "friends"....not a peep!!!! hmmmm....makes you wonder????

pen2u

You have to do it for yourself, not for anyone else. Trust the data and keep going. If you get a compliment, great! If not, don't let that stop you. Who knows why people aren't speaking up? My family acts resentful, like I'm doing this to annoy them. Oh, well! I smile when I look in the mirror and am enjoying being fit. I do not care what they think.

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werdnap2000

Awesome work - losing 38lbs is a really hard thing to do so well done. Perhaps focus on how you are feeling as opposed to how you percieve that you are looking are what you "think" other people imagine you look. I would also think you'd have more energy now that you are not having to walk around with that additional 38lbs so I'm sure you could find a few positives.

valeriewxy

It's probably what the others have already mentioned - you just don't see the difference from day to day Also, it might be better to consider percentage weight loss than actual weight loss. A small weight loss on a petite person is definitely going to show quicker than a small weight loss on a bigger person.

38lbs is a huge achievement though, so don't let people get you down! You've done well

christibam

I still have days where I look in the mirror and don't notice that I've lost anything. . . those aren't super awesome days. As for other people; I think I lost about 70lbs before people outside my immediate support group said anything.

It takes time but it'll happen and you'll pretty much feel like you're walking on clouds when it does.

MinMin97

Did you take b4 pics? There absolutely has to be a difference. That's a lotta weight loss...your body is loving that!

Neeser926

It JUST happened for me on Sunday. I've had a few people ask if I have lost weight but I wanted someone, anyone, to notice with an exclamation point. Wow! You've lost weight! I was 36% of my weight gone, 2 sizes smaller and 46.5 pounds lost before I got it. I might not get it again but it sure did feel good!

Hang in there keep working on you and it will happen.