Question for guys…when a woman complains..
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If she brings it up then it's clearly an issue she needs help resolving from her loving life mate. Or at least I assume; I wasn't listening.0
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Passive aggressive behavior is annoying in whatever form it comes in, no matter where it comes from. People who do this are looking for a pat on the head for being "ok" even if they feel they are not. Blech. Kill yourself.0
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I'm not a guy but agree.0
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ok i see your posts almost everyday here and they are very interesting..nothing against that!..but its becoming very disconcerting hearing you talk everyday without a head.I dont know why but Its bothering me a lot lol..just saying :explode:
Lets face it, guys don't look at our faces when we're talking anyway but thanks for our next forum post material.0 -
Passive aggressive behavior is annoying in whatever form it comes in, no matter where it comes from. People who do this are looking for a pat on the head for being "ok" even if they feel they are not. Blech. Kill yourself.
LOL! Thanks for the laugh!0 -
Sometimes we just want to vocalise what's going on in our head. No response is necessary. I know that for me it helps to just say it aloud instead of letting it fester inside.
I totally agree..Same for men too.. I always hate it when men complain ( Thank god hubby dont do it often)..There is a difference about complaining about traffic and complaining about your body. There is nothing you can do about the traffic, but you sure can do something to change your body. So just plain complaining makes me mad
There are times I tell my husband "listen Im gonna have to be at the gym a little longer this week, I gotta work on a few pounds"..Thats me letting it out, telling him what my plan is. But just b***ing about something without following up with a plan is uselss.0 -
I disagree with you. I feel that I should be able to talk about anything with the person I am with including any negative thoughts about myself. I feel that he should be just as comfortable bring up things about himself that bother him as well. A good relationship should be completely open and honest, even about things that may make the other person involved uncomfortable.0
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Like one guy already said....there's constantly whining and the occasional complaint....
I would complain about little things or the occasional hormonal "I have NOTHING to wear and NOTHING looks good" moments but he did too actually hahaha
He has been the only guy I dated that we would discuss body shapes/goals and workouts regularly together0 -
If I were a guy, I'd want to play Bruno Mars 'Just the Way You Are' once, and I'd say, "This is the way I feel about you. End. Of. Story." And then I wouldn't want to hear anymore whining about appearance.
Confidence, an aura of mystery, and some feminine secrets are worth preserving. Good magicians never tell how they create their magic.0 -
I 'complain' all the time to my boyfriend. It's not compliment fishing. If my weight is bothering me then the one person in the world that I should be able to share that with is him. Why should you hide something that is a big part of your life from the person that you are with for fear of turning them off. If it turns them off then they obvious don't care too much for your feelings. When I do bring up my weight issues it's to talk through how I feel and to maybe get some constructive criticism and a hug out of it to make me feel better. If you are making a concious effort to lose weight and things are taking a long time or not going to plan then I definitely wouldn't want to save that for talking to my girls.0
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I don't necessarily complain about my looks.... but my bf compliments my appearance consistently, and it just feels awkward.
Well You boyfriend is just a d***, sorry for being harsh.0 -
I disagree with you. I feel that I should be able to talk about anything with the person I am with including any negative thoughts about myself. I feel that he should be just as comfortable bring up things about himself that bother him as well. A good relationship should be completely open and honest, even about things that may make the other person involved uncomfortable.
I agree that you should be able to talk about everything..but the question is "is it a good idea to"..
Like I wonder how many times the man wants to jump your bones right after you complaining about your body ?? Thats my point, like does it bother men when we do it?0 -
ok i see your posts almost everyday here and they are very interesting..nothing against that!..but its becoming very disconcerting hearing you talk everyday without a head.I dont know why but Its bothering me a lot lol..just saying :explode:
Lets face it, guys don't look at our faces when we're talking anyway but thanks for our next forum post material.
It's kind of hard to look at your face when your profile picture is one of your breasts...0 -
Every time my fiance complains about her looks she is basically insulting my taste in women.0
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ok i see your posts almost everyday here and they are very interesting..nothing against that!..but its becoming very disconcerting hearing you talk everyday without a head.I dont know why but Its bothering me a lot lol..just saying :explode:
Lets face it, guys don't look at our faces when we're talking anyway but thanks for our next forum post material.
LOL
I am certainly not going to complain about the view, although you do have a beautiful face.0 -
ya know, all they are really thinking is "bish, make me a sammich!"0
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ya know, all they are really thinking is "bish, make me a sammich!"
LOL...love it!0 -
ya know, all they are really thinking is "bish, make me a sammich!"
absolutely, or maybe if i help her solve her problems, then she will make me a sammich...lol0 -
Like I wonder how many times the man wants to jump your bones right after you complaining about your body ?? Thats my point, like does it bother men when we do it?
Yes, you should save the self deprecation for the after sex pillow talk. That way you can leave him with a vague sense of shame. Especially after what he just asked you to do.
Sorry, it's Friday.0 -
Ok ,so I'm not a guy but I AM the one in my relationship who hears the most complaints. My bf complains a lot but I have discovered when he does, it is not because he wants a 'fix' he just needs someone to talk to who he feels will understand and give support.
I don't find him any less sexy because he chooses to confide in me. I don't feel it's a 'chore' to listen to him. This is what a relationship is about. When you love someone you are there for them. you gladly give whatever is needed. A compliment, a re-assuring hug, a kiss. My partner isn't just there to provide me pleasure or be my sex toy - relationships are a 2 way street! If he complains I help him however I can, If I have a bad day then he does the same for me.
Yes, confidence is nice but confidence and 'complaining' are not the same thing. Some people just need more emotional support. If you don't want to listen/support/help then possible this is not the 'right' person for you.0
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