Question for guys…when a woman complains..

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  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    94.5% of guys reading this thread are also simultaneously thinking about sex, sammiches, sex, football, sex, and sex.

    :tongue:

    about the complaining thing... i'd say that a guy by age 25 already knows its part of his job as bf/husband to reassure his gf/wife about her looks. so complaining doesn't register that much and isn't a problem. however, complaining during sex, while he's watching football, or while he's eating a sammich... that's a problem.
  • edge_dragoncaller
    edge_dragoncaller Posts: 826 Member
    ok i see your posts almost everyday here and they are very interesting..nothing against that!..but its becoming very disconcerting hearing you talk everyday without a head.I dont know why but Its bothering me a lot lol..just saying :explode:

    Lets face it, guys don't look at our faces when we're talking anyway but thanks for our next forum post material. :)

    i think this reflects more about what type of guys your attracting...

    She was joking

    Yes, lighten up!

    You were joking? :indifferent: That's actually somewhat disappointing. The resulting comments on that subject would have been good reading.

    I'm sorry to disappoint...let me see If I can manage to offend someone else!

    << WARNING - Ulterior motive at work >>

    Show some more skin. that is bound to upset someone, :laugh:
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    Depends, if you're talking about being proactive and what you are doing to change this or that and it's a casual conversation that you're having together and it's an occassional conversation. . . then I disagree with you and think this is acceptable.

    If it's constant self deprecation or a fishing expedition and you do it ALL THE DAMN TIME then I don't think that's an acceptible conversation to have with anyone except your trainer, nutritionist, and therapist.
  • louiseshaw88
    louiseshaw88 Posts: 132 Member
    I've had this situation with my OH, however my complaining was an insecure cry for help so all those guys saying "I find it annoying" yadda yadda yadda maybe if your OH is "complaining" pay attention and offer help :)
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    When a woman, or man, starts complaining, I tune 'em out.
  • fcp1234
    fcp1234 Posts: 1,098 Member
    Are you kidding?

    Every guy I've ever dated has complained to ME about HIS appearance. If he can do it so can I.


    Oh I can not stand men that complain..if the complaint is followed by a plan on how he is gonna fix it, yea not that bad..But just plain complaining, I have never and would never be with a man that does it...
  • fcp1234
    fcp1234 Posts: 1,098 Member
    I've had this situation with my OH, however my complaining was an insecure cry for help so all those guys saying "I find it annoying" yadda yadda yadda maybe if your OH is "complaining" pay attention and offer help :)
    \

    How can your partner help you with your looks? I dont get it..Thats your thing and you need to take care of it.
  • penrbrown
    penrbrown Posts: 2,685 Member
    Are you kidding?

    Every guy I've ever dated has complained to ME about HIS appearance. If he can do it so can I.


    Oh I can not stand men that complain..if the complaint is followed by a plan on how he is gonna fix it, yea not that bad..But just plain complaining, I have never and would never be with a man that does it...

    Actually, this is probably why I'm single. They irritated me with the whining and whinging. Not just about their looks but about everything. :P
  • fcp1234
    fcp1234 Posts: 1,098 Member
    Are you kidding?

    Every guy I've ever dated has complained to ME about HIS appearance. If he can do it so can I.


    Oh I can not stand men that complain..if the complaint is followed by a plan on how he is gonna fix it, yea not that bad..But just plain complaining, I have never and would never be with a man that does it...

    Actually, this is probably why I'm single. They irritated me with the whining and whinging. Not just about their looks but about everything. :P

    I know that men complain about stuff like traffic..but looks..come on, I could not stand that at all. Thats gay.

    I mean I know guys ( even my husband sometimes) that will joke about something they dont like about them, but thats different than complain.
  • LloydSev
    LloydSev Posts: 41 Member
    If a woman complains about her appearance, it's only annoying if she isn't doing anything to correct it. A person who complains without action to correct is just a whiner, and who wants to be around that all the time? If a person is actively doing something to correct the issue, that's entirely different and is someone who takes action when they see something wrong.
  • vidald
    vidald Posts: 75 Member
    I don't necessarily complain about my looks.... but my bf compliments my appearance consistently, and it just feels awkward. After years of negativity towards myself due to weight, or years of negativity from a few others I encounter just because of the way I chose to dress at that point.... I feel as though I'm a) undeserving of compliments, and/or b) that anyone who says something nice to me is lying.

    I completely agree with you! I used to be thin in my eyes, but my ex treated me like a trophy. I didn't like how that felt so I gained weight and let myself go (yes I should have just left) I felt horrible about the way I looked and then he would just make fun of me because of the weight.

    Now I am with someone new and I still have those insecurities with him that he will think I am fat and make fun of me. Sometimes I just to him for motivation even though he loves how I look!
  • fcp1234
    fcp1234 Posts: 1,098 Member

    Now I am with someone new and I still have those insecurities with him that he will think I am fat and make fun of me.

    Sorry to sound harsh, but this is your problem that only you can fix. Its not his job to make you love yourself.
  • 1ConcreteGirl
    1ConcreteGirl Posts: 3,677 Member
    For the longest time I never believed that anyone actually asked the classic "Do these jeans make me look fat?" question.

    I've never asked if I look good in something; if someone says something it's nice, but I know how to look in a mirror and see if I need to put something else on,
  • louiseshaw88
    louiseshaw88 Posts: 132 Member
    I've had this situation with my OH, however my complaining was an insecure cry for help so all those guys saying "I find it annoying" yadda yadda yadda maybe if your OH is "complaining" pay attention and offer help :)
    \

    How can your partner help you with your looks? I dont get it..Thats your thing and you need to take care of it.

    Support thats how
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    Yes your bum does look big in that...
  • kimad
    kimad Posts: 3,010 Member
    I don't think you should complain to your partner about it either.

    One thing my last boyfriend really liked about me, is that I never said 'do I look ok?' 'do I look fat in this?' etc. He liked I owned it.
  • casey882
    casey882 Posts: 291 Member
    if there is a prob then fine but as long as you dont go on and on about it as a man ur damed if you do and damed if you dont if my wife complains about some thing about her self if i agree im wrong for critasizing and if i dont agree with her then im wrong for not being surportive so what do i do ????? for me if i say i really like what she is wearing she knows i really like it but if i say nothing or say its ok then she knows i dont really lol
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