POLL: How would you prefer to be broken up with?
Method A: Have them gently break the news to you, possibly lying to make you feel better. "It's not you, it's me" type stuff.
Method B: Have that person intentionally make you hate them. They withhold sex, fight and scream at you over nothing, become just an overall crappy spouse, until you finally have enough and end it with them.
I feel like method B is less cruel? I've been broken up with where I was told "if I was going to date anyone, it would be you. But I'm just not looking to be in a relationship at this point. I love you and your a great girl". My world was shattered.
So, what do you think?
Method B: Have that person intentionally make you hate them. They withhold sex, fight and scream at you over nothing, become just an overall crappy spouse, until you finally have enough and end it with them.
I feel like method B is less cruel? I've been broken up with where I was told "if I was going to date anyone, it would be you. But I'm just not looking to be in a relationship at this point. I love you and your a great girl". My world was shattered.
So, what do you think?
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C - none of the above
Tell me the truth, if it hurts my feeling so be it - but don't lie and dont get all immature and start causing issues that are not there. If you're not happy and you don't want to date.... bye!0 -
Yeah I should have added a C. Just be honest and hope for the best.
Breaking up sucks.0 -
I am in the C none of the above camp
I prefer to be told the truth and it quick and over with0 -
D. The truth and a monetary parting gift
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Like, we didnt work out but here's a BRAND NEW CAR!!! lol0 -
C. Leave the money on the dresser and walk away.
In reality: just say you want to break up to my face.0 -
D. The truth and a monetary parting gift)
Like, we didnt work out but here's a BRAND NEW CAR!!! lol
LMFAO!!! This would be ideal... But if not I'll take honesty over bull**** any day!0 -
yeah, c is the best option. i dont want to be lied to. maybe some people do... but for me, honesty is the best bet.0
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D. The truth and a monetary parting gift)
Like, we didnt work out but here's a BRAND NEW CAR!!! lol
HAHAHAHA awesome.0 -
only option would be complete honesty....no drama!
Best of Luck :flowerforyou:0 -
She encourages a threesome with her drop dead gorgeous gf, then afterwards says it has made her too jealous and crazy for us to stay together. 0 -
C - none of the above
Tell me the truth, if it hurts my feeling so be it - but don't lie and dont get all immature and start causing issues that are not there. If you're not happy and you don't want to date.... bye!
I second what Chele said. Man up if you're going to break up with me0 -
c
just pull the band-aid off quickly.0 -
Method A: Have them gently break the news to you, possibly lying to make you feel better. "It's not you, it's me" type stuff.
Method B: Have that person intentionally make you hate them. They withhold sex, fight and scream at you over nothing, become just an overall crappy spouse, until you finally have enough and end it with them.
I feel like method B is less cruel? I've been broken up with where I was told "if I was going to date anyone, it would be you. But I'm just not looking to be in a relationship at this point. I love you and your a great girl". My world was shattered.
So, what do you think?
C - honesty
If a guy really broke up with you like that, you need to read 'he's just not that into you' An enlightening eye opener. A must read for everyone dating - men and women alike.0 -
"Your ***** isn't doing it for me anymore. We should start seeing other people."0
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I agree.....
C. None of the above
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D. Being told the truth and nothing but the truth.
I was recently left by my fiance of almost 3 years and he fed me all kinds of lies, then when we where working things out with each other the truth came out that he lied, cheated, used and manipulated me. I would have rather been dumped flat out and told that he cheated on me, than to be led on with all the crap he gave me. If you don't want to be with someone no matter how hard it is tell the truth!!!! It will always be easier in the long run.0 -
i would have to agree honesty. however there are some people who if u do that they go all psycho and stalkerish on you so you have to make em hate you lol0
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LOL Perfect. DeFlect DeFlect!!"Your ***** isn't doing it for me anymore. We should start seeing other people."0 -
Both are cruel. B seems extreme if you really DO hate the person why be with them? A is just selfish.
If you're going to dump me, or someone else- just be straight. Unless they are a difficult personality they are going to take the break up the same way you would. So treat them the same way you would want to be treated.0 -
Brutal honesty is what I would prefer.
Also extremely angsty breakup songs playing in the background.0 -
If you two are constantly making sure the relationship is working for you with COMPLETE honesty, then a difference in what each wants isn't a problem.
It is always a simple choice of "Am I willing to continue like this?" and if the answer is no... then an honest "___ isn't working for me, and I'm not okay with that." Then THEY have the choice of changing, or agreeing that it's time to move on.0 -
Yes, i am on the C boat too. I've been told "it's not you it's me." regardless that doesnt make you feel better even if that was the intention. I'd prefer honesty on your turf. EX. my ex decided to break up with me after me driving a half hour to his house, going out to dinner, then having "the talk" when we got home. sucks!0
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adult and honest conversation/communication0
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if it HAD to be done, i say face to face..i had my ex-fiancee break up with me via snail mail..then he refused to take my phone calls..we lived 16 hours away, and he claims it was because he couldnt do a LDR, but we had been for a while, and things were great, so i think it was something else..then we became friends again 10 years later, and he pulled some stupid crap again..needless to say, we arent friends anymore..0
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I'd prefer for her to be straight up with me; no BS. Tell me the REAL reason for you ending the relationship.0
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I've been broken up with over the phone a lot. If you're gonna stab me in the heart, do it in person.0
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Lie to me Baby!0
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C - none of the above
Tell me the truth, if it hurts my feeling so be it - but don't lie and dont get all immature and start causing issues that are not there. If you're not happy and you don't want to date.... bye!
^^^^ I absolutely agree!!0 -
E: During Sex0
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Having been through method B, it is definitely not less cruel. When someone you loved for four years suddenly changes, it hurts as you try to make it right.
That said, I'm with the C - None of the above. crowd. Tell me honestly, and let's part amicably.0 -
C - none of the above
Tell me the truth, if it hurts my feeling so be it - but don't lie and dont get all immature and start causing issues that are not there. If you're not happy and you don't want to date.... bye!
^^This. Man up and tell me the truth.0
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