Who can look at your cell phone???

dayotte33
dayotte33 Posts: 80 Member
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A cell phone is a probation officer's best friend. We look at them and the probationer's entire world is on there.
But if I went to look at my own kid's phone all heck would break loose. I realize that's a parenting issue and believe me it has been addressed.
My wife and I leave ours out in the open. Anyone can look at it anytime they want because we have nothing to hide.
Is that the case with anyone else? Can your SO look at your phone? Or is it hands off? How about your children...can you look at theirs?
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  • skylark94
    skylark94 Posts: 2,036 Member
    My husband knows the password for my phone and is free to spy on my whenever he wants. The same goes for my access to his, but I have never felt the need to snoop.

    My son's phone isn't "smart", but when he does get an upgrade I will have full access or he won't get to keep it.
  • dayotte33
    dayotte33 Posts: 80 Member
    That's great. I certainly should have had better rules when the kids started getting their phones years ago.
  • DrMAvDPhD
    DrMAvDPhD Posts: 2,097 Member
    Well, I guess anyone. The only thing is I'd be really embarrassed if they hit play on my Audible account, I have some raunchy romance novels on there lol. Well, if a stranger/not so close friend flipped through my photo album I might also be embarrassed by some of my before/after shots for MFP because I don't get down to bikini wear for just everyone :laugh:

    But yeah, there definitely isn't anything to hide from my husband and I'd be worried if he was not willing to let me flip through his. I don't, but I do play games on it and stuff if we are somewhere and I already toasted my own battery, so I'd catch on if he suddenly didn't want me touching it.

    ETA: No kids. And no one elses kids are touching my phone because that shiz is expensive!
  • farfoorah
    farfoorah Posts: 168
    No one but me can look though my phone ever.
  • know_your_worth
    know_your_worth Posts: 481 Member
    Only me.
    There's too much in there: pictures, text messages, etc. It would be an invasion of privacy for someone to go through it.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I'm single. Thusly no one should be looking at my phone unless I've died and they're trying to delete the sext & porn before my parents find it.
  • dayotte33
    dayotte33 Posts: 80 Member
    I'm single. Thusly no one should be looking at my phone unless I've died and they're trying to delete the sext & porn before my parents find it.


    :-)
  • deb3129
    deb3129 Posts: 1,294 Member
    I am married, and my cell phone is open game for my hubby. There is nothing on there I would hide from him, and I would not want him to feel like i was trying to hide something.

    I have a teenage daughter whose cell phone I pay for. She also knows that if I want to look at what is on her phone, I will do so. I have worked in law enfrocement for years, and have seen the results of not keeping up with what kids are doing. So I have periodicaloy gone through my kids phones (my other daughter just turned 19 and pays for her own phone, so she is free )
  • Erienneb
    Erienneb Posts: 592 Member
    I don't have a lock on my phone and neither does my bf. Neither of us have felt the need to go through the other's phones. Sometimes if we want to shazam something or look something up and the other person's phone is available, we'll grab it. He doesn't care if I pick his up and use it or look at it, but I've never felt like I need to look through it. Same goes for me. He can take my phone whever, but he doesn't need to.
  • Brianna72994
    Brianna72994 Posts: 887
    I dont mind if my boyfriend looks through my phone, I dont have a password or anything. And I have the password to his phone. But we never feel the need to look through each other's phones, as far as I know.
  • iAMsmiling
    iAMsmiling Posts: 2,394 Member
    It's always in my pocket. My wife could look if she wanted to. She borrows it now and again.

    My kid's cell phone is subject to inspection at any time. Happens pretty regularly.
  • WendyTerry420
    WendyTerry420 Posts: 13,274 Member
    No one ever *wants* to look at my cell phone. But then, I'm not on probation either. :laugh:

    No one but my family would ever have access to it anyway, and I don't care if they look at it, or even use it. There's nothing for anyone to see. I don't have a fancy internet-type "smart" phone either, so there's really *nothing* to see. :laugh:

    Edit: And why would I want to look at my kids' text messages to their friends? I have much better things to do with my time.
  • DontStopB_Leakin
    DontStopB_Leakin Posts: 3,863 Member
    My husband can look through my phone at any time, and I'm welcome to look through his.


    That being said, we don't.
  • Ocarina
    Ocarina Posts: 1,550 Member
    I have a password on my phone in case it gets dropped and left somewhere I don't want any weirdos getting access to all my stuff.

    My husband is free to use it. Especially since it's the better of both phones and it gives him something to do when he's waiting on me shopping or something.

    My husband's phone is free game as well. Sometimes i have to go in and actually check the voice mail for him otherwise it never gets checked. :tongue:

    I also have all our emails attached to my one account. It's for sanity's sake so I can manage crap better with bills as some go to his email.

    I've looked through his phone before and he's looked through mine. Don't really care! Nothing to hide.

    I personally wouldn't want to go through my kid's text messages. They share stuff with each other I'm sure parents don't have to know. Especially older teenagers. If my dad went through my youngest sister's phone... holy ****... I wouldn't even want to go through it. There could be ANYTHING on it. :indifferent:
  • _Wits_
    _Wits_ Posts: 1,286 Member
    I dont have children...but you bet your sweet *kitten* I'll check their phones if they meet any of the following: 1. I pay for it. 2. They live in my house 3. they are under 18. Once they turn 18, all stupid stuff they do is their responsibility and I hope I taught them well enough in the years prior to make good choices.

    My hubs and I do NOT lock our phones for any reason. Nothing to hide.
  • Hollycat
    Hollycat Posts: 372
    Nobody looks at my phone and I don't look at anybody else's. They're private. Period. If I want to show you a picture, I will hold the phone up to you. That's as far as it goes.

    Them's my boundaries. Deal.

    Hollycat:flowerforyou:
  • dayotte33
    dayotte33 Posts: 80 Member
    Edit: And why would I want to look at my kids' text messages to their friends? I have much better things to do with my time.



    That's exactly why I have a job!
  • dinosnopro
    dinosnopro Posts: 2,177 Member
    My husband can look through my phone at any time, and I'm welcome to look through his.


    That being said, we don't.
    QFT

    My six year old on the other hand, has all her stuff password protected :huh:
  • california_peach
    california_peach Posts: 1,809 Member
    My kids are 7 and 4 so this is not yet an issue with them. My phone is password protected but thats to protect it from the children deleting all my apps while trying to play office jerk. My husband's cell phone is issue by a national weapons lab, and no one can access it save for him.
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    My husband and I don't dig through each others' phones. There's just nothing in there to hide, we have no reason to 'check up' about it, but I just feel like it's kind of nice to have your phone, that's yours, and you don't have to share it at all.
  • Kenzietea2
    Kenzietea2 Posts: 1,132 Member
    My husband can look at my phone and I can look at his. His phone is cooler than mine so I tinker with it sometimes but even if I did read through his things, I would certainly be bored to death by work text messages and emails. I don't think he has ever snooped on me.
  • n0ob
    n0ob Posts: 2,390 Member
    There's nothing other than some of the stupid (feces) I post to you guys that would be emberassing, so mine's open.

    Of course I met my wife through a forum, so she understands how I roll anyway.

    I'd just appreciate non-racy messages and friend requests though if she really gets nosy. I ignore/don't respond to those.
  • angievaughn
    angievaughn Posts: 655 Member
    We are an open book...anyone can look at mine!! Same for my husband!! My 3 teenager's phones If I ask they better hand over!! Here is the deal I pay for the phones, they live under my roof and eat my food!! I am sorry but as long as I provide for you and you are under age.....you have to be an open book!!! NO expections!! Sorry if parents feel different!! But my kids also do not have Facebook pages. So far so good with all three of them!!
  • jr1985
    jr1985 Posts: 1,033 Member
    My question to you would be... is there some reason why you WANT to see your kids' phones... I.E. Do you THINK that they are trying to hide something? If so... sounds like perhaps phone privileges need to be either revoked or limited for a little bit anyways...

    Or are you just being nosy?... personally, I don't even have kids yet... but when I do, I don't forsee letting the kids have their own phones while they are still in high school anyways... There will probably be 1 emergency only phone that the kids can use if they are going somewhere on their own. But unless they had given me a reason to not trust them... then I imagine that I would ... Just my 2 cents... good luck!
  • spoonful
    spoonful Posts: 200 Member
    My SO can use it whenever she likes.
  • Nerdy_Rose
    Nerdy_Rose Posts: 1,277 Member
    Just a note to the people who don't lock your phones: You should, in case it gets stolen or lost. I'm the most careful/paranoid person ever, and I still ended up with my purse getting stolen earlier this year.

    You can share your pass codes with your spouses to keep the openness, etc., but seriously... lock your phones.
  • josavage
    josavage Posts: 472 Member
    I have a lock on the phone but that's for strangers in case I lose it somewhere. My husband doesn't know the password. I'd tell him if he asked though. I don't know the password to his phone but I know he would tell me if I asked. I have nothing to hide from my husband but I wouldn't want my son to see all of my texts with my girlfriends and sister. Those can get pretty raunchy!

    I haven't asked for my son's phone. He is not getting in trouble and has good grades. If that changes, I will ask for his phone. Right now he has my trust so I don't see the need to take it and look at it. I remember what it's like to be a teenager and as long as he is doing what he is supposed to, he can have his privacy.
  • cma17
    cma17 Posts: 56 Member
    I delete everything so there is really nothing to hide,not because i am trying but i my phone only holds 20 texts before it gets full and therefore DELETE! It also has no lock and I leave it lying around so it is pretty much fair game and the bf's is the same.
  • sullykat
    sullykat Posts: 461 Member
    I JUST put a passcode on my phone the other day. My husband wasn't used to it and he was like, 'WTF?!?!?' when he found out. I immediately told him the code. No secrets. It does not build a healthy relationship. He has no reason to go into my phone, but I think it is important that he knows that he can trust me.
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    There's nothing to see on my phone - just some pics of stuff growing in my garden, my husband and I on backpacking trips, my dog and cat snuggling together - just every day stuff. Most of the texts are from my sister or my husband. I don't care who sees it, but I can see how some people wouldn't want other people up in their private business.

    I would think it's totally appropriate for spouses to have access and parents to have access to their kids' phones - but I think it's only fair that everyone knows at the outset that phones are not private. No sneaky stuff -that's just creepy to me.

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