Talk about demotivational...

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  • NikkiSixGuns
    NikkiSixGuns Posts: 630 Member
    I don't know the guy who wrote it or your relationship with him, so I can't say for sure, but another possibility is that he wasn't referring to your weight at all. My dad is 6'-4", has never been overweight, but all my life I can remember people calling him "Big John". He's a big guy, that's all. At 6'-5", it's possible that they were referring more to your height...?

    Anyway, congratulations on your success! Regardless of what others think or say about it, your achievements are yours alone and they can't take them away from you!
  • BritneysStuntDouble
    BritneysStuntDouble Posts: 849 Member
    So...he does that and I'm the douche because I shared his public picture? How does that work?
    The joke at work is a company-level issue. Posting someone's pic without their permission on a random web forum could become a legal issue. Also -- you're stooping to his level and making yourself no better than him. Congrats.
    This person is very mature. Get off your high horse.
    Fixed it for you. :flowerforyou:
  • susanswan
    susanswan Posts: 1,194 Member
    Try working with a bunch of back stabbing nurses for 26 years. I would so love to run into each and everyone of them and make my own personal judgements on them! You've done an awesome job in losing weight, and you'll make your goal and then they'll have to find a new target so they can feel good about themselves. But it's hard to be with people like that day in and day out.
  • pinky_pie
    pinky_pie Posts: 127
    XL Hammer is pretty BOSS if you ask me! I would own the heck outta that name! Nothing small when it's Hammertime!

    I love that!
  • Koldnomore
    Koldnomore Posts: 1,613 Member
    Just think of how you'll have the last laugh soon, though. This person is going to be so jealous when you reach your goal and get tons of attention for it.

    If you find out who did this, next time write "small penis" next to their last name! Hah!
    I'd change it to 'XL Hammers your wife whilst you're writing stupid comments'

    That;d do it
    How about writing ----> (yeah it's that big) right next to what he wrote. :wink: Don't let ignorant douchbags like that ruing your morning. In the end, you're doing it right and you are striving to change, he'll just be the same old a**hole. Keep up the good work. And remember, you can't please everyone.

    ^^ I would SO do these :P - of course it totally depends on how your company is. I work in IT so stuff like that would be normal around here!

    Also..Someone said this already but your name IS bad *kitten*. Don't worry about what you can't control, just a way to stress yourself out. Focus on what you can change and FK everything else. You're doing awesome!
  • polarsjewel
    polarsjewel Posts: 1,725 Member
    I kinda like XL Hammer, at least it wasn't "Stop! It's Hammer Time" or something just as lame.

    Don't sweat the petty things, pet the sweaty things. Also there is nothing douchey about posting his already public profile picture (which made me laugh - nice perm!)
  • enigmachik
    enigmachik Posts: 150
    I'm 6'5" so no 256 isn't a head turner level of fat, but I'm still not thrilled with myself right now...323 was much worse but still it makes you (even if only on a small level) think that your efforts are in vain. Ultimately though I know I'm doing it for me, so screw what anyone else thinks about it...

    Maybe the XL wasn't about your weight at all, maybe it had more to do with the fact that you are 6'5"!
  • sug_plum
    sug_plum Posts: 34
    How you treat people is YOUR karma- how they treat you is THEIRS. I feel sorry for them - their karma is dangerously close to getting them screwed. They wont understand why- but the last laugh will be on them.

    Also- something I try to remember as I work in a very catty - gossip-y place - what other people think of me is none of my business. Really. Its not.

    You are Strong, and have taken responsibility for YOUR life. Some coward wrote on a board, probably laughed to himself as he does in his basement every night while playing xbox while you workout.

    You can change it to your rightful initial, add extra X's (to laugh along with the idiots) or leave it alone- who really cares what some 4 year old you work with thinks eh?

    Thanks Newmooon!! I really needed that second sentence today. I've been struggling with that for the last couple of days (what people think of me) and that statement brought it on home.
  • Ta2dchic20
    Ta2dchic20 Posts: 376 Member
    *kitten*. You know, I've noticed some men tend to bond by being mean to others. Childish and immature, but I've seen it. You should refuse to look at it as an insult, maybe it's like calling the big buy 'Tiny' and they are acknowledging your loss :) Chin up!
  • xRedHeaterx
    xRedHeaterx Posts: 37 Member
    I have skimmed through the posts, so sorry if I missed something. I like to think the best of people and I just wonder if this guy might have done it to help motivate you. He knows you are losing weight, and is looking for an 'I'll show him' type of reaction.

    Whatever, its very unprofessional. The company needs to look at its employee culture imo. Human Resources have work to do.
  • Yaya1976
    Yaya1976 Posts: 357 Member
    WOW. Keep doing what you're doing!!! :smile:
  • penrbrown
    penrbrown Posts: 2,685 Member
    Er... just noticed that you posted his picture.

    For what purpose? To make fun of him?

    I mean it's ****ty he did this BUT why lower yourself to his level?

    I really don't think you should have stooped to the level of mocking him in response to his mockery. That seems a bit... uncool.
  • deepuckett1
    deepuckett1 Posts: 48 Member
    New moon - Great advice and attitude! Something I will remember.
  • BritneysStuntDouble
    BritneysStuntDouble Posts: 849 Member
    *kitten*. You know, I've noticed some men tend to bond by being mean to others. Childish and immature, but I've seen it. You should refuse to look at it as an insult, maybe it's like calling the big buy 'Tiny' and they are acknowledging your loss :) Chin up!
    Oh, no. Best to play the victim card. :sad:

    :grumble:
  • Pinkigloopyxie
    Pinkigloopyxie Posts: 231
    Er... if this happened at work, can't you speak with management about it? That kind of attitude shouldn't be found in the workplace.
  • Wenchilada
    Wenchilada Posts: 472 Member
    I'd change it to 'XL Hammers your wife whilst you're writing stupid comments'

    That'd do it

    IAWTC.
  • Shrelana
    Shrelana Posts: 248 Member
    I was buying a soda the other day...I'd only had something like 3 hours of sleep due to working an overnight, and was going in for a 5 hours shift, so wanted the caffienne and carbonation. I knew I could fit it into my calorie allowance because I do 3 to 5 times a week and still lose weight. As I was standing in line to pay for my soda, a rather portly fellow walked up to me, glared me up and down, and remarked that I "wouldn't be so f***ing fat if I didn't drink soda." My response to him was that I'd lost 15 pounds in the last 3 months, what had he done to better himself.

    Truly though...I was so ticked...I couldn't believe some dude that didn't even know me had the balls to say something so rude!
  • Molly_Maguire
    Molly_Maguire Posts: 1,103 Member
    First of all, congratulation on the 67 whopping pounds! That is amazing! :flowerforyou:

    Second of all, you say you only have about another 35 lbs to go? Nobody on the planet could look at someone 30 ish lbs overweight and honestly call them "XL". So it becomes painfully obvious that the person who wrote it is legitimately jealous of you.

    It sucks, and I know it stings. But take comfort in the fact that your weight loss is working---to the point where it is making at least one of your coworkers self-conscious of their own weight and jealous of your success. He/she was probably hoping you'd go home crying and snarf a couple dozen donuts to drown your sorrows. Instead go home and kick your @ss at the gym and prove the *kitten* wrong!
  • darkheart
    darkheart Posts: 104 Member
    Don't let it get to you! For all you know, it could be an intentional asshat remark, or as some people have said, he might have been pointing out your height. Either way, sounds like you are doing fabulous as far as progress goes. Don't let a dumb comment or action take over and hinder you. You are in control of how you let things affect you. It's strange, I still get offended by certain things people will say about women who aren't thin as I would have been when I was heavier, but then I realize you have to let go.

    PS: At your height, 250 doesn't sound bad at all! My husband is 5'10" and weighs 180ish and he doesn't look huge or anything.
  • NoahandPresleysMom
    NoahandPresleysMom Posts: 763 Member
    So I'm a pretty thick skinned guy with a solid sense of humor, I've been the fat kid for at least the last decade or so, so I'm used to being that...but this morning I walk into work and there is a list of our crew members (there always is) on the dry erase board...the crew is listed first initial, last name...so I've been losing weight/dieting for a while now, and have to this point lost 67 pounds total (37 since joining MFP) and was feeling great about the progress I've made (still have anothe 36 pounds to my goal) but then despite my obvious effort to be less fat I show up to this...

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    (my last name is hammer) It is very demotivational to have someone call you fat despite your several month long effort to be something else...that said I know what I've done, and I know how far I've come, and it's not going to get me off track...really was just venting more than anything. Anyone else here have **** like this happen?


    yup. I work in retail. I have been called that fat hideous lesbian with tattoos. (I'm not even a lesbian LOL)
  • janehlansing
    janehlansing Posts: 54
    I have a white pit too named Bentley.

    I don't see why anyone would gripe at you for posting his pic on here. He looks like Mr. PERMMUCH! Give the man some mousse!

    He's got to be insecure about "something".

    Have a great day and hugs!

    Jane
  • dmpizza
    dmpizza Posts: 3,321 Member
    That's about as doucheB*G a thing imagineable.
    Don't worry about it.
  • dunadan
    dunadan Posts: 105 Member
    First, keep rockin' the weight loss.

    Second, keep things in perspective and remember where you've *been*. 67 pounds down is a huge accomplishment. Realize that if you can do that, then getting the rest of the way to your goal should be a piece of cake (probably not the best metaphor given the situation, but what the hell. :smile:).

    Third, you've got a tall frame on which to hang that weight, so that's an advantage :smile:. I am 5' 10.5", and was 262 at my peak, so I know what a lot of weight on my body looks like. I'm down to 227 now, and while I LOVE the progress that I've made, I know that I'm not quite half way to my goal.

    Keep your head up! The best revenge is a life well-lived. :happy:
  • BritneysStuntDouble
    BritneysStuntDouble Posts: 849 Member
    I don't see why anyone would gripe at you for posting his pic on here. He looks like Mr. PERMMUCH! Give the man some mousse!
    It's irrational and immature.

    Also, your mockery of the dude is no better than the prank the OP is complaining about.
  • jynxxxed
    jynxxxed Posts: 1,010 Member
    I definitely agree with making a joke to him about smacking him in the face with your "XL hammer"

    I always figured this was normal between men though. I've heard my boyfriend's friend greeting one of their other friends as "hey, man you got fat as hell over the past two months" or asking if they got their shirt from baby gap or whatever because it's too small and they're too fat. It never seemed to offend my boyfriend so I guess some guys assume it's okay to say to ANYBODY, regardless of who they are/how they feel about their weight. It's definitely best to throw it right back at him.
  • Molly_Maguire
    Molly_Maguire Posts: 1,103 Member
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    Somebody should definitely submit this to awkwardfamilyphotos.com!
  • breezedaze
    breezedaze Posts: 357 Member
    I wonder...do you think it's possible he was making a pun of your name? Not referring to your weight so much as your size which at 6.5 is always going to be there?

    I mean, an XL Hammer wields a lot of power.

    But as someone who has been working on weight loss, I can understand how you would be sensitive to that XL.

    Of course, he might just be a *kitten* too...douchbaggery is pretty common.

    You know Hulk Hogan is 290lbs at your height? I get freaked out by that stat a little.

    Wtg and keep going Mr. Hammer. You do have a lot of power with or without the XL
  • rompers16
    rompers16 Posts: 5,404 Member
    You can't change how people act, but you can change how you react to them. Hold your head high, you should be so very proud of your accomplishments.
  • tnjackso1
    tnjackso1 Posts: 312 Member
    You can't control the actions or ignorance of others but on the other hand you can control you. What doesn't break you makes you stronger! Take what may look like a negative and turn it into a positive. You have done an awesome job so stay focused and keep on doing what you're doing!
  • mfpcopine
    mfpcopine Posts: 3,093 Member
    So I'm a pretty thick skinned guy with a solid sense of humor, I've been the fat kid for at least the last decade or so, so I'm used to being that...but this morning I walk into work and there is a list of our crew members (there always is) on the dry erase board...the crew is listed first initial, last name...so I've been losing weight/dieting for a while now, and have to this point lost 67 pounds total (37 since joining MFP) and was feeling great about the progress I've made (still have anothe 36 pounds to my goal) but then despite my obvious effort to be less fat I show up to this...

    D26AB8BD-FF79-4A92-9847-8E84094AEEE6-2578-0000030D4EDDEF19.jpg

    (my last name is hammer) It is very demotivational to have someone call you fat despite your several month long effort to be something else...that said I know what I've done, and I know how far I've come, and it's not going to get me off track...really was just venting more than anything. Anyone else here have **** like this happen?

    Everyone has had something, even if it's not weight. SCREW THEM and determine to rise above it. Find support in a friend, ignore the a-holes.

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