Talk about demotivational...
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some people dont want you to change.Tuff cookies fo for them0
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I'm assuming you work with guys. Yeah they can be insensitive jerks. I don't know how you get a long with your crew but I know when I worked with a bunch of guys when I was young we would say and do awful things to each other such us weight taunts, taunts about being in recovery!!! (I know it's awful), we'd lock each other in closets, and put ice down each other's pants.
I know this sounds completely awful bet we were all really good friends too and had each other's back. So I guess it depends on your relationship with your co-workers. Either they are insensitive numbskulls or it's their dumb way of showing "affection" for you. Or both.
Either way just shake it off and drive on.0 -
posting the guys picture is kind of petty
dont stoop to his level
Shut up, it's funny!
I say he's a moron and to come up with something funny with your name isn't that hard......STOP HAMMER TIME.... HELLLOOOOOO
now that's funny.
XL is just stupid. DUH get a job loser!
You are obviously better than him because you are bettering yourself by putting your health as a top priority! CHEERS TO YOU!!!0 -
Change it to: 'Xtra Awesome'
Screw them. If you've lost that much weight they know it because it is obvious. They are either clearly jealous and/or such a horrible person that they aren't worth your care.0 -
That is just rude. You have a great attitude about it though. People that do things like that do it because they are jealous, or because they need attention. This may just be me, but XL isn't so bad if you put a spin on it. I wear some XL shirts in juniors and I would rather have XL than XXL or XXXL. I'm not trying to downplay what happened by any means, I just tend to try and "flip it" when people act a fool. That way, it bothers me much less. Keep up the great work!0
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Is this person 5? Did someone take their lunch money on the playground? Don't listen to that crap! Never let any comment affect who you are or get you down. Its childish and stupid!
Course maybe they were jealous of your XL Hammer :P
"These are not the hammer, the hammer is my penis" - Captain Hammer (Doctor Horrible's Sing-a-Long Blog)0 -
How you treat people is YOUR karma- how they treat you is THEIRS. I feel sorry for them - their karma is dangerously close to getting them screwed. They wont understand why- but the last laugh will be on them.
Also- something I try to remember as I work in a very catty - gossip-y place - what other people think of me is none of my business. Really. Its not.
You are Strong, and have taken responsibility for YOUR life. Some coward wrote on a board, probably laughed to himself as he does in his basement every night while playing xbox while you workout.
You can change it to your rightful initial, add extra X's (to laugh along with the idiots) or leave it alone- who really cares what some 4 year old you work with thinks eh?
I totally agree; Karma and What You Think of Me is none of my Business; these 2 things are my mantra.
When you give good Karma it comes back to you good. The guy who did this has and always will have bad Karma.0 -
I think about it like this, it was XXL before I started taking control. XL is just that spot between XXL and L.
6'3" and 257 here. Down from 315. We know where we're going, and we know where we've been! Keep your head up, friend.0 -
It is not funny to take someone's photo from FB and post it here for people to shame them. The guy did something immature and dumb, sure, but retaliation of this type is the definition of internet bullying.
I thought you had to be an adult to participate on this site?0 -
I'd change it to 'XL Hammers your wife whilst you're writing stupid comments'
That;d do it
THIS ^^^ THIS ^^^ and oh, THIS ^^
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I know what you are talking about man, I get called "Big Guy" at my work all the time by the management. each time it just cuts a little deeper.0
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1) I love my pit bulls too and your profile pic is awsome
2) I think that in some cases, people feel more free to joke around about weight when you aren't as obviously obese. Does that make sense? It is like they assume that since you look more normal, you won't take them too seriously.
As far as I know, a 250 lb male is by not big enough to turn heads. There is no one looking at you and saying "omg, I can't believe how big that guy is". So I would lean towards the view that whoever wrote it actually thought they were being funny and did not mean any harm.
That being said, some people are just ****s and no amount of weight lost will ever change that.
1) thanks :-) that's bodie and he's the best friend a guy could ever have.
2) yeah I know he was "kidding" but still it's just one of those things that at 7:00 in the morning hit me wrong...I'm better now lol
I'm 6'5" so no 256 isn't a head turner level of fat, but I'm still not thrilled with myself right now...323 was much worse but still it makes you (even if only on a small level) think that your efforts are in vain. Ultimately though I know I'm doing it for me, so screw what anyone else thinks about it...
Probably not helpful, and I'm just speculating here, but if you're 6' 5" my first thought is that the XL refers to your height.0 -
I never bashed the guy, shamed him, or any other of these things, all I did was post a picture, one he freely shares and is super proud of, as well he should be...it's just a picture of him and his kid...show me where I made fun of the guy...
As for the crying bit piss off...I said I was venting, and also said I was over it...so...yeah...if there were a way to lock this thread I would have long since done so...but alas...
At least I know a few people to avoid on here now lol. Sheesh so sensitive. Like I said it was early, it caught me the wrong way...I told him as much, had a cup of coffee, we settled it...I'm over it.0 -
I never bashed the guy, shamed him, or any other of these things, all I did was post a picture, one he freely shares and is super proud of, as well he should be...it's just a picture of him and his kid...show me where I made fun of the guy...
So why did you post the picture?
Why post it if not to make fun of him?
Please be honest with yourself about your motivations. 0 -
Actually.... I'm pretty sure this counts as harassment and you don't have to take it. If you have the time and money you could probably get a lawsuit going against the company. In the mean time you might just bring it to HR's attention that you *could* get a lawsuit going.Unfortunately it is still "okay" to pick on the fat person - the last group allowed to be discriminated against. Don't let other peoples BS affect you. Sorry it happened - but maybe the person is jealous that you are succeeding.0 -
I agree plus in my opinion it worse what your doing because the guy can't defend himself. No one should make fun of other people. If you don't like what he did be a man and confront him instead of making fun of him on the internetIt is not funny to take someone's photo from FB and post it here for people to shame them. The guy did something immature and dumb, sure, but retaliation of this type is the definition of internet bullying.
I thought you had to be an adult to participate on this site?0 -
At least I know a few people to avoid on here now lol. Sheesh so sensitive.
Uhh.... kettle, meet pot.0 -
Oh and I've worked with the guy for 3 years...if he's just now noticing I'm 6'5" then there may be something wrong there lol0
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Why post it then? Your comment when posting it was, "Thought I'd post a pic of the guy that did it (snagged it off his Facebook and thought it was too funny..."I never bashed the guy, shamed him, or any other of these things, all I did was post a picture, one he freely shares and is super proud of, as well he should be...it's just a picture of him and his kid...show me where I made fun of the guy...
Ironic.Sheesh so sensitive.
Doesn't appear so. Hope you are, though.I'm over it.0 -
Some people can't handle others changing! He's just a jerk and will always be a jerk but, his fear causes him to be the class clown! Hang in there and use it to motivate you!0
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How is this the company's fault? Unless you submit a complaint to your employer and give them an opportunity to investigate and resolve, you haven't a leg to stand on.
Actually.... I'm pretty sure this counts as harassment and you don't have to take it. If you have the time and money you could probably get a lawsuit going against the company. In the mean time you might just bring it to HR's attention that you *could* get a lawsuit going.Unfortunately it is still "okay" to pick on the fat person - the last group allowed to be discriminated against. Don't let other peoples BS affect you. Sorry it happened - but maybe the person is jealous that you are succeeding.0 -
At least I know a few people to avoid on here now lol. Sheesh so sensitive.
Uhh.... kettle, meet pot.
So in your book someone getting rubbed the wrong way because someone essentially putting in print that you're fat for all your coworkers to see, and mock...is the equivalent to someone being sensitive over a post that doesn't pertain to them, and they dont even really know the people involved?
Whatever...I'm the **** out...0 -
How is this the company's fault? Unless you submit a complaint to your employer and give them an opportunity to investigate and resolve, you haven't a leg to stand on.
No no no, clearly what this situation calls for is a lawsuit. Heaven forbid anyone be an adult in this situation.0 -
Use this as motivation to show their dumb-*kitten*!! Someone is just jealous of your success. Keep up the great work!!0
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No, it means that others have also learned of some overly sensitive people to avoid here. :flowerforyou:
So in your book someone getting rubbed the wrong way because someone essentially putting in print that you're fat for all your coworkers to see, and mock...is the equivalent to someone being sensitive over a post that doesn't pertain to them, and they dont even really know the people involved?At least I know a few people to avoid on here now lol. Sheesh so sensitive.
Uhh.... kettle, meet pot.
Whatever...I'm the **** out...0 -
So in your book someone getting rubbed the wrong way because someone essentially putting in print that you're fat for all your coworkers to see, and mock...is the equivalent to someone being sensitive over a post that doesn't pertain to them, and they dont even really know the people involved?
Whatever...I'm the **** out...
How about this...
Hey <insert co-worker name here>. I'm sure you didn't mean anything by it, but what you wrote on the white board really hurt my feelings. It's hard being overweight - people often judge me and look at me differently. That's one of the reasons I've worked so hard to lose weight. It would mean a lot to me if you wouldn't poke fun of my weight anymore. I tell you what, how about we go out for a beer after work and just talk about <insert acceptable topic here>0 -
Embrace it, then they can't use it against you....like the gimp said on Game of Thrones. Have fun with it, tell them they shouldn't be looking at your crotch so much to come up with nick names for you....and XL is better than XXL, I know because I'm down a shirt size!
The thing about fat people and jerks is, fat people can lose weight, jerks are usually stuck with their crappy personalities.0 -
Actually.... I'm pretty sure this counts as harassment and you don't have to take it. If you have the time and money you could probably get a lawsuit going against the company. In the mean time you might just bring it to HR's attention that you *could* get a lawsuit going.Unfortunately it is still "okay" to pick on the fat person - the last group allowed to be discriminated against. Don't let other peoples BS affect you. Sorry it happened - but maybe the person is jealous that you are succeeding.
Unless he does it over and over, it's not harassment. Geeze People!! Lawsuit for this, lawsuit for that. Unbelievable!!!0 -
A lot of people could be very offended about what you've done, especially with a 'child' in the picture (ignoring that the child is presumably now adult).So...he does that and I'm the douche because I shared his public picture? How does that work?
Reality is everyone gets offended by different things - perhaps this goes to show why he thought it would be ok?
Me; I generally try not to be offended by what other people say; if they are, I'd consider it my own insecurities that are the issue, not what they've said.
I've generally found if you can make light of however you're being made fun of yourself, it loses impact for both parties.0 -
Jealousy rears its even head. I would have written " no longer 3x " Let it go! Continue to be yourself. 0
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