Dear 16 year old me...
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Dear 16 Year Old Me,
You at 5'6" 125lbs are NOT fat. You are fit and strong and amazing. If everyone insists on calling you 'cute' then own it baby! Be cuteness and love it, because you ARE cute and funny and smart. Stop listening to jerks and blaze your own trail... now. Go kick some butt girl!
XOXO Me.0 -
Dear 16 year old me,
Yes, you are a good person. No, you are not fat contrary to what the clique wants you to believe. Believe in yourself!! Be the good girl you are and trust me Prince Charming does come along....with 3 little mice in tow!! You know you always wanted 3 kids!! Tell your parents more often how much you love them. And lastly....you are stronger than you believe you are, you can accomplish anything...just believe.
Love me!0 -
Dear 16 year old me,
Don't wear acid wash jeans. They are ugly.0 -
Dear 16 year old me,
Don't wear acid wash jeans. They are ugly.
HAHAHHAHA0 -
Dear 16 year old me.
WOAH! We had fun didn't we. Maybe we took too many drugs, drank too much did everything in excess, but we had a ball and it shaped who I am today.
My only wish is that you had the confidence I have now to enjoy that time more - because life gets in the way eventually and you have to calm down/grow up.
11 years on me.0 -
Dear 16 year old me:
You had fun and dodged a few bullets, your life turned out the way it was supposed to. Enjoy the rest of it and dont' worry about 16 year old you. Worry about TODAY you.0 -
Dear 16 Year Old Me:
Don't be in such a hurry to grow up. You have many years to fall in love and be a grown up and not nearly enough to be young and carefree. Oh and the boy who broke up with you last summer that broke your heart? Your mom was right, he's gay. Trust me. He comes out to you years later and it all becomes much clearer to you why he was not the one for you.
A size five (juniors) is small enough that you can just wear that two piece bathing suit to the beach. You don't always have to wear shorts or a cover up to hide your "huge hips". What you're seeing is not real.
Finish high school the traditional way. Next year you're going to take the test to get out of high school early and it's going to be a colossal mistake. You will miss out on a traditional senior year and all that goes with it, and you will regret it later.
That guy you start dating next year turns out to be a total *kitten*, but he will become of the father of the biggest blessing of your life so date him anyway. The fallout from the relationship is MORE than worth what you got from it.
Love,
43 Year Old Me0 -
Dear 16 year old me,
Please listen to your parents. You think that "getting back at them" is worth losing everything. It's not. So much pain and loss when you hit 18 because of it. They love you!
Also, stop hating China. When you get back, it's the only thing you will talk about. You are going to miss everything sooooo much, especially Anna.
You don't know everything, you aren't better than anyone else. Stop trying to show off. You have talent and potential. Let people help you develop it!
And lastly...you are so loved. I wish you had made some better decisions, but you will have so much to look forward to.0 -
Dear 16 year old self,
You are going to do okay. Believe in yourself.
Love me.
P.S. phone your grandparents often. You will miss their wisdom, their stories and their naughty jokes.0 -
Dear past me (16 years old),
The depression and eating disorder you are experiencing is not permanent. The pain and suffering will end. You'll try and fail at gaining control over your weight and emotions for years but eventually you will figure out a way how to manage it all. You'll even learn to love exercise, especially weight lifting, and eating healthy. You will eventually not obsess about wanting to be perfect constantly and be free from self-doubt.
In the next two years, your dad will get in contact with you. You've never known him but he is going to teach you a lot about yourself for a very short time and then he is going to leave again. This time permanently. Call him often and work harder to have healthy communication with him. He will die in the same week as your birthday and you will regret not calling him. Call him.
Dear current me (22 years old),
Stop wasting so much time online. Study more. Don't stress about having no friends. You're too focused on your goals to make time for people who don't want the best for you. Continue building the awesome healthy habits you have started in the last year. They make you feel way better about yourself than the negative influences you have always known. Learn to manage your time and money better. Use sunscreen and keep chugging that water!
Dear future me,
I wonder what career you end up settling on. I wonder who your soul mate is because that would give me a lot of clarity about the relationship I am in now. I hope you are proud of the choices you made
You worked VERY hard in school and should be proud of that.
Signed,
Me.
Edit: Wanted to add some stuff.0 -
1. Yes, it's 1989, but girl...your hair. Here, let me fix it.
2. Stay a virgin. Oops, too late. Stop putting out!
3. Lose weight NOW, and don't waste the next 20 years being fat (and gaining another 100 pounds).0 -
Dear 16 year old me..
Study harder, get into a good college. You are so much smarter than you know or show right now. Don't let yourself be a cautionary tale of a woman woman who is 34 with a million things she wants to do.
I know you are a skinny little thing, but get into sports. Have fun. MOVE. One day you are going to be 28 just starting that lifestyle and it's going to feel weird.
Love yourself more. Way more.
Oh and moisturize.0 -
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Dear 16 year old me,
Dont date the girl from band class, she has crabs
And kill drake so the phrase YOLO never exists.
Also stock up on twinkies, use your left hand during alone time more, and dry to remember that cocaine is a hell of a drug.
k thanx
HAHAHAHAHA I KNOW RIGHT!>?!?!?!?0 -
Dear 16 year old me,
Don't change a thing. What you've done and what you've been through has made you the woman you are today.0 -
Dear 16 Year old Me - the Most Likely to Succeed at school, won't. The Prettiest won't be for long. You are better than you think you are. You'll find out that there were people jealous of shy, insecure YOU. Find who you are and stay true to that. There's no reward in trying to please everyone. Be yourself and embrace it.0
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Dear 16-year-old Valerie,
Just because someone wants to date you in the coming years doesn't mean you have to let them. Never go out with Rick. Ever. Tell Chris you love him. If he lets you down, you can handle it, but you will regret not showing him how important he was to you so you didn't look desperate. Break up with Brian right when he starts trying to change you, not two years later when you're nearly worn down. Don't hesitate with Steve. He's the one.
Just because you weigh 87 pounds doesn't mean you have to treat every day like it's the Nathan's Hot Dog Eating Contest. Learn what a portion is and what hungry and full feel like. That will be a good skill for when your metabolism slows down.
Yeah, you work hard, but being busy isn't a contest to win. Go out more, say yes more. But mostly, girl, you keep kicking *kitten*. I like you.
-42V0 -
Dear 16 year old me,
Wax your eyebrows, sweetie there should be two. Nothing you are experiencing right now will matter to you in eight months. Black eyeliner should never be worn around the lips, and the guy who you are "dying" for? Well, he grows up to be an inmate number... also he has fathered many children, rumor has it with a flaccid penis that cool girl who hated you?. She peaked in high school and boobs touch her knees now. Anyway relax be easy, and please remember there are other ways to "earn" beads when you head to New Orleans for spring break 2001.0 -
Dear 16yr old me,
Your not as hideous as you've always thought and although you always said those cuts reminded you of where you came from, I wish you hadn't felt the need to make them in the first place. You will find unconditional love and he will tell you he loves you and your beautiful several times a day for years to come, just hold on. Forgive your parents for they know not what they do and neither will live to see your 30th birthday. Don't trust your mom's boyfriend, she'll marry him and he'll take everything. Your much stronger than you think you are so don't let ANY of those people tell you any different. One day you will be more than just ok.0 -
Dear 16 Year Old Me,
Hold on just a little bit longer. I promise the moment you get control over your own life, you will be infinitely happier. It won't matter if you go directly to college or work three jobs and are always a little hungry; the instant you are out of the house your stress level will go WAY DOWN.
Have better standards on who you date. Despite what your experiences have taught you; you are worth loving! Since you won't meet the man you will marry for another decade, you may want to at least choose to date more fun men rather than having your heart broken by boring ones. Be single, fancy free, and have fun (until you are minimum 27).
Choose better coping mechanisms. Don't hold your friends so distant. Music, Art, Photography, Great Friends, and Nature...these are the ways to express your emotions. Don't lock down your emotions. You will heal faster if you don't run and hide so much.
Life gets better and will be full of joy very soon. The rest of this will be easy by comparison.
Love you,
36 year old me.0 -
16 year old me
Stop being so lazy! Don't drop out of school just because you are lazy. You will regret it when you get older.
Lose that weight and keep it off, don't EVER allow yourself to be obese again.
Don't worry so much about what other people say especially those who call themselves your friends, but really aren't.
Tell mom to get her act together after dad leaves. Be strong and support both her and your sister more because they really need you.
Tell dad what you really think about him and his decision to abandon the family for his new wife. Don't just accept it, be angry and let him know how you feel.
In two years from now you will meet your husband and finally get the chance to travel, but when the problems start to come stay strong and keep focused on the right path instead of making some really poor choices because again, you will regret those choices.
In a few years when things get really bad, please get help and don't try to kill yourself because one of the women you share a room with at the mental hospital is scary and I'm pretty sure she is possessed. So you will really want to avoid this.
Learn to speak your mind. Stop being so passive aggressive. Stop day dreaming about what you want and go out and work for it...you will be so much happier by being pro-active.
Appreciate everyday. Don't try to speed up time because time will speed up on it's own and you will never be able to slow it back down.
And for goodness sake, just be happy and don't believe that people don't like you because your fat.0 -
Dear 16 year old me,
You are not fat. You are 5'6" tall and weigh 128 pounds. You do not need to do every crazy diet that comes along. Go and look in the mirror and realize that you are a beautiful girl. You don't need to change a thing.
Don't even change that guy that comes along this spring at Jr. Sr. weekend at the beach. When you see him, please - Fall in love with him. When he goes off to college 2 years before you, keep writing him letters. When you break up for a summer and then get back together - DO IT!! Because in about 5 years when you get married to him, you will have the most beautiful, awesome daughter! Even though he will break your heart a million times, will steal your trust in men for many years, and hurt that beautiful daughter at the most crucial time in her development - Even though he will walk away from you both without looking back.- You will be the winner. You will have the awesome relationship with your daughter & her husband. They will give you 2 amazing grandchildren. So - just do it.
Go out there and enjoy your life. Appreciate all of your family around you. Stay true to yourself. Be happy.
Love, The 55 year old You.0 -
DON'T date that idiot, Jesse!
Get a job. Start driving, get a car.
Care about schoolwork, not what you WEAR to school.
Oh, and Alyx? That guy you've been in love with since you were eleven? You marry him.
Don't ever bother trying to win over his douche dad, though. He will never warm up to you. Start practicing not caring NOW. 0 -
Dear 16 year old me:
stop hanging out with that group you call "friends" there is only 3 of them that really care for you and vice versa.
Stop being so ****ing shy when it comes to guys...there is one that feels the same way you do....and had you been more forward and not so shy...he would have been dating you all the way through high school...not your friend, and its only because she has big boobs, she did sports just to be closer to him.
do you best in your classes....try harder to get into the AP classes...and yes, don't try to get into calculus...lol...all you need for your majors in college in college algebra...
sports...girl you kicked *kitten*, but you could have done better. you went to all those summer track meets, you listened and got many tips to make you #1...dad was ok with you being #1 in your conference, but to you, you want to be #1 in the world...lol...but you pushed too hard and choked when it came moving to the state level.
spend a lot more time with your dad...you only have him for 3 more years...make him as proud as you can. even when you try your best and fail, he is still so proud of you. tell him you love him as much as you can.
when you chose a college...don't go based on where everyone else is going...make the decision to go where NO ONE else is going...you are finally able to be yourself, and no one cares about your flaws...
KISS the boy that took you to the dr. when you were sick...he really liked you...and i know you liked him....and don't call his car "cute"...lol...that kinda hurt his ego.
but most of all, be you, and don't let anyone take that from you.0 -
Dear 16 year old me,
Stop worrying about everything that comes along and obsessing over your weight. Start eating properly right now, quit smoking right now, quit the fast food, and start exercising. Love life and have the most fun you can in high school because you're soon going to grow up, get a job and have lots of responsibility.
Dump your stupid boyfriend before he dumps you, and you know that cute guy that you're hanging out with that all your friends like, well you're going to marry him and the two of you are going to make the most beautiful boy and girl. Be kind to your mom and dad because they love you and have only your best interests at heart. And you know that pesky little sister you've always been jealous of... well she's going to turn out to be your best friend, and you're going to have your children only a few days/weeks apart (BOTH TIMES)!!
Enjoy every day, every moment, every friend, every opportunity, because the time will begin to fly and before you know it you'll be 42 years old!!! And you are AWESOME!!!
Love ME. ;-)0 -
Dear 16 year old me,
Don't change: don't gain any more weight, don't lose your creativity, don't lose your friends, don't give up what makes you unique just to fit in, and don't stop writing.
Do change: you made a lot of stupid mistakes (and you will make many more), and enjoy high school and free time instead of complaining you have none.0 -
Dear 16 year old me,
Don't let Brittany C. put her memory card in your dads computer and leave it there. It has pictures of you doing some illegal things. You will get in big trouble.
Also the kid that calls you ugly and says that everyone likes your friends better than you? He's definitely not worth dating...especially not for a year :noway:
No, you are not moving to California and going to Berkeley. It's just unrealistic.
Please stop drowning your sorrows in food. My body now would appreciate it.
That boy you have a huge crush on, by the way? He grows a flesh colored neck beard senior year. This information will save you a lot of heartbreak over your hatred of both flesh colored facial hair and neck beards.
Love, your future self.0 -
Dear 16 year old me,
Please wear your retainer. It's important.
He is the one. (But you know that already, don't you?)
45 year old me.0 -
Dear 16 year old me,
I would tell you to change some things, but than I don't know where that will lead. Wish I could tell you to NOT break-up with Luke so you can date Jimmy. This relationship will change the person you are and not in a good way. Still do it. Not the whole 1.5 years. When you first start to think that what he's saying is true, hits you, or when the destructive eating starts, go to your mom. She WILL love you through it and her opinion of YOU won't change. When you are 20, you will meet Dennis. Don't let his introvertness fool you for too long, he will be worth it, I promise. And please, please, don't let it take so long to see yourself the way he does.
On a lighter note, stop drinking St. Ides...they are gross. Yes, even that blue one you love. And Milwaukie's Best IS NOT good beer. IT IS NOT. Wear more fitted clothes, cause you will have kids. 4 of them. Don't laugh, it does happen. Your body changes, so maybe show it off a little beforehand. Don't stop lifting. You will regret this. And the blue hair with lavendar highlights that Amanda talks you into does not turn out well IF you wash it the morning after. Wait a few days or just don't do it.
While you're engaged to Dennis, take the job in the operating room. Don't wait 2 years. You will love it and working with your mom is awesome. She is amazing. Don't laugh. You don't get to have her in your life til she's old and gray, so enjoy her now. Stop fighting with her. She does become your best friend. I know, sounds crazy, but she does.0 -
Hey me......
That cute guy....treat him right...he's gunna be your husband. Your dad hates him.......but he's gunna be your rock.
Hey 22 yr old me
Told you he'd still be there....hell be a good dad in a couple of months....dads can be wrong sometimes.
Hey me today...
Lets see 21 years later.....two boys....and still falling in love!!!!!! Oh and he has dads respect....go figure!
No regrets!!!!!!!0
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