People who are married and have lost weight...

amwoodruff

I am curious, of you ladies ( and gents!) who have lost say, 50 lbs or more, how did it affect your marriage/relationship? I know my husband loves me either way, but I am curious. Examples of what I am curious about: struggles with eating habit changes at home, struggles with new body making you feel like a different person, etc.

Missyelliotfan33

I am married to my amazing husband who is currently in Afghanistan and I decided to loose weight while he was gone since it seemed like the perfect opportunity. I can say that he has been fully supportive and the only way it has effected it is he thinks I talk about fitness and loosing weight a lot lol. I think it just seems like a lot because we only talk to each other through skype. He tells me all the time that no matter what I looked like weight size he always thinks I am sexy. Needless to say from what he can see through pictures and Skype he is VERY excited and happy for the progress I have made.
He is also really happy that I have started eating better because he has been trying to get me to do that for a long time lol

lewcompton

My wife says she really appreciates the weight loss I've had... Makes things a bit easier... She appreciates the fact that I'm actually doing more and can do more now...

timvet

It has been fantastic for my marriage! I have lost 80 plus pounds and now my husband has lost 20. I have encouraged him to be healthier and hopefully it will extend the time we have together. We have been married for 22 years and I hope to have many many more! We workout together when we can and it has made it so much more fun! In addition we help each other stay on track and when we have treats we split them. The weight loss for me has given me way more confidence and he loves it. In the beginning it was hard to watch him eat junk, but when he saw the changes in me he wanted to change also, so it worked out great!

DawnieB1977

I am curious, of you ladies ( and gents!) who have lost say, 50 lbs or more, how did it affect your marriage/relationship? I know my husband loves me either way, but I am curious. Examples of what I am curious about: struggles with eating habit changes at home, struggles with new body making you feel like a different person, etc.

My husband is used to me losing weight! I was around 147lbs and a UK size 10/12 (us 6/8) when we met, then i put on weight when I did my teacher training, lost around 42lbs for our wedding, got pregnant straight after, lost the baby weight, got pregnant again, and I've now lost 51lbs after baby no. 2 and can wear clothes I wore when I met him nearly 10 years ago!

I think my love of exercise has encouraged him to think more about exercise, but we've always been healthy. He occasionally gets a pizza or something and I just don't have any. Having young children makes us very aware of what we cook anyway as we want them to grow up with healthy eating habits.

I don't think anything has changed to be honest. He's always loved me and always thought I was gorgeous.

mhaight85

I haven't lost a whole lot of weight yet, only about 8lbs. However, I've seen some changes in my marriage. At first my husband would get really frustrated because I often don't eat what he cooks now, or just very small portions and since he cooks enough to feed an army it leaves him eating a lot of leftovers. I think he's finally accepted that if he wants to cook unhealthy foods that he needs to cook less of it. Now he is more supportive. I think (and hope) it's starting to make him realize he needs to make some changes in his eating too! I know this would be a lot easier if we were working toward a common goal instead of each of us going separate ways.

JMJ1983

I would say it has improved for the better as we both try to improve ourselves. I love how attractive he finds me now and love when he compliments my efforts and accomplishements. Our sex life has improved tremendously as well!! A lot of times one person in a relationship drastically changing their lfiestyle helps bring the other person on board too to be healthy with you and better themelves as well.

I have lost 54 pounds and am aiming to lose 37 more.

shyeban

I've only lost 30lbs so far but my husband loves it. He gets frustrated sometimes with my calorie checking but sees that it works and appreciates the results

Shannota

I have a fantastic husband. We have been together since he was 15 and I was 17. He loved me then, at about 160 pounds, and he has, to my amazement, loved me when I was nearly 300 pounds. He tells me that he likes me when I am at a lower weight only because my self-esteem is so much better...in other words, he is more likely to see more of me when there is less of me to see. He has been very supportive in my weightloss as he knows that it makes me happy and I have become more energetic to keep up with our kiddo better, which makes all of us happier. My hubby even jokes, or at least I think/hope he's joking, that he will be upset if I get "too skinny".

rachelerwin

My husband and I decided to lose weight together. So far he has lost 105 pounds and I have lost 117 pounds. I think doing this together has made our relationship stronger. We wholeheartedly support one another.

WendyTerry420

My husband is pretty supportive, so it seems like same old. I was 19 and very fit when we met, so I think he is secretly looking forward to me getting that body back.

SoopraBint

I'm not having an easy time...

Hubby keeps saying I'm not fat and I don't need to lose weight, and that he doesn't like skinny girls. For me the weight loss isn't just a vanity thing - it's for my health - I'm diabetic and would like to lose weight to help control it.

And meal times have become a bit of a battle ground... I serve up healthy food, he eats junk for afters...

I'm just getting on with it and leaving him to do his own thing...

Sox90716

I've lost 26 pounds since February and my wife says I am a lot easier to hug!

keeponkickin

I've lost 110 pounds and my husband has lost 30. Not just the weight, but being fit from exercise too. Everything is better, especially the sex. Just sayin. :blushing: :blushing: :blushing:

Brenda_Pancakes

I've only lost about 32 lbs, but I don't think I actually logged my highest weight, so I may be near the 50lb club. My husband is extreamly supportive of me loosing weight. He's always made it a point to tell me that he didn't mind that I had gained the weight - what he DID mind is how much it affected how I viewed myself. I was deperessed. Unmotivated. And not willing to truely do productive things to change my life. I was a a**hole to myself and my body for a good couple years.

I don't like being really heavy. I don't mind a little chunk and curves here and there - but I look and feel so much better when I'm in the category of "slightly heavy" as opposed to morbidly obese.

I love my husband fat, thin, young, or old. So his weight has never been a factor... It's on my side of the equation. I think it has helped our relationship that I made the decision to get healthy. Who wants a dumpy, chunky, frumpy wife that hates how she looks? NO GUY EVER.

bennettv

My husband was not intersted in participating at first. He wanted to be supportive, but he had long way to go to eat healthly and make good choices. I started using MFP almost 3-years ago when we got iPhones. After the first week when I lost about 5 lbs he jumps on the bandwagon. We then began working together and each lost 30 lbs. Then, I decided to start running. He said he wasn't a runner and wasn't going to run. I said ok and started with Couch to 5K (also on my iPhone). When he saw that I only had to run in very short spurts he said he'd do it one day. Then, he did the second day. The next thing you know we finished the program and ran a 5K. We've done a few more 5K's since then. I've completed three triathlons, one half marathon and six weeks of P90X.

This year I traveled a lot and haven't been able to train. I've gained 10 lbs back. So, I'm back on MFP. He's now back too. We're restarting P90X slowly as well.

How has it affected our relationship? Two skinnier people are a lot more physical than two fatter people in ALL aspects of our life. We're also leading a better example for our two young sons.

mikeswife04

It really didn't change my marriage much.... Seems we are more close now..... He married me when I was a size 18 and I'm a 4 now.... Things are GREAT though.....

deb3129

I have lost 110 pounds, and my hubby has lost about 40. It has done fantastic things for us. We both have a lot more energy, and a lot more self confidence. Hubby will not admit to it, but I swear he treats me even nicer now. More door holding, helping out, etc. It's kind of crazy. I don't think he is doing it on purpose, or even realize. Don't want to get too graphic, but it has improved ALL areas of our lives!

amwoodruff

Thank you for all your stories, team!

lwoodroff

he loved me at 50lbs heavier, I'm certainly easier on the eye for him now! it's hard though eating at weekends or out with him as I don't want to be the obsessive calorie counter I'll eat a lettuce leaf type - but I'm at peace with this being lifestyle and forever, and that has to include yummy food and going over calorie targets too

dhiammarath

My husband is so supportive. I couldn't have done this without him. Together, we've lost almost 150 pounds, each about 75ish pounds. I'm so proud of him! He first started doing this with me to help me because he knew how unhappy I was with my weight. We're so much more active, it's really helped our marriage, I think. Now, instead of playing on the computer or watching TV, we take a nightly walk and that's our time to catch up over the day and to talk about things that need to. We're more active, happy, and healthier. Sure, there's struggles. He doesn't understand why I'm so hard on myself when I don't lose the weight I want to (he's much more chill about that), but he's a man. :P And doesn't understand the frustration that is women's clothing! He's got it easy in comparison!

But it's been the best decision we ever made, and one I couldn't have done without him!

As far as the calorie counting... I dunno. I'm that person. That unashamed person that no matter who I am with or where I am at, my phone's out and the words, "I wonder how expensive /that/ is!" Everyone who's a part of my life knows and understands. /Especially/ my husband. So, be you, do what you gotta do! He'll still love you and will congratulate you on your perseverance!

SaraRT1983

My husband is very supportive. When we go grocery shopping, he is always picking healthy stuff up he knows I can and like to eat with my new "lifestyle change". He also stays at home with the kiddos when I go to aerobics classes at night or when I go for my walks outside. If it is too cold to walk outside, he will hang out with me in the basement while I'm walking. I love him dearly for being so supportive.

MissAnjy

I was (note the was) married and immediately after (upon return from the honeymoon) I decided to lose weight. I lost 45lbs (went from 195 to 150 at 5'10) and my husband was none too pleased about it.

He was not supportive at all, wouldn't watch me play team sports, wouldn't watch the kids so I could run, guilted me anytime I took a minute for myself to exercise, lambasted me when I asked him to occupy the kids for 30 minutes so I could work out and told me I was selfish and an absentee mother (for taking 30 minutes out of a day to work out, when I was a stay at home mom 24/7)

Needless to say, I dropped 45lbs and then dropped him too.

gingerveg

I don't really fit in the category because I've only lost 15 pounds (and by the end I will have lost 20 lbs at the absolute most) so not an extreme difference (except to me). But anyway my DH is pretty much effing awesome---seriously he is. He really wouldn't care what my weight was. Don't get me wrong if I gained or lost a tremendous amount of weight he would be concerned with my health, but I have no doubt he would still love and cherish me no matter what. I am losing weight for me, not him but he is still very supportive. He eats my low calorie recipes and is even the official taste tester for the crazier ones. He pretty much supports whatever the heck I do. I love him so much

Calantorntain

Needless to say, I dropped 45lbs and then dropped him too.

Good for you! I hope everything has worked out well.

sweetpea129

It hasnt really changed much. I've lost 92 lbs and hubby has lost 30. Not because he was trying, just from the healthy dinners we have everyday and the lunches i pack him now. He doesnt complain about the food, he likes whatever i make. He also doesnt bring junk food home, for the most part, because he respects that i dont want it in the house and will have it at work if he really wants it. Physically, i do think he finds me more attractive now but i dont think he ever didnt. I feel more confident and i think that shows.

jfrankic

My husband is supportive, but not participative. He eats what I cook and I try not to let him cook! :laugh:

I have yo-yoed the 9 years we have been together, so I think he is reluctant to make such a big deal out of it in case I get big again. He, of course, loves me at any weight, but I know he likes the new healthier me. I have overheard him brag about me and have had people/strangers come up to me to say something because he was talking about me to them.

I don't think he really likes that I take time away from home to go to the gym (even though I'm with our kids all day - at work - and I need some time away), but he doesn't make a huge deal about it. The most recent thing is when I started a free weights lifting program. He said, "I'm sure there are lots of guys there who would like to spot you." I think he knows that a woman in a weight room will turn some heads, even though the last thing I'm there to do is socialize. Yes, I've invited and encouraged him to come with me, but he doesn't want to.

Overall, my health benefits my entire family and my marriage, even though there were some lifestyle changes that we have had to made. He likes his hotter wife!!

FeebRyan

To be honest i think my husband sees me as smaller, so he is happy for the weight loss

he just wants me to be happy

and i want to ride him like a pony... so it works for both of us i think

NZblue

We have been together since I was fifteen. At that time, I thought I was big. But looking back I was relatively thin! Haha! Oh the teenage mind!
He wholeheartedly supports me, but does worry about my obsession to lose weight.
I'm currently pregnant, so trying not to focus so much on weight loss, but instead on being healthy.

When I lost six kgs earlier this year, he was so excited, right along with me!

He's a qualified (and very talented) chef, and is hugely into nutrition. For him, he's little, anyway, but he really cares about health. So he creates lovely healthy meals that taste completely amazing.

He also gives me a kick up the bum when I don't eat enough, or when I go a little nuts on junk food. He's a really good support person, really!

NZblue

And funnily enough, he doesn't see me as big... He sees me as "gorgeous, stunning, kind and caring". In those words. Haha!

Love that guy!

simnuts

We're doing it together! No better support than getting fit with the one you promised to love honor and support forever....