WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR DECEMBER 2012

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  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,529 Member
    OK- I am officially stressing. To begin with, I'm really not at all crazy about dd#3's means of living up in PA. Let me try to start at the beginning, I may get some things a bit jumbled up. She's with a guy who we are 99.99% sure severly abused Lexi. To the point where the SPCA seized her from Denise. We actually did drive from NC to PA and adopted her hoping that seeing her Denise would open her eyes. Didn't happen. The guy's mother co-signed for an apt for them, they skipped out, the mother owed something like $2,000. He really really mangled her car, decided to hot wire it by putting a screwdriver in the ignition, rouining the ignition. His uncle called us to get Denise (about 3 years ago) saying "this isn't working out". We went to PA, got her. Brought her to NC, took her to a therapist. She was, in a word, a b**** while here. She kept calling the uncle and the guy. We asked the uncle not to send her $$ to fly back to PA saying that she needed to get a job. He promised us up and down, backwards and forwards that he wouldn't. So what did he do? Yup, and to top it off, didn't tell us anything about it, never asked if we had any plans, just expected that we would, of course, drive her to the airport. On top of that, he has a flight for her to the airport furthest from our house. She goes back to PA, gets an apt near her work (good, she can walk to work if her car won't work), her landlord wants to rent it to someone else. We suspect that SFB (s***-for-brains as we call him) was there so much. Her credit is in the toilet. So what does his mother do? Cosigns for ANOTHER apt. Now she's off, Denise is on the lease (don't know if he is or not). While we lived in PA we told Denise that her insurance on her car is running out, it is illegal to drive without insurance, if she's caught they can and probably would impound her car. What does she do? Drives the car. So it's impounded. We take her to the impound lot, we do pay to get it out of impound, she's learned that she needs insurance. Now I asked her to help me peel potatoes, she says she doesn't know how to peel potatoes. She's 25 years old! When we were up there getting her, the uncle made her mac & cheese and I just thought to myself "I'd have her do it, it's only boiling water" She spends every holiday with that family. What kind of holiday prep do they do, I wonder? She just asked me to fix a shirt, I told her I really couldn't because I needed to peel the potatoes, do the lobster, the carrots. So I showed her how to do it. Did she ever grumble! It's not like it's that hard to do! Her cat is hissing at us, she should let the cat get to know us. Last time the cat "was hit by a car" (we suspect SFB came over her place, opened the door, and the cat went out,. He didn't care and left the cat outside who went across the street) who took it to the vet, took care of it? US. If something like that happens again, I really don't want the cat who hisses at us and won't let us touch it(I know in a few days it'll be OK and I would never refuse to help it, please don't get that idea). So I'm stressing BIG TIME. While we were at the vet this a.m. there was a guy there who reminded me of Bryan. In his face, not in his body. Bryan is more muscular. But my heart still broke. Before anyone suggests it, I honestly don't think that it's that Denise wants me to feel needed. I honestly think she doesn't know how to do these basic things. His family probably doesn't expect her to do much, and so she's not learning anything. I guess I wouldn't feel so bad if I could see some growth in her, but I don't see any. She's 25 and doesn't know how to peel potatoes or mend clothes?

    Went downstairs to exercise, was going to do a Tony Little DVD that's only 30 minutes, but when I put it in the DVD player, it made this real funny sound and didn't play, so I put in the DVD from the 90 Day Supreme Total Body. Only to me it really isn't a total body. There' nothing on the biceps or triceps. I had to get Denise up at 7:15 to get to the vet, as usual she growled at me.

    Linda Sundance - what a wonderful gift! I never thought of it that way, that's so great!

    Jessica's at the mall meeting a vet friend of hers from Asheville. Not quite sure why someone from Asheville would come all the way to Hickory. Anyway, she called and asked if he couldn't come over while she wrapped presents. So I made up a baggie of cookies and another of brownies that I made to give him. I look at it this way -- the more I give away, the less for me to eat!

    Cheryl - what a scare you had! Hope your MIL is OK, I'm sure she is

    Did really lousey on the food these past two days. But on the bright side -- for dinner tonight I made a roast chicken so that there'd be leftovers that I can eat, so I am thinking ahead. Didn't have the smoked salmon like I said I would. This next week will be finishing up the things that I don't want (like the pierogi, I only make them once/year, so I can't wait for them to be out of the house).

    As usual, Denise was a real b**** while she was here. Actually, she was pretty good when we picked her up, but last night.....I couldn't help myself and I know I got Vince upset, but I just couldn't help crying because she was so very uncommunicative. But then again, she always is. Terrible as this sounds, in one way I was looking forward, in a sense, to her leaving and me not having these stress binges. But at midnight mass I realized (if this is true or not, I don't know, but it's my way of rationalizing it) that SFB is so insecure that he's most likely influencing her to do whatever to be sure she has a bad time and makes sure everyone else does, too. Like when we picked her up she asked me if I'd made any snickerdoodles. So I made sure that I had some for her specially. She ate ONE. I did have these iced cookies that you buy at the store, she's been eating that. Jessica helped me with the dinner christmas Eve, but not Denise. The minute she'd finish eating, she would get up and get her own dessert. Doesn't matter if I had anything planned, do what she wants. You know, it hurts me in a sense. I keep hoping that she'll mature, but that doesn't seem to be happening. And SFB's family isn't helping, it appears, either. Well, Jess and Denise will be leaving tomorrow. I'll be sad to see Jess leave, and I will in a way be sad to see Denise leave. But I'll also be in a sense relieved. Please don't think terrible of me. I'm seriously just looking out for my own mental health.

    Bryan did call today (Christmas). I said to him "you know, it would be nice if you'd surprise me one year. You know that our Christmas Eve's are meatless and I'd love for Dianna to make some of her vegetarian meals." I told Jessica that I said that and to my utter shock she said "you shouldn't have said that, I get where you're coming from. But Bryan is going to misinterpret that". So I sent him an email saying that I honestly and truly just want to include Dianna and that's the ONLY place that was coming from. I mentioned to him that he'd told me a while ago "ma, I know your heart is in the right place". So I just told him that it still is. He's supposed to call sometime next week. Said that they're going to go away after New Year's when the prices are lower.

    Did Leslie Sansone Walk Away the Pounds tape (all 4 miles) today (christmas day). I'm planning to use the stairmaster tomorrow. Oh, a question for anyone who has the WATP tape. It came with a band -- but when do you use it??? LS never used it.

    Got DVD's that were on my wish list. Jessica gave me a cookbook that I'm going to return. I know she got it at Amazon. The one I really want is out of stock and has been for a while. But I didn't tell her this. I did ask for two donut pans, Denise just got me one. She probably didn't see that I asked for two, so that's OK. Didn't get my HRM, tho. I don't think it's all that expensive, but whatever...... Jess gave me a zumba DVD that I asked for. I had a feeling that she would, she likes zumba and we've talked about how the DVD has different levels. I'll start at the absolute beginner level and hopefully be able to sort-of get the hang of it.

    I have a few cookies that I'll leave out in case Jess or Denise want some, but once we take Denise to the airport, I'll put them in the freezer and then give them away.

    Colleen - sounds like you just had a heavenly Christmas with gd. Good question - Cheryl - do you still log your exercise at MFP?

    Hope everyone has a great evening.

    Michele
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,202 Member



    Barbie:flowerforyou: , love the snowman hug. Hope the bike is fixed. Did you walk at 0400 in the am before your ferry ride?


    :flowerforyou: Linda, the replacement part for the bike hasn't arrived yet, maybe tomorrow.........yes, I walk the dogs in the morning no matter how early I have to get somewhere. On the day we took the ferry our walk was shorter (closer to one hour than two) but I just get up earlier to accommodate them.

    :flowerforyou: I read all the posts from the last few days and enjoyed a happy holiday with some of you and listened with love to those of you who’ve had challenges…you are all my family and I want the best for you.

    :flowerforyou: We had a lovely day with dog walking, an early spiritual meeting with friends, more dog walking, a late lunch at our favorite Chinese restaurant (ate half the food and brought the other half home), more dog walking, a visit with the four poodles Jake cared for last summer, and finished the day with weight training while watching Jeopardy.

    :heart: Barbie from NW Washington
  • LindaS175
    LindaS175 Posts: 186 Member
    Good Christmas Day evening,

    Had a lovely day with my DD"s waking me up at 0730 to open gifts!
    Went to my MIL"s house around noon, for brunch. I ate just simple
    Foods that I could estimate the calories!
    There were many sweets there, but i was not interested in them!
    This is really a NSV for me! I knew that eating sweets would put my
    Mind into a feeding like frenzy , and I just didn't want to go there!
    I also did not want to spend my calories on a " sweet treat" just because
    It was a holiday!
    Who is this woman??? My DH brought home a box of see's. candy a week ago. It has been
    Sitting on the counter, and I did not eat a single piece!!

    I think this old dog has learned some new habits!!!

    DD#1 and I are having a scratchy throat this evening. Hope we are
    Not getting the crud!!! I've got to keep up with the exercise!

    Michele, that must be so hard for you as a mom with Denise.
    Sounds that she's in a relationship that is not healthy for
    Her, and it sure wont help her mature. I will pray for her!

    Barbie, that is nice you can go walking when ever you want!
    I would not feel safe at all in San Diego going for a walk alone
    In the dark! There are still some lovely community's left in the world!

    Cheryl- wow, that was some drama! Glad that MIL is ok. Sounds like
    Some much needed words got exchanged!

    Well, I read all the posts, but my throat is really getting to me and
    Making me cough!!
    I will close for now! Sorry that this post is messed up, but I have not
    Learned all the tricks on the phone yet!
    Sweet dreams ladies, tomorrow is a new day and a new beginning!
    Hugs, LindaS
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Michelle, it hurts my heart that you're having such a tough time with your daughter. I wish I had some brilliant wisdom to share, but all I can think of is hang in there. The transition between having our kids leave home and feeling like they're on good paths took several years.

    We went to see The Hobbit tonight. I loved it. It appears that a sequel will be coming along in the future, and I'm glad that they didn't try to cram everything into one film. I thought they did this part of the story very well.

    Merry Christmas.
  • DeeDee2211
    DeeDee2211 Posts: 1,133 Member
    Good morning beautiful ladies:flowerforyou:

    Colleen:smile: Glad you enjoyed that wonderful visit!!! Cuddles and kisses from grandkids are the BEST:heart::love: :heart: !!!!

    Michele:smile: Sorry that you`re having such difficulities with Denise. I agree with Linda, it sure sounds like an unhealthy relatationship she`s in! Not a lot at that age you can do about it though, sometimes we just have to let them go on their path and take responsibility for their own actions, not easy to do though, hopefully one day she`ll open her eyes and see SFB for what he is!

    Linda:smile: Congrats for not being tempted by those sweets...great NSV!!!! Hope you feel better soon!!!

    Katla:smile: I`d like to see The Hobbit too, good to know you enjoyed it!

    I`m feeling a bit under the weather myself this morning. I was exhausted last night and went to bed really early, and of course I was up this morning at 4:30:noway: :angry: , with a scratchy throat and a horrible headache, lots of sinus pressure too...ICK!!! Oldest granddaughter is sick with a cold, hope I didn`t pick it up from her. I need to go the drug store and pick up my Synthroid today, I`ll need it for tomorrow, however we are expecting heavy rain and wind today and at the moment I really really don`t want to go out! Oh well, I`ll decide once I finally get my shower and see how I`m feeling then.

    Hope everyone has a wonderful day and gets back to dinking the water:drinker: :drinker: :drinker: and logging the food!

    Hugs,
    DeeDee

    To those who know Dixie, I got an email from her yesterday, she`s doing okay as okay can be, the first Christmas without Lee...
    She said she`s thinking about coming back to MFP, she`s moved and is getting settled in right now. I, of course told her we would all love for her to come back!
  • Gardengail
    Gardengail Posts: 596 Member
    Michele, so sorry for the situation with your daughter. And, no, I don't think being relieved when they leave is unreasonable - I've been there with you on that point.

    Back to work today -- had heavy rains and winds overnight, but it seems to have moved through this morning.

    Have a good day!

    Gail
  • LinCharpentier
    LinCharpentier Posts: 1,122 Member
    Michele it's to bad kids don't realize all we do for them until there in there 30's and for some longer. Sorry she is causing so much uneeded stress.

    I have to share this with all of you. We went to the children mass on Christmas eve. The priest had forgot to apoint a child to carry baby Jesus. So he came and asked his niece my grandaughter if she would do it. And she said she was to shy. My grandson a whole 4 years old and you know Chirstmas eve the walls aren't splitting but almost. He pipes up well then can I do it. My son thought oh year. He'll be coming with that doll by a leg. But he did a perfect job. The priest is my daughter in laws uncle so the kids know him well. I'll share the picture when hubby gets it downloaded. I was a proud Gramma. It shows the little ones there's more to Christmas than Santa.

    Hope Santa treated you all right. Now if he could only have come and got some lbs from me I would have gladly shared.

    I have until Jan. 2nd to figure out this pedometer. Son couldn't get me nothing plain and simple to operate must need a university degree. But i'm sure someone will be over with more smarts than me.

    So not to many leftovers and wishing you all a great day.

    Linda
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Linda, my son has tempted me into trying all sorts of technology and he shows me how to use it, too. The lesson time is special for me, and helps me feel closer to my son. Have your son teach you if he's still in the area.
  • wessecg
    wessecg Posts: 410 Member
    Sundance and DeeDee, both under the weather? My entire family just went through taking turns being sick, my husband was by far the sickest. Hope y'all feel better soon.

    Linda - oh my. Is Denise your only child? It is so difficult to see our children self destruct and feel useless to intervene. My 34 year old stays unemployed, drinks waaayyyy too much, and probably weighs 300 pounds. And this was the kids who was an athlete and graduated top 10% of his class. I always feel when he went to college I let go of him too soon. I just trust him to continue to be the same person I raised. But in college he started playing video games and it consumed him, I am convinced.

    I don't log exercise into MFP because my fitbit adds any additional calories I burn back into my total calories I can consume. And I often think it adds too many, so I won't add any additional ones.

    Well hopefully for a few days everyone can stay on track of their calories. New Year's eve should be my last bad day.

    Cheryl
  • Happy to say I've stayed the same weight through the holidays...whew-thought I might gain

    DeeDee - hope you feel better soon

    Barbie - how lucky you are to live in a safe community and be able to go out and walk your dogs so early.

    Michele - I was in your position a few years ago - my DD#3 was in a verbally abusive relationship (she was in her 20's he was always telling her how stupid she was etc - my DD graduated with her masters and is a marketing manager for a company
    and definately not stupid)..it was so hard to sit by and listen to him belittle her...waited things out and she left him and
    is dating a great guy that asked her to marry him (she's in her early 30's now)...she said yes but no plans yet and sometimes I wonder if she still thinks of that clown. Hang in there..it's hard but we're all here for you

    Cheryl - thanks for the info on the fitbit..can't wait to get mine

    Have a great day and if you're out for the after holiday shopping stay safe

    Colleen
  • LinCharpentier
    LinCharpentier Posts: 1,122 Member
    Kaitla
    Son is gone back to the mines. He works 7 in 7 out. So be home New Year's Day. If it isn't going by then he will have to set it for me.

    Colleen
    How nice is that to stay the same through Chirstmas. Now do the same for New years and wouldn't that be great. I didn't do all bad not even a lb gain. Just barely gaining. Hope to have it off for tops tomorrow night.

    Cheryl
    Michelle is having problems with daughter. Not me I was blessed with boys. And there in the stage of there lives that they know who I am now. LOL there no longer in there 20's.
    It's good to know your body. You know that if your under you might want to eat more.

    Take care all and hope the day is going great.
  • megblair1
    megblair1 Posts: 1,226 Member
    Hi Ladies. I hope you all had agood Christmas. Ours did not go exactly as planned. DD#2 threw up all day:sick: (bleh) and my roast did not thaw even though it had been in the fridge for 2 days, so Christmas dinner is tonight LOL.:bigsmile:

    I did have one nice nsv....I baked a ton of stuff and didn't eat any of it until Christmas eve when our tradition is to read the night before Christmas and eat cookies. :happy:

    I don't know where the last 2 days went, but I woke up and it was time to get to bed!

    I read all your posts and can't reply to all now, but:
    Wessecg: how scary! I'm glad MIL is ok :flowerforyou:

    Michele: So sorry to hear of all your drama too! Deep breath! :flowerforyou:

    Here's the beer cheese soup recipe (can't say that it's healthy)
    2 boxes of chicken stock
    1 pound shredded cheddar cheese (white cheddar if you can find it)
    1 bottle of beer (I like a lighter tasting beer for this, like rolling rock, but any beer you like is fine)
    1/4 cup flour + extxra depending on how thick you want the soup)
    1 tablespoon worcestershire sauce
    veggies (sliced) as you like them (I use 2 big carrots, 1 big onion, and I add any random leftoever veggies if we have them like broccoli)

    Saute veggies in oil, butter, or Pam until crisp-tender
    Simmer beer, stock, worcestershire sauce, and veggies for 1 hour
    Thicken the soup with flour until desired consistency; turn heat to low and let soup cool a little bit before adding cheese or it separates
    Roll shredded cheese in 1/4 cup flour and add to soup; stir til melted in

    Enjoy! We eat this with bagels and cream cheese and that's dinner!

    OK ladies....need to get out of my post Christmas coma! More tomorrow. :flowerforyou: Meg
  • texasgal22
    texasgal22 Posts: 407 Member
    the day after; usually it is a sad kind of day as I so enjoy all there is about Christmas but today I am feeling happy and ready to de-decorate or at least partially. I usually try to redo a room or add something new to my home for the New Year and this year I am going to paint by guest bath so I am a wee bit eager but I won't start until after the first when everyone has returned to their schedules.

    Like so many Dallas area did get a snowy Christmas day. It stormed and rained heavily all night Christmas eve then about mid-day Christmas day it changed to snow. It snowed until about dusk (pic below).

    Cheryl, right there with you as my oldest son didn't make it past high school and he thinks he's a Toy's R Us kid - he never wants to grow up and I don't think he does...but I love him. I just don't make excuses for him.

    Colleen, happy for your daughter; I hope she found the man that makes her happy and healthy.

    well, I need to get busy - I've been in this chair working most of the morning and time to move it!

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  • lizmil79
    lizmil79 Posts: 566 Member
    Hello Ladies,

    We had a nice Christmas it was very simple this year but it seems to be just what we needed.

    @Michele - so sorry you are having such a hard time with Denise. It is so hard when they reach that age. When you half to step back and be a spectator in their lives. I agree with some of the comments that its seems turning 30 we all realiz
    9e our need tor advice from our parents and we don 't know it all. Praying for her to wake up and make steps to get out of that unhealthy relationship.

    @Meg having Christmas dinner today fun way to extend the holiday.I want to try your soup do copy the recipe but will save it when I feel I can splurge on calories.
    @Colleen --that 's good news about your daughter.
    @Dee sorry you aren't feeling better.
    @Barbie -- I agree with you this is a community we have develop into a family.
    @Cheryl -- like your info on fitbit I really am planning on getting one.
    @Linda sorry you aren't feeling well that id a great nsv.

    @texasgal -we are planning.on doing some remodeling to in the new year.

    So everywhere we went over the last 3 days made sure I brought goody packages with all the baked goods friends and family request. When my brother in law left last night we sent him with a plate of food plus more goodies. The rest are now in the freezers. Took the tree down put up my snowman my January decoration s.

    We are deciding between two projects for the spring. We have lived in this house now going on over a year. We live I. In apartments forever. This is for both of us our 1st house. We were in our 50's before we could buy it. We did when prices came down my DH is good with the budget use to make me mad at how tight he was. But when prices lower our credit was in good shape able to make a move. But this place is a total fixed upper. It is so exciting each time we save up and our ready to tackle another project. Each step means we are closer to this place. Becoming more our home.
    It took us so long to get into our own home I never mind putting up with any of the remodeling or even the shape of the home now. Very grateful.

    Well I need to get back to work my break is over.

    Wishing everyone a good day.
    Liz
  • yoyonomore55
    yoyonomore55 Posts: 350 Member
    DeeDee- Thanks for the update on Dixie. I am sure she is going through a very difficult time. I hope she does come back to us so we can all send her lots of hugs.
    Hope you feel better quickly!

    Michelle- I am sorry your daughter is in a bad relationship. It is so hard as a parent to watch them struggle. One of my daughter is going through a tough time right now. I would love to rescue her, but I know I have to let her find her own way. She knows I am here for her.

    We had a great time with family for two days. I really miss my two children who could not get home, but we had long phone conversations. I guess that has to do for now. We will get together soon. Everyone is happy and healthy. That is the most important part. My food intake was up and I ate more "junk" calories than I have in over a year. Today has been much better.

    We are on the verge of getting our first major storm of the year. We should get 8 to 12 inches of snow. We are all ready for it. Today DH and I bought him new cross-country skiis and we waxed mine. Even if we can't drive anywhere, we can step out our door and ski around our house. We live on a dead-end road out in the country. Can't wait!!

    Have a great evening all!

    Deb A
  • suebdew
    suebdew Posts: 1,298 Member
    We're home from our Christmas visit to our son's. Had a great time before Christmas shopping with the kids. They were so cute trying to decide what to buy and how much money they had to spend. We got a basket full at Target and I told their Mom, I'm not sure how much all this will cost. She just closed her eyes, loaded up the counter and bought all their stuff!
    Like some of you, I've not learned my lessons well because I lost track of everything and didn't drink enough water. However, my DDIL said, but you eat such small portions! I hadn't really noticed. Guess I'll weigh in on Monday (my usual day).
    Michele - my heart was sad that you had worked so hard to have everything perfect and wonderful meals planned and that you got so stressed out. We're about to begin a new year so take deep breaths and move forward.
    DeeDee - sosrry you aren't feeling well. I always remember your tag saying drink your water. Now I just need to do it.
    I got a Nike fuel bracelet for Christmas. Tracks Nike fuel (some combination based on weight, age and movement) calories, steps and gives you the time. DS said to set my goal to 2000 fuel points a day. I reached that by 2:30 this afternoon. Have to play with it for a few days to determine how it all works. Also got a Leslie Sansone DVD which I did this afternoon. I think it will be good for days when I can't get outside to walk.
    Like TXGal, we enjoyed a white Christmas in Dallas. The good news is most of it melted before we started home.
    Looking forward to getting the sugar out of my system and getting back to our routine.
    I'll be thinking of you all and hope you enjoyed your holiday.
    Sue
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,529 Member
    barbie - you are just like the people in "A Christmas Story". Christmas dinner at a Chinese restaurant....lol

    katla and everyone who commented about Denise -- One thing I say is "thank goodness I'm in NC". This way I don't have to see it day-to-day. My suspicion is that he may not be continuing to physically abuse her. I know he did when we lived in PA. He also mentally abused her, one time she was late picking him up from work and she kept apologizing to him because she was in an accident (not serious) and had to wait for the police to make their report. He got on her case about it! I tell you, when I'd take her to work and see the marks on her chest from his physical abuse, it would make me sick, literally. She always had an excuse "oh, I scratched myself". Come on! Who scratches themselves so hard that they make themselves bleed???? But she has a very hard time with any change, which I think is part of the reason she's staying with him. He has a "sugar mamma" and she doesn't deal well at all with change (and his family enables this. To me, his mother is paying bills right now, but what's going to happen when she's no longer here? Does he seriously think his step-father -- who threw him out of the house -- is going to give him thousands and thousands of dollars? To me, hard as it is, part of being a parent is letting kids fall but being there to catch them, not doing everything for them). I remember when we moved from Stroudsburg to Kennett Square. she wrote me a note saying how she hated it and didn't want to move but we made her. Now she's LEGALLY an adult so there's not much we can do, except not enable.

    DeeDee - thanks for the update about Dixie. How I wish she'd come back! Give her my best next time you communicate with her.

    Lin - I honestly don't think I realized all that my father did for me until he passed away. Oh, I realized a lot when I became a mother, but I still miss him and many times wish I could ask him a question. That must have been so beautiful watching your gransdon carrying the baby Jesus.

    Did an hour on the stairmaster (speed intervals) today. Tomorrow I'll do a Jari Love Revved to the Max DVD. This is a new DVD and I need to just be sure that there isn't a problem with it. Got a lot of new DVD's so I'll be spending a lot of time doing them, in case there's a problem and I need to return them. Hey, that was another good reason for sending my wish list at Amazon. Then if there's a problem I know where to send the item to return it, and Amazon is so good with returns. Didn't get my HRM, it's not that it's that expensive. Well, I will probably buy it for myself then. Jessica got me a cookbook. The one I wanted is unavailable at Amazon. But she wrapped it in the box that Amazon sent the book in, so when I call them to return it, I can give them numbers from the shipping label. I didn't tell her that I needed to return it, I'll just do it after she leaves.

    These last two days have been constant non-stop eating of goodies. I'm not munching on the goodies as much and feel so much better. There are still a few things that I will need to finish up (like those pierogi), but after that it's back to decent eating.

    I went to WalMart today, I had coupons for $1 off 2bags of Mars candy. Why I bought as much as I did, I have no idea. Well, I guess I'll give it away. I should really have bought just some and saved the coupons for after-Valentines day. I like to get candy to send to the lady in Poland who took care of my father when he was so sick

    Colleen - I wish I could say that I stayed the same thru the holidays, but I can't. Good for you!!!!

    Liz - you know, it's weird, Denise has champaigne tastes. I'm not kidding. We asked for a Christmas list from each kid, one of the items on her list was a necklace for over $300! Then she sent an addendum for a pair of boots that were over $150. Yet she's living with this guy who only graduated high school. I'm not saying this because she's my daughter, but she can do so much better. Yet she stays with him. From our understanding they don't have cable and other things. Now you would expect that someone who wants a $300 necklace would certainly want cable! But she has such a hard time dealing with change of any sort. I highly doubt she'll ever be able to afford a house. So sad, she wasn't brought up that way. Admitted, we didn't have a mansion, but we did have a house. This spring (and summer) will be landscaping, landscaping, landscaping for us. Loved reading how happy you are with your home, you know what you sacrificed for it and that makes it mean so much more.

    You know, I think the hardest part for me regarding Denise is knowing that SFB's mother and really whole family ALWAYS come to their rescue. Kids don't learn if you constantly do things for them. They have to learn themselves. That family isn't helping her mature any at all. But I'm sure in a sense I know why. The mother will do anything to keep her son out of their house, even if she had to cosign for a second apartment after getting burned for $2,000. How a mother can let her husband throw her son out of the house is beyond me. This is her second husband. Who was there first, the second husband or or son?

    I just didn't want much at all for dinner tonight. Well, tomorrow I'm going to have a pear before I do that DVD and then some salmon for breakfast. I'm certainly going to try getting back on track.

    Hope everyone has a great evening.

    Michele
  • djhobs
    djhobs Posts: 200 Member
    We had a very nice Christmas. We spend Christmas eve with bil &sil and their family..they are my kids favorite aunt and uncle...found out our niece is pregnant again (#2) and is due in July...practice grandbabies for me! Our Christmas morning was very relaxed and leisurely ...we then had dinner at my mother's house..she did a good job with her cooking. It was mostly done before we got there and she just warmed things up....all in all a nice family holiday ...but have to admit am glad it is over and we can get back to normal!

    I have not been logging but will start again tomorrow..my exercise is behind the eight ball too but will restart that as well. I did eat treats but not as many as in years past...so I am learning and one of my nieces told me I looked "amazing"...she is a gymrat and truly looks amazing so that was a huge nsv for me.

    Stay with it my friends and remember to keep moving forward!
    :heart:
    Jen
  • linder4866
    linder4866 Posts: 11,424 Member
    Hello ladies - have been suffering from Vitamin F deficiency!!! Now I've read your posts and all is well..........

    Unlike most of you, I did not have any holiday gatherings or temptations. I spent Christmas with my father at the nursing home. He had their Christmas dinner, I brought my homemade big salad and tangerine. So I've logged, not eaten anything at all indulgent BUT I did just sit quietly with my dad yesterday and didn't even move around much. Just sat with him in his room and he kept dozing off and I read my book. My walking was waaaaay down for the day so that's my indulgence, a very low mileage total for the 25th.

    I have no New Year's get togethers either so all I have to do is stay well. With so much illness around, that may be the most difficult thing to do. My head is swollen, my eyes heavy and my nose looks like Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer. I was so sick to my stomach this morning that I couldn't move much. Add it all up and it equals sinus problems. I'm just going to hope and pray it goes away. (If you have any home remedies, send them my way.............)

    Hugs all 'round.

    Lin

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  • LinCharpentier
    LinCharpentier Posts: 1,122 Member
    Read all the posts and looks like no one indulged in a big way.. So the holiday weight should come off fast. Was hoping for a loss at tops tomorrow but my eating wasn't good today. Oh well if I gain it won't be a lot. What can a person do if you fall recognize it and keep going.

    Hope you all had a better day than me. Bad food no exercise that won't get me no where.

    Linda C
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,202 Member
    :flowerforyou: Linda S., I am grateful on a daily basis for my wonderful neighborhood where I can walk safely day or night.

    :flowerforyou: DeeDee, thanks for the update on Dixie…….I would love to see her posting here again…..I hope you’re feeling better

    :flowerforyou: LindaC. It took me awhile to figure out my pedometer but once I did, it worked great and I love it.

    :flowerforyou: :laugh: Meg, it’s good to see you laughing about the changes in Christmas plans

    :flowerforyou: TexasGal, I love your plan to redo a room for the New Year…..i heard about your weather in Dallas……a friend of mine is trying to get back to Washington from Dallas and the weather is creating a problem for her.

    :flowerforyou: Liz, I love your positive attitude and gratitude about your house.

    :flowerforyou: Deb, cross country skiing outside your house sounds like great fun

    :flowerforyou: Sue, your fitness gifts sound awesome

    :flowerforyou: Michele, I know it is so hard for you watching your daughter in trouble and wanting to help her get out…Jake has a son who is running amok in a different way and I watch his pain and frustration and not being able to help his grown child.

    :flowerforyou: Lin, what you did for Christmas is truly a demonstration of the Christmas spirit:heart:

    :bigsmile: It was back to line dance class today where we learned a wonderful new dance……another class tomorrow morning……life is good

    :heart: Barbie from NW Washington

    "The reason most people fail instead of succeed is that they trade what they want the MOST for what they want at the MOMENT."
  • janemartin02
    janemartin02 Posts: 2,653 Member
    Hope everyone had a nice Christmas.Was so good to see my grandkids from IN.
    Had a nice time,exhausted after 10 hours of going.
    HUGS
    jane
  • tiarapants
    tiarapants Posts: 1,015 Member
    Hello ladies

    At work today - would rather be at home though!

    Will try to catch up with the posts later on.

    Love to all.

    Amanda x
  • LinCharpentier
    LinCharpentier Posts: 1,122 Member
    This is rare only two posts to answer to that's easy.

    Barbie
    it's great to be able to step out at any given time and go for a walk. I'm in that boat also there's a side road right in front cross the hwy and i'm on it. But don't like going out to early to get neighbours down the road dog might bark. And there's four houses together don't want to wake them up.
    Barbie with all your linedancing must be an awfull lot of steps at the end of some days.

    Jane
    what a beautiful Baby. Grandkids hugs and kisses makes life worthwhile.

    Well not a good nights sleep but then again not all bad. Think i'm going out to coffee this morning. And i'm going to take a little bit of a walk see how this pedometer works.
    Wii gave me a little bit of a loss this morning about .7 i'd say. One more good day should get me in pre Christmas weight.
  • DeeDee2211
    DeeDee2211 Posts: 1,133 Member
    Good morning beautiful ladies:flowerforyou:

    LindaC:smile: I would have shared a few pounds with Santa too:laugh: ! Once you get your pedometer figured out, you`ll love it!!!

    Cheryl:smile: I keep Fitbit and MFP separate, I have Fitbit set to lose 1.5 lb. a week and MFP set to lose 1 lb., neither are working for me at the moment:sad: . I have figured out that MFP is usually pretty close to what Fitbit gives me if I add back 250 calories. I do love my Fitbit though!!!

    Colleen:smile: Maintaining is good:bigsmile: !!!

    Meg:smile: Hope everyone is feeling good and your late Christmas dinner was wonderful!!! Soup sounds delish!

    Teri:smile: Beautiful pic of the snow! Have fun painting and redecorating!!!!

    Liz:smile: Love the story about your home, you make it more and more yours as you go along!!!!

    DebA:smile: Enjoy the snow and the skiing!!! Stay warm!

    Sue:smile: Sounds like you had a great time shopping with the kids, I love shopping with my granddaughters!!!!

    Lin:smile: What a wonderful daughter you are! You will never regret one minute of your Christmas day! Hope you`re feeling better, here`s what I did.... 3 or 4 cups of hot tea with ginger and lemon (throughout the day), if you like it sweet add a bit of honey, 2 Advil every 6 hours, lots of water, Zyrtec, and lots of rest, I spent a lot of my day just resting, I did make myself go out and get a 30 minute walk in, but I didn`t push myself, I walked really slow for me, I got a nice warm shower and went to bed early and today I feel brand new!

    Sorry for those that I`ve missed this time, I did read all the posts! I`ve got to get some warm clothes on and go for my walk, and then go pick up my Synthroid, I didn`t do that yesterday, which means I just won`t take one today:ohwell: .

    Hope everyone has a great day! I`ll try to pop back in a bit later! Drink your water:drinker: :drinker: :drinker: and log your food!!!

    Hugs,
    DeeDee
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,202 Member
    :flowerforyou: LindaC. the interesting thing about my pedometer is that it doesn't register a lot of the steps I take when I'm line dancing so I get fewer steps from a line dance class than I would if I used the same time for a walk....the pedometer likes to count the forward movement of typical walking rather than sideways or backwards or hip bumps or a lot of the movements in line dance.....however, line dancing is a far greater challenge for my brain (remembering the steps) than walking.so I have to remember that steps cannot be the only measure of my daily success.

    :flowerforyou: :flowerforyou: Dee Dee I hope I never need your remedy but I'll keep it in mind, just in case.

    :bigsmile: we have to pick somebody up and get to a meeting by 7 AM and I still have to walk the dog for awhile so I'd better not linger here

    :flowerforyou: Make it a great day
    act the way you want to feel

    :heart: Barbie from NW Washington
  • LinCharpentier
    LinCharpentier Posts: 1,122 Member
    Dee dee
    I wore my pedometer this morning and had a not big walk but a good 15 to 20 min. and it gave me 48 steps somethings not right but I had it at the front of me. Hubby said to try it on the hip so it's there now. But not marking much sitting here lol.

    Barbie
    I guess it don't regognize side moves and maybe if you go backwards it subtracts lol.
    Going to try that just for the heck of it.

    Make today a great day so far so good.

    Linda C
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member

    I have no New Year's get togethers either so all I have to do is stay well. With so much illness around, that may be the most difficult thing to do. My head is swollen, my eyes heavy and my nose looks like Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer. I was so sick to my stomach this morning that I couldn't move much. Add it all up and it equals sinus problems. I'm just going to hope and pray it goes away. (If you have any home remedies, send them my way.............)

    Hugs all 'round.

    Lin

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    Lin, You'll be glad for the day spent with your dad this Christmas. It was a good thing to do. As to the sinus problems, drink lots of water, take whatever antihistamines you prefer and hang tough. I hope it doesn't last long.
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    We spent the day visiting our niece yesterday and had a good time. She's gone into business with a friend and we visited her vintage items and collectables shop. I loved the way she set up her displays in rooms of an old house. I especially love that she's having so much fun with it. Her husband works impossibly long hours and her kids are in middle school and college, so she has time on her hands. She seems to be filling it with work that gives her pleasure.

    I had some very nice NSVs into the bargain. The family noticed that I'm losing weight, and asked how I'm doing it. They noticed my clothes are fitting loose. :bigsmile: So I said I'm counting calories using MFP... The support I get from you sure helps me to stay strong. Thanks for being here.:flowerforyou:
  • suebdew
    suebdew Posts: 1,298 Member
    Good morning MFP Vit F friends. Very cold here and we have to go out for fruit, veggies and staples. I think my body is craving veggies. We were gone 6 days and I can't remember eating many veggies. I know.. I should have taken some or bought my own. I did make a salad one night and my DGD and I were the only ones who ate any.
    Lin - sorry you aren't feeling well. Stay on top of that sinus problem because it can lead to bigger problems if you get an infection. Take care of you.
    DeeDee - does it snow often where you are? We lived in Las Vegas and it snowed a few times while we were stationed there. Be care with chest discomfort while shoveling. That could be a sign to take a break!
    Will pop back in later to see what's happening on the best thread in the community.:flowerforyou: