Why are womens' bodies always up for scrutiny?

126siany
126siany Posts: 1,386 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
I posed this before and was blocked from my own topic. So I won't be responding to this one.

But why is it OK for random female clerks and salespeople, or professionals like your doctor or your vet to literally stare at your boobs and waist, to comment on your thighs, to ask your jean size, etc.? Men do it too, but women are much, much worse and far more obvious and likely to ask overtly about your body.

I have actually taken to wearing my fat clothes (2-3 sizes too big) more often than not, as at least then I am left in peace. The (FEMALE) vet isn't staring at my boobs and asking what my current jean size is; I am not getting death stares from other women; and fewer random men just decide to chat me up or give me free stuff at the checkout.

If I wear what fits me, I get so much attention that I would rather stay home and do everything over the internet. Fat was better.
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  • 126siany
    126siany Posts: 1,386 Member
    *bump*
  • obsidianwings
    obsidianwings Posts: 1,237 Member
    You missed out the bit in this thread where you actively engaged in the conversation even pulling up your jumper to show the woman your butt.
    I didn't post in the last thread because you had already gotten nasty by the time I got there.
    But if you honestly think fat was better, go for your life.
  • butterfli7o
    butterfli7o Posts: 1,319 Member
    Maybe you should stop thinking of it as a bad thing. I don't think I'd mind having this problem.
  • RoadsterGirlie
    RoadsterGirlie Posts: 1,195 Member
    What obsidianwings said. That was just....odd.
  • 3foldchord
    3foldchord Posts: 2,918 Member
    Never had that. Not at 108# or 150# or a very proportionate nice 130#.
  • 3foldchord
    3foldchord Posts: 2,918 Member
    And why would you repost this same topic? You got plenty of feedback on it already?
    Dead horse
  • deksgrl
    deksgrl Posts: 7,237 Member
    Uhm? Really?
  • ihateroses
    ihateroses Posts: 893 Member
    Was this the thread where you went completely psycho and started talking about how worthless people's opinions were to you?


    ....Ahhhh yep.....

    I'm outtie!
  • MoreBean13
    MoreBean13 Posts: 8,701 Member
    Oh, YESSS!!!! I was sad when this thread went poof! before.

    In for the WIN!
  • Cranktastic
    Cranktastic Posts: 1,517 Member
    Heh...

    WHY?

    just WHY?
  • Sarauk2sf
    Sarauk2sf Posts: 28,072 Member
    Did you ever get that professional help I suggested getting?
  • PetulantOne
    PetulantOne Posts: 2,131 Member
    What?
  • prNathan
    prNathan Posts: 1
    I know that guys get a bad rap for looking at women, frankly I think it is rude myself. I have noticed however that women are just as opinionated as guys are even if they are not as vocal about it (and in the right group they sometimes share far more than men do in their opinions of the opposite sex).

    Men are usually chastised for this behaviour while women are largely ignored.

    it's just...life.
  • n0ob
    n0ob Posts: 2,390 Member
    I posed this before and was blocked from my own topic. So I won't be responding to this one.

    Bubba's Mom: "are you crazy, or just plain stupid?"
  • cmcollins001
    cmcollins001 Posts: 3,472 Member
    ...Words, more words and even more words. Complaining and more complaining. Other words and stuff...Fat was better.

    Then gain back your weight and quit complaining.

    Oh...and you might want to copy this and save it for when this thread gets locked/deleted and you have to start it yet again. Also, put back in the pancake butt comment...you missed it this time.
  • _Bob_
    _Bob_ Posts: 1,487 Member
    I love it when men stare at my cleavage and give me free stuff. it makes me feel sexy, sooo.....

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  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    Get help.
  • slkehl
    slkehl Posts: 3,801 Member
    I was going to seriously respond to this until I saw the other replies. Guess I missed the show earlier.
  • Coyla
    Coyla Posts: 444 Member
    Maybe I'm jumping to conclusions (I didn't read the original thread), but I suspect the OP has an eating disorder.
  • Brewster1215
    Brewster1215 Posts: 247 Member
    Fine, I'll make an attempt to be more overt in my oogling of breasts....happy now?
  • 126siany
    126siany Posts: 1,386 Member
    So we have ONE actual answer and then just crap.

    And people wonder why folks advise against ever using the forums for help. Won't make that mistake again.
  • lyttlewon
    lyttlewon Posts: 1,118 Member
    That is kind of kooky, I have never had a man give me free anything at the check out and I have had gigantic boobs since I was 13. After so many years, I don't even notice people looking at them. Sometimes I check just to make sure the headlights are both pointing in the right direction. No since having googly headlights.
  • Cranktastic
    Cranktastic Posts: 1,517 Member
    So we have ONE actual answer and then just crap.

    And people wonder why folks advise against ever using the forums for help. Won't make that mistake again.

    You are surprised after how you behaved?
  • _Bob_
    _Bob_ Posts: 1,487 Member
    So we have ONE actual answer and then just crap.

    And people wonder why folks advise against ever using the forums for help. Won't make that mistake again.

    maybe people are bored with your rant, because it sort of absurd to most. but if it is really bugging you you should seek some real help. or just stay in because you can't take a compliment

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  • deksgrl
    deksgrl Posts: 7,237 Member
    Honestly, I didn't see the original thread.

    My honest answer to what you describe is this: You are either so unusually out of the ordinary for everyone to be commenting on your body, or you live in a place where there are no normal people, hence you seem unusually out of the ordinary.
  • DontStopB_Leakin
    DontStopB_Leakin Posts: 3,863 Member
    I posed this before and was blocked from my own topic. So I won't be responding to this one.

    But why is it OK for random female clerks and salespeople, or professionals like your doctor or your vet to literally stare at your boobs and waist, to comment on your thighs, to ask your jean size, etc.? Men do it too, but women are much, much worse and far more obvious and likely to ask overtly about your body.

    I have actually taken to wearing my fat clothes (2-3 sizes too big) more often than not, as at least then I am left in peace. The (FEMALE) vet isn't staring at my boobs and asking what my current jean size is; I am not getting death stares from other women; and fewer random men just decide to chat me up or give me free stuff at the checkout.

    If I wear what fits me, I get so much attention that I would rather stay home and do everything over the internet. Fat was better.
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  • Kenzietea2
    Kenzietea2 Posts: 1,132 Member
    If a man politely flirts or tells me I am attractive in some form, it is simply flattering... If they do cross the line however, (touching, disrespectful remarks) then I stand up for myself and more women should too. A few men are just jerks, but many times they've just gotten away with it (or even received a positive response) so they think that it is acceptable. Aaaannnd if you're constantly getting attention from these 'jerks'... could it possibly be something you're doing?

    If this is seriously just about men looking then...I don't even know what to say. Men look at boobs, and butt, and hips, and bodies. It's not even a conscious thing. It is biological. Biology is a hard thing to fight. Give a dude a break every once in a while, lol. Sometimes they look and they aren't even attracted! (But to all the husbands/boyfriends out there... you could learn a lesson in discretion...if your woman sees you looking she will get mad!).
  • RobynMWilson
    RobynMWilson Posts: 1,540 Member
    Ok...I get a lot of attention but I not so many people asking me questions like that. Where the heck do you LIVE? Maybe b/c we are all so jaded in NJ...they look, and some guys of course try to chat me up, but I don't get all these questions about my thighs, etc
  • xxloveiswarr
    xxloveiswarr Posts: 124
    So we have ONE actual answer and then just crap.

    And people wonder why folks advise against ever using the forums for help. Won't make that mistake again.

    totally missed the original post. bummer.

    i don't think you really asked a 'help me' question. everyones bodies are always up for scrutiny, not just women. also i think you need to find a new vet, because that's just plain creepy.
  • RobynMWilson
    RobynMWilson Posts: 1,540 Member
    ...Words, more words and even more words. Complaining and more complaining. Other words and stuff...Fat was better.

    Then gain back your weight and quit complaining.

    Oh...and you might want to copy this and save it for when this thread gets locked/deleted and you have to start it yet again. Also, put back in the pancake butt comment...you missed it this time.

    After reading some of the comments...sucks I missed the last thread lol

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