Why do people lose weight for the wrong reasons?

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  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    this has backfired in OP's face.
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
    Meg's actually a damned non-judgmental person. She's a fantastic to support those on her friend's list, regardless of the reasons they post for their weight loss. I think she was frustrated with the folks who aren't wanting to use this opportunity to learn life-long healthy habits, i.e - those who merely want a quick fix. I get frustrated with that, too.
  • cnelson1974
    cnelson1974 Posts: 235 Member
    I understand what you where trying to relay with your initial post. I'm just glad that everyone has a reason and is making a change in the right direction. :D
  • fit_to_be
    fit_to_be Posts: 13
    There's a wrong reason? Every person is different. What seems shallow to you may mean the world to someone else.

    Don't judge.

    with this!
  • ettennette
    ettennette Posts: 14
    it's not a big deal as long as you're giving your body the fight nutrition Source: http://www.top-5-diets.info/
  • lenoresaari
    lenoresaari Posts: 500 Member
    The only reason you would gain the weight back is if you
    dont maintain.............. so who cares why they lose? Its gone.............RIGHT???
  • FitFabFlirty92
    FitFabFlirty92 Posts: 384 Member
    I think I understand where the OP was coming from. I wasn't offended by what she said like many on here were. Everyone has their own reasons for weight loss, and they're not inherently right or wrong. But it is irritating when you see people losing weight JUST to be "skinny" or JUST for a specific occasion. So many of us on here are trying to make a lifetime commitment, so the flightier people among us can rub you the wrong way every once in awhile.
  • Juliechilli
    Juliechilli Posts: 123 Member
    Sometimes you gain weight and technically you become overweight via your BMI. Let's say you've been on a kick and losing slowly and incorporating a more healthy lifestyle with exercise and clean eating, Let's say your 13 year younger sister gets engaged and asks you to be in her wedding with all of the other size 4 bridesmaids.. You order a 12 (for your large chest) and you try it on and it fits but you can't breathe. YEAH, those last 10 pounds WILL come off. This is push I needed. Ya, I do it for me and to live long for my kids but sometimes I can get complacent without that incentive of 150 people looking at me at a wedding.. Just sayin'

    You shouldn't be concerned with other peoples' reasoning for wanting to get healthy. We all have our out motives...
  • LMick1986
    LMick1986 Posts: 431
    If appearance is your only concern in losing weight, you'll most likely end up a statistic who regains the weight in a year (or 5) and then some.

    Not if you want it bad enough. When someone wants something bad enough (whether YOU think it's the wrong reasons or not), they will make it happen. You can want weight loss for all the "right" reasons and still be statistic. It's in your willpower, not your reasons.
  • currierand
    currierand Posts: 155 Member
    Don't get me wrong, I want to look good naked and have hot crazy monkey sex, too. BUT it's not my primary motivation to lose weight. The main goal is to be healthier and commit to a lifestyle change. I couldn't give a #$)# about anything else.

    Your primary goal is a healthy lifestyle change.. Mine might be to lose weight. One does not negate the other. Yours is not GOOD and mine is not BAD...get it?

    Now, let's all get out there and have upside down hot monkey sex!!!!!!
  • schondell
    schondell Posts: 556 Member
    There is no wrong reason to lose weight IMO! :drinker:
  • onyxgirl17
    onyxgirl17 Posts: 1,722 Member
    I think I understand where the OP was coming from. I wasn't offended by what she said like many on here were. Everyone has their own reasons for weight loss, and they're not inherently right or wrong. But it is irritating when you see people losing weight JUST to be "skinny" or JUST for a specific occasion. So many of us on here are trying to make a lifetime commitment, so the flightier people among us can rub you the wrong way every once in awhile.

    I agree
  • lotusspark
    lotusspark Posts: 367
    I agree,whether it's vanity or health it should be personal. not to keep someone else happy or to compete in some way unless the goal becomes personal + to keep it off for ones own self.
  • trophywife24
    trophywife24 Posts: 1,472 Member
    90% of my reasons for loosing weight are completely shallow, vain and superficial.

    The other 10% includes all of the fun stuff like the rampant obesity, diabetes, etc etc that run in my family.

    But as a healthy 27 year old, "look hot" is more of the goal than "avoid diabetes"......and that's okay. That's why it's my goal, my body, my life.

    Also.....upside down sex??? Yes.
  • Subowski
    Subowski Posts: 71
    What if someone wants to lose weight to be the slut at the bar?
  • UsernameStillLoading
    UsernameStillLoading Posts: 299 Member
    They do that to have a goal...or for motivation.
    A lot of people don't care enough about themselves or about their health to do it for them.
    Its not wrong...its just not as effective in the long run.
  • StinkyWinkies
    StinkyWinkies Posts: 603 Member
    If one really needs to lose weight, I do not believe there *is* a "wrong reason" for losing.

    I stopped smoking in 2007 'for someone;' 3 months later we broke up. I don't regret it and I've not picked them back up. I was told I was quitting "for the wrong reason." (except by my doc, she didn't care about the *why*)
  • ettennette
    ettennette Posts: 14
    yes right of course
  • Rogue_Minx
    Rogue_Minx Posts: 71 Member
    My boyfriend is a personal trainer; that was reason enough for me. Being nearly 200 pounds next to his abs made me feel terrible. Maybe he won't always be my boyfriend (maybe he'll be something more :smile: ) but being in-shape and fitness oriented has become a way of life. And that won't change, regardless of who comes into my life or leaves.
  • SkinnyMusic
    SkinnyMusic Posts: 52
    It's whatever makes the person feel happy. I'm losing weight for myself, to say I fit in a lower size, for when I'm in my uniform for volleyball, for my boyfriend, and to look hella good. So, I'm suppose to not want to lose weight just because I want to look good? Since it's the wrong reason, I shouldn't lose weight to make myself better?

    Yeah. Totaaally makes sense.
    Simmer down now, sweetheart.
  • MorbidMander
    MorbidMander Posts: 349 Member
    I'm thinking about those people who think they need to drop pounds just to fit in a smaller sized wedding dress or they do it for anybody other than themselves. Seems stupid and self-defeating, you should lose weight just for yourself and to make a lifestyle change. Thoughts?

    My first thought that came to mind is it's probably none of your concern to be judging people for losing weight for the "wrong" reasons. I mean, this is a website to help one another with their individual journeys and yet I constantly see these judgmental threads. Unless someone is anorexic or has some other kind of eating-disorder, there is no "wrong" reason to lose weight. Everyone has a vain and shallow side to them, even you I'm sure, and that is ok to a certain extent because it makes them get their *kitten* up off the couch and do something good for their health. Just.. stop nitpicking on people because they're not losing weight for the reasons *you* think are valid and good ffs.
  • NureeniWright
    NureeniWright Posts: 13
    Don't get me wrong, I want to look good naked and have hot crazy monkey sex, too. BUT it's not my primary motivation to lose weight. The main goal is to be healthier and commit to a lifestyle change. I couldn't give a #$)# about anything else.

    I won't lie, looking better naked is my primary focus when I hit the gym, or pass on the donuts or have one drink instead of 12. I know that as I get closer to THAT goal, that the others will happen as well. That's why I lift and do cardio as well as pass on the yummies. But I'm vain, I want to look in the mirror and like what I see. Doesn't mean I'm aiming for 10% body fat, or a six pack (though that would be nice). But to be comfortable in my own skin. And vanity doesn't have to be a bad thing.

    I think I love you =D
  • ettennette
    ettennette Posts: 14
    yes you're right!
  • LMick1986
    LMick1986 Posts: 431
    They do that to have a goal...or for motivation.
    A lot of people don't care enough about themselves or about their health to do it for them.
    Its not wrong...its just not as effective in the long run.

    You know what....this is a good point. It can give them a short term goal to achieve. If you look at your weight loss in terms of "I don't want to have diabetes" or "I want to live a long life for my children", you can't really say you've "reached" that goal. Whereas, if you say "I want to be a size 8 in my wedding dress" or "I want to wear a size small bikini"....those are goals you KNOW you can and will reach. Does that make sense? None of it is a wrong reason....but some are more concrete for people. If that's what helps people, let them do it and be supportive of it.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    As far as I can tell, overweight or unhealthy people losing weight by eating healthier and exercising more is a good thing, no matter the reason.
  • belladonna786
    belladonna786 Posts: 1,165 Member
    My reasons for wanting to lose weight are my own and frankly how is it any of your business why someone wants to lose weight?
    It is people who feel so utterly sh!tty about themselves that find the need to find fault with what strangers are doing. Why don't you worry about yourself and leave others be. I would LOVE to see what your reaction would be to somebody questioning you about anything in your life. Move on with your own life.

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