Internet dating- applicants are too fat

Jpinpoint

I'm tempted to change my pictures to a more buff guy and keep the rest of the profile the same to settle the bet.

I'd bet on your side. You may be able to weed our the nuts if you did that. Post a main profile pic of a buff guy and then all of your other pics are of you.

Good luck with online dating.

willwillywilson

It's been a waste of time so I'm probably going to quit and maybe try another site or give up until I trim down more. I mean people swear weight isn't an issue but I think they're kidding themselves. Why else would a woman not right back? And the answer is no, I'm not just writing to super model looking women LOL.

jamie_2216

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and sadly most peoples first opinion is based on looks. That is just the world we live in. I have done the whole online dating thing and in my personal opinion if your not interested you should just not write back. They will get they picture that your not interested and move on. It's better not to upset them by telling them the exact reason why unless they ask.

willwillywilson

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and sadly most peoples first opinion is based on looks. That is just the world we live in. I have done the whole online dating thing and in my personal opinion if your not interested you should just not write back. They will get they picture that your not interested and move on. It's better not to upset them by telling them the exact reason why unless they ask.

So the real question is did you write back to the fat guys or the skinny guys?

rml_16

I'm tempted to change my pictures to a more buff guy and keep the rest of the profile the same to settle the bet.

Thing is, based on your photos here, I would respond to you if I were online dating. But your attitude sucks and after reading your posts often enough, I no longer think you're attractive. You're exhausting.

trojanbb

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and sadly most peoples first opinion is based on looks. That is just the world we live in. I have done the whole online dating thing and in my personal opinion if your not interested you should just not write back. They will get they picture that your not interested and move on. It's better not to upset them by telling them the exact reason why unless they ask.

So the real question is did you write back to the fat guys or the skinny guys?

dear lord....it doesn't matter man. I get just as many replies as you and I'm very fit. Your theory holds no water. Women don't write back for a number of reasons, weight being one of many. Looks, personality, $$$, etc matter far far more. I could post a bunch of ripped shirtless pics and I wouldn't get replies. These girls get messaged by hundreds of guys, every week.

jamie_2216

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and sadly most peoples first opinion is based on looks. That is just the world we live in. I have done the whole online dating thing and in my personal opinion if your not interested you should just not write back. They will get they picture that your not interested and move on. It's better not to upset them by telling them the exact reason why unless they ask.

So the real question is did you write back to the fat guys or the skinny guys?

I try not to judge ppl. I wrote to everyone who wrote me except the creepers lol If i wasn't interested i let them know.

TriShamelessly

Trollhole

OMFG! Trollhole is my new fave word!

This!

mandy0688

OP has only one friend....and she is in a bikini prob doesn't talk to him which is why he resorts to online dating.....and really your not even that cute and judging by your post your an *kitten* which is why no one in real life want to date you anyways and btw...I am glad your insensitive *kitten* doesn't want to date them because it has officially helped thier self esteem by not knowing what a *kitten* you are. Just saying

Ta2dchic20

This post made me sad. Dude, beauty is ONLY skin deep. Maybe one of these women would be your perfect match. Yes there must be attraction, but you just utterly right them off due to their weight? My momma always said if you look you can find the beauty in everyone. I think that is mainly true (Hitler being the exception, dang Hitler!). We all get older and parts of us sag, we get wrinkly, etc. Personality pretty much always stays the same!

This is all true, and I totally agree. Looks are certainly not everything. There is beauty in everyone, BUT!!

a woman (and man!) should love and take care of themselves and their bodies before they should expect to find somebody else to love and care for them, in my opinion. He said all the women who contacted him were morbidly obese, not just a little round. Now, if he was saying "non-supermodels need not apply", then yeah, that would be shallow and wrong. But these women are unhealthy from the sound of it. What's worse: not being attracted to somebody who doesn't take care of their body, or someone who due to health carelessness dies on their SO at an early age?

Spoken like someone who has never really battled their weight...

Carlyannabelle

This post made me sad. Dude, beauty is ONLY skin deep. Maybe one of these women would be your perfect match. Yes there must be attraction, but you just utterly right them off due to their weight? My momma always said if you look you can find the beauty in everyone. I think that is mainly true (Hitler being the exception, dang Hitler!). We all get older and parts of us sag, we get wrinkly, etc. Personality pretty much always stays the same!

You are adorable! :flowerforyou:

willwillywilson

I'm tempted to change my pictures to a more buff guy and keep the rest of the profile the same to settle the bet.

Thing is, based on your photos here, I would respond to you if I were online dating. But your attitude sucks and after reading your posts often enough, I no longer think you're attractive. You're exhausting.

My attitude would definitely be better if I got more responses LOL. Catch 22 I guess. Years and years of getting shot down for being fat does that to a guy. It's not just online but everywhere. It's really hard to buy that women aren't shallow when none of them respond to you at all. Go to any spot where people gather to meet each other. Not hard to see who women actually talk to and who they don't. It wouldn't be so annoying if you ladies would actually just admit it.

SoDamnHungry

If you don't find them attractive, don't respond. I don't see why this is a big deal.

MandaPaigeSparkles88

Wow OP, there is more to a person than just looks. Yes I know looks plays an important part in being attracted to someone but seriously, if you told a girl who is obese or morbidly obese this what a way to bring them down. I weigh 265 lbs I'll be the first to admit I am obese probably morbidly obese but you know what I go out on dates, because guys see what's on the inside and like it. If you were to send me a reply saying you aren't interested because I am obese I'd write you back saying It's your loss as well as a few other words that I can't say here on MFP.

ChefTJP

i'm sure because of your wonderful, sparkling personality the ladies are lining up for you.

Hysterical reply!!!!!! so true!

RLDeShazo

I do the same. Fat=no answer. I never expected good looking people to message me when I was fat.

I get messages from good looking people all the time. Check out their profile and if we have anything in common, I respond. What surprises me, is the number of 20 somethings I get messages from. :smokin:

knittingwitch

dude your fat their probably asking you out because they figure you would have more in common with another fat person then they would with and athletic person. Plus maybe some of these girls are just starting to lose weight much like you are how would you like it if some one responded to you asking them out sorry I'm not into fat people.
Its not up to you to decided what would make another person happy, so if your not interested just ignore or tell them no thanks.