"You're so lucky,,,"

SuperstarDJ

So, meanwhile, I get called Skinny B*tch and I can't call them anything back (which I wouldn't do anyway)....seems fair.

I'm sorry, but exactly how and why does it seem fair? I get called "skinny b*tch", "anorexic cow" etc., etc. and I'm supposed to just take it because, I'm 'lucky', right? When I go on Facebook, my curvier FB friends post picture after picture of women like Marilyn Monroe containing quotes such as, "Real men go for curves. Only dogs like bones" (nice) or "REAL women have curves" (what am I then? A fake woman?!?). The comments written underneath these 'motivational' posts really hurt too. My body type often referred to as "disgusting", "unattractive", etc. You know thin people have feelings and get hurt too???

I would love to see people's reactions if the tables were turned. If I suddenly started calling these people "fat b*tch" or "obese cow". If I started posting pictures of underweight models on Facebook with "Real men like size 0. Only [...fill in the blank] like fat!"

Of course, I would never, ever do this. I just don't see why it's OK to insult somebody's appearance and body shape once they're thin. It should be completely unacceptable to insult anyone, regardless of their weight.

BlueObsidian

Has anyone ever said that to you about being in shape, losing weight or the way you look in general? "You're so lucky you're skinny..it's just so easy for you..." I'm so lucky? So easy? Yes..I was so lucky that one day I watched a P90X infomercial, called and ordered it, stopped making excuses, peeled myself outta bed every effin day sore muscles and all and gave it everything I had. So lucky that I started shopping and eating different, that the 9 inches I lost just fell off with no effort (factious). I had the drive, determination and dedication to change something I didn't like. Last I checked, that was called willpower - not luck.

Sorry...I just hate when people are sitting on their *kitten* elbow deep in a Lay's chip bag drinking Coca-cola telling me "how lucky I am"....

It's a compliment- the are saying you ARE fit and pretty. Like you don't even have to work at it. Even if you really do it is a compliment. It's like telling somebody they are beautiful, you don't say "wow you really know how to apply makeup."

They may mean it as a compliment, but it's not. It's insulting and dismissive of the hard work someone puts into their success. While I haven't had the "you're so lucky" comments on my weight or appearance, I have had them in other parts of my life. If I work my butt off on something for months and then someone tells me "I'm so lucky" to have achieved it, it's completely ignores all that effort. As if my work meant nothing and all I needed was luck.

ladytinkerbell99

bump. Great post, will read later. Thanks

SoDamnHungry

I've been lucky that my parents taught me proper portion sizes and I'm not genetically inclined to be chubby.

But I really get pissed when people dismiss my weight as "a fast metabolism" instead of acknowledging that I eat within my calories and and work out. Like, really pissed. And then they say they can't be thin because their metabolism isn't as fast as mine. :huh: No, no, that isn't the problem.

coachblt

Nobody has ever said anything close to that to me. They just say how good I look and that I look like a whole different person, which I am.

They ask what I did, so I tell em. Regardless, it wouldn't make me mad. It's an opportunity to discuss with them the steps I took to get into shape. No need to get angry when they say "You're Lucky"...you used to be one of them, so lighten up a little.

RunIntheMud

So, meanwhile, I get called Skinny B*tch and I can't call them anything back (which I wouldn't do anyway)....seems fair.

I'm sorry, but exactly how and why does it seem fair? I get called "skinny b*tch", "anorexic cow" etc., etc. and I'm supposed to just take it because, I'm 'lucky', right? When I go on Facebook, my curvier FB friends post picture after picture of women like Marilyn Monroe containing quotes such as, "Real men go for curves. Only dogs like bones" (nice) or "REAL women have curves" (what am I then? A fake woman?!?). The comments written underneath these 'motivational' posts really hurt too. My body type often referred to as "disgusting", "unattractive", etc. You know thin people have feelings and get hurt too???

I would love to see people's reactions if the tables were turned. If I suddenly started calling these people "fat b*tch" or "obese cow". If I started posting pictures of underweight models on Facebook with "Real men like size 0. Only [...fill in the blank] like fat!"

Of course, I would never, ever do this. I just don't see why it's OK to insult somebody's appearance and body shape once they're thin. It should be completely unacceptable to insult anyone, regardless of their weight.

Sarcasm.

You missed the entire point of my post. It's not fair and it's completely inappropriate to call anyone names. They should not be able to call me names, just as people should not be able to call you names.

SuperstarDJ

So, meanwhile, I get called Skinny B*tch and I can't call them anything back (which I wouldn't do anyway)....seems fair.

I'm sorry, but exactly how and why does it seem fair? I get called "skinny b*tch", "anorexic cow" etc., etc. and I'm supposed to just take it because, I'm 'lucky', right? When I go on Facebook, my curvier FB friends post picture after picture of women like Marilyn Monroe containing quotes such as, "Real men go for curves. Only dogs like bones" (nice) or "REAL women have curves" (what am I then? A fake woman?!?). The comments written underneath these 'motivational' posts really hurt too. My body type often referred to as "disgusting", "unattractive", etc. You know thin people have feelings and get hurt too???

I would love to see people's reactions if the tables were turned. If I suddenly started calling these people "fat b*tch" or "obese cow". If I started posting pictures of underweight models on Facebook with "Real men like size 0. Only [...fill in the blank] like fat!"

Of course, I would never, ever do this. I just don't see why it's OK to insult somebody's appearance and body shape once they're thin. It should be completely unacceptable to insult anyone, regardless of their weight.

Sarcasm.

You missed the entire point of my post. It's not fair and it's completely inappropriate to call anyone names. They should not be able to call me names, just as people should not be able to call you names.

Ooops! Sorry, I thought you were being serious :embarassed:

HeidiMightyRawr

Yep, all the time.

I get quite a few people who see me eat a lot and assume that I can just eat whatever I want and stay slim. Nope, doesn't work like that. I monitor what I eat and try and stay around my goal. I can eat the amount I do because I'm active in life, and lift heavy at the gym 5x a week!

Not because I'm genetically blessed, or because I'm tall, or young, or just lucky.

People tend to dismiss the hard work, I think because it highlights what they're NOT doing. If they stay thinking that it's just me and my luck then they have an excuse.

dorothytd

While I'm not a fan of being called this (or being told I can eat anything I want, etc.), in some ways I really DO feel lucky. It was hard work to get here and it is hard work to stay here. But I feel lucky (or better - blessed) that I figured it out how to be healthy before I got too old to enjoy it! I feel lucky that I can wake up, move my body, then be able to wear a size I would have never thought possible! And on occasion, I sit on the couch and eat Lay's - when I am lucky enough to have the extra calories from kicking some exercise butt. But NEVER with a real Coke - diet all the way!!

emilynw10

My husband told me the other day that I'm lucky because I lose weight easily. This from the man who has always had the metabolism to eat whatever he wanted and not gain ANYTHING to the woman who has been overweight since childhood. Now that he's getting old, his metabolism is catching up to him and he said it's better that I could never eat whatever I wanted and not gain because I don't know what I'm missing whereas he now has to restrict himself where he didn't have to before. Boo. Hoo. And then I cried a river for him.

(he actually is incredibly supportive... he just doesn't think before he talks)

bellygoaway

At church the other day, somebody told me how lucky I was I could eat over 2500 calories a day and still loose weight. I told them luck had nothing to do with it. They could do the same thing I am if they had put in the time. All it takes is decades of not working out and eating way to much food. I told them not to envy me because they were to lazy to get up to almost 400 lbs to begin with.

yoovie

Jonesie86

I guess my point was, I don't care if you're 500lbs and are working towards 450, or 125lbs working towards 120. We're on here supporting each other making changes, succeeding and failing together. I mainly get this from my family, who hates working out, makes fun of me for it, don't watch what they eat and make a scene when I eat a salad or protein drink. Just sad that people don't have the desire to change themselves, but dig deep enough to find a way to act like I'm weird for doing it. So I ignore, move on and smile as know I'm making healthy choices ;-)

gluestic14

I've had people say that or at a family meal at say Thanksgiving, they will look at my plate and in front of everyone kinda loud be like "Is that all you're going to eat??" but really I've got like 3000 calories on my plate lol. I don't really like the attention that it brings because I'm clearly not starving myself or anything but people will automatically go there. I think that people just don't realize how much food they are REALLY eating. I know that I didn't before I started counting calories!! So at Thanksgiving this past year when I really did have 3000 calories on my plate (give or take - I tried to count, really I did :-) and then the people calling the attention have twice as much on their plates and they are the majority it makes it seem like I'm eating nothing. I try to tell them to get on MFP and count with me when they say they want to lose weight, but I haven't had much luck yet. I hope that someday they will, it would be great to have a friend on here with me :-)

BinaryPulsar

Someone that I care about said this to me, but I don't think she meant it in any kind of negative way. When she said it, I could hear the sadness in her voice (she is dealing with weight issues related to a medication she had to take along with some very serious medical issues). Honestly, I just felt compassion for her and I also just felt relieved that she is such a kind person that she can love and respect me and be happy for me and is not the kind of person that would get jealous and be mean because of that. It doesn't bother me if someone says I'm so lucky. I take that as a compliment. If someone insults me or is cruel in some way that would bother me (like when I was a kid I had these 2 friends and one of them put green eyeshadow roughly all over my face while telling me I was so pretty and the other wrapped a scarf around my neck and started to strangle me). But, this person knows the things I have faced in my life (I don't mean the thing those girls did, that was minor in comparison to the stuff I've been through), so I guess if someone was implying that I had never faced hardship, then yeah, that would bother me. But, just saying I am lucky to be slim, fit, or pretty...that's just nice.

bettacheckyoself

I have heard it a few times but they come from girls who are skinner than me, so I think they just say that to be nice or they just assume because I am Asian that I can eat whatever I want and not get fat...

I hate it when I hear people complain that they are heavy but they don't take my advice when I give them tips or try to encourage them to exercise ..