Mixed Signals!

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FreezingMist
FreezingMist Posts: 12
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So I've had this friend & he goes 2 a different uni than me. we've known eachother for about a yr and a half and we got really close over the summr and shiz and we started skyping/ txting all the time.

Around mid Nov. he started getting rlly busy with finals and he stopped sending me good morning/ good night texts/ stopped txting me first 4 the most part. We still talk-- we've skyped maybe three times between then and now. And still all the time he says he loves talking to me and he *hugs* me in our conversations all the time, but I've noticed a change....

I mean, okay, I know this all sounds kinda weird and all but I really have noticed that we don't talk as much. What I don't want to happen is for me 2 keep contacting him more than he wants me 2 or something 'cause i don't want him 2 think i'm clingy.

I rlly want 2 start the new year off fresh and on a good foot but i don't know if I should talk to him about why he hasn't been contacting me as much? Would that seem intrusive/ give him 2nd thoughts if he didn't already have them? I mean, he's still really nice when we do talk and he flirts w/ me a bit i think but I'm getting so many mixed signals & I rlly don't know what to do!
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  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
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    Please tell me you don't text talk to him in real life as well.

    Is it that hard to complete a word?
  • FreezingMist
    FreezingMist Posts: 12
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    Only sometimes. ;)
  • Lift_This_
    Lift_This_ Posts: 2,756 Member
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    with grammar skills like that, he may not want to talk to you...the red pen would be in full force....yikes.
  • FreezingMist
    FreezingMist Posts: 12
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    Well Happy New Year to you too. :/
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
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    Your typing makes my head hurt...


    You two should Just Break Up.
  • FreezingMist
    FreezingMist Posts: 12
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    ...
    Thanks for the help u guys.
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
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    ...
    Thanks for the help u guys.

    *you
  • FreezingMist
    FreezingMist Posts: 12
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    Yes.
    You.
    I know how to write.
    I just don't care to write correctly at the moment.
    I'm upset, okay? You guys around here say you're nice but... I was just asking for some help, okay?
  • Pixi_Rex
    Pixi_Rex Posts: 1,676 Member
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    Go get the book "He is just not that into you" and read it.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
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    Yes.
    You.
    I know how to write.
    I just don't care to write correctly at the moment.
    I'm upset, okay? You guys around here say you're nice but... I was just asking for some help, okay?
    Well I can't even tell what the heck you are trying to say. Type again in whole words and we'll see if we can help.
    I will say however that text talk usually means some kind of lack of maturity. Which, people don't like.
  • Lift_This_
    Lift_This_ Posts: 2,756 Member
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    Yes.
    You.
    I know how to write.
    I just don't care to write correctly at the moment.
    I'm upset, okay? You guys around here say you're nice but... I was just asking for some help, okay?

    if you really want advice...grow some balls and straight out ask him what is up....you seem to have a great friendship, and yes you two were busy at school, so since its the start to a new semester/new year be upfront with him.
  • Crankstr
    Crankstr Posts: 3,958 Member
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    Yes.
    You.
    I know how to write.
    I just don't care to write correctly at the moment.
    I'm upset, okay? You guys around here say you're nice but... I was just asking for some help, okay?

    I wouldn't crows him or ask him...just be yourself.
  • sillygoosie
    sillygoosie Posts: 1,109 Member
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    He's busy, you're busy. You are both living your own lives. It's normal to grow apart.

    Everyone else railed on your writing so I'll just leave it alone. :grumble:
  • Judontmesswithme
    Judontmesswithme Posts: 20
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    I know how you feel, I've been where you are now, and I've learned a lot about men. If you want real advice, private message me.
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
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    Simply asking him if there's been a change in the friendship (either way) seems a reasonable thing. You might not get a straight answer, but you at least would have done the adult thing and approached it well.
  • lydia_the_tattooed_lady
    lydia_the_tattooed_lady Posts: 324 Member
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    Please tell me you don't text talk to him in real life as well.

    Is it that hard to complete a word?

    lol I started spacing after I saw "shiz"
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
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    I'm not trying to be mean, but writing so we can understand you would go along way..

    But from what I can understand:

    He's not talking to you as much as he was?
    You want to know why?

    Ask him.
    Talk to him.
    Be an adult
    If he won't answer you, then quit wasting your time
  • FreezingMist
    FreezingMist Posts: 12
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    Ugh.
  • Crankstr
    Crankstr Posts: 3,958 Member
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    Yes.
    You.
    I know how to write.
    I just don't care to write correctly at the moment.
    I'm upset, okay? You guys around here say you're nice but... I was just asking for some help, okay?

    if you really want advice...grow some balls and straight out ask him what is up....you seem to have a great friendship, and yes you two were busy at school, so since its the start to a new semester/new year be upfront with him.

    sorry linds...I disagree.

    Last thing guys like is why? why? why?
  • rousehouse
    rousehouse Posts: 133 Member
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    You're probably over-thinking this. I wouldn't worry about talking to him "too much". He's probably been busy during the holidays and I'm sure he'd like to hear from you.

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