are there lots of nutters around ??

WelshMaid

reading through some people's introductions...makes me laugh when they say things like 'i won't make friends with you unless you send me a message first,and even then it is not guaranteed i will be your friend'.....off to get my friend cv typed ;-)

SomeoneSomeplace

When you reach a certain point and want to keep up with your friends and actually support them it makes sense to filter out certain people, a common way of doing this is having a person provide a message.

BamsieEkhaya

hhahaa I don't actually have that written, but after a few dodgy FR I now ask a few question...might help to add where in the world you are as well in your CV...I'm fussing like that ! (I also don't like scary profile picture ) - Judgemental B*tch :blushing: hahaa

Elleinnz

Yep - hand up to being a nutter - I don't make friends with every single person I meet in real life - we have to have at least a few things in common.....so why on earth should I be classed a nutter for not making friends with every single person that come accross my path on the Internet??

WelshMaid

lol..nah i was just wondering

victorialkay

reading through some people's introductions...makes me laugh when they say things like 'i won't make friends with you unless you send me a message first,and even then it is not guaranteed i will be your friend'.....off to get my friend cv typed ;-)

They are just putting a wall up instantly, aren't they? Jeeee!! Join a weightloss support community and don't make friends, see how it goes!!! No support coming their way!! He he!!!

NeverGivesUp

yes once you have been here long enough you realize most of the people that send requests without a message don't support you in return. It is so easy to send a little message to introduce yourself and it is polite. It is a bit lazy to not send a message in my opinion unless you have been chatting on the boards and know of eachother already.

twinkychops

I learnt the hard way, everyone I had previously added was great but then the pervs came! beware of pervs honey! LOL

Cinflo58

Ha! I don't have to worry about pervs. They aren't interested in a 50+ year old BUT I only want friends who are walking the walk and can support me. I want friends who can show me what works for them. Or newbies that I know are serious.

Elf_Princess1210

reading through some people's introductions...makes me laugh when they say things like 'i won't make friends with you unless you send me a message first,and even then it is not guaranteed i will be your friend'.....off to get my friend cv typed ;-)

When I see things like this, I just move on.

sandradev1

reading through some people's introductions...makes me laugh when they say things like 'i won't make friends with you unless you send me a message first,and even then it is not guaranteed i will be your friend'.....off to get my friend cv typed ;-)

They are just putting a wall up instantly, aren't they? Jeeee!! Join a weightloss support community and don't make friends, see how it goes!!! No support coming their way!! He he!!!

WRONG - quite the opposite actually. They usually aready have plenty of good and supportive friends and like in life, can be a little more selective. They are usually the people who provide the most support to others as they are not in the practice of just 'collecting friends for collecting friends sake'. If they accept it will be because they genuinely do want to give support and encouragement.

billsica

I just have to watch out for the friend collectors, I can't help it I have a tight hiney! Some days its a curse.

MB_Positif

I don't have a message that notes are required, but after being here for almost two years and dealing with all different kinds of "nutters" as you call them, I have definitely become more selective in my friend adding process. I am also quick to delete those who do not interact with me at all.

WelshMaid

I learnt the hard way, everyone I had previously added was great but then the pervs came! beware of pervs honey! LOL

lol,thanks for the tip x

f1ctional

Yea I see a lot of those types. I can understand screening, and some people wanting to have a few things in common etc. Thats cool and all. The people that trip me out the most is the ones with all these long lists of "rules" to be their friend. What a joke! Trust me you are not that important if you feel the need to post rules. lol.

I just come here to get some support now and then and just overall mingle with the rest of the people that are doing the same.

darrensurrey

My preferred method is to let anyone friend me then I use Google and an assortment of contacts and other resources I have at my disposal to find out where they live. I then visit their home when they're out, place a few hidden webcams around the house and find out just how serious they really are about their fitness goals.

So, with that in mind, friends give me a wave!

sandradev1

My preferred method is to let anyone friend me then I use Google and an assortment of contacts and other resources I have at my disposal to find out where they live. I then visit their home when they're out, place a few hidden webcams around the house and find out just how serious they really are about their fitness goals.

So, with that in mind, friends give me a wave!

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

WelshMaid

My preferred method is to let anyone friend me then I use Google and an assortment of contacts and other resources I have at my disposal to find out where they live. I then visit their home when they're out, place a few hidden webcams around the house and find out just how serious they really are about their fitness goals.

So, with that in mind, friends give me a wave!

nice one :laugh:

DavPul

Put up a real picture of yourself instead of a cartoon, make a couple hundred forum posts instead of just a couple, and accept your first 30 friend requests without question. Then come back and talk to us about how somebody offered to wrestle you naked, someone asked you to prove your tree climbing prowess so he could make sure you're the right one to have his babies, someone sent you pics of his peter weeter, some chic is getting on your case about your diary, half your friends don't ever interact with you, and these two chicks just whine whine whine all day and drag down your mood.

jayche

Put up a real picture of yourself instead of a cartoon, make a couple hundred forum posts instead of just a couple, and accept your first 30 friend requests without question. Then come back and talk to us about how somebody offered to wrestle you naked, someone asked you to prove your tree climbing prowess so he could make sure you're the right one to have his babies, someone sent you pics of his peter weeter, some chic is getting on your case about your diary, half your friends don't ever interact with you, and these two chicks just whine whine whine all day and drag down your mood.

Sorry to derail from the thread but has this actually happened to you? Some of these examples seem very detailed lol

WelshMaid

Put up a real picture of yourself instead of a cartoon, make a couple hundred forum posts instead of just a couple, and accept your first 30 friend requests without question. Then come back and talk to us about how somebody offered to wrestle you naked, someone asked you to prove your tree climbing prowess so he could make sure you're the right one to have his babies, someone sent you pics of his peter weeter, some chic is getting on your case about your diary, half your friends don't ever interact with you, and these two chicks just whine whine whine all day and drag down your mood.

what do you mean a real picture ? I am really a blonde mermaid :ohwell:

darrensurrey

Put up a real picture of yourself instead of a cartoon, make a couple hundred forum posts instead of just a couple, and accept your first 30 friend requests without question. Then come back and talk to us about how somebody offered to wrestle you naked, someone asked you to prove your tree climbing prowess so he could make sure you're the right one to have his babies, someone sent you pics of his peter weeter, some chic is getting on your case about your diary, half your friends don't ever interact with you, and these two chicks just whine whine whine all day and drag down your mood.

what do you mean a real picture ? I am really a blonde mermaid :ohwell:

That's what I was thinking!

metaphoria

Put up a real picture of yourself instead of a cartoon, make a couple hundred forum posts instead of just a couple, and accept your first 30 friend requests without question.

what do you mean a real picture ? I am really a blonde mermaid :ohwell:

This is why people screen their friends...

MB_Positif

Put up a real picture of yourself instead of a cartoon, make a couple hundred forum posts instead of just a couple, and accept your first 30 friend requests without question. Then come back and talk to us about how somebody offered to wrestle you naked, someone asked you to prove your tree climbing prowess so he could make sure you're the right one to have his babies, someone sent you pics of his peter weeter, some chic is getting on your case about your diary, half your friends don't ever interact with you, and these two chicks just whine whine whine all day and drag down your mood.

Sorry to derail from the thread but has this actually happened to you? Some of these examples seem very detailed lol

Believe it or not, I have received the naked wrestling match messages. There are some weirdos here which is why people become more selective over time. That said the OP who has only been here for a few days is judging right out of the gate very naively without realizing that the people who have "rules" about who they will add have a very valid reason for it and took time to come to that conclusion.

DavPul

Put up a real picture of yourself instead of a cartoon, make a couple hundred forum posts instead of just a couple, and accept your first 30 friend requests without question. Then come back and talk to us about how somebody offered to wrestle you naked, someone asked you to prove your tree climbing prowess so he could make sure you're the right one to have his babies, someone sent you pics of his peter weeter, some chic is getting on your case about your diary, half your friends don't ever interact with you, and these two chicks just whine whine whine all day and drag down your mood.

Sorry to derail from the thread but has this actually happened to you? Some of these examples seem very detailed lol

These are real life examples from multiple women on my FL in the last 36 hours alone. I've been here a year and can give you a hundred examples. Women have to put up with a lot of BS, not just here but IRL too.

Hell, I'm a guy and I get my fair share of creeper messages and nekkid pics from random women. Only difference is that I appreciate (and actively encourage) that sorry of thing. And for everyone 1 random pervy message I get, your average woman gets 10. It's got to get old

WelshMaid

Put up a real picture of yourself instead of a cartoon, make a couple hundred forum posts instead of just a couple, and accept your first 30 friend requests without question.

what do you mean a real picture ? I am really a blonde mermaid :ohwell:

This is why people screen their friends...

if we lose weight do we have to lose our sense of humour ?

MB_Positif

Put up a real picture of yourself instead of a cartoon, make a couple hundred forum posts instead of just a couple, and accept your first 30 friend requests without question.

what do you mean a real picture ? I am really a blonde mermaid :ohwell:

This is why people screen their friends...

if we lose weight do we have to lose our sense of humour ?

Yes, absolutely. It's because our vaginas have gotten so much smaller.

WelshMaid

Put up a real picture of yourself instead of a cartoon, make a couple hundred forum posts instead of just a couple, and accept your first 30 friend requests without question.

what do you mean a real picture ? I am really a blonde mermaid :ohwell:

This is why people screen their friends...

if we lose weight do we have to lose our sense of humour ?

Yes, absolutely. It's because our vaginas have gotten so much smaller.

:blushing:

Belinda658

OP you joined in the last few days. I think YOU are being judgmental about the way members accept friends.

jofjltncb6

Yea I see a lot of those types. I can understand screening, and some people wanting to have a few things in common etc. Thats cool and all. The people that trip me out the most is the ones with all these long lists of "rules" to be their friend. What a joke! Trust me you are not that important if you feel the need to post rules. lol.

You'll love my long list of rules.

I just come here to get some support now and then and just overall mingle with the rest of the people that are doing the same.

All 30 million of them?

WelshMaid

I'm not judging anyone...I was just making a comment about what I'd seen.I don't care who makes friends with whom.I've come on here to lose weight and have a bit of a laugh,didn't think they were mutually exclusive .