Lost the weight, but get criticized for what I eat.

wendybird5

I'm four pounds away from my goal weight now. Over the past year and a half, a lot of my co-workers have witnessed my transformation from a size 22 to a size 8 and I've gotten a lot of support from them. But now that I've almost reached my goal, people suddenly feel the need to comment anytime I treat myself to something. There was birthday cake at the office which I usually avoid, but because they brought something new, I decided to try a piece and suddenly I get people coming up to warn me that I'm going to get fat again and making jokes about what I'm eating. The hell?!

Do these people think I suddenly forgot how I gained the weight or how to lose it? And why do they feel such a need to comment? It's especially annoying when the people making the comments really should be re-evaluating their own diet and lifestyle rather than making snarky remarks about mine.

It's great to lose the weight and all, but I've noticed that people suddenly have this expectation that if you lost weight, you automatically will eat nothing but healthy stuff forever and ever and never, ever, ever splurge. And if you do, then they feel the need to jump all over you. Anyone else experiencing this?

maribelmacedo

Oh my do I? LOL I have my co-workers talking behind my back saying that the way that I lost my weight was by starving myself. OH my no, the way i lost it was by dedication and making a life change.

stines72

eh i cant stand it when people comment on what i eat. its the other way around for me... people telling me to eat junk food.

if it were me i would have just informed them about calories in/out and macros. that would shut them up lol.

meshashesha2012

sorry i have nothing to add but just wanted to congratulate you on your weight loss my goal is also 80 pounds and i started at a size 22 as well.


well actually i do have something to add. maybe you can remind them that weight loss isnt just about LOSS it's also about maintenance and in order to maintain that much loss you have to be able to live with what you do for the rest of your life

maribelmacedo

When they offer me something now I just say no thank you, I like to starve myself. Thanks for the offer. That backed them off a bit.

itstimetoeat

OMG me too!!! well i get criticized regardless and I hate it so much. I got into a huge fight with a close friend because of it. We are grown adults. What we do is our decision. Ppl need to not tell others what to do either way. Who are they to point fingers and preach this and that?? its sooo freaking ANNOYING!

Granted my friends don't say mean stuff like that. They all mean well but really? is it necessary? Just let us enjoy when we want and do what we want. We know ourselves best and we know what we want to do with ourselves!

MinMin97

Tell them to "Watch and learn!"

itstimetoeat

WOW I am sooo mad for you!!!! Tell them to mind their own business! Some people really are so rude.

thelovelyLIZ

I find most people like that are usually insecure about their own weight. The don't like seeing other succeed where they have failed.

Angel_Muss

I haven't lost any yet....but What the hell???

You are awesome! You should be so proud of yourself. People need to mind their own business. Everyone can have a little cake now and then. You know what kind of calories that you can have or what you need to do burn it later.

I am sorry that they treated you like that.

orapronobis

SOME of them might truly care about your well being and be concerned about a backslide. MOST of them are just impolite and likely ignorant. They have no concept of propriety and spew their views like vomit over anyone and everyone. Brush it off and enjoy your cake when you want to.

Yasmine91

Frig what other people say, seriously, if you want the cake then eat the damn cake. I get this from my older sister and my dad. Even though they're the obese ones chugging as much coke and chocolate down their necks. It's a bloody joke!

Just show them that you can still keep the weight off and eat cakes. What a bloody liberty...

MaggieSporleder

Yikes. You obviously have a very good control on your temper. I get people pushing gluten on me, trying to tell me a little wont hurt. :P They're all just wrong!

Hollisss

You didn't get to a size 8 (congrats!) by eating junk constantly. We all deserve a treat!

Bobby__Clerici

Just tell them it's OK, then lean in, and say in a hushed whisper, "it goes straight into my colostomy bag"

Diane_1984

I think its just jealousy. When I lost weight before getting married people would comment saying you should stop now if you get skinnier you will just look ugly. I think its just when you have made such a dramatic transformation it makes them feel self conscious so they try to put you down to make themselves feel better.

Haters gonna hate! Congrats on your weight loss!

RobinvdM

My mom likes telling me how I "shouldn't be eating that!" if I intend to lose weight.. even though it's stuff I've been eating for the last year. I figure everyone's an expert on how to lose weight as long as it isn't them doing it. Just smile and feel bad for them being so sadly misinformed and enjoy your cake!

msbunnie68

Did you ask them to come around to your house and weigh and measure your food for you?

My revenge would be slow and insidious...every mouthful I ate at work for the following week I would show to that work mate and ask if they think it's ok for me to eat.

Then for the following week or two I would innocently comment things like 'gee are you sure you should eat that?' or..'gosh I don't know about that one..' every time they ate.

geebusuk

I've had similar I'm sure - but in my case certainly, mostly because I've made a fuss in the past about NOT having cake.
As with anything, take in your stride. My usual joke when I'm having a bit of an off period is 'diet starts tomorrow' - because it can so easily ALWAYS be starting tomorrow for me.

ShoshanahM

http://imgur.com/mVzwG

This always runs through my head if someone questions what/how much I'm eating. You know know what you're doing; maybe they're just jealous and need a moment to feel superior.

laneybird

I know what you mean! It is annoying. When someone has cake they will say "well you can't have that." Um, I'm not 4... I can have it if I want it lol. I think these people honestly have no clue. We work hard to lose the weight and become healthy and we also deserve the occasional splurge. What they don't realize it a splurge isn't something we do daily. I honestly have lost more weight a couple of times when I have had a splurge. It's like your body is in shock and kicks it up a knotch lol

On a side note, Congrats on your loss! I can't wait until I am within single digits of my goal!

kali31337

jealous much? ignore them, they are feeling insecure about their own bodies

itstimetoeat

Frig what other people say, seriously, if you want the cake then eat the damn cake. I get this from my older sister and my dad. Even though they're the obese ones chugging as much coke and chocolate down their necks. It's a bloody joke!

Just show them that you can still keep the weight off and eat cakes. What a bloody liberty...

LOL this cracked me up!

jeffreyjording

Haters gonna hate. I lost my weight by staying under my calorie limits and exercising. I do try to eat healthy, but you cannot be a saint everyday. So i eat what I like, portion control is the key. Pay no attention to these people

ChristinaR720

You should ask them if they want some toast with that "jelly".

It's ridiculous how jealous people can be! Rather than being supportive, too many people resort to trying to break others down due to their own insecurities. Ignore the creeps and keep doing what you're doing, because it's obviously working!

msbunnie68

You could always try this as a response next time they say you can't have that..

"Why? Did you spit in it?" and look for the spit. When they say no...you'll ruin your diet etc etc. Say "maybe you are right"...start putting it down and say "so you won't be having any either then...?"

When they say 'but I don't need to, I don't need to lose weight" you answer "Neither do I."

vmekash

I have said, without anger, that I appreciate their support and encouragement, but do not want to be policed. Followed by, Don't worry, I really do know what I'm doing.

ubermensch13

It might not be about "haters" or being "rude", it is about most peoples total misunderstanding on what it takes to lose weight and maintain that loss. We have been so conditioned to think to lose weight you have to deprive yourself of anything that could be "unhealthy" and have to do that forever. This is why most people NEVER lose weight and keep it off. That type of weight loss outlook isn't sustainable. To be honest, if I were you, I'd take this as an opportunity to educate those co-workers on the proper way to lose and maintain a loss.

MzMiller1215

It's only because they don't understand a healthy lifestyle. Being healthy is not about restricting yourself from certain foods. A cheat meal every now and then is fine. No one can maintain a strict diet 100% of the time. A lof of people are ignorant and feel it is okay to offer unsolicited advice and share their opinions. I too get annoyed by comments about, "Oh, you're eating healthy again today" like it's a bad thing. Miss me with that foolishness!

Jillian2128

People have said the same to me, "Are you gong to eat that?? Do you wanna undo all of your work?" like really people?? I also have the people that think I starve myself if I skip out on eating something bad, one friend actually told another person I starve myself and that person came to me saying that I shouldn't starve myself and its really unhealthy lol trust me I EAT. :drinker:

Hazel2005

I find most people like that are usually insecure about their own weight. The don't like seeing other succeed where they have failed.

This!!! Perhaps they never thought of you much as competition and now, well look out! :bigsmile: