Lost the weight, but get criticized for what I eat.

hmuh

Tell them to "Watch and learn!"

Ha! Love this

wendybird5

Thanks all for your funny and insightful comments. I could relate to so many of your stories. I also had people criticize me when I was sticking to a strict meal plan for not having a little cake now and then so now being told I shouldn't be having cake is kind of funny. But I think maybe perhaps I was also a little hyper-sensitive to the comments. I'm hardest on myself and I know this week I have not been as good as I should have been.

When I first started this whole weight loss journey, I thought that once I'd lost the weight then that would sort of be that, but I'm now realising that this journey never ends. I knew that I'd have to watch my nutrition even after reaching my goal weight so as not to gain it back, but now I'm seeing that now others use me as an example. I will forever be "the fat chick that got thin" and people will be watching me to make sure I don't gain it back as is sadly so typical.

I've actually had a lot of people ask me what I did to lose the weight. When I started on MFP, no one I knew had heard of it and now almost everyone at my office and a lot of my friends and their family are using the app. I'm choosing to focus on the positive I'm bringing and it feels great to inspire others who need to get into shape, but thought, like me, that they would never be able to do it because they weren't disciplined enough.

I'm hoping for the best for all of you and hope that we all get a healthy body and mind.

Lady_Bane

Most people that comment on my food choices are overweight.
Most of these people have complained about their weight to me at one point or another.
I just point out the obvious....
"Didn't you just whine to me about your weight, and want to get in shape? Yes you did......why are you talking crap to me then?"

quirkytizzy

Even my fiance is guilty of this and he tries really hard to be supportive. I've had to tell him "If I'm eating it, it's in my calorie limit OR it's not and I'm eating it because I'm having an off day. I don't want to be told I'm having an off day. I know I am. I know I'll get fat. I'm already hating myself and ANY little mention from you will send me into a tailspin. Love me, hug me and then take me on a walk. DO NOT say anything.

Luckily, I was about to convince my "advice givers" to lay off by saying "Oh my gosh I'm so excited about X food. I haven't had it in a long time and I've been saving up calories all week so I can have it as a treat to myself AND still be in my diet!"

Suddenly, everybody is patting me on the back and treating me like a hero because "I worked so hard".

However, all that aside it's none of their buissness and if you're up for some putting people in their place I find the following work.

Nice:
1. "It's not a single item that will make people gain weight but a lifestyle. Luckily, the healthy active life style I lead allows me to eat things that aren't included in starvation and fad diets. After all, how can I make a lifestyle change if I never get to do things I enjoy?"

2. "Oh my gosh I'm so excited about X food. I haven't had it in a long time and I've been saving up calories all week so I can have it as a treat to myself AND still be in my diet!"

Burn that bridge with gasoline
1. "Is that your medical advice? I didn't realize you were an MD with a specialty in nutrition!"

2. "Wow! I never knew cake could be fattening. Maybe it's good then that this is the first piece I've had in 6 months."

3. "I know the problems in your life are really tough to solve and mine must be much easier, but I really think you really deserve to spend a little more time on YOUR faults after helping SOOOO many people."

4. "You know, you're right. My experience with gaining weight is so far behind me that I almost forgot! I'm glad you're still living that experience every day!"

5. "I couldn't hear you over the sound of my 6 pack."

That is so awesome!

sweetsarahv

This is YOUR journey. Sadly, people don't always like seeing others succeed. Ignore them if you can. Enjoy the cake days of your life and be so proud of what you have done!!!!

irjeffb

As some others have said, it's jealousy. Be proud and do what you know is right!

amandapye78

oh yeah I get that too from my mom and sister. I was always really skinny and then a combination of things led me to gain a lot of weight very quickly and I thought i would never hear the end of that. Now that I've lost a lot of weight they say things like "oh you'll gain it right back" or theres no way you can keep up that lifestyle".. My mother in law even said " your prettier fat" OMG>. They are all obese. My husband is bad in the opposite way with "oh one piece of cake wont hurt you" or "dont you want some yummy cheescake", He is also overweight. UGH