Women does your Husbands /Spouse /Boyfriend???

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  • 1Pretty_Busy_Mom
    1Pretty_Busy_Mom Posts: 449 Member
    My wife cured me of that years ago. I came home from work one day and the computer was gone. She put it at the bottom of the stairs in the basement with a note on it that said..."if you bring this back up stairs we're getting a divorce. We are still married...Happily I'll add, and I now balance my time better.

    Aww..how sweet..today is gonna be a pretty laid back day. No work, hair cuts for him and the boys. Its raining here so no yardwork today. Him and the boys will play their game I will cook and its probably going to be a redbox later and FOOTBALL TOMORROW! Lets go Texans..or should I say Lets go Patriots! Point of my babbling is to say we are happy and balanced!
  • 1Pretty_Busy_Mom
    1Pretty_Busy_Mom Posts: 449 Member
    Maybe you just didn't get lucky?
    My boyfriend does not play video games. We have similar interests and different interests. We get along. He doesn't do 99% of the things in your post.

    Good for you guys..
  • 1Pretty_Busy_Mom
    1Pretty_Busy_Mom Posts: 449 Member

    If it isn't important to me, I jst let him have at it. The games really are fun and I have my own hobbies.

    Yes they are..I love just dance, guitar hero and Michael Jackson..
  • snoopytwins
    snoopytwins Posts: 1,759 Member

    >>FOOTBALL, SEX, FOOD the 3 things that get your mans FULL ATTENTION??

    Because men are very simple creatures. We are competitive (sports/games) and like to win. The highest expression of love and respect for a man is when his woman sexes him up. Your words don't mean anything if your actions deny that which he identifies as the paramount expression of your love and devotion. Low blood sugar means a cranky person. A full stomach spikes the blood sugar and insulin response, leaving a person in a slightly euphoric state. It comes down the simplicity of men. If we feel like MEN, and shown that our woman respects us as a MAN, and we have a full stomach, we are content. Why reject such a simple playbook for ensuring contentedness in the home? If you value the things he does, and consistently show him that, he may surprise you by reciprocating with things that you value (assuming he's not a completely useless man-child).

    I call bulls**t on this explanation. Men are simple creatures? Really, it's just a euphemism used to perpetuate generalizations of men and women.
  • RunDoozer
    RunDoozer Posts: 1,699 Member
    Why do women complain so much? Who knows just built into our sex.

    Video games are just as ingrained into men as nagging is.
  • zentha1384
    zentha1384 Posts: 323 Member
    Why do women complain so much? Who knows just built into our sex.

    Video games are just as ingrained into men as nagging is.

    Nagging is ingrained into men? Wow that's news to me!!! :laugh:

    Whenever my husband start approaching the threshold of something that will make me start nagging I look at him and say "Please do __________ because I really don't want to be a nag." Sometimes I will say it as "Please don't make turn into My aunt (who is the biggest nag in the world)"

    Which is honestly true. I hate nagging is feel so.... wrong..... and he usually does what I ask and he appreciated that I don't nag or b**** at him.
  • sirabbadon
    sirabbadon Posts: 27 Member
    I call bulls**t on this explanation. Men are simple creatures? Really, it's just a euphemism used to perpetuate generalizations of men and women.

    Since I am a man, I can, at the very least, speak for myself. Does my description generalize somewhat? Sure. For myself, I don't care one way or another about football, or any other sport. Is my generalization largely true? I believe so, and I believe most men would agree with me. However, I am willing to entertain the possibility that I am wrong, if you care elaborate beyond simple expletives so that we can have an honest discussion of the merits of the argument and not a back-and-forth match of negative emotional responses.
  • snoopytwins
    snoopytwins Posts: 1,759 Member
    Since I am a man, I can, at the very least, speak for myself. Does my description generalize somewhat? Sure. For myself, I don't care one way or another about football, or any other sport. Is my generalization largely true? I believe so, and I believe most men would agree with me. However, I am willing to entertain the possibility that I am wrong, if you care elaborate beyond simple expletives so that we can have an honest discussion of the merits of the argument and not a back-and-forth match of negative emotional responses.

    It's a phrase...meant not to elicit a match of "negative emotional responses," but rather, to merely illustrate my level of disagreement. Apologies for offending your delicate sensibilities.
  • scruffykaz
    scruffykaz Posts: 317 Member
    This whole "let him" thing is bloody annoying. Can you imagine the outcry on here if a guy posted something where he said that he "let" his spouse do something...

    I agree that there are limits to what is acceptable but it is down to you as a couple to discuss those issues. Also, if a guy is like that when you met him, chances are he's going to stay the same. You probably won't change him, and when it comes to it, why should it be up to us to change our partner? As I say, there needs to be agreed limits...
  • CoderGal
    CoderGal Posts: 6,800 Member
    Why are our men so addicted to video games?? Ugh my husband will stay up all night watching online movies and playing video games. He will fall asleep on the sofa with the game controller in his hand and wake up EARLY IN THE DARN morning PLAYING AGAIN. What the heck!!! Why?? Why?? Why??...and Omg if I ask something I'm totally ignored unless its "Honey are you hungry"

    Why what I say to him alway differs from what he hears??
    Why do men always seem CLUELESS?
    Why when we are lost (say for instance traveling) Men never want to stop for directions?? We ride around for hours LOST!!
    Is it just my man or ALL MEN feel like they can fix anything without reading a manual /blueprint/directions??
    Why do men think they DRIVE better than WOMEN?? I drive just fine 1 ticket no seatbelt. Now my hubby LOL..let's just say his license has lots of points..lol

    Have you ever said "honey we need to talk" and your man looks like he is terrified. Lol Why?? Lol
    Do you talk and your man just stares with a dumb look on his face??? Clueless ..Omg Why??
    FOOTBALL, SEX, FOOD the 3 things that get your mans FULL ATTENTION??
    My pastor said statistics say Men think about SEX every 14sec...Omg Why??
    Kids say the darnest things..Why do men sometimes say the Dumbest things?
    Are Men really from Mars??
    I could go on and on with the why?why?why?
    Even with all the Whys? My man is still handsome, loving, caring, funny, sensitive, understanding, hardworking provider, protector, dad..that LOVES HIS FAMILY UNCONDITIONALLY.
    Feel free to ask your WHYs or Answer some..and feel free to add me Good Day
    This seems like the ideal bf...what is your problem :P
  • 1Pretty_Busy_Mom
    1Pretty_Busy_Mom Posts: 449 Member
    Why do women complain so much? Who knows just built into our sex.

    Video games are just as ingrained into men as nagging is.

    Maybe I should ask my Mister. He does say I nag, whine, and talk too much. I do know that I'm on his nerves when he says "Awww woman hush!"..Lol
  • sirabbadon
    sirabbadon Posts: 27 Member
    It's a phrase...meant not to elicit a match of "negative emotional responses," but rather, to merely illustrate my level of disagreement. Apologies for offending your delicate sensibilities.

    Okay, I can accept that. Now will you offer evidence or counterpoints to support and further your level of disagreement?

    *edited for grammar mistake.
  • 1Pretty_Busy_Mom
    1Pretty_Busy_Mom Posts: 449 Member
    This seems like the ideal bf...what is your problem :P

    Ideal bf to you maybe..perfect husband for me. No problems..don't remember stating that there was an actual problem. Just wanted to know "WHY"..
  • toriaenator
    toriaenator Posts: 423 Member
    i feel like this is very stereotypical and that you just havent found the right guy ^^
  • 1Pretty_Busy_Mom
    1Pretty_Busy_Mom Posts: 449 Member
    i feel like this is very stereotypical and that you just havent found the right guy ^^

    Why would you say I haven't found the right guy?
    What is "the right guy" or "a right guy"
  • sahm23ladies
    sahm23ladies Posts: 91 Member
    We are from Mars, the only purpose of talking is to either give or ask information, not yakking away about babies, clothes, food, what I am thinking about, how do you look, does my *kitten* look big in this? etc

    The last question will always never get an honest answer, so do not bother asking it

    PS we do not "do" subtlety, and "body language", if you have something to say, FFS say it, don't skirt around it hoping we will cotton one, we will not

    Brutally honest and to the point! Just like my husband who says "if you aren't prepared for the answer... don't ask the question."

    Why is your man like that? Maybe that's what makes him happy. The guy needs something for himself that doesn't include the family. I believe that true for all members of the household. Let everyone have "their thing". It's ok. Now if it interferes with your livlihood then a discussion is in order. But as long as he's providing & loving, I say... give him some space.

    But I'm old school like that.
  • LetsMakeupXtina
    LetsMakeupXtina Posts: 627 Member
    oh man, my husband is the worst. he games all night Monday thru Friday... I don't get it. However he is amazing to me and my best friend, and I think everyone should have their own hobby they like to do on their own. not everything is together time, and it shouldnt be... gaming is his thing that he can zone out on ;) he does play a lot.. but I have girl friends whose husbands are out at the bars getting sloshed with the guys every night after work... i look at their situations and am really thankful for mine... :)
  • DamnImASexyBitch
    DamnImASexyBitch Posts: 740 Member
    My husband is, and I honestly have no problem with it. It's his thing. Sometimes I will play with him ( more times not ). I look at it this way. He works hard. It's something he enjoys. Our bills are paid. We can afford it. If he is HOME playing video games he isn't OUT at a bar getting drunk, talking to other women, or doing things that would make me question our marriage.
  • snoopytwins
    snoopytwins Posts: 1,759 Member
    Okay, I can accept that. Now will you offer evidence or counterpoints to support and further your level of disagreement?

    *edited for grammar mistake.

    No
  • farway
    farway Posts: 1,264 Member
    Okay, I can accept that. Now will you offer evidence or counterpoints to support and further your level of disagreement?

    *edited for grammar mistake.

    No

    A wise & honest response, if only we could do the same for "Does my *kitten* look big in this" ?
  • 1Pretty_Busy_Mom
    1Pretty_Busy_Mom Posts: 449 Member
    oh man, my husband is the worst. he games all night Monday thru Friday... I don't get it. However he is amazing to me and my best friend, and I think everyone should have their own hobby they like to do on their own. not everything is together time, and it shouldnt be... gaming is his thing that he can zone out on ;) he does play a lot.. but I have girl friends whose husbands are out at the bars getting sloshed with the guys every night after work... i look at their situations and am really thankful for mine... :)

    Mine is mostly on weekends when he's off and late night after work. No game right now because all the men (in my house) are into the football. It's playoff time. Lol, so I'm cooking this weekend.
  • 1Pretty_Busy_Mom
    1Pretty_Busy_Mom Posts: 449 Member
    i feel like this is very stereotypical and that you just havent found the right guy ^^

    I'm so sick of the comments about my husband not being the right one. Why again must this be blown out of context. Those who feel like I'm bashing my husband, I'm not appreciative, or I haven't found the right guy. Again, what is a Right Guy?? It's crickets when I ask that. For the record, I never said I had a problem with anything my husband does and when did this only become about video games? All I did was ask Why do men?? If you can't relate or it doesn't pertain to you ..YOU DO NOT HAVE TO COMMENT.
    So basically what I've gotten from this thread so far is that:
    if my husband plays video games
    Sleeps on the sofa
    Sometimes say dumb ish..but so do I
    Looks at me like I'm crazy
    Likes to eat, watch football and loves sex
    Would rather drive and find his own way then stop and ask questions(before we got a GPS)
    Would rather fix things without looking at a blueprint
    Probably thinks about sex every 14sec...etc.etc.etc
    I'm neglected, and needing attention, not happy, needs to find the right one..I'm not lucky enough to find the right one. I'm bashing my husband and I just have a problem. Omg people IT'S REALLY NOT THAT SERIOUS..This is MY HUSBAND, those are the things that he does and exactly why I LOVE HIM!
  • snoopytwins
    snoopytwins Posts: 1,759 Member
    Omg people IT'S REALLY NOT THAT SERIOUS..This is MY HUSBAND, those are the things that he does and exactly why I LOVE HIM!
    Because I like beating a dead horse...you didn't say it like that (well you did at the end...at the end of what seemed very much like a rant, not a playful game. You said urg...denotes dissatisfaction. You, yourself, said he ignores you. That is WHY. Wasn't that your question to begin...why?
  • 1Pretty_Busy_Mom
    1Pretty_Busy_Mom Posts: 449 Member

    Even with all the Whys? My man is still handsome, loving, caring, funny, sensitive, understanding, hardworking provider, protector, dad..that LOVES HIS FAMILY UNCONDITIONALLY.
    Feel free to ask your WHYs or Answer some..and feel free to add me Good Day

    A lot of us don't read the fine print. Even if it was ranting or complaining there was nothing negative said. Yes if its the playoffs going on and I'm talking about xyz..which is hardly ever anything important OF COURSE HE 'S GOING TO IGNORE ME and /or LOOK AT ME CRAZY. Will be very careful next time.
    Thanks for your 2cents..
  • sizzle74
    sizzle74 Posts: 858 Member
    My first (practice) husband was a computer game guy. Turned me off in the worst way. I didn't know it until he moved in a month before our wedding. Watching him slouched in that chair in front of that screen for hours on end. Ugh. He wouldn't come to the table right away after I had worked then made dinner. I watched TV alone and got wasted and went to bed alone every night. Gross. I just have a bad taste and feel so bad for any women/men who have to deal with that. My real husband plays golf and works on the house and is just awesome! :)
  • sizzle74
    sizzle74 Posts: 858 Member
    And a disclaimer....I did not read past the OP. :flowerforyou:
  • Hinxx
    Hinxx Posts: 93 Member
    I guess I can't answer "why" they like games, or "why" they don't ask for directions but I'm gonna give you some tips that might help:

    1. Get him a GPS. It's technology and he won't feel like he's asking for directions.
    2. Play games with him. Try to find some kind of game that might be of interest to both of you so that you can spend a little time with him doing something that you both enjoy.
    3. Set up a "gaming time frame". Talk to him about his gaming schedule and arrange something for you to do in the meantime. Reading, catching up on something, watching chick-flicks (most men usually don't like those), etc.
    4. Despite what Disney has taught us, a lot of men are not particularly attentive. BE DIRECT, but not hurtful, with anything you'd want him to know.

    I used to wonder about those things too and then I thought about a lot of things that women like and pay a lot of attention to. I, for one, love makeup and I could be hours reading, watching videos or just researching for products from time to time. Men do the same, but with different things. My boyfriend is a gamer too and we just follow these guidelines and we're fine. I don't ask "why" anymore, I'm just glad that he chooses to do that instead of doing something worse ;)
  • lilcupcake213
    lilcupcake213 Posts: 545 Member
    I think this got a little out of hand. I get what the OP was saying. It was supposed to be a little funny rant about how guys can be dumb sometimes. That's all she was saying. She obv. found him to be "Mr. Right" because she married him. But once you get married you find things out about each other that you might not have known. Doesn't mean that person is wrong for you. It means that after years of marriage you learn to deal with the stupid crap the other one does. All their annoying little things they do, you learn to love them ( or just walk away when they do them) .. Like when they leave hair from his nicely shaven face ALL OVER the sink you JUST cleaned .. or never makes the bed when he was the last one in it .. or asks where something goes even though he's lived here for 5 years ...wait, what were we talking about again. ......
  • 1Pretty_Busy_Mom
    1Pretty_Busy_Mom Posts: 449 Member
    Doesn't mean that person is wrong for you. It means that after years of marriage you learn to deal with the stupid crap the other one does. All their annoying little things they do, you learn to love them ( or just walk away when they do them) .. Like when they leave hair from his nicely shaven face ALL OVER the sink you JUST cleaned .. or never makes the bed when he was the last one in it .. or asks where something goes even though he's lived here for 5 years ...wait, what were we talking about again. ......
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    So true..
  • JBcat123
    JBcat123 Posts: 211 Member
    my ex boyfriend only played video games. non stop. I couldn't even have a normal conversation with him on the phone without him going a minute later " gtg playing modern warefare 2!" and then when I would call him 4 hrs later...hed get all pissy with me cause I interrupted him.

    so I broke up with him cause we couldn't communicate well. I don't know why men are like that but im sure not all of them are like that.

    plus , my ex was 28 and played with 14 yr olds on the PS2 which is quite scary and scared me. thankgod I broke up with him.