Totally random... pierced ears for baby?

slhall0822

Hi all,

This is random and totally not related to weight loss... however, I'm looking for different viewpoints on infant ear piercing.

I have an almost 5 month old baby girl. My husband wants to get her ears pierced. I'm not so sure. Mine are pierced, but my mother chose to wait until I was around 14 and I remember always hating that my ears weren't pierced and all the other girls had pierced ears. But every ounce of motherly instinct in my body tells me not to randomly poke holes in my baby girl's ears and cause her pain just because it's culturally acceptable.

Comments? Suggestions? Advice?

FitBeto

Eww dude wtf. Let her decide if she even wants them at all - when she gets older. Shes not some dolly you can inflict pain on for strictly fashionable reasons.

kitsuneandy

Should be illegal in my opinion. There's no valid argument for having it done to a child so young it can't make the decision itself.

diodelcibo

Why not let the human choose when it's become self-aware in the future, and understands it better.

VelociMama

I'm not a fan of doing it when they're so little. I didn't get mine done until I was 12 or so and neither did my sister. We were both fine.

Let it be her choice.

iLoveMyPitbull1225

those guys are being a little mean but I know where your coming from, lots of people do it. Personally I think I will wait until my children are old enough to make their own decision about it.

whitneyps7

Why not let the human choose when it's become self-aware in the future, and understands it better.

i agree with this...as welll as why baptize your child as well when they cant make the decison for themselves?

cuterbee

My ear piercing (in my teens) made me develop a metals allergy. Kids are more prone to allergies than adults; on the off chance that she'd develop an allergic reaction, I'd wait.

elainewitch

As a somebody who once did piercing and a mom, wait. It's her body and it's not necessary so why not let her make the choice when she's older?

LaurySch

My personal opinion is not to do it for the same reasons you stated. I did not pierce my daughters ears but as soon as she was old enough to actually take care of them herself I kept asking if she wanted them pierced (I think she was 7 when I first asked). We didn't get them done until she was 10, she was actually terrified of the process and kept putting it off! And 6 months later she got a basketball in the side of her head and ended up with a pretty serious infected wound right beside the piercing (which luckily cleared up before we had to pull out the stud and wait to re-pierce). The reasons to pierce early don't make any sense to me and it can be plain inconvenient!

TeraGC

My daughter got hers when she started school when she became more aware that there were other girls who had theirs done, she was so big about it and did great tending to them.

Im_NotPerfect

I don't agree with it personally. I got mine pierced when I was 6 and I remember it being somewhat of a passage into "big girlhood". It was pretty momentus. I have an almost 4 year old girl and she won't get her's pierced until she asks for it or she's at least 8. Whichever is older...

itsuki

You'd be making a permanent body modification to a person who is unable to consent to it.

I know society general views pierced ears as okay, but would you pierce a baby's tongue? Give it a tattoo? No, probably not.

Let her decide when she's older.

Crystal3004

I have a set of twin girls and I dont want to be the one who puts wholes in their bodies...what if they never wanted a piercing at all...i dont think its cool to do that...let some decisions be left up to your child

Fox_n_sox

I pierced my daughters ears at 7 months.

1.) She kept being called a boy, she had SHORT SHORT hair.

2.) My mom waited until I was 5. But I found out I was allergic to certain ear rings.

It does not bother her now. I like her ear rings. So cute. Do what you want. If you won't want to wait then don't. But if you do then do it.

NinjaJinja

The policy in my family is that you can get your ears pierced when you are 12 years old, if YOU WANT to. I feel that since its a body modification that it should be the child's choice whether or not to have that done to themselves. 12 years is an age where a fair amount of children can take care of their ear care for themselves.

Personally, I couldn't. I had mine pierced at 12 and was far too squeamish to even take them in and put in new earrings. I kept them in for two years with constant infections and then removed them at 14 and let them close. Despite the fact that I am a total earring *kitten* - earrings are my favorite form of jewelry. When my sister turned 12 about seven years later she had hears pierced for her birthday and I went along and had mine re-pierced. I was much more mature and can handle removing and inserting new earrings. I did still struggle with infections, though not as bad as the first time they were pierced and I did get them to clear up once I bought fancy handmade ear pins.

But regardless of all that, you need to trust your mother's instinct. If it tells you do not cause your baby pain by piercing her ears because some cultures expect that then you need to listen to it or you WILL feel guilty about it. My mother learned this the hard way when she followed a friend's advice on disciplining me when I was a baby. She did something she did feel right about and felt horrible about it later and vowed to never listen to their advice and trust her own instincts.

misskerouac

I think it's just what you prefer. I got mine pierced when I was 5. And I pretty much NEVER wear earrings now. When I have a kid, if it's a girl, I won't be piercing her ears, she can wait, or wear those awesome stick on earrings I remember from way back lol

SlickFootAnna

I pierced them when she was little. My mom pierced mine when I was a baby. Her mom pierced hers... etc. I'm glad my mom got mine pierced when I was little. To each their own.

EmilyOfTheSun

Let her get to an age where she can decide for herself if she wants her ears pierced or not.

saxmaniac

Should be illegal in my opinion. There's no valid argument for having it done to a child so young it can't make the decision itself.

How many people think this go out and circumcise their boys? And that's permanent!

Jeez, it's pierced EARS folks... as in, those tiny holes that close up automatically if you don't put anything in them.

My daughter had them done as a baby, isn't scarred for life, and she loves them.

ladybird1771

Wait til she wants them done