a girl i know lost about 100lbs

JuicyKey31

I agree she has to have fun with it! Life is a blessing no matter what shape or size you are, some of the thickest people have the best times in their life when being active & social. I say she has withdrawn so she will not over eat but in order to sustain in an everyday situation you have to be social & go out enjoy life while cutting back! No matter what we have to eat to live that's a fact, but we never have to over eat. Her 2hr coach need to start helping train her back into the world of LIFE!

now_or_never13

I couldn't do that. I build my lifestyle change into each day. If my friends want to get together for drinks I will go but maybe I won't drink... it all depends on calories for the day.

Some people find a social life is too tempting for them and may cause them to lose track. Maybe she does it until she feels she can handle those situations and not go back to the way it was before that caused her to gain the weight. It's about priorities. It works for her. It wouldn't work for me but I understand why she may be doing it.

purpleipod

Would I personally want to live that way? No. But you shouldn't let what she chooses to do bother you. Even though it sounds like a miserable existence, it's not your existence.

i believe we've established this with the last 30-40 posts lol

Doesn't mean people are going to stop replying to your thread. Sorry if that bothers you for some reason.

WillLift4Tats

I honestly never thought such a simple thread would be so controversial.

I get what you're saying dude.

metacognition

My guess? She's terribly afraid of regaining the weight, so she is going overboard. Or she may have problems binge eating in private, and makes up for it by being extremely clean and overexercising around others. A person does not need two hours of exercise per day just to maintain a loss. She has to eat a lot just to maintain weight with that sort of activity.

I know a bodybuilder who only does 30 minute sessions of cardio and says he makes up for it by staying at his calories.

I am a much lower weight than I used to be and I eat lots of delicious food everyday.
I would never turn down a party buffet. I would never consider plain popcorn a "cheat."

There is nothing you can do for your friend as it is her choice. But unless she has a thyroid issue or something that lowers her metabolism, she does not need to squeeze all the fun out of life just to maintain a hot body! My two cents.

cubbies77

The girl you've described is behaving like someone in recovery from an addiction, and yes, there are people who are food addicts.

If she had been an alcoholic, and was now avoiding parties where people were drinking and spending her evenings going to AA meetings, would that seem so strange? Of course, you would want her to get to a point where she was confident enough in her recovery to start going to parties again, but would you be sad for her, or happy that she was overcoming her addiction?

We all know that it's possible to lose weight while living a normal life and enjoying the occasional treat, but for someone with a food addiction or binge eating disorder, it's going to be a very different road than that walked by someone who just needs to eat more salads and fewer cheeseburgers.

This nails it perfectly. I have to avoid a lot of situations because if I slip, I'll slip big time. So, yes, I'd rather go to the gym than go to TGI Friday's with my friends. My friends understand why I'm like that and treat it like an addiction, which it IS. They aren't sad for me; they're PROUD of me for making better choices and avoiding temptation. Also, I'm a lot happier working out than stuffing my face. I'm tired of living that life.

Recovering from food addiction is really tricky since you can't just quit eating like you can with cigarettes or alcohol.

Also, it doesn't make me sad that I'm "missing out" on dinner with friends. I'd rather be healthy and lose weight than be miserable at 300 pounds. Potato skins are good, but they aren't worth the misery. She's learning to balance her new body and lifestyle with her old lifestyle, and that's going to take time.

RoadsterGirlie

OP, I don't think you are being judgemental at all. You just seem concerned about your friend. At the same time, I totally get where your friend is coming from. I've lost almost 100 lbs, and I personally would rather lose some friends than risk gaining it back. She's doing the best she can to maintain her health, and I know how excited she probably is that she lost the weight.

I have learned to navigate parties and social situations so I don't have to sit at home, or put myself in awkward positions. It takes time though and it really is a skill that has to be learned. Perhaps she isn't at this point yet.

The only time I really get irate in a social situation is if somebody comments on my food intake, and I'm sure your friend has come across this as well.

funkycamper

As I read this thread, I'm struck by how narrow the definition many of you seem to have about what is socializing and fun. I prefer my new friends who I go bike riding, hiking, running, etc., with than my old friends who want to just go out eating and drinking. And I'm joining a mountaineering group so I can meet new people to do more extreme hiking with. This is my new healthy, fun and exciting social life and I love it. And I love the new friends I've made.

While I've kept a few friends who I still enjoy the company of and are supportive of my new lifestyle even though they don't want to share it with me, I've lost touch with others who aren't supportive or who tried to make me feel bad for not doing unhealthy activities with them. Good riddance to bad rubbish.

nsblue

frigg that doesnt sound like living atoll