I Really Need Help..
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No, no, no... food is NOT evil! That makes me sad that you think that way. If you are eating the correct foods (whole and natural, not processed), food is amazing! Your body craves foods and nutrients... as well as goodies. If it is hard for you to eat a cookie, make your own from scratch with alternatives to butter and eggs and you'll feel much better mentally and physically. You must have something to look forward to or it just won't last... Promise!! I do about 80% of my meals during the week are whole, natural, and vegan. then I allow 20% to be "not as healthy." I don't gorge, but I allow myself... You have to love yourself to give yourself permission. It's ok to LOVE food.... Beans, nuts, seeds, whole grains, fruits, and vegaetables are your friends.
Please take care of yourself...and don't punish yourself...
Check my diary and see. I try so hard.
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It seems most people here say "Go ahead and have a cookie!". For me, this has not been a good answer. Over many years, I have learned that "cookies" (or similar food) are a trigger for me. If I eat a cookie, I can only think of how good the next one will taste. The next thing I know, all the cookies are gone. Then, I seem to have given myself permission to say "Well, I've blown my diet; may as well continue to overeat for the next week or two." When I avoid sweets, I gain a measure of control. I don't keep them at home, so I control my environment. If I'm out and someone offers me a piece of cake, I'll say "Maybe later". Inside my head, I say "I know what that cake tastes like, so I really don't need to eat it!" Good luck on your weight-loss journey!0
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It's not the food's fault. Food is never evil. People choose to eat in excess and that's where the weight gain happens. Moderation is the key. If you eat within your calorie limits, you will not gain weight. You can't resist a cookie every single day of your entire life so why be so strict now? Make food your friend, enjoy things in moderation, and live your life happily. 0
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It seems most people here say "Go ahead and have a cookie!". For me, this has not been a good answer. Over many years, I have learned that "cookies" (or similar food) are a trigger for me. If I eat a cookie, I can only think of how good the next one will taste. The next thing I know, all the cookies are gone. Then, I seem to have given myself permission to say "Well, I've blown my diet; may as well continue to overeat for the next week or two." When I avoid sweets, I gain a measure of control. I don't keep them at home, so I control my environment. If I'm out and someone offers me a piece of cake, I'll say "Maybe later". Inside my head, I say "I know what that cake tastes like, so I really don't need to eat it!" Good luck on your weight-loss journey!
check my blog and I live with two people who eat everything they want and I feel alone in eating healthy...buy my own food even and it's hard to support myself0 -
All the time! Tonight my kids and grandkids were over and they all had Wendy's hamburgers, etc. Me...I stuck to a salad and water. Fair? No, not at all! I've had this all of my life. But, if we ate the cookies, sonic, etc. we would just gain a lot and then feel really down on ourselves later, so hang in there! You are definately not alone!
I disagree with this a lot! If you eat cookies or sonic you would not necessarily gain, once you understand and learn a better way of eating. Once you are comfortable with food, and your relationship with it, so you don't "binge" if you have something sugary or "bad", you can eat those foods, in moderation, and stay in shape and healthy. I eat In N Out 2 times a week, and I'm in the best shape of my life.
How do you stay under limit though?!?!
Sometimes I don't stay under my limit, but I understand this is a marathon, not a sprint, so not being under every so often, isn't a big deal in the long run. I also understand how to space out my meals, days I know I want to eat something higher in calories, I have smaller lunches, or put it on a heavy work out day. I also know that eating more, going for small, steady weight loss, is smarter for my mental health than go for the big 2lbs losses that make the 1200 cal limits.0 -
Just don't think I earned it. Never do.why can't you have a cookie? I have cookies...and cake. Find a way to fit it into your goals, or if you go over, it is only one day.
So, you want to reward yourself with food? Like a dog?
Really though, imo the only way to take the weight off and KEEP it off forever is to find a way of eating you can live with....forever. If you 'diet' then when you stop 'dieting' you'll gain weight. There's no reason you can't fit a cookie or two into your day and move on.0 -
Just don't think I earned it. Never do.why can't you have a cookie? I have cookies...and cake. Find a way to fit it into your goals, or if you go over, it is only one day.
You dont have to earn food you love - just fit it into your calories and keep to moderation...0 -
Your mindset is very much like a person with an eating disorder. I hope that you will talk with a therapist about this problem because it's a very important hurdle you MUST get over if you ever hope to maintain a healthy weight. Food is NOT evil and it's NOT the enemy. This applies to carrots and chocolate and french fries. . . you get the idea. Furthermore, you are worthy of all the good things in life, just as much as any other person. You deserve to enjoy food! The trick is learning how to balance the fun with healthy eating to take good care of yourself. When you are on a very restrictive eating plan, including a diet where you aren't eating enough calories, you are handicapping yourself and making it harder for yourself to learn the eating habits that will enable you to live happily and healthily after you reach your goal weight.
I hope that you are able to find healing and end up on a happier, healthier path to your goal.0 -
The limits on here are what's throwing me off...if I could eat anything, workout and still lose, I'd be ok..I look at things and check labels for everything...0
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Your mindset is very much like a person with an eating disorder. I hope that you will talk with a therapist about this problem because it's a very important hurdle you MUST get over if you ever hope to maintain a healthy weight. Food is NOT evil and it's NOT the enemy. This applies to carrots and chocolate and french fries. . . you get the idea. Furthermore, you are worthy of all the good things in life, just as much as any other person. You deserve to enjoy food! The trick is learning how to balance the fun with healthy eating to take good care of yourself. When you are on a very restrictive eating plan, including a diet where you aren't eating enough calories, you are handicapping yourself and making it harder for yourself to learn the eating habits that will enable you to live happily and healthily after you reach your goal weight.
I hope that you are able to find healing and end up on a happier, healthier path to your goal.
Thanks for that.0 -
Your mindset is very much like a person with an eating disorder. I hope that you will talk with a therapist about this problem because it's a very important hurdle you MUST get over if you ever hope to maintain a healthy weight. Food is NOT evil and it's NOT the enemy. This applies to carrots and chocolate and french fries. . . you get the idea. Furthermore, you are worthy of all the good things in life, just as much as any other person. You deserve to enjoy food! The trick is learning how to balance the fun with healthy eating to take good care of yourself. When you are on a very restrictive eating plan, including a diet where you aren't eating enough calories, you are handicapping yourself and making it harder for yourself to learn the eating habits that will enable you to live happily and healthily after you reach your goal weight.
I hope that you are able to find healing and end up on a happier, healthier path to your goal.
If I only had to worry about the calories and not contents fully...and not be excessive with the main things, I'd be ok but when they show only so much this and that...it's like, why even try?0 -
Oh for heaven's sake have a cookie!
Until you learn how to eat in moderation, it's basically useless to lose weight. Because as soon as you lose weight through deprivation, you'll go whole hog on the first bag of cookies you see. Learn how to eat a serving of cookies at a time. 4-5 cookies never made anybody fat.
And you don't have to 'earn' cookies. They are just food.
^^This Dont teach yourself deprivation, teach yourself moderation. There are enough calories in a day to eat a cookie or piece of cake. If you go over, dont beat yourself up about it. Enjoy your sweets and include them in your new healthy lifestyle...in moderation.0 -
I just started my journey on a healthier me and someone please correct me if the image I am about to create for myself is wrong.
If I want a cookie I'm going to allow myself 1 or 2 and make up for it by adding a few extra minutes to my work out. I feel like just telling myself no and never letting myself have it is going to only make me want it that much more.
Now I'm not trying to say its dessert every day because then I won't get anywhere but I've got an extra 500 calories to eat today after my exercise log so I'm going to have 2 cookies and then I am going to do five minutes on my elliptical before I go to bed.0 -
You know you can customize all those limits, right? I recommend increasing your daily calorie limit and adjusting your fats, carbs, and protein if you need to, as well. MFP tends to set protein really low for everyone.0
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The way I forgo the treats or whatever if I really think I want them, is to close my eyes and taste it from a memory. The truth is, most of what we crave is something we have had before, we know the texture, the flavor. So, really concentrate on it for one minute. When I do that, I am over it. It has taken a long time to get to this point, but at point it was my first time using my memory to overrule my mouth. And I never have a food hangover WIN!0
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You know you can customize all those limits, right? I recommend increasing your daily calorie limit and adjusting your fats, carbs, and protein if you need to, as well. MFP tends to set protein really low for everyone.
I was not eating much for a while and am slowly trying to eat more but eat healthily...just not sure how to adjust it all because I wanna follow their guidelines since the site works for others0 -
Yeah, the goal here is to make a happier, healthier you that enjoys the role food plays in your life... not let it own your life. Of course you're going to say why bother... you're making yourself miserable trying to get "happy". You need to ask yourself why you're on this journey, what's your goal and then address everything that will get you there. Mindset, diet as a noun not a verb, activity.... and really, who cares what someone else is doing? Isnt't what you want for you more important than what someone else chooses to digest??0
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Yeah, the goal here is to make a happier, healthier you that enjoys the role food plays in your life... not let it own your life. Of course you're going to say why bother... you're making yourself miserable trying to get "happy". You need to ask yourself why you're on this journey, what's your goal and then address everything that will get you there. Mindset, diet as a noun not a verb, activity.... and really, who cares what someone else is doing? Isnt't what you want for you more important than what someone else chooses to digest??
Because what I was doing wasn't working and thought maybe I could get help here to do better..0 -
The site works because people tailor it to suit their own needs and don't stick to the initial settings. Search the forums for "in place of a road map" and you will get excellent guidance. There's a group by that name, too.0
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http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/Kris3191 here is the link to my blog..add me as a friend if you want but my diary is public now..I have nothing to hide0
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The site works because people tailor it to suit their own needs and don't stick to the initial settings. Search the forums for "in place of a road map" and you will get excellent guidance. There's a group by that name, too.
Thank you for that info also.0 -
I've looked at your diary. Please don't starve yourself. If you have time, read this:
nbsfit.com/nutrition/weight-loss-isnt-always-about-eating-less-and-exercising-more/0 -
I've looked at your diary. Please don't starve yourself. If you have time, read this:
nbsfit.com/nutrition/weight-loss-isnt-always-about-eating-less-and-exercising-more/
I don't feel I am and that website sort of sounds like me...0 -
If you don't allow little treats in your diet then you will probably give up after a period of time. You have to mentally learn to watch your portions and keep your carp/protein/fat ratios in check.0
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Having others who eat like this must be super difficult! Is there an area in the kitchen where they can keep this food out of sight (and mind) for you? Perhaps out of consideration of you, they could take some measures to assist you. I sometimes get frustrated watching my husband eat twice as much as I can -- and he can lose weight twice as fast as I can. Accepting that is difficult but it's a first step in taking on the task. Good luck on your journey.0
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I've looked at your diary. Please don't starve yourself. If you have time, read this:
nbsfit.com/nutrition/weight-loss-isnt-always-about-eating-less-and-exercising-more/
Excellent article! Thanks for the link!0 -
I've looked at your diary. Please don't starve yourself. If you have time, read this:
nbsfit.com/nutrition/weight-loss-isnt-always-about-eating-less-and-exercising-more/
I don't feel I am and that website sort of sounds like me...
But my point is, if the article sounds like you, you are starving yourself. That was me. I've learned from my mistakes. You are allowed to grow and change and be different than you were yesterday. I'm lucky that I have a psychologist as a husband and he did exactly what I needed to pull me out of my obsession. There is nothing wrong or shameful in admitting that you may need help and seeking out a professional.
Good luck.0 -
I've looked at your diary. Please don't starve yourself. If you have time, read this:
nbsfit.com/nutrition/weight-loss-isnt-always-about-eating-less-and-exercising-more/
Excellent article! Thanks for the link!
You are very welcome!0 -
Nope and it's been almost 3 yearsHaving others who eat like this must be super difficult! Is there an area in the kitchen where they can keep this food out of sight (and mind) for you? Perhaps out of consideration of you, they could take some measures to assist you. I sometimes get frustrated watching my husband eat twice as much as I can -- and he can lose weight twice as fast as I can. Accepting that is difficult but it's a first step in taking on the task. Good luck on your journey.0 -
I've looked at your diary. Please don't starve yourself. If you have time, read this:
nbsfit.com/nutrition/weight-loss-isnt-always-about-eating-less-and-exercising-more/
I don't feel I am and that website sort of sounds like me...
But my point is, if the article sounds like you, you are starving yourself. That was me. I've learned from my mistakes. You are allowed to grow and change and be different than you were yesterday. I'm lucky that I have a psychologist as a husband and he did exactly what I needed to pull me out of my obsession. There is nothing wrong or shameful in admitting that you may need help and seeking out a professional.
Good luck.
I need to figure out a balance...and maybe I was doing it wrong today...I was doing well the first part of the week except for sodium and sugar a day each0
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