Unsupportive spouse

jpell420

I make the same joke to my wife and vice-versa. We really like each other so it's no big deal. Kind of funny, really.

Rhonnie

He sounds so annoying lol Everytime he brings home junk food or a takeout you should buy yourself something nice that costs the same amount as his takeout does wether it be a top or a bracelet or a lipstick as a reward to yourself for doing so well :-)

Best idea ever!

girlykate143

say this, even if you don't feel it. A fake it till you make it kind of statement: "Sweety, come work out with me!" He'll either get up and go or he'll shut the hell up and realize (eventually) that he'd better shapeup or shutup.

meshashesha2012

i dont see how that's being unsupportive but maybe because i see the humor in what he's saying?

why not play along with it and pretend HE'S you're new boyfriend?

McChubbyruewho

I also don't run on any ones support in general, I think my husband wants to keep me chunky lol when ever I start to loose weight things all of a suddun go on sale at his store so he gives me lots of chocolate, when I fail I don't blame him for my lack of self control but I do enjoy the SHNIT out of the chocolate lol

But yea try to set your self up as your best support, or others on here, there are a lot of great sopportive people here

HollywoodDJ

Any kind of INSECURITY or JEALOUSY is a poison that will KILL any and all relationships. Sit him down....have a heart to heart talk. Nip this in the bud. Tell him you are getting healthy for you and he can either decide to be supportive and if he can't then he is going to have to decide if it's worth losing you over.

I hope he puts his BIG GIRL panties on for the sake of your relationship.

God bless you!

BACONJOKESRSOFUNNY

kwseneca

Seriously just reassure him.
He is probably feeling super insecure.

This.

It always bothers me that people are like well pack and leave or get rid of him. If you guys can't talk it out, see a counselor. I've been married 17 years and if it weren't for a few months we spent in counseling our marriage would've ended... which now seems unimaginable!

YES! This is great. So glad you worked it out. It is sad to see how many people split up or divorce because they just don't want to work it out. My parents have always been a great example of that. Even though their marriage has a lot of issues sometimes, they always work it out! GREAT. Love this.

joycebug

You guys have given such great advice and support!! Thank you!! Honestly, this is my time to start taking care of me again, and if he can't see past it then tough!!!! You guys rock!!!!!!

angnaustaustin

is your hubby in shape and a healthy eater? maybe you can ask him to join you.

aakokopelli7

This is NOT a good thing! This can lead to trouble FAST! You both need to seek counselling ASAP before it gets out of hand!

Capt_Apollo

My husband makes stupid comments like "guess u need to go work out to look good for your boyfriend", etc...It's getting really annoying! How do u deal with someone who constantly gives you crap for trying to be healthier???

just tell him "yup."

rgohm

I am sorry that you have to hear that stuff! I would just ignore him. Maybe you could go to couple counseling or maybe he isn't "husband" material.

katielangley

If you really want to stay with him then you should set him down and let him know how it makes you feel and the things he is saying is just pushing you away... Do this for yourself.. This is hard for me as well.. MY husband is supportive, but LOVES to eat out... I can not eatout healthy very often... It is a challenge that I am working on as well.. Good Luck!!

CherokeeBabe

I know a lot of ladies are all for the 'tell him to suck it up' or 'say yes to really make him jealous' kind of route here. But I know women can be insecure too. I've been there many times. And a loving, comforting "I love you and only you, you have nothing to fear" can go a long way. Guys do have feelings and can be just as fragile underneath all the bravado and walls they put up. A little reassurance and understanding can go a long way with any person, be they male or female.

kimosabe1

tell him are u working on your beer gut because that is working and maybe u should be my gym date instead of all those other losers! Say something smart *kitten* like that because my hubster used to make snide comments but quit after I brought up other dudes at the gym and now I can get him there at least once a week.

SARgirl

My husband will sometimes say things like that (in a joking tone) and I just agree with him:)

billsica

Just break up

LynneL1858

Mine keeps buying sweet treats like candy and cookies. He says he doesn't care what I look like , so why should I . What I try to get through to him is it's not about losing weight to look better, it about losing to feel better. Seems to help some, but I have to keep moving that bowl of M&Ms to the other side of the room.

RachelSRoach1

Seriously just reassure him.
He is probably feeling super insecure.

This.

It always bothers me that people are like well pack and leave or get rid of him. If you guys can't talk it out, see a counselor. I've been married 17 years and if it weren't for a few months we spent in counseling our marriage would've ended... which now seems unimaginable!

This!! I have been married 5 years (can't wait for 17) and honestly there is so much more give and take than "what makes you happy is all that matters". If that is the way you think, you may as well plan to be single in the end. I'm sorry you are having a hard time with each other, but instead of sticking it to him like an adolescent might... try to be especially kind and loving. An act that will make him both confused and thoughtful about his response. My husband and I nearly got divorced but after a year of counseling (3 years ago) I can't imagine life without my Honey.