Unsupportive spouse

StrongAndHealthyMommy

My husband is ok with me working out and makes happy because I'm happy and he loves when his friends give him compliments about his wife. But when we are going party with our friends or when he cooks, he doesn't want me to think about calories and he says that I deserve to cheat on my diet and that he doesn't want me to lose a single pound he just want me to tone. What he doesn't understand is that when you are toning up you also have to lose the fat and have a healthy life style

joycebug

He's past that talking stage. A while ago, I caught him spying on me at the gym! He was parked outside just watching me from my car. I'm about 20 lbs from my GW and who know how he'll be if I become attractive to guys again!!

amberpitz

My husband makes stupid comments like "guess u need to go work out to look good for your boyfriend", etc...It's getting really annoying! How do u deal with someone who constantly gives you crap for trying to be healthier???

My hubby says the same kind of junk. I just roll my eyes at him and tell him I don't have TIME to have a boyfriend so he'll have to do

lol ..love it

Textmessage

Every time he says you're doing it for your boyfriend, tell him that it's for all 3 of your new boy-toys.

Scoopers804

I think I agree most with the woman who just rolls her eyes and tells him he'll have to do! lol. Cute!

oregonzoo

He's past that talking stage. A while ago, I caught him spying on me at the gym! He was parked outside just watching me from my car. I'm about 20 lbs from my GW and who know how he'll be if I become attractive to guys again!!

I'm sorry. What?
I no longer believe a word you are saying.

amberpitz

This is NOT a good thing! This can lead to trouble FAST! You both need to seek counselling ASAP before it gets out of hand!

if you still want a marriage I agree because if he is stalking you at the gym he seems like he might be going bad places with this.

vmekash

Wow ladies so sorry about the unsupportive significant (or insignificant lol) others. Just remember you are doing this for you!! Although we need their support lets do this with or without it

^^This.

vmekash

He's past that talking stage. A while ago, I caught him spying on me at the gym! He was parked outside just watching me from my car. I'm about 20 lbs from my GW and who know how he'll be if I become attractive to guys again!!

Wow. He does not trust you.
I would wonder whether he can be trusted.
Do what you have to for yourself. Sounds like his problem is his. Don't own it for him.
Good luck.

links_slayer

He's past that talking stage. A while ago, I caught him spying on me at the gym! He was parked outside just watching me from my car. I'm about 20 lbs from my GW and who know how he'll be if I become attractive to guys again!!

again, he sounds like quite the catch.

PikaKnight

Just break up?

And no, not being a smart *kitten*. Obviously, from how you've described him - he doesn't respect you and you can't talk to him and get him to stop. Either seek counseling or a lawyer.

katielangley

That is kinda scary that he does not trust you at the gym...

Heitor70

He's past that talking stage. A while ago, I caught him spying on me at the gym! He was parked outside just watching me from my car. I'm about 20 lbs from my GW and who know how he'll be if I become attractive to guys again!!

...so, I guess this is only the beginning.... The best way is to avoid the subject altogether, that is, do not talk about it, for your own sanity and peace of mind. If he brings it up just let it go. Those who have been married for many years understand what I am talking about. We do this for ourselves and our spouses are free to join us or not.

3foldchord

My husband makes stupid comments like "guess u need to go work out to look good for your boyfriend", etc...It's getting really annoying! How do u deal with someone who constantly gives you crap for trying to be healthier???

just tell him "yup."

Ditto.
I would. I would answer with a " yes,! How am I doing?"

joycebug

He's past that talking stage. A while ago, I caught him spying on me at the gym! He was parked outside just watching me from my car. I'm about 20 lbs from my GW and who know how he'll be if I become attractive to guys again!!

I'm sorry. What?
I no longer believe a word you are saying.

????

Bracciano

My ex made the decision for me for me, I'm glad she did.

3foldchord

He's past that talking stage. A while ago, I caught him spying on me at the gym! He was parked outside just watching me from my car. I'm about 20 lbs from my GW and who know how he'll be if I become attractive to guys again!!

if he was watching from your car does that mean he drove with you and waited in the car instead of coming In?

jenilla1

He's just very insecure and controlling in general...

sounds like quite the catch.....

Insecure and controlling in general... :sick: I couldn't tolerate that for long. What a pain in the *kitten*.

PikaKnight

He's past that talking stage. A while ago, I caught him spying on me at the gym! He was parked outside just watching me from my car. I'm about 20 lbs from my GW and who know how he'll be if I become attractive to guys again!!

if he was watching from your car does that mean he drove with you and waited in the car instead of coming In?

A 20lb loss doesn't make you suddenly attractive to guys. Just saying.

joycebug

He's past that talking stage. A while ago, I caught him spying on me at the gym! He was parked outside just watching me from my car. I'm about 20 lbs from my GW and who know how he'll be if I become attractive to guys again!!

if he was watching from your car does that mean he drove with you and waited in the car instead of coming In?

No...sorry, he drove my other car to the gym. I didn't know he was outside until after the fact...