Why are people on the internet...
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It's not just here, you're right. I think it's the same thing as a feedback hotline, the fact is that if it takes effort to do something people need to feel fired up or they just can't be bothered. I've never seen a positive thread in the comments section of a newspaper article, I think it has to do with anonimity. I also think that some people are just vile, they may vail it in real life but just like diarrhea it has to ooze out some where.
I've also pretty much decided that a lot of it has to do with perspective, I decided to focus on the positive. Sometimes I'm positive that some people are complete *kitten*, but I'm trying to focus on the positive at any rate. I go in, I look around, I bang my head on my desk, and I leave because I'm not really here for that so I don't intend to let it touch me. Not saying that I don't have days where I just really decide to put on my tattered threads and jump full on into the pit, but I don't really see any progress being made there.
And then there's the fact that so much about communication is in non-verbal cues, but online all you have is what a person writes so everything is open to interpretation, every word is avaiable for scrutiny, and that's going to be impacted by the type of day the reader is having. For example, the awesome post about you braging on your girl was interpreted in 2 ways 1 - she worked hard to achieve this body that she really is proud of and you can too if you want it (pretty much how I saw it), or 2 - everybody should want this body and if you don't you're wrong (descent in the ranks). Even beyond that there were several other controversial developments that came out in that post regarding her program, dedicated time, effort, food, blah, blah, blah. When really all I read into it was "I'm so proud of my girl, she didn't have to make this decision, she didn't have to adopt this lifestyle, but she did and day-um doesn't she look good." See, such a simple thing with so many interpretations just because all the non-verbal cues are missing.0 -
Because their 'right' to say what they want is more important than your 'need' to be recognized as a human being who might have feelings and be in need of support.0
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Serious answer-- I think most of the time what people perceive as mean is really just snarky/sarcastic joking. Most of the time when I see someone complaining about meanness, and I go back and look at what they're talking about, I just don't see it.0
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because we're hangry!!!!! \m/0
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I usually fly off the handle just as bad IRL when someone says something wrong or ignorant, especially if they have a staunch conviciton about what is wrong and are unmoving.0
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...so rude an obnoxious?
Everywhere I go, I see the flaming and hate, why is it so prevalent on the internet?
Most of the things you see and read are mindblowing in terms of the bitterness and hate, and vicious bile that comes from peoples finger tips.
Why don't people hold back at all?
Because they don't get to go home with a hottie, like you do...?0 -
The truth is, most people are polite and even tempered. But those people aren't the ones commenting on stories or forum posts0
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Im a lot nicer on the internet than in real life...
Offline im very sarcastic and grumpy and mean... Im that mean people actually think im joking sometimes.
Go figure!
You, too, huh? My boss actually tells people to stay away from me if they don't want to be berated. I'm much more pleasant on-line.0 -
Serious answer-- I think most of the time what people perceive as mean is really just snarky/sarcastic joking. Most of the time when I see someone complaining about meanness, and I go back and look at what they're talking about, I just don't see it.
^^^THIS!!!
There REALLY needs to be some kind of sarcasm font. Sarcasm just does NOT come off well in print, without the accompanying body language. My humor tends to be extremely dry and sarcastic, and mostly unappreciated. *sigh* I am actually one of the biggest softies that ever existed, and I care so much for people that I have to hide it behind a wall of introverted humor that doesn't always translate well...0 -
I Ben Spellman of Salem MA do not feel the need to hide behind my keyboard. I make myself very accessible. I am also very happy with my life, the results I get working out, my friends, and my family. However, I am very mean because it seems like some of the lowest in the gene pool can't wait to get on the interwebs and put up some of the stupidest things on earth, and then cry foul when people call them on it.
Do you seriously think that 3 day diet is the cure all? Does every damn picture need to go through instagram? Do you really think carbs are the reason you're fat? Does no one see an issue with everyone who is over weight now believing it's because we all have Celiac Disease? Have you really met anyone on earth who credits their 6-pack to the ab lounge?
It's cool though. People can keep bringing stupid things to the table and I will continue to flame, mock, and troll them until they decide accountability and common sense are the things they are really missing. If this is really a huge issue though you can feel free to e-mail me @ LogicEngage@aol.com and I will be happy to read all your e-mails asking why I am so mean or how I'm going to hell or whatever you think will all of a sudden make me see things your way. :drinker:0 -
Serious answer-- I think most of the time what people perceive as mean is really just snarky/sarcastic joking. Most of the time when I see someone complaining about meanness, and I go back and look at what they're talking about, I just don't see it.
^^^THIS!!!
There REALLY needs to be some kind of sarcasm font. Sarcasm just does NOT come off well in print, without the accompanying body language. My humor tends to be extremely dry and sarcastic, and mostly unappreciated. *sigh* I am actually one of the biggest softies that ever existed, and I care so much for people that I have to hide it behind a wall of introverted humor that doesn't always translate well...
I agree with both of you, but I'd say... sarcasm has been in print for CENTURIES. There were people who laughed at Swift, and people who got incredibly offended. It's not the text or the font; it's on the reader to be able to interpret properly. Hell, that's what most text interpretation is about!
It's just a shame that it seems like that (now that literacy is so high) there's more exposure to people who don't understand text.0 -
I usually fly off the handle just as bad IRL when someone says something wrong or ignorant, especially if they have a staunch conviciton about what is wrong and are unmoving.
but big strong dudes like you holding golf clubs can get away with it!0 -
I live in London and people are like that in RL too.0
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I Ben Spellman of Salem MA do not feel the need to hide behind my keyboard. I make myself very accessible. I am also very happy with my life, the results I get working out, my friends, and my family. However, I am very mean because it seems like some of the lowest in the gene pool can't wait to get on the interwebs and put up some of the stupidest things on earth, and then cry foul when people call them on it.
Do you seriously think that 3 day diet is the cure all? Does every damn picture need to go through instagram? Do you really think carbs are the reason you're fat? Does no one see an issue with everyone who is over weight now believing it's because we all have Celiac Disease? Have you really met anyone on earth who credits their 6-pack to the ab lounge?
It's cool though. People can keep bringing stupid things to the table and I will continue to flame, mock, and troll them until they decide accountability and common sense are the things they are really missing. If this is really a huge issue though you can feel free to e-mail me @ LogicEngage@aol.com and I will be happy to read all your e-mails asking why I am so mean or how I'm going to hell or whatever you think will all of a sudden make me see things your way. :drinker:
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People like to pretend they are snarky.0
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Serious answer-- I think most of the time what people perceive as mean is really just snarky/sarcastic joking. Most of the time when I see someone complaining about meanness, and I go back and look at what they're talking about, I just don't see it.
^^^THIS!!!
There REALLY needs to be some kind of sarcasm font. Sarcasm just does NOT come off well in print, without the accompanying body language. My humor tends to be extremely dry and sarcastic, and mostly unappreciated. *sigh* I am actually one of the biggest softies that ever existed, and I care so much for people that I have to hide it behind a wall of introverted humor that doesn't always translate well...
I agree with both of you, but I'd say... sarcasm has been in print for CENTURIES. There were people who laughed at Swift, and people who got incredibly offended. It's not the text or the font; it's on the reader to be able to interpret properly. Hell, that's what most text interpretation is about!
It's just a shame that it seems like that (now that literacy is so high) there's more exposure to people who don't understand text.
It's like you're trying to say something, but I just don't get it.
Could you try again with a series of numbers and letters that resemble words and pepper it with emoticons?0 -
I Ben Spellman of Salem MA do not feel the need to hide behind my keyboard. I make myself very accessible. I am also very happy with my life, the results I get working out, my friends, and my family. However, I am very mean because it seems like some of the lowest in the gene pool can't wait to get on the interwebs and put up some of the stupidest things on earth, and then cry foul when people call them on it.
Do you seriously think that 3 day diet is the cure all? Does every damn picture need to go through instagram? Do you really think carbs are the reason you're fat? Does no one see an issue with everyone who is over weight now believing it's because we all have Celiac Disease? Have you really met anyone on earth who credits their 6-pack to the ab lounge?
It's cool though. People can keep bringing stupid things to the table and I will continue to flame, mock, and troll them until they decide accountability and common sense are the things they are really missing. If this is really a huge issue though you can feel free to e-mail me @ LogicEngage@aol.com and I will be happy to read all your e-mails asking why I am so mean or how I'm going to hell or whatever you think will all of a sudden make me see things your way. :drinker:
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Serious answer-- I think most of the time what people perceive as mean is really just snarky/sarcastic joking. Most of the time when I see someone complaining about meanness, and I go back and look at what they're talking about, I just don't see it.
^^^THIS!!!
There REALLY needs to be some kind of sarcasm font. Sarcasm just does NOT come off well in print, without the accompanying body language. My humor tends to be extremely dry and sarcastic, and mostly unappreciated. *sigh* I am actually one of the biggest softies that ever existed, and I care so much for people that I have to hide it behind a wall of introverted humor that doesn't always translate well...
I agree with both of you, but I'd say... sarcasm has been in print for CENTURIES. There were people who laughed at Swift, and people who got incredibly offended. It's not the text or the font; it's on the reader to be able to interpret properly. Hell, that's what most text interpretation is about!
It's just a shame that it seems like that (now that literacy is so high) there's more exposure to people who don't understand text.
OK, true, you're right. Maybe it just seems more prevalent to me because I actually interact more with people in print now. And I ALWAYS "got" printed sarcasm, so it literally does NOT compute to me when other people don't get it.0 -
Serious answer-- I think most of the time what people perceive as mean is really just snarky/sarcastic joking. Most of the time when I see someone complaining about meanness, and I go back and look at what they're talking about, I just don't see it.
^^^THIS!!!
There REALLY needs to be some kind of sarcasm font. Sarcasm just does NOT come off well in print, without the accompanying body language. My humor tends to be extremely dry and sarcastic, and mostly unappreciated. *sigh* I am actually one of the biggest softies that ever existed, and I care so much for people that I have to hide it behind a wall of introverted humor that doesn't always translate well...
I agree with both of you, but I'd say... sarcasm has been in print for CENTURIES. There were people who laughed at Swift, and people who got incredibly offended. It's not the text or the font; it's on the reader to be able to interpret properly. Hell, that's what most text interpretation is about!
It's just a shame that it seems like that (now that literacy is so high) there's more exposure to people who don't understand text.
It's like you're trying to say something, but I just don't get it.
Could you try again with a series of numbers and letters that resemble words and pepper it with emoticons?
Lemon pepper or chili?0 -
everyone wants to be someone they are not..0
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Serious answer-- I think most of the time what people perceive as mean is really just snarky/sarcastic joking. Most of the time when I see someone complaining about meanness, and I go back and look at what they're talking about, I just don't see it.
^^^THIS!!!
There REALLY needs to be some kind of sarcasm font. Sarcasm just does NOT come off well in print, without the accompanying body language. My humor tends to be extremely dry and sarcastic, and mostly unappreciated. *sigh* I am actually one of the biggest softies that ever existed, and I care so much for people that I have to hide it behind a wall of introverted humor that doesn't always translate well...
I agree with both of you, but I'd say... sarcasm has been in print for CENTURIES. There were people who laughed at Swift, and people who got incredibly offended. It's not the text or the font; it's on the reader to be able to interpret properly. Hell, that's what most text interpretation is about!
It's just a shame that it seems like that (now that literacy is so high) there's more exposure to people who don't understand text.
It's like you're trying to say something, but I just don't get it.
Could you try again with a series of numbers and letters that resemble words and pepper it with emoticons?
Lemon pepper or chili?
well since a lot of friendly emoticons are yellow, let's say lemon0 -
Im a lot nicer on the internet than in real life...
Offline im very sarcastic and grumpy and mean... Im that mean people actually think im joking sometimes.
Go figure!
You, too, huh? My boss actually tells people to stay away from me if they don't want to be berated. I'm much more pleasant on-line.
You sound like my brother in law.... I just blank people unless they are usefull or interesting as i live in a country where people go out of their way to talk to people they barely know about irrelevant crap
Although if they dont catch on quick that im not interested in talking to them they suffer! :-D0 -
This is the truthBecause they have no personal connection to the people they are unleashing on. You can tolerate someone's idiosyncrasies much better if you have some type of relationship. Strangers on the internet ehhh not so much. So when someone is being stupid you tend to have a lower level of acceptance and endurance for the behavior, and call them out on it.0 -
Serious answer-- I think most of the time what people perceive as mean is really just snarky/sarcastic joking. Most of the time when I see someone complaining about meanness, and I go back and look at what they're talking about, I just don't see it.
^^^THIS!!!
There REALLY needs to be some kind of sarcasm font. Sarcasm just does NOT come off well in print, without the accompanying body language. My humor tends to be extremely dry and sarcastic, and mostly unappreciated. *sigh* I am actually one of the biggest softies that ever existed, and I care so much for people that I have to hide it behind a wall of introverted humor that doesn't always translate well...
I agree with both of you, but I'd say... sarcasm has been in print for CENTURIES. There were people who laughed at Swift, and people who got incredibly offended. It's not the text or the font; it's on the reader to be able to interpret properly. Hell, that's what most text interpretation is about!
It's just a shame that it seems like that (now that literacy is so high) there's more exposure to people who don't understand text.
I don't think sarcasm font is needed, it's usually pretty clear to me when someone isn't being serious.0 -
text is hard to interpret0
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Serious answer-- I think most of the time what people perceive as mean is really just snarky/sarcastic joking. Most of the time when I see someone complaining about meanness, and I go back and look at what they're talking about, I just don't see it.
^^^THIS!!!
There REALLY needs to be some kind of sarcasm font. Sarcasm just does NOT come off well in print, without the accompanying body language. My humor tends to be extremely dry and sarcastic, and mostly unappreciated. *sigh* I am actually one of the biggest softies that ever existed, and I care so much for people that I have to hide it behind a wall of introverted humor that doesn't always translate well...
I agree with both of you, but I'd say... sarcasm has been in print for CENTURIES. There were people who laughed at Swift, and people who got incredibly offended. It's not the text or the font; it's on the reader to be able to interpret properly. Hell, that's what most text interpretation is about!
It's just a shame that it seems like that (now that literacy is so high) there's more exposure to people who don't understand text.
I don't think sarcasm font is needed, it's usually pretty clear to me when someone isn't being serious.
That's what I'm saying! Yet... look at the response below you.
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Serious answer-- I think most of the time what people perceive as mean is really just snarky/sarcastic joking. Most of the time when I see someone complaining about meanness, and I go back and look at what they're talking about, I just don't see it.
^^^THIS!!!
There REALLY needs to be some kind of sarcasm font. Sarcasm just does NOT come off well in print, without the accompanying body language. My humor tends to be extremely dry and sarcastic, and mostly unappreciated. *sigh* I am actually one of the biggest softies that ever existed, and I care so much for people that I have to hide it behind a wall of introverted humor that doesn't always translate well...
I agree with both of you, but I'd say... sarcasm has been in print for CENTURIES. There were people who laughed at Swift, and people who got incredibly offended. It's not the text or the font; it's on the reader to be able to interpret properly. Hell, that's what most text interpretation is about!
It's just a shame that it seems like that (now that literacy is so high) there's more exposure to people who don't understand text.
I don't think sarcasm font is needed, it's usually pretty clear to me when someone isn't being serious.
That's what I'm saying! Yet... look at the response below you.
Hah! This, exactly. Just because you get it, doesn't mean everyone does. Or even MOST people. Which is what I have discovered, much to my dismay.0 -
everyone wants to be someone they are not..
Says the person with the fake profile pic0 -
I'm not just rude on the Internet, I'm generally quite rude and moody in real life too. But hey least in consistent....0
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