Ladies, what qualities do you like in Men?
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Come on ladies.. let's be honest. Most want a 6 pack, a 10 inch cawk, and a 6 figure income. Full head of hair is a plus too.
No. No. No. No.
All we want is to feel desirable, wanted and loved. That's it. Okay, a little sex-appeal is always a bonus
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Bulllllllllsheeeeeeeeeeet. I'm sure if some less than attractive chubby guy starts hitting on you, desiring you one might say, you're probably going to react a hell of a lot different if Mr. 8% body fat does the same exact thing. Been there done that. Not that I'm 8% body fat by an stretch of the imagination but at 290 I was flat out turned down 100% of the time right out the gate. Some girls even walked away without even speaking back. At 230ish at least I actually get a chance to talk for a couple minutes, though there is still a clear "Oh, heavy guy" vibe women put out. Seriously ladies, drop the nice girl act. You're not fooling anyone.
Honestly, you sound bitter/have a chip on your shoulder, and that isn't attractive. Stop looking at shallow women and maybe you won't have these experiences.0 -
Obviously you are attracted to the wrong women.Judging by the men women are with I'm going to say looks and $$$.
I have been with the same guy for 8 years (next month, but let's not be picky). The initial attraction? His eyes, he was tall, and he smiled at me like I was the most important person in the world. He was 19 when we met, he partied, he was attractive TO ME, he was NOT rich, we both made our own money and paid for our own things. The reason we lasted? Because we both mutually respected and cared for the other, and we had lots of good sex.
By the way the last two things still haven't changed. BAZINGA
Whenever women say the first thing they were attracted to was a man's eyes that's their way of trying to say looks without being shallow. It's a safe thing to pick. It doesn't sound as bad as saying "He was hot."0 -
*cough* AgainCome on ladies.. let's be honest. Most want a 6 pack, a 10 inch cawk, and a 6 figure income. Full head of hair is a plus too.
No. No. No. No.
All we want is to feel desirable, wanted and loved. That's it. Okay, a little sex-appeal is always a bonus.
Bulllllllllsheeeeeeeeeeet. I'm sure if some less than attractive chubby guy starts hitting on you, desiring you one might say, you're probably going to react a hell of a lot different if Mr. 8% body fat does the same exact thing. Been there done that. Not that I'm 8% body fat by an stretch of the imagination but at 290 I was flat out turned down 100% of the time right out the gate. Some girls even walked away without even speaking back. At 230ish at least I actually get a chance to talk for a couple minutes, though there is still a clear "Oh, heavy guy" vibe women put out. Seriously ladies, drop the nice girl act. You're not fooling anyone.
OBVIOUSLY YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO THE WRONG WOMEN.
Or as someone already pointed out, it's both genders doing it... Mr. 8% probably wouldn't be interested in me either. I have cellulite, stretch marks, and a bad attitude. But I do not hold it against Mr. 8% or Jessica Alba who still has flawless skin and can get Mr. 8%, after all I found someone that loves me for me. Now relax, and stop being a diva.0 -
Not to sound cliche but i think you just have to be yourself....BUT on those dating sites you have to be really honest (not modest) and put what you are really like and have to offer, honestly. If you make 6 figures write it, if you make a comfortable living write that. If you're super considerate, outdoorsy, a city boy, a dry sense of humour, the life of the party, don't be afraid to be honest about your positive qualities or better yet, ask someone you know to write it about you since they will be less likely to omit things due to modesty and most likely to remember every nice thing about you. Plus things you didn't even know mattered, like the way you always remember exactly what someone wanted in their starbucks, or how you always order at restaurants with like 3 omissions/special instructions/substitutions but you are so charming you make the waitress WANT to bring it right. They cannot write it in front of you because you will try to get them to remove half of the very best things about you out of modesty or fear of overreaching.
It's kind of a catch 22: be yourself but have someone else write it. Or is it ironic? Or just backwards, idk but that's my advice.
The thing is if you represent yourself as accurately as possible you will likely attract women who are just exactly interested in those qualities, thus you. As you saw from the list you made from the answers here there are LOTS of qualities to choose from and no man could expect to be all those things. Who could be a nerd playing HALO all day and simultaneously a superambitious never-say-die go getter, know what I mean? Different strokes for different folks. Now go get a folk so you can get to stroking.0 -
Depends what I need a man for.0
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Just to clarify from you ladies who listed non-physical qualities.
So physical attraction doesn't play into the quality you're looking for in a guy? Granted that's subjective I know. But basically are you saying, if the guy looks good on paper he's good to go?0 -
So physical attraction doesn't play into the quality you're looking for in a guy? Granted that's subjective I know. But basically are you saying, if the guy looks good on paper he's good to go?
Oh absolutely not! good on paper could be boring in real life...I absolutely need chemistry/attraction - but that isn't quantifiable in physical qualities. Sure, being tall, fit, etc sounds great - but I have been extremely attracted to short/overweight men too, and am not attracted to every tall, fit man.0 -
Bulllllllllsheeeeeeeeeeet. I'm sure if some less than attractive chubby guy starts hitting on you, desiring you one might say, you're probably going to react a hell of a lot different if Mr. 8% body fat does the same exact thing. Been there done that. Not that I'm 8% body fat by an stretch of the imagination but at 290 I was flat out turned down 100% of the time right out the gate. Some girls even walked away without even speaking back. At 230ish at least I actually get a chance to talk for a couple minutes, though there is still a clear "Oh, heavy guy" vibe women put out. Seriously ladies, drop the nice girl act. You're not fooling anyone.
What kind of women were you hitting on that shut you down every time and sometimes walked away without even speaking back? I'm guessing they weren't "Less than attractive chubby"?0 -
A guy that cooks and cleans makes me ridiculously excited.0
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Come on ladies.. let's be honest. Most want a 6 pack, a 10 inch cawk, and a 6 figure income. Full head of hair is a plus too.
6 pack is a plus. But I want someone to be healthy. And if you can get it in 10 inches YOUR A MAD MAN! And a 6 figure salary, no, But I don't want to have to be relied on to pay the bills. A good paying job would be nice. And my man shaves his head really short. So I don't mind that either. Your perception of women and how they want their men are completely off. Sorry0 -
Someone who understands me, who is able to make me laugh & is willing to help out with house stuff! Needs to be a little romantic..
Someone who doesn't try to be someone he's not.. 
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*cough* AgainCome on ladies.. let's be honest. Most want a 6 pack, a 10 inch cawk, and a 6 figure income. Full head of hair is a plus too.
No. No. No. No.
All we want is to feel desirable, wanted and loved. That's it. Okay, a little sex-appeal is always a bonus.
Bulllllllllsheeeeeeeeeeet. I'm sure if some less than attractive chubby guy starts hitting on you, desiring you one might say, you're probably going to react a hell of a lot different if Mr. 8% body fat does the same exact thing. Been there done that. Not that I'm 8% body fat by an stretch of the imagination but at 290 I was flat out turned down 100% of the time right out the gate. Some girls even walked away without even speaking back. At 230ish at least I actually get a chance to talk for a couple minutes, though there is still a clear "Oh, heavy guy" vibe women put out. Seriously ladies, drop the nice girl act. You're not fooling anyone.
OBVIOUSLY YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO THE WRONG WOMEN.
Or as someone already pointed out, it's both genders doing it... Mr. 8% probably wouldn't be interested in me either. I have cellulite, stretch marks, and a bad attitude. But I do not hold it against Mr. 8% or Jessica Alba who still has flawless skin and can get Mr. 8%, after all I found someone that loves me for me. Now relax, and stop being a diva.
I'm attracted to all kinds of women. Most men are. It has very little to do with that. It makes sense to cast the widest net possible. I'm just speaking out of experience. Most of the feel good answers the ladies have been giving flat out don't apply when it comes to getting your foot in the door.0 -
Women only like guys who have lots of skills.
Computer hacking skills
oh I have lots of those :laugh:
Why am I still single :sad:0 -
Someone that I can trust and someone that trusts me too. Someone who is funny, intelligent and a handyman. I like scruff on the face. I like bald and a head full of hair so that doesn't really matter to me...nice arms and shoulders but the most important is a great sense of humor and trust...had a cheating ex husband and then a over-bearing possessive stalker ex boyfriend...uggghhh...lol0
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*cough* AgainCome on ladies.. let's be honest. Most want a 6 pack, a 10 inch cawk, and a 6 figure income. Full head of hair is a plus too.
No. No. No. No.
All we want is to feel desirable, wanted and loved. That's it. Okay, a little sex-appeal is always a bonus.
Bulllllllllsheeeeeeeeeeet. I'm sure if some less than attractive chubby guy starts hitting on you, desiring you one might say, you're probably going to react a hell of a lot different if Mr. 8% body fat does the same exact thing. Been there done that. Not that I'm 8% body fat by an stretch of the imagination but at 290 I was flat out turned down 100% of the time right out the gate. Some girls even walked away without even speaking back. At 230ish at least I actually get a chance to talk for a couple minutes, though there is still a clear "Oh, heavy guy" vibe women put out. Seriously ladies, drop the nice girl act. You're not fooling anyone.
OBVIOUSLY YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO THE WRONG WOMEN.
Or as someone already pointed out, it's both genders doing it... Mr. 8% probably wouldn't be interested in me either. I have cellulite, stretch marks, and a bad attitude. But I do not hold it against Mr. 8% or Jessica Alba who still has flawless skin and can get Mr. 8%, after all I found someone that loves me for me. Now relax, and stop being a diva.
I'm attracted to all kinds of women. Most men are. It has very little to do with that. It makes sense to cast the widest net possible. I'm just speaking out of experience. Most of the feel good answers the ladies have been giving flat out don't apply when it comes to getting your foot in the door.
How are you approaching them? The wrong approach will get the door slammed in your face with a quickness!0 -
For me i want a guy with a fun and outgoing personilty
Also i want a guy who will make me laugh 24\7
Maybe i might take him to the room .
I want everything lol in a man .0 -
Just to clarify from you ladies who listed non-physical qualities.
So physical attraction doesn't play into the quality you're looking for in a guy? Granted that's subjective I know. But basically are you saying, if the guy looks good on paper he's good to go?
We're saying that the entire package is considered, and that certain outstanding qualities can make up for other, less desirable ones.
For what it's worth, for me the physical attraction is broken down into three categories. Tall, handsome face, fit body. If he has at least two out of three, no matter what combination, I'll probably find him physically attractive. But all manner of bad personality traits can shut down physical attraction real quick.0 -
My husband of 25 years..loyal, honest, 6 pack, handsome, BFF, trustworthy, great father,Loves the Lord, treats me like a queen, unselfish..puts me before his own needs, great lover...one extremely smart and hard worker, Excellent provider, I have been able to stay home since our first baby arrived..been home ever since..20 plus years..I love all of these things in MY MAN..Im truly blessed!0
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Most of women have said already written down what I'm looking for: kind-hearted, intelligent, family oriented, hard worker, respectful, nice eyes/smile, et al., but I'd also like to add that his weirdness has to be compatible with mine. Also, he has to be willing to help out around the house. Doesn't have to be taller than me.0
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I can only speak from my experience, I dated a variety of men when I was single. All body types, all personalities as well. The idea that you have not found at least one woman that has given you the time of day seems a bit far fetched, you either live in the rudest neighborhood ever, or you have been approaching the wrong kind of females. I am sorry that you have not had the chance to meet a nice lady that founds you appealing the way you are. However I am sure that just because you have not, does not mean that the ladies here are not genuine.
I'm attracted to all kinds of women. Most men are. It has very little to do with that. It makes sense to cast the widest net possible. I'm just speaking out of experience. Most of the feel good answers the ladies have been giving flat out don't apply when it comes to getting your foot in the door.
Granted looks do play a part, but all types of "looks" get noticed by somebody.0 -
*cough* AgainCome on ladies.. let's be honest. Most want a 6 pack, a 10 inch cawk, and a 6 figure income. Full head of hair is a plus too.
No. No. No. No.
All we want is to feel desirable, wanted and loved. That's it. Okay, a little sex-appeal is always a bonus.
Bulllllllllsheeeeeeeeeeet. I'm sure if some less than attractive chubby guy starts hitting on you, desiring you one might say, you're probably going to react a hell of a lot different if Mr. 8% body fat does the same exact thing. Been there done that. Not that I'm 8% body fat by an stretch of the imagination but at 290 I was flat out turned down 100% of the time right out the gate. Some girls even walked away without even speaking back. At 230ish at least I actually get a chance to talk for a couple minutes, though there is still a clear "Oh, heavy guy" vibe women put out. Seriously ladies, drop the nice girl act. You're not fooling anyone.
OBVIOUSLY YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO THE WRONG WOMEN.
Or as someone already pointed out, it's both genders doing it... Mr. 8% probably wouldn't be interested in me either. I have cellulite, stretch marks, and a bad attitude. But I do not hold it against Mr. 8% or Jessica Alba who still has flawless skin and can get Mr. 8%, after all I found someone that loves me for me. Now relax, and stop being a diva.
I'm attracted to all kinds of women. Most men are. It has very little to do with that. It makes sense to cast the widest net possible. I'm just speaking out of experience. Most of the feel good answers the ladies have been giving flat out don't apply when it comes to getting your foot in the door.
How are you approaching them? The wrong approach will get the door slammed in your face with a quickness!
I was speaking more about when I was much heavier. It's sligthly better now. Most women seem a little bit more receptive or at least willing to talk. I'm just pointing out all the personality based answers being given need to be taken with a grain of salt. I'm the same guy on the inside I was when I was 290 (and 365 if we want to go back a few more years) but somehow magically women are more willing to talk to me now. Somehow my "Hello" sounds totally different now? Seriously? I'm sure when I'm 200 my options will open up even futher. Just sayin'.0 -
..an awesome, drop-dead, rock-hard body attached to a head containing a brain capable of intelligent thought and conversation
...nice teeth
....able to make me feel like a naughty girl0 -
Preferably that they are breathing. LOL
I'm really not that picky but I do like a nice pair of eyes and decent teeth. There are also the obvious... someone who is real and doesn't play games, financially stable so I don't have to take care of them and an easy going nature like I have. I can say that there does have to be some kind of spark or initial attraction though. As for physical attraction...I've noticed that when you get to know someone it is the person and personality that will make them even more attractive than the physical. I know some pretty ugly people out there...0 -
Updated list
Honesty
down to earth
makes me laugh so hard I snort
a good kisser, intelligent
Manly Man
into sports
outdoors
Make you feel feminine
sense of humor
lifestyle stability
decent communicator,
intelligence.
amazingly awful sense of humor walk around naked ALL THE TIME.
6 pack] big sausage
6 figure income
head of hair.
perhaps a skilled tongue would be necessary as well
to make you feel desirable, wanted and loved.
honest
has integrity
care of themselves
similar interests.
runner
affiliation with fitness
like movies
intelligence
confidence
success
ambition
high sex drive
good family
relationship skills
fast cars
suave moves.
nerdy guy you can play Halo 4 with!
treat me like I deserve to be treated
partner in all things
Somewho who will walk through life with
call you on your sh!
give undying support.
Skill and abilit
pull their own weight
nice smooth shaved head.
emotionally available.
let you put your feet under his butt to keep them warm.
make you laugh
smiles a lot
holds intelligent conversations
passionate,
make sure you're happy
listens.
Computer hacking skills
brings six pack of beer .
good listener or willing to listen
a hobby that takes them out of the house
dirty mind
intellegence
honesty
loyalty
Physical attraction
self sufficient
independant
confident
kind
patience of a saint
witty
smart guy
intellectual conversationist
loves to travel
adventurous
love your crazy side
nunchuck skills
bowhunting skills
Kind-hearted
witty
Flirty ( but not too much)
Gonads
HARDWORKING
spoil you
spend $$$$
Family oriented
good sense of humor
respectful
kind
thoughtful
spontaneity
responsible
stable
pulse
secure
not overly jealous
gorgeous eyes
tiger in the sack
non-drooler
ties me up
does dirty things to you
talkative
open minded
great sense of humor
intelligence
ambition
kindness
generosity
chivalry
someone who is well read/cultured
confident
cooks
cleans
makes you ridiculously excited.
understands you
does housework
romantic
trusts you
handyman ( surprised to see this so far down the list)
Tall
handsome face
fit body
Nice teeth
rock-hard body
intelligent thought and conversation
nice teeth ( this is far lower than I thought it would be as well)
make you feel like a naughty girl
Gamer0 -
You forgot, "gamer".0
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How many men is that???:laugh::laugh: :laugh:intelligence, confidence, success, ambition, high sex drive, good family & relationship skills, fast cars and suave moves.
It''s her unicorn.0 -
*cough* AgainCome on ladies.. let's be honest. Most want a 6 pack, a 10 inch cawk, and a 6 figure income. Full head of hair is a plus too.
No. No. No. No.
All we want is to feel desirable, wanted and loved. That's it. Okay, a little sex-appeal is always a bonus.
Bulllllllllsheeeeeeeeeeet. I'm sure if some less than attractive chubby guy starts hitting on you, desiring you one might say, you're probably going to react a hell of a lot different if Mr. 8% body fat does the same exact thing. Been there done that. Not that I'm 8% body fat by an stretch of the imagination but at 290 I was flat out turned down 100% of the time right out the gate. Some girls even walked away without even speaking back. At 230ish at least I actually get a chance to talk for a couple minutes, though there is still a clear "Oh, heavy guy" vibe women put out. Seriously ladies, drop the nice girl act. You're not fooling anyone.
OBVIOUSLY YOU ARE ATTRACTED TO THE WRONG WOMEN.
Or as someone already pointed out, it's both genders doing it... Mr. 8% probably wouldn't be interested in me either. I have cellulite, stretch marks, and a bad attitude. But I do not hold it against Mr. 8% or Jessica Alba who still has flawless skin and can get Mr. 8%, after all I found someone that loves me for me. Now relax, and stop being a diva.
I'm attracted to all kinds of women. Most men are. It has very little to do with that. It makes sense to cast the widest net possible. I'm just speaking out of experience. Most of the feel good answers the ladies have been giving flat out don't apply when it comes to getting your foot in the door.
I happen to think you are cute...and I also agree with the "feel good" stuff...but yea if I can get the "feel good" from a guy I think is hot over a guy I don't think is hot then yea I will go for hot...but you have no idea what I think is hot...it varies, like you said....0 -
make me laugh, and i melt
also: intelligence is super sexy0 -
Now here's a crazy idea. Maybe, just maybe be yourself, and the right woman will go crazy over every thing you are. Jus sayin.0
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Now here's a crazy idea. Maybe, just maybe be yourself, and the right woman will go crazy over every thing you are. Jus sayin.
Everyone can try that one. Of course, if you're not being yourself it'll become obvious soon enough.0
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