Why are people so mean?!

patrickkelly69

Because people are Aholes. ((shrugs))

and they have nothing better to do

Raybug0903

I hear ya! Have you ever heard the saying, "People on diets only talk about their diet"? I think it's kind of like that...some people are SO obsessed with their "lifestyle" that it's all they think about and only harp on the bad things others are doing and are mean as a result. There is a nice way to go about giving advice, even if it's constructive criticism. Sending positive vibes your way!

PikaKnight

We are never having that fish fry, are we?

Prolly not

LiftAllThePizzas

ILiftHeavyAcrylics wrote: »

There are some legit arguments here. But a lot of what you're seeing is just back and forth between friends.

A lot more of what you see is people trying to keep misinformation from going unchecked in the forums. If they just ignore a thread full of incorrect info then it's as good as saying that info is correct.

Often when someone is disputing incorrect info, they aren't just or even primarily doing it for the OP's benefit. It's for the people lurking who may not realize that a source isn't reliable, or that a practice isn't healthy.

Don't you think it's worth a little arguing to make sure that you're getting correct information?

^ This.

diannethegeek

The first response makes me sad that the ignore button has been gone for over 6 months now, guys. Nostalgia.

PrizePopple

LiftAllThePizzas wrote: »

ILiftHeavyAcrylics wrote: »

There are some legit arguments here. But a lot of what you're seeing is just back and forth between friends.

A lot more of what you see is people trying to keep misinformation from going unchecked in the forums. If they just ignore a thread full of incorrect info then it's as good as saying that info is correct.

Often when someone is disputing incorrect info, they aren't just or even primarily doing it for the OP's benefit. It's for the people lurking who may not realize that a source isn't reliable, or that a practice isn't healthy.

Don't you think it's worth a little arguing to make sure that you're getting correct information?

^ This.

Dude, why are you bringing back necro mean people threads? This is twice now. I'm really confused.

Alluminati

Do this on Thursday, will ya?

Since Friday is a holiday n sht

999tigger

PrizePopple wrote: »

Dude, [LiftAllThePizzas]
why are you bringing back necro mean people threads? This is twice now. I'm really confused.

LAP why are you thread necroing mean people threads from years ago? You were asked not to do it last time and here you are doing the same again.

Serah87

Isn't this the 2nd time this thread has been brought back to life?!?

ManiacalLaugh

Serah87 wrote: »

Isn't this the 2nd time this thread has been brought back to life?!?

No, that was a different Mean People thread and it was promptly locked by the mods.

On another note - why are all the Mean People threads in the "Motivation and Support" forum? That's literally the "nice people" section of MFP. Even the veteran posters who are known for their, umm.... snarkiness... post nice and fluffy replies here.

Cahgetsfit

AlohaKeAkua wrote: »

Apparently people are missing my point.

yep! And I totally agree with you. I get that the internet is a "mean" place etc etc but sometimes yeah... you might ask a seemingly straight-forward question on a forum and get a whole bunch of "you are a f*ckwit" answers which are not very nice.

Alyssa_Is_LosingIt

There is not enough facepalm to cover this thread and its resurrection.

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faithyang

AlohaKeAkua wrote: »

I thought MFP was supposed to help motivate and push each other. I've seen so many nice comments back and forth between people and dishing out tons of encouragment. On the flip side, it is SO discouraging when people post things and are followed up with negative or harsh responses. This is not Twitter, or Facebook (where negativety and cyber bullying is everywhere). This is a place to help each other. Even if you don't agree with what people say, why bother putting in the effort to bring them down and be rude?! Not everybody has the same workout routines, times to eat, things to eat, life circumstances and so forth. Don't tear people down bc you don't agree with that they are saying. That is all
Spread love, not anger!

True.

It happens when someone loses weight, and then with smug superiority starts thinking they are the authority on all that is fitness and health because what worked for them somehow is the gold standard for health - so if you're not doing it their way you're a lazy/fat/insincere/bludging/incompetent time-waster who is fat because you're not lifting 10.534kg dumb bells with 255 and a half reps, planking facing 43.5 degrees north towards Mecca and counting your macros while chanting Buddhist sutras simultaneously.

I think like all communities there's always the "Mean Girls/Guys" clique in the jungle like in High School. I try not to respond in equal meanness. Kill with kindness, or point out the irrationality. Then move on. Don't take the bait.

Cahgetsfit

faithyang wrote: »

It happens when someone loses weight, and then with smug superiority starts thinking they are the authority on all that is fitness and health because what worked for them somehow is the gold standard for health - so if you're not doing it their way you're a lazy/fat/insincere/bludging/incompetent time-waster who is fat because you're not lifting 10.534kg dumb bells with 255 and a half reps, planking facing 43.5 degrees north towards Mecca and counting your macros while chanting Buddhist sutras simultaneously.

BWAHAHAHAHAHHAAA thanks for making my afternoon !

Carol_

faithyang wrote: »

AlohaKeAkua wrote: »

I thought MFP was supposed to help motivate and push each other. I've seen so many nice comments back and forth between people and dishing out tons of encouragment. On the flip side, it is SO discouraging when people post things and are followed up with negative or harsh responses. This is not Twitter, or Facebook (where negativety and cyber bullying is everywhere). This is a place to help each other. Even if you don't agree with what people say, why bother putting in the effort to bring them down and be rude?! Not everybody has the same workout routines, times to eat, things to eat, life circumstances and so forth. Don't tear people down bc you don't agree with that they are saying. That is all
Spread love, not anger!

True.

It happens when someone loses weight, and then with smug superiority starts thinking they are the authority on all that is fitness and health because what worked for them somehow is the gold standard for health - so if you're not doing it their way you're a lazy/fat/insincere/bludging/incompetent time-waster who is fat because you're not lifting 10.534kg dumb bells with 255 and a half reps, planking facing 43.5 degrees north towards Mecca and counting your macros while chanting Buddhist sutras simultaneously.

I think like all communities there's always the "Mean Girls/Guys" clique in the jungle like in High School. I try not to respond in equal meanness. Kill with kindness, or point out the irrationality. Then move on. Don't take the bait.

Yes!! I could not say it any better. Good job! You have wonderful insight!

daniellepstewart209

You are right, some people are just nasty, however, I've read a LOT! Of posts saying 'help I'm not loosing... What's wrong' when asked if the weigh their food in grams/ oz the say no I am a good judge of weight, obviously not, like a lot of us that's a weakness, and your over weight as a result! Then when people have lost serious amounts of weight say there is your problem then, and potentially inflated burns/ no exercise. They cop the huff like. A 2 year old and *kitten* it's too hard to weigh everything and excercise....... Then the person asking for help gets nasty to the others trying to help. Is it that much of a surprise?!
Don't gete wrong I don't agree with anyone being mean, I used to be the 'eyeball my food' person. Then I woke up and realised I was rubbish at it ! Now 5 stone loss says that extra 10 mins weighing food is so frigging worth it! It's human nature, people want help , but only want to put in minimum effort for max results.