If you didn't have a significant other...?

Happy4lifeHHH
Happy4lifeHHH Posts: 188 Member
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If you didn't have a significant other, what would you be doing differently? And does having a significant other really prevent you from doing those things, or do you chose not to do them because of them?

For me, if I wasn't with my boyfriend, I would be eating a lot healthier and spending more time doing homework/studying. He doesn't keep me from doing these things but being with him makes doing those things way more difficult..

What about you?
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  • lockmand
    lockmand Posts: 90 Member
    I married when I was 16. I always wanted to go to college and become a teacher,and after I had 4 children, I did that. I had six children when I graduated college.Actually graduated same yr one of my daughters did! I am now retired from teaching. Significant otheres never kept me from doing anything I had the desire to do.
    We make our own choices when it comes to what we do or do not do. I have told many students "No one can make you do anything, you must decide what you do with your life. I cannot teach any of you if you do not wish to learn". The choice is up to you, and the consequences both good and bad follow the choices you make. You just need to decide what you want to do with your life, and get to it!
  • YankeeMikeHotel
    YankeeMikeHotel Posts: 207
    Find a sugar mamma so I could quit and stay home full time with my girls.
  • MorgueBabe
    MorgueBabe Posts: 1,188 Member
    Nothing.
  • n2thenight24
    n2thenight24 Posts: 1,651 Member
    I would have freaky sex with strangers. Other than that, I can't think of anything.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    I would have freaky sex with strangers. Other than that, I can't think of anything.

    :laugh:
  • BamBam1113
    BamBam1113 Posts: 542 Member
    I would have freaky sex with strangers. Other than that, I can't think of anything.


    I mean.....what more needs to be said?
  • rosebarnalice
    rosebarnalice Posts: 3,488 Member
    Without him, I would be a lonely bookworm with 37 cats and probably weigh 400 lbs.

    With him, I feel beautiful and happy--even when I'm not at my healthiest weight--and he inspires me to want to maintain my health so we can go on being happy together for another 28 years.
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
    Without him, I would be a lonely bookworm with 37 cats

    Me too. I have three WITH him and without him - well, just how many cats CAN a 500 square foot studio hold? It's likely I would test this out scientifically. And I'd be even less likely to leave the house, which with my current shut-in status, would be problematic.

    Positives? Without him I would never step on a d4, broken miniature yet to painted, or knock over a four foot stack of Magic The Gathering Cards that he "swears" is "organized just in the right way!".
  • 7funnygirl7
    7funnygirl7 Posts: 1,176
    Find a sugar mamma so I could quit and stay home full time with my girls.
    Awe, this is kinda sweet in a weird kinda way.
  • BeachGingerOnTheRocks
    BeachGingerOnTheRocks Posts: 3,927 Member
    If I didn't have my significant other, I'd be searching for him trying to make him my significant other.
  • jbutterflye
    jbutterflye Posts: 1,914 Member
    I would join the circus. Or go on a walkabout.
  • ccburn5
    ccburn5 Posts: 473 Member
    I'd be a hell of a lot happier to begin with. Other than that, not sure.
  • knittnponder
    knittnponder Posts: 1,953 Member
    I have gained confidence and the courage to try so many things BECAUSE of my husband. He's the one who pushes me to go try those things I want to do.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,989 Member
    It would suck cause my income tax rate would be higher.:laugh:

    A.C.E. Certified Personal/Group FitnessTrainer
    IDEA Fitness member
    Kickboxing Certified Instructor
    Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
  • xtina1129
    xtina1129 Posts: 111 Member
    If I didn't have a significant other, I'd be dating women. LOL
  • horseplaypen
    horseplaypen Posts: 442 Member
    Without him, I would be a lonely bookworm with 37 cats and probably weigh 400 lbs.

    Ditto. My bf has been quietly pushing me toward a healthier, fitter, more confident self since we started dating 10 years ago. I'm happy to say that it finally took.

    At the point, the only think I would have if I weren't with him is pink hair... so again it's probably good for my professional image that we're together. :)
  • dakotababy
    dakotababy Posts: 2,407 Member
    I guess the ONLY thing I would do if I did not have my SO...i would move back to my home city - which has better job opportunities. Other than that - i would be doing everything the exact same that i do now.
  • AmyMgetsfit
    AmyMgetsfit Posts: 636 Member
    I have been married for 36 years, I forget what life was like before him. Maybe I had no life, that's why I can't remember. I would be a very lonely person. Without him, I would not have my kids and grandkids. Being married does not stop me from doing something I really want to do. The only thing I can think of is food. He doesn't like Indian or Mexican food. So I don't cook those things. My daughters and I have a girls night out once in awhile and we go to dinner, usually Indian or Mexican, so I get my food fix in then.
  • trophywife24
    trophywife24 Posts: 1,472 Member
    I would probably be living somewhere in Europe. I was all set to move to England in September 2003 and met my now husband in June so.... :)

    ETA because I didn't really answer the question. I don't feel like being married stops me from doing anything. I didn't have any plans for my life other than trot off to England. :wink:
  • Sherbog
    Sherbog Posts: 1,072 Member
    And does having a significant other really prevent you from doing those things, or do you chose not to do them because of them?

    For me, if I wasn't with my boyfriend, I would be eating a lot healthier and spending more time doing homework/studying. He doesn't keep me from doing these things but being with him makes doing those things way more difficult..


    If I was with someone that had that much impact on my choices I would be questioniing my decision making process. Most likely I would start looking for a new person to share time with.

    Shirley in Oregon
  • dorothytd
    dorothytd Posts: 1,138 Member
    I would be over-extending myself, saying "yes" to too many things. He taught me that sometimes I need to just be home, or just "be" ....
  • leska1216
    leska1216 Posts: 260
    I don't have a significant other or another. However, I do have a boyfriend who lives in another town and we see each other every 2 weeks or so. Talk most evenings.

    Does he stop me from doing things I like to do? No, of course not. But I do make him get up and do things with me. I get bored very easily and don't like warm rooms, so it's outside for another walk!!
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    I'd be looking for someone like him.

    But I'd also likely have even more cats than I have now, which would probably scare him off. Heck if HE had as many or more cats as we have now, it would have scared ME off!

    You have to gradually ease into being crazy cat people. :blushing:
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    If I were a divorce attorney I'd be handing quite a few of you my business card.
  • DontStopB_Leakin
    DontStopB_Leakin Posts: 3,863 Member
    If I were a divorce attorney I'd be handing quite a few of you my business card.
    Right?


    Starting to think it might be time for a career change..
  • lilmissbamaqueen
    lilmissbamaqueen Posts: 184
    I'd be very sad and lonely.... I can't imagine life without my BF.
  • fara180
    fara180 Posts: 1,260 Member
    when i am single, i am much more focused on my own success. i guess this is because maintaining a healthy and vibrant relationship is really important to me and often takes precedence over other things because i find it so rewarding. for example, when i am seeing someone, i am less likely to put *as much* effort into my school work, occupation and platonic friendships. it's really not healthy is it? i'm also in MUCH better shape when i'm single because i feel the need to look tip-top for the opposite sex :p
  • sunsnstatheart
    sunsnstatheart Posts: 2,544 Member
    I'd be cranky. She's pretty awesome.
  • auroranflash
    auroranflash Posts: 3,569 Member
    I'm awesome with or without my bf. It's not 50/50, it's 100/100. Gotta stay your own person and work on you until you die. Otherwise you're not really living.
  • meredith1123
    meredith1123 Posts: 843 Member
    i'd probably be the same. There wouldnt be much difference.
    I have me, myself and I.
    and the kids.
    seems fine to me.

    i'd probably be 10 pounds lighter also.

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