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tpfoodie
tpfoodie Posts: 148 Member
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I love it when new people add me as a friend. It feels great to lose weight with other members of the MFP community.

But the first time I see the "so and so has been inactive for three days" thing, I unfriend them. It's not because I don't want to be supportive, or because I think less of them. But I really want to stay committed to this, and the more people I see who have been away for a week or even a month, the harder it is to convince myself that I should take the effort to track everything, every day.

So if you add me, wonderful! But please don't be offended if I unfriend you if you go on hiatus.
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  • mdepko
    mdepko Posts: 283 Member
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    Feel free to friend me. I have along way to go and plan on staying on here even after the weight loss. If I can't get to a computer, I at least log my food and exercise from my phone and check messages.
  • JamesChargerWolf
    JamesChargerWolf Posts: 83 Member
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    I'm with you too. I know I'm relatively new but this isn't a fad. I made the decision to do the damn thing and I'm doing it! At 3 days I consider unfriending. I see how many friends they have and give them another chance if they don't have that many.

    But I also unfriend people that decide to do fad diets and eat too few calories. We're just not on the same path.
  • jenifr818
    jenifr818 Posts: 805 Member
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    I'm forgiving with 3 days. Computers crash, vacations happen without laptops or cell phones (heaven forbid haha), and life happens in general. 3 just seems too strict.

    I don't know that I'd 'hang up' on someone until they've been gone for about a month. I'd probably send them a message first though. "hey, just checking in" kinda thing.
  • ittybittybadonkadonk
    ittybittybadonkadonk Posts: 11,634 Member
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    Anyone is welcome to add me .... wishing you much success in your healthy lifestyle :bigsmile:
  • Nerdybreisawesome
    Nerdybreisawesome Posts: 359 Member
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    I only do it if it's been weeks not 3 days. What if the went on vacation and were out of cell range?
    I also unfriend if their ideas about eating are super duperly different than mine. If we clash that much, there won't be any support from either side, just bickering. I also unfriend if I find out you eat way to few calories.
  • Gr8ChangesAhead
    Gr8ChangesAhead Posts: 836 Member
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    I have logged everyday for almost a year, more friends the merrier.
  • MorgueBabe
    MorgueBabe Posts: 1,188 Member
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    Weeks yes. days no.
    Life happens.
    People die.
    Pets Die.
    Computers break.
    Power goes out for a week.
  • auntiemsgr8
    auntiemsgr8 Posts: 483 Member
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    I love it when new people add me as a friend. It feels great to lose weight with other members of the MFP community.

    But the first time I see the "so and so has been inactive for three days" thing, I unfriend them. It's not because I don't want to be supportive, or because I think less of them. But I really want to stay committed to this, and the more people I see who have been away for a week or even a month, the harder it is to convince myself that I should take the effort to track everything, every day.

    So if you add me, wonderful! But please don't be offended if I unfriend you if you go on hiatus.


    Just curious, what if you were friends with me and I have inactivated that on my profile? Along with the 'so and so has logged in 525 days' and all/most of the other updates???
  • TNR32
    TNR32 Posts: 110 Member
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    I think 3 days is too strict. I don't log for 3 days each month. Drill weekends. And no cell with internet capablities or laptop that I can bring with. So yeah I think 3 days is too strict.
  • lotusspark
    lotusspark Posts: 367
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    I've only unfriended a handful, the reason in the past was non participants.. not trying to return the support.
    I have come back with the thought, even they might need a support motivator+ one day appreciate me.lol
    Besides I get a lot from the friendships on here..I have sent emails asking when they go absent 'hey, are
    you ok'?
    Aside from all that, I log everyday, have open diary+ accept new friends. =)
  • hubtech
    hubtech Posts: 43 Member
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    I only do it if it's been weeks not 3 days. What if the went on vacation and were out of cell range?
    I also unfriend if their ideas about eating are super duperly different than mine. If we clash that much, there won't be any support from either side, just bickering. I also unfriend if I find out you eat way to few calories.

    ^^^ This for me too. Any one can add me if they are up for some mutual support.
  • baja572
    baja572 Posts: 94
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    I wait longer than 3 days because some have been sick with fl;. and with families to tend they don't have time and energy to be on here. I understand your reasons.
  • Jubee31
    Jubee31 Posts: 93 Member
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    3 days seems really short -- people go on vacations, have family emergencies, etc.... And what if they come back and see people have unfriended them? It's your decision obviously, but what if the tables were turned?
  • GrammyStacey3
    GrammyStacey3 Posts: 5
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    just joined this site today trying to meet other people who are trying to eat healthier and excercise I am doing insanity with my husband. Anyone else doing insanity? any success stories?
  • leftoverbun
    leftoverbun Posts: 111 Member
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    3 days? Wow. If each of my friends doesn't post a witty or supportive comment on my profile every 2 hours, I kick 'em to the curb.
  • tchnlrn
    tchnlrn Posts: 20 Member
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    I didn't login most of this week - not because I wasn't committed but because I've had two days of work crisis M/T, my husband had a car crash W, and a family member died F. Life is like that.
  • kelcro40
    kelcro40 Posts: 115 Member
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    I love it when new people add me as a friend. It feels great to lose weight with other members of the MFP community.

    But the first time I see the "so and so has been inactive for three days" thing, I unfriend them. It's not because I don't want to be supportive, or because I think less of them. But I really want to stay committed to this, and the more people I see who have been away for a week or even a month, the harder it is to convince myself that I should take the effort to track everything, every day.

    So if you add me, wonderful! But please don't be offended if I unfriend you if you go on hiatus.

    I feel the same way, but usually wait a while in case they just have life going on and can't get on for a few days or week etc. I went on two 2 week trips in 30 days time and logged in every day from my phone even when sick! Dedicated!
  • JenniTheVeggie
    JenniTheVeggie Posts: 2,474 Member
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    Feel free to add me!
  • ukloveme
    ukloveme Posts: 125
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    This topic is hilarous, how you going to unfriend a person after 3 days. I wouldnt want you as a friend anyway what kind of support our you. One of my friends on MFP hadn't log in for two weeks and I was sending her email to say please come back. When she did reply it was a week later and her dad had die in car crash. i was amazed she even could reply after what happened. I was not logged in for a whole week due to my account been locked by MFP.

    Good Luck in your journey
  • kdeaux1959
    kdeaux1959 Posts: 2,675 Member
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    I have never been affected by others not logging in. Also, there are times when mfp has gone awry and it has reported people as not having been on for the past month that I had interacted with earlier that morning. To each his own. As for me, I really don't worry too much about that. Occasionally I'll drop somebody I have not seen anything from for a fe months... but not a major factor with me.

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