Why/how did you become overweight?

9thwardchick

I have always been thick. Being a sista in the South, it was a good thing : )

Stress related work problems caused me to start drinking alot in 2008, I was 38. In 2009, my mom suddenly passed away and I started drinking more. Within 2 years I had gained 28 pounds. I didn't do anything for another year and I gained 14 more pounds. The day that I had trouble buckling my shoes, I cried. I started exercising again, but nothing really happened until I started counting calories. In 7 months I have lost 9 pounds. It's slow and steady but, it's working.

x_ItNeverEnds_x

I was a heavy baby, a chubby toddler, a pudgy preschooler, a fat preteen/teen. My parents fed me to much of the wrong stuff. It wasn't till I was 15 that I started changing things. TO "shut us up" My dad would give us a dollar each and we would get a 50Cent soda and 2 25 cent little Debbie cakes each. They would take us to Burger King 2-3X a week and At 12 I would get a double whopper, large soda, large fries and a milkshake. I could eat it all and still be hungry.

I'm chubby now because I'm seriously addicted to carbs mainly bagels, crackers, English muffins and chips. LOL

fitplease

Or were you once a healthy weight?
Did you "let yourself go"?
Or perhaps it was due to a traumatic event, injury or medication?
(Over)eating homemade, whole foods, or was it only through eating essentially crap food, processed foods, restaurant/fast food?

All of these.
I also didn't realize how much I'd gained because I was thin and almost always thought of myself as thin. It took a long time before I realized I didn't just gain a few pounds, but that I was overweight. My doctor made it hit home that it was time to lose weight and keep it off.

icimani

I was sexually abused by brother from ages 6-5. (I can't believe I'm posting this!) People talk about emotional eating - I think I ate so I wouldn't feel anything, and I got very good at not feeling anything. Comfort food was my friend, especially growing up in a family where meat & potatoes ruled. Even so, I was a jock in high school and college so even though I was overweight all the activity kept it in check. After college I stopped being a jock but never changed my eating habits. Later, even though it was subconscious, I'm pretty sure I gained weight as a protection - against any kind of emotional attachment to people... against life.

Fast forward to post-grad school - the memories started coming back, depression and PTSD set in, and comfort food was...well.... a comfort. And the depression made it all but impossible to get moving and get some exercise, and I was on a cocktail of 5 different psych meds, some of which caused some weight gain. I was also drinking a lot of alcohol to forget and probably came closer to being an alcoholic than I'd like to think about.

Fast forward again to now:
- years of therapy later, no more psych meds
- joined a gym and work out 5-6 times a week
- the gym has a pool and I swim 3-4 times a week
- I see a nutritionist/dietician who believes in real food and no diets
- I've dropped from a 4x-shoulda-been-a-5x to 1x, size 28 to 22
- I've lost just under 100 pounds and I'm about halfway to my current weight goal.

janetlynn31

Were you always overweight? no -- I was always at a normal, healthy weight until I had kids.
Or were you once a healthy weight? yes -- until I was about 30
Did you "let yourself go"? -- I wouldn't call it "letting myself go" as in eating everything in sight, wearing sloppy clothes, looking like trash ... even though I put on a few pounds, I always tried to look neat
Or perhaps it was due to a traumatic event, injury or medication? -- I did succumb to stress eating and just not paying attention -- dealt with some depression and a couple of traumatic events that added to it
And did anyone become overweight while still being an active person and (over)eating homemade, whole foods, or was it only through eating essentially crap food, processed foods, restaurant/fast food? -- I've always eaten pretty healthy overall -- my problem has always been portion control - it's never been about what I eat but how much.

sassafrascas

I was a chubby baby, a healthy toddler. Around 5 I got very sick was on a lot of medication. Parents got a divorce. Started gaining weight steadily from there. I spent most of every day alone at home while my single mom worked 2 jobs onlly thing to comfort me was food. I was picked on in school from 4th grade on. I think i wieghed more than 200 pounds in junior high. My parents did not know how to help doctors after doctor offered no solution. So by senior year in high school i was at 400 pounds. After graduating I had GBS got down to 290 but the emotional and mental attachment to food was still huge even if my stomach and GI tract were smaller. So now I'm at 320, trying to find balance and truly make a lifestyle change.

feellikerain

I've always been somewhat overweight, but during college I just let it aaaaaall go. I had a roommate who loved to cook (high cal foods). We loved to party (ughh.. alcohol) and then of course there was the obligatory pizza pick-up on the way home whenever we were out late at night. Between schoolwork, school activities, working, and hanging with friends, I didn't leave myself any time for exercise, and I didn't really care! Once I graduated college, I knew it was time to get serious about my health and well-being or it would come back to bite me in the butt very, very soon!

taymarie8046

Personally, I was active in middle and high school. I made sure to watch what I ate and tried to get as much exercise as I could.

When college came and I met alcohol it all went downhill for alittle and I gained 30 lbs. Lost it over my sophomore year after having food poisoning and several fad diets. Without fail, just like everyone said, I gained it all back plus more!!!!

A couple years later, and losing about 15 lbs on weight watchers, I'm here to do it all the right way!!! (weight watchers became too expensive and I know my body better than they do.)

Always looking for motivational friends!

odddrums

I've always considered myself overweight. I grew up eating well but I had the mentality of eating a lot and really fast, and I think that's what did me in. I lost weight in HS when I joined the football team, but then the season ended and I'd gain it back. Then I kinda would teeter-totter between boughts of caring and not caring, drinking and such, stress in grad school and then work.

I didn't become overweight for a particular reason, I just was always heavy and thought of myself as a "fat kid." This month was the first time that I can remember being under 200 pounds in my life, and it's the first time I've been able to jog for 5 miles and not feel like I'm dying.I would have never ever seen myself doing these things, but now I am and it's crazy.

Nicolle71

My answer is:
No, I was not always overweight/nor did I struggle with my weight. I gained approx. 56 pounds in a 16 month period. My 14 year old daughter died on Jan 3, 2011 and it killed me. I ate because it was the only thing that made me feel like I was still alive. I don't know what I am supposed to do from here but I am doing something.

metacognition

I was overweight and chubby as a child. When I was 8 I remember going to gymnastics class and feeling awful in my leotard because I had a very large pot belly. I stayed chubby and obese through high school and college.

In my childhood, my grandmother used to serve me large plates of white spaghetti soaked in butter and many pans of freshly baked Toll House cookies. Although neither parent was fat, and neither one encouraged unhealthy habits, I seemed to gain weight very easily in those years.

GwennyH

Were you always overweight? No, I used to be a perfectly healthy weight: definitely not skinny, but not overweight either.

Did you "let yourself go"? Yes. Partially because other things became a higher priority (my kids and other important things in life), but partially, because I did not realize my metabolism was slowing down as I aged. I still had the "I can eat anything I want and it won't hurt me" mindset, which worked okay in my 20's. Not so much into my 30's! Approaching 40's now, it is absolutely NOT working, LOL. And, it didn't help that I still "felt" young/fit and not bad-looking, when in fact, my self-perception was REALLY skewed. I was actually getting really big/bloated. I didn't see it in the mirror every morning, but I sure started seeing it in pictures people took of me. Eventually I started dodging cameras and then I was aware that I had a problem.

Or perhaps it was due to a traumatic event, injury or medication? Nope. Although I'm hypothyroid with fluctuating medication levels, I really can't blame that. If anything, I believe the Hypothyroidism was aggravated (maybe even partially caused?) more by the way I was living/eating and NOT the other way around...

And did anyone become overweight while still being an active person and (over)eating homemade, whole foods, or was it only through eating essentially crap food, processed foods, restaurant/fast food? Almost the entire time I was overweight, I was also an active person, with up to 3 toddlers at the same time (back to back to back children to chase)... I even ran-walked a marathon at just 10 lbs under my highest weight. We hiked/explored routinely and do a lot of family activities like swimming, waterparks, etc). But activity made no difference when I was taking in unlimited Coca Cola, drive-thru, homemade baked goods (homemade is not necessarily healthier, something I have since learned from tracking) and eating whatever, whenever I wanted...

To me, AWARENESS was the first step. BALANCE was the second step: active AND diet-conscious, yet not depriving or frustratingly difficult rules to live by... Now I'm "almost" to the healthy weight range again and I'm excited! My eyes are now open to what I was previously doing to myself... And I can't "let myself go" anymore.

wikitbikit

Pretty much always been a chubber! I was a shy child, possibly vaguely intelligent. I preferred reading to most other activities; I certainly preferred it to exercise. I discovered 'being online' in the late 80s and basically never logged off, aside from some short stints where I went clubbing and bar-hopping a ton (and was pretty hot, if I may say so, lol). In my mid-teens I was also diagnosed with both depression and hypothyroidism, and throughout my life I have often been terrible about taking my meds. Also, I really like pizza and beer.

I haven't eaten too poorly for a long time, but I really basically just don't move enough.

deathbypretzel

I used to be slim when I was 6 or so, but progressively got chubbier and chubbier until where I am now.
My parents taught me to eat crap food in large quantities. I would compete with my dad to see who could eat the last slice of pizza (we're only a family of three, so we shouldn't be finished off an XL pizza in one sitting anyways). Same with pumpkin pie, cheesecake, Velveeta shells n' cheese, etc. I normally try not to blame people for EVERYTHING, but I think in this case I can. They are my parents, after all, and it's not like I knew better.
I'm trying to be more responsible about what I eat now that I'm a teenager, but it's hard when you're not the one who buys the food in your house. I just have to pick the best of the worst foods. Since I get a few bucks a week for school lunch, I save that up and buy fruit and veggies at the store on my way home, instead of the horrendous school lunches, and back bento-style lunches packed with fruit and veg instead of an s-ton of rice. They're fun for me to make and I can easily control portion sizes.
It doesn't really seem to be working so far, only because it's hard for me to be consistent. Weekends are still really hard, because my family like to go out to eat - and it's hard to just get a small salad.
At one point last summer I lost ~25lbs, but it all packed back on in the fall and winter. Now I'm down 10lbs...80 more to go lol.

Christylee76

How did I become overweight? Well I grew up with a mother who loved to eat out...I mean 3 meals a day. We went to places like Red Lobster,Applebees, Mcdonalds..all the time, she never cooked except maybe Christmas. To this day..she still asked me everyday to eat out and I finally got the will power to say no, for some reason this was when my son was killed. It has strained my marriage somewhat because I crave fast food and my hubby grew up with a garden and home cooked meals.....

auteurfille22

I always loved food, especially sweets, from when I was little. I wasn't fat at the time because my parents controlled what I ate for the most part, and I was very tall for my age, and so even though I ate a lot, I grew a lot too, and it didn't matter. But when I was around twelve and started puberty, my parents both started working full time (before one was stay-at-home and the other worked part-time) and so all of a sudden no one was around to tell me to eat my fruits and vegetables and not ice cream and cookies. I started gaining weight but didn't really pay it any mind because my parents told me it was part of puberty and I was just growing up (bear in mind they weren't really aware how much bad stuff I had started eating). I used this logic to let my eating get totally out of hand - I ate, and ate, and ate, and stopped caring that I was gaining weight because I figured that 1) I was tall so I would grow and it would be fine, and 2) puberty would naturally slow things down (I don't really know where I got that from but hey, hungry twelve year old me thought it made sense). But I stopped growing, and reached my current height of 5'5", quite an average height. My weight kept increasing though, until now, when I've finally decided that I need to take control of my body, stop putting junk in it, and get back on the right track while I'm still lucky enough to have a young and fast metabolism.

JenCM

I was a very active kid - we grew up on a farm, I played soccer, rode a bike everywhere, etc. Even still, I was always a little taller and a little heavier than the other kids. So even when I look back now and see I was fit and healthy, I still felt "fat" (5-10 lbs bigger is Huge when you're little!). I also started puberty early and developed early. This all changed around 13 when my parents got into a bad divorce. I was 5'3" - the height I am now - then and weighed 125-130 lbs. Things were bad in the divorce, a lot of problems with my mother and my brother was with her and me with my dad and it was hard all around. I started self comforting with food very heavily. I'd done it off and on at times before then, but only a cookie here or there. It went south fast. I gained and gained and didn't have friends because I was the fat girl, so that made me more sad so I ate more. I've had many many times where I got a hold of myself and lost weight. But every time it came back on and I gained even more back. I hit my low point a couple years in 2010 after my Dad passed away a couple years before...I'd eaten myself up to 368 lbs in a bad depression - nearly 100 lbs since he'd passed away. So the self soothe cycle with food is a big big issue with me. One I continue to struggle and fail at. =/

wendybird5

Were you always overweight?
Or were you once a healthy weight?
Did you "let yourself go"?
Or perhaps it was due to a traumatic event, injury or medication?
And did anyone become overweight while still being an active person and (over)eating homemade, whole foods, or was it only through eating essentially crap food, processed foods, restaurant/fast food?

I was average growing up. Not fat, not skinny, just medium sized. My parents and doctors never said anything about my weight and it was never an issue.

Then in college I started gaining weight because instead of being at home eating the healthy meals my mom made, I was celebrating my freedom and adulthood by eating whatever I wanted. My mother has always been super healthy and all our food was made from scratch either from the garden or local, fresh ingredients. Even our bread was homemade from wheatvwe got from a relative's farm and then ground ourselves. I never had to think about what to eat before because Mom always did it for us. But suddenly to go from fresh, natural to instant and prepackaged everything... I went from a medium to an XL in no time.

I thought the solution was to exercise. I'd workout a lot, lose some weight and then stall. Then I'd get frustrated, give up, gain back double the weight I'd lost - rinse and repeat. I gained the weight gradually and figured it was genetics because I'd heard my biological dad had weight issues and since my sister and mom were so small. It took me almost 15 years to gain all that weight so I didn't turn fat overnight, but now that I've finally made the connection between quantity of calories, quality of food and how it affects my weight, I think I'll be able to keep this weight off and stay healthy for the rest of my life.

Or until I get tired of all the attention and admiration of men and decide to get fat again so they will leave me alone. Ha ha.

nuemmedigg

Was chubby as a baby, always a little overweight as a kid, healthy as a young adult. Then gained weight with each pregnancy. I hit critical mass when I watched myself on a video taken at a conference... enter MFP for the second time.

psych0kitty

I was skinny all the way through my late teens and I didn't know it. I always thought I was fat, but when I see pictures of myself back then, I can't believe how skinny I was.

In my early 20's, three things happened: started on a bunch of medications (including birth control pills... never again!), was in a relationship with someone who reinforced my bad behavior, and stopped being vegetarian (read: OMG MCDONALDS).

14 years and 90 pounds later, I'm off all medications, but the weight I had gained didn't care. I am happily married to a man I basically forced to quit smoking (woohoo!) who gained a lot of weight as a result, so now we're both trying to regain control. It's nice to be able to do it together, except that he gets to eat so much more than I do.

JenniferNoll

I was a fat kid up until the summer I was 14. Then I met a boy who actually liked me and for whom my weight was a non-issue. I lost the weight without even trying just because I was so happy at the time. I was a slim teen, and only gained a little weight in college. On my 32nd birthday, I was diagnosed with crohn's disease, and put on some seriously high doses of corticosteroids. I gained 70 pounds, topping at 213 pounds. Now that my condition is under control, I am doing well enough to do what I can to be healthier. I'm going to the gym 5 days a week, eating much better now that I can digest something other than pudding and slimfast, and having fun with my kids and husband. Life is going to only get better.

nashsheri33

i got fat because i ate too much of the wrong foods and thought exercise was punishment. i didn't know what was healthy and what wasn't. i got very fat when i became diabetic but went undiagnosed for 3 years or so. after getting proper treatment and an education, i did much better. after 12 years of being on a permanent diet, i overworked myself and just gave up and had a tantrum that lasted for 3 years.
now i'm fat again, and that's what i earned.
but i'm earning my health back, one day at a time.

_Pseudonymous_

I have always been chubby for as long as I can remember. At one point I lost 100 lbs and was partying and loving life but then I had a series of events happen in my life. I use to run until an abusive boyfriend injured my hip and made me feel small and victimized and put me into flashbacks of a harder time in my life. Shortly afterwards I was mugged at gunpoint and then a man.tried to abduct me and I gave up on health altogether and plumpled up to a number higher than I have ever seen before. I never left my home except to.go to. Work I orded pizza and Chinese food rather than groceries. I think part of me thought if I got fat and stopped doing my hair and make.up then less people would pay attention to me and people wouldn't want to hurt me anymore. It's silly I.know and agr, its something I never noticed until I was evaluating my.life.

So, I decided I would no linger allow these events to victimize me and I would start raking my life back. I walked to.the store last week and am eating healthy, which I actually really enjoy. I am working up.the courage to go running outside. I wake up early in the morning to do it, I just have to do it.

I realize how ridiculous my story sounds buuuuut yeah... That's that. Feels good to get off my chest. ^_^

Enigmatica

Were you always overweight?

>> Nope. I was a very active, athletic, light/medium weight kid

Or were you once a healthy weight?

>> Yes, even after having 2 kids

Did you "let yourself go"?

>> More like I threw myself away in a spiral of personal turmoil related to divorce, financial crises, family garbage, etc

Or perhaps it was due to a traumatic event, injury or medication?

>> Actually all 3 were contributing factors. I was suffering from PTSD but couldn't figure out what was going on and didn't have insurance, time, or money to go for the kind of help I needed anyway. My knee was broken out at a right angle to my body in an accident with a horse at work, taking me out of the hard physical outdoorsy work I had done for years. And the one doctor visit I did go to put me on an anti-depressant that messed up my thyroid and made me hungry all the time, but I didn't find out that was a side effect until years later. At that point I didn't care that my weight was exploding. I had much more serious problems.

And did anyone become overweight while still being an active person and (over)eating homemade, whole foods, or was it only through eating essentially crap food, processed foods, restaurant/fast food?

>> Crap food, all the way. Eating crap food was kind of my way of proving to myself that even though so much was beyond my control, at least I could eat what pleased me. Now I cringe thinking of what I used to eat. Ow.

issyfit

For those of you who want to share, I am interested to hear your stories about why/how you became overweight.

Were you always overweight?

always overweight but extremely active (ranked tennis player) until a knee injury at age 52

Or were you once a healthy weight?

Only for short periods at a time

Did you "let yourself go"?

After my injury I substituted the internet for my exercise but didn't change my eating habits.

Or perhaps it was due to a traumatic event, injury or medication?

Later had lots of joint problems including a hip replacement.

And did anyone become overweight while still being an active person and (over)eating homemade, whole foods, or was it only through eating essentially crap food, processed foods, restaurant/fast food?

Was always very active but just ate too much. I also taught PE and tennis many years but still overate. It was a combination of lots of healthy foods but also too much crap.

Willowana

Were you always overweight?

No. I started gaining weight when I was very young, though. I had an abusive step-father who beat me like clock work. I think I was overeating because that's what made me feel better. I spent a time in my teens when I was rail thin, but once I hit about 15 the pounds started coming back on. More abuse, just a different kind this time and not by the same hands.

Or were you once a healthy weight?

Once, in my early preteens. I was practicing karate and jogging a lot. My friends kept me active, and I didn't think about food much.

Or perhaps it was due to a traumatic event, injury or medication?

Since my 20's I've had severe nerve pain and muscle cramping. Many doctors later, I finally found out at the age of 30 that I have Fibromyalgia, but I'm not letting that stop me anymore. With the right medication, I'm now working to lose the weight I've carried so long.

And did anyone become overweight while still being an active person and (over)eating homemade, whole foods, or was it only through eating essentially crap food, processed foods, restaurant/fast food?

Crap Food

KabesXO

I was slightly overweight as a child, however even the smallest bit of budge will attract bullies. And with bullies came stress - mostly during the awkward pre-teen stage. I gained about 30lbs in the year before highschool started. I hated myself with a passion, and drastically changed avoiding eating. I lost over 50lbs in a matter of months, and once i got over my "food fear fad" I began eating regularly. Of course, that resulted in a big weight gain. Then college began, and I'm now the heaviest I've ever been. I blame stress, and eating crappy processed foods - no ones fault but myself. However I'm working on it, in hopes of achieving a healthy weight (but maintaining some curves!).

wikitbikit

So, I decided I would no linger allow these events to victimize me and I would start raking my life back. I walked to.the store last week and am eating healthy, which I actually really enjoy. I am working up.the courage to go running outside. I wake up early in the morning to do it, I just have to do it.

I realize how ridiculous my story sounds buuuuut yeah... That's that. Feels good to get off my chest. ^_^

Far, far from silly. Fat is a really good defense mechanism-- and you certainly had your share of hard knocks. Congratulations on your bravery!

_Pseudonymous_

So, I decided I would no linger allow these events to victimize me and I would start raking my life back. I walked to.the store last week and am eating healthy, which I actually really enjoy. I am working up.the courage to go running outside. I wake up early in the morning to do it, I just have to do it.

I realize how ridiculous my story sounds buuuuut yeah... That's that. Feels good to get off my chest. ^_^

Far, far from silly. Fat is a really good defense mechanism-- and you certainly had your share of hard knocks. Congratulations on your bravery!

Thank you! It feels good to hear someone say that. makes me feel not as crazy. Haha.

tammymusic1

Was 108 lb when I got married and quite strong age 22. 110lbs at 25 when I got pregnant with my first child. Had 4 kids in 6years. Bed rest with all 4 midway through. Then got to busy with them thought I never had time to exercise I did not take care of me. THat is how I got fat.