Mixed weight Couples: what are your thoughts?

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  • SwimFan1981
    SwimFan1981 Posts: 1,430 Member
    Peter Griffin


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  • dirtnap63
    dirtnap63 Posts: 1,387 Member
    Archie Bunker
  • triciab79
    triciab79 Posts: 1,713 Member
    He was sexy to me before I lost the weight. Why should that change? I know a lot of girls hone in on the six pack but smart, kind, good, great dad, and a little geeky, plus he loves me for me not my looks, that beats a 6 pack any day of the week. :flowerforyou:

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  • mmddwechanged
    mmddwechanged Posts: 1,687 Member
    You know I've come to the conclusion that I just love men's chests. Bulky, skinny, plump, don't care! They are all lovely:)

    (Does this belong here )
  • dirtnap63
    dirtnap63 Posts: 1,387 Member
    You know I've come to the conclusion that I just love men's chests. Bulky, skinny, plump, don't care! They are all lovely:)

    (Does this belong here )

    The feeling is mutual.
  • DekkaTwoOneWizzy
    DekkaTwoOneWizzy Posts: 62
    A finely textured character cannot be trumped in the long term...i agree mam.
  • ladymiseryali
    ladymiseryali Posts: 2,555 Member
    My fiance has a bit of a spare tire, but I'm more attracted to his brains, his handsome mug and another appendage that I can't mention......
  • susheetush
    susheetush Posts: 621 Member
    I was 20 - 30kgs more than my ex, and he was a foot taller. He loved it, I didn't. I lost weight, he got insecure, which added to issues that were already there, and we broke up.

    My current guy is taller and heavier than me, but not by much. But I wouldn't care if he was bigger. I'm not sure about someone smaller than me though....
  • mmddwechanged
    mmddwechanged Posts: 1,687 Member
    You know I've come to the conclusion that I just love men's chests. Bulky, skinny, plump, don't care! They are all lovely:)

    (Does this belong here )

    The feeling is mutual.

    I burst out laughing! Your eyebrow just works so well with that comment!!!
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,237 Member
    Well you only have to look how many "my skinny husband sabotages me because I've totally changed my lifestyle and expect him to totally change his because I have no willpower when he eats chips" threads there are to see why mixed-weight couples might have more conflict.

    I wonder if there is a significant difference between mixed weight couples who are both happy with their own weight and eachothers, and mixed weight couples where one or the other is not happy with their own, or their partners weight.
  • weighlossforbaby
    weighlossforbaby Posts: 847 Member
    If you love eachother why would it matter? My husband is bigger than me and I like it that way.
  • cindiva65
    cindiva65 Posts: 335 Member
    He was sexy to me before I lost the weight. Why should that change? I know a lot of girls hone in on the six pack but smart, kind, good, great dad, and a little geeky, plus he loves me for me not my looks, that beats a 6 pack any day of the week. :flowerforyou:

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    As it should be...you both are cute. :drinker:
  • 1ConcreteGirl
    1ConcreteGirl Posts: 3,677 Member
    My thoughts: this is a thing?
  • meredith1123
    meredith1123 Posts: 843 Member
    You know I've come to the conclusion that I just love men's chests. Bulky, skinny, plump, don't care! They are all lovely:)

    (Does this belong here )

    The feeling is mutual.

    haha.... nice.
    dude, you look like my uncle alton. weird.
  • angievaughn
    angievaughn Posts: 655 Member
    wow.....my husband is 6'6 and a trim 235....I was only 5'7 and pushing 300.......now, I weigh less than he does!! Yay!! Huge goal for me.

    We have been married 17 years and while our marriage is better now...it's not because of how he felt...it was the way I felt. I flirt with him more now then before because I am a little more sure of myself. I think if you love someone all that other stuff goes to the back of the line. But that's just me!!!
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    I'm gaining 5-10 pounds, he's losing about 75 pounds. I never got along better with anyone else before. I think he's sexy and adorable. I guess he thinks the same, too.
  • Sissy4EverX3
    Sissy4EverX3 Posts: 247
    I totally disagree. When I met mine at age 21, I weighed 297lbs. He was about 190. I ballooned up to 365lbs and he still loved me for me. And while he's now at a healthier 215 (for his height), he complains more about being fat than *I* do.
  • chels0722
    chels0722 Posts: 465 Member
    If there is sex involved, people make it work.
  • RobinvdM
    RobinvdM Posts: 634 Member
    He was sexy to me before I lost the weight. Why should that change? I know a lot of girls hone in on the six pack but smart, kind, good, great dad, and a little geeky, plus he loves me for me not my looks, that beats a 6 pack any day of the week. :flowerforyou:


    you are a beautiful person, and he is one lucky guy :)
    :flowerforyou:
  • sleepytexan
    sleepytexan Posts: 3,138 Member
    Mixed weight. hahahaha.

    No. absolutely not. it's immoral.
  • skinnyinnotime
    skinnyinnotime Posts: 4,078 Member
    I had to re read the title to make sure I read it right.

    I have no thoughts on mixed weight couples.

    BUT when I was overweight (after pregnancy) I did feel a bit sorry for my husband having to be seen with me like that lol!!
  • dcuevas6235
    dcuevas6235 Posts: 135
    All my past gf's were way hotter than me. No complaints here!
  • thethinwhiteduke
    thethinwhiteduke Posts: 7
    i often joke with my husband that when we walk the isles of a store together we look like the number 10. him lean and fit, me short and round. he tells me he loves me fat or thin, it's ME he fell in love with. so long as two people love one another and treat each other well, who cares what they look like. the only one i need to impress is my partner :)
  • seanezekiel
    seanezekiel Posts: 228 Member
    This is honestly something Ive never even thought about. Good people love good people.
  • Emma_Problema
    Emma_Problema Posts: 422 Member
    Interesting article. Hmmm. I get all the points about loving someone no matter their size, but I think there is something to be said for how different levels of health and fitness impact a relationship.

    Most of the men I've dated have weighed less than I have. I've been with some super skinnies. Like 5'9" 135. I liked 'em scrawny for a while. And it always weirded me out. I mean I am 6ft tall with an hourglass shape, but it did bother me. That being said, it never bothered the guys I dated and it never really ended up being an issue.
  • cassiemk85
    cassiemk85 Posts: 20 Member
    My fiance is over a foot taller than me and 100 or so pounds heavier. I love him regardless, I was crazy about him from the moment we met. I dont think it should ever matter. If its right, its right!
  • tayteetots
    tayteetots Posts: 114 Member
    Small sample size alert. Lets not jump to conclusions on ****ty research.

    " Also, mixed-weight couples who ate together often reported more conflict than those who didn't. But couples had less conflict when the overweight person reported feeling the partner was supportive of their efforts to exercise and eat a healthy diet."

    Doesn't even mention statistical significance, probably indicating there was none - just data trends.
  • AngryDiet
    AngryDiet Posts: 1,349 Member
    It's well known that when you lose a few sizes you have to trade your fat friends in for thin ones. But your spouse? I'm not convinced (though I'm leaning in that direction).
  • Missjulesdid
    Missjulesdid Posts: 1,444 Member
    I've never dated a man who is overweight (except my exhusband, went through a period of a few months where he had a bit of a belly, but he lost it quickly) and I've always been very obese myself and have never been of normal weight. Never had any issues with being a "mixed-weight couple". If it was going to be an issue, then we wouldn't be dating in the first place.
  • SakuraRose13
    SakuraRose13 Posts: 621 Member
    My husband has always been slender and before our daughters 19 months apart were born I was fit and curvy.He loved me then and he loves now even 30 lbs heavier ,though he says I did give him the best gift I ever could two beautiful little girls whom he adores.Im losing wieght though Im sure when all the wieght is gone he will just have to love less of me lol The one thing he does love about me losing wieght is my confidience has increased drastically he just wants me to be happy with myself,fyi my youngest turns a year old March 9th coming soon.:)

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