WTF, Who Says That?!?!?!?!?
Replies
-
Pretty much this.Wow, the lack of sense of humor in this thread is appalling. Or maybe it's just everyone is way too insecure. My wife admires other men (and women.) I admire other women. It's a natural thing. If you get bent out of shape over your significant other looking at someone else, or commenting about looking at someone else, then the problem isn't with your significant other.
Yes, right, 'shoot pool...'So many questions?
Are there bars where tons of girls shoot pool? I thought that was only in the movies.
How does one find out beforehand if there will be tons of girls at a particular pool hall? Yelp or something?
You said it's your "rare night out" which indicates a long term relationship. So I doubt if this is the first time he's joked like this. Why is it a big deal today?
If you went, were the other women hot? If so, please share the name of this fine establishment. Next time I go home, my wife and I will check out some.....err....shoot some 'pool' .
I am a really laid back person, and I think it is great that you and your wife are that way...
But I don't know about his approach...asking to make sure there are girls? tacky and lame.
If my husband said that to me, I would laugh wildly, but we joke like that all the time. That's *our* relationship.
Most folks don't have that kind of relationship, so saying something like that to your SO is a bit....dumb.
That being said, I'm not even sure this guy is her SO. If he is, lame. If not, get over it.0 -
Meh, another thread about a guy making some meaningless offhand comment, and a girl analyzing it to death. Read more Cosmo. I think there was a thread on that already this morning.
Edit: Let me add that bringing your cute girlfriend/wife/whathaveyou into the average rat infested pool hall is about as much fun as bringing her into your average red neck bar. I've done both. Not my fave.0 -
What's the problem here?
Guys don't want to look at a bunch of other guys. Is this news?0 -
I shoot pool.
There is no such thing as a pool hall that isn't a sausage fest.
The guy's probably a douche, and probably a sarcastic douche at that. All guys know pool halls are wiener meccas, even sarcastic douches. And girls who shoot pool know there's no such thing as a pool hall full of girls.
Why do you think they like to shoot pool?0 -
I personally think my wife would worry more if I wanted to go to a bar that had all guys in it...
I know, right?
"Yes honey, let's go shoot some pool. Can we go to that place with all the flashing lights and the blaring techno music? i loved it there so much. if i spend 30 mins in the bathroom, do NOT come looking for me."
It sounds like a joke, and if they have been together for a long time, this is NOT the first time he's made a joke like this. So many people around here seem to get upset when they are getting parceled out the most minute info possible. This could be her cousin or roommate for all we know, or she could have made the same joke to him last week and he's responding in kind, yet DTMF is the consensus.0 -
Yea, I would take it as a joke, not a personal attack on my self esteem.I personally think my wife would worry more if I wanted to go to a bar that had all guys in it...
I know, right?
"Yes honey, let's go shoot some pool. Can we go to that place with all the flashing lights and the blaring techno music? i loved it there so much. if i spend 30 mins in the bathroom, do NOT come looking for me."
It sounds like a joke, and if they have been together for a long time, this is NOT the first time he's made a joke like this. So many people around here seem to get upset when they are getting parceled out the most minute info possible. This could be her cousin or roommate for all we know, or she could have made the same joke to him last week and he's responding in kind, yet DTMF is the consensus.
*shrugs*
And agaaaaiiiinn, OP, is this your SO we're talking about, or just a friend?0 -
I personally think my wife would worry more if I wanted to go to a bar that had all guys in it...
I know my wife would rather go to a place with other women, than just a bunch of dudes.0 -
So many people around here seem to get upset when they are getting parceled out the most minute info possible.
This is always a good thing to keep in mind. We never know just how much of the story we are getting, or how much bias there is. It would be great to be a fly on the wall, and see what the real situation is behind some of the posts in these forums.0 -
Oh, and on the Guy Code thing:
I'm not saying there is or isn't a Guy Code, but if such a thing exists, it's a code for what we say or how we act around other guys, not with our SO. Things like leaving a stall open between us in the men's room or not dating someone's ex.0 -
Yea, I would take it as a joke, not a personal attack on my self esteem.I personally think my wife would worry more if I wanted to go to a bar that had all guys in it...
I know, right?
"Yes honey, let's go shoot some pool. Can we go to that place with all the flashing lights and the blaring techno music? i loved it there so much. if i spend 30 mins in the bathroom, do NOT come looking for me."
It sounds like a joke, and if they have been together for a long time, this is NOT the first time he's made a joke like this. So many people around here seem to get upset when they are getting parceled out the most minute info possible. This could be her cousin or roommate for all we know, or she could have made the same joke to him last week and he's responding in kind, yet DTMF is the consensus.
*shrugs*
And agaaaaiiiinn, OP, is this your SO we're talking about, or just a friend?
Inclined to say its a madeup character considering OP hasn't came back in and said anything. I could be wrong though.0 -
Yea, I would take it as a joke, not a personal attack on my self esteem.
*shrugs*
And agaaaaiiiinn, OP, is this your SO we're talking about, or just a friend?
0 -
Seriously....How hard is it to figure out that a guy doesn't want to go out to a bar full of dudes with his girlfriend (making that presumption) because all that is going to happen is he's going to be watching other guys check out her butt every time she bends over?0
-
Seriously....How hard is it to figure out that a guy doesn't want to go out to a bar full of dudes with his girlfriend (making that presumption) because all that is going to happen is he's going to be watching other guys check out her butt every time she bends over?
I ran this topic by my wife, this is exactly what she said.0 -
This content has been removed.
-
^. That's ok, I'll make another thread. I'm sure I can come up with something my husband said this week that I can quote out of contextt that will evoke pity towards me and anger towards men:)0
-
Most strip clubs I've been to have pool tables. Which always struck me as odd... nekkid womens everywhere, and guys are fully focused on playing pool with other guys.0
-
How is it different than a dude suggesting going out to a meal at Hooters or something. It's honest.
I don't think it's breaking news that men like to look at women, even when committed. Does it make him mate of the year, probably not.
But you can't say he's a liar!0 -
Most strip clubs I've been to have pool tables. Which always struck me as odd... nekkid womens everywhere, and guys are fully focused on playing pool with other guys.
It gives us something to do while our idiot buddy blows a month's pay in the back room on an unattractive stripper . . .0 -
a guy that's simply not into YOU0
-
I hear worse all the time. It's okay though, because I'm cooking up a dish served very cold
A new me, and a divorce! 0 -
My advice;
"Honey, you'll be so happy ... there are a lot of hot girls that go there. & THANK GOD a lot of hot guys, too. It should be fun for both of us ... I dunno about you, but I could sure use some eye candy this weekend ... those buff college guys are so yummy "*wink* *walk away*
But honestly, why are you even wasting your time with this dude? I don't want to be the precursor to a debate here, but it's my experience that when a man is dating you and is genuinely interested, he will put his best foot forward. If you're in a long term relationship or married, IF he is still committed to you and in love with you, he would never make this sort of a comment or have those kinds of thoughts. Especially if you are feeling down on yourself.
We're all human, and of course we can look at people objectively and think "they're attractive". But to me, it's the difference between FACTS vs. FEELINGS. If a woman walks into a restaurant, and your husband/boyfriend observes that she's attractive, that's no different than a woman observing another woman is attractive - bottom line there is no attraction, it is just fact. He would never tell you "that woman is attractive" in this instance, because it's not something he really thought much about. On the other hand, if a man is sitting at home wondering if there are going to be "hot" girls at the place he's taking his significant other on a date ... he is thinking and obsessing about it. There is not even a "hot girl" in question - it is all in his fantasy mind. His emotions are involved, his Ego is raging, he wants to hurt his wife/girlfriend ... in that instance, it is just a matter of time before he cheats. And no woman can "fix" him, - he needs professional help.
Love yourself. Get rid of this jerk.0 -
I wouldn't have said it but then again, I know that in a womans mind, everything is about her and we're not allowed to say things that doesn't involve her (because she will just assume that it is about her)
You poor thing.0 -
My advice;
"Honey, you'll be so happy ... there are a lot of hot girls that go there. & THANK GOD a lot of hot guys, too. It should be fun for both of us ... I dunno about you, but I could sure use some eye candy this weekend ... those buff college guys are so yummy "*wink* *walk away*
But honestly, why are you even wasting your time with this dude? I don't want to be the precursor to a debate here, but it's my experience that when a man is dating you and is genuinely interested, he will put his best foot forward. If you're in a long term relationship or married, IF he is still committed to you and in love with you, he would never make this sort of a comment or have those kinds of thoughts. Especially if you are feeling down on yourself.
We're all human, and of course we can look at people objectively and think "they're attractive". But to me, it's the difference between FACTS vs. FEELINGS. If a woman walks into a restaurant, and your husband/boyfriend observes that she's attractive, that's no different than a woman observing another woman is attractive - bottom line there is no attraction, it is just fact. He would never tell you "that woman is attractive" in this instance, because it's not something he really thought much about. On the other hand, if a man is sitting at home wondering if there are going to be "hot" girls at the place he's taking his significant other on a date ... he is thinking and obsessing about it. There is not even a "hot girl" in question - it is all in his fantasy mind. His emotions are involved, his Ego is raging, he wants to hurt his wife/girlfriend ... in that instance, it is just a matter of time before he cheats. And no woman can "fix" him, - he needs professional help.
Love yourself. Get rid of this jerk.
Okay so if you're dating someone you aren't allowed to look at the opposite sex and do the natural human thing and think someone in attractive? Ok I will never date anyone ever again.0 -
.
I know it's just typical guy talk, but I thought guys had that guy code crap of things you just don't say.
There's a guy code?
There is a "guy code". We use that term all the time where I live. Guys here know what it means.0 -
My advice;
"Honey, you'll be so happy ... there are a lot of hot girls that go there. & THANK GOD a lot of hot guys, too. It should be fun for both of us ... I dunno about you, but I could sure use some eye candy this weekend ... those buff college guys are so yummy "*wink* *walk away*
But honestly, why are you even wasting your time with this dude? I don't want to be the precursor to a debate here, but it's my experience that when a man is dating you and is genuinely interested, he will put his best foot forward. If you're in a long term relationship or married, IF he is still committed to you and in love with you, he would never make this sort of a comment or have those kinds of thoughts. Especially if you are feeling down on yourself.
We're all human, and of course we can look at people objectively and think "they're attractive". But to me, it's the difference between FACTS vs. FEELINGS. If a woman walks into a restaurant, and your husband/boyfriend observes that she's attractive, that's no different than a woman observing another woman is attractive - bottom line there is no attraction, it is just fact. He would never tell you "that woman is attractive" in this instance, because it's not something he really thought much about. On the other hand, if a man is sitting at home wondering if there are going to be "hot" girls at the place he's taking his significant other on a date ... he is thinking and obsessing about it. There is not even a "hot girl" in question - it is all in his fantasy mind. His emotions are involved, his Ego is raging, he wants to hurt his wife/girlfriend ... in that instance, it is just a matter of time before he cheats. And no woman can "fix" him, - he needs professional help.
Love yourself. Get rid of this jerk.
Okay so if you're dating someone you aren't allowed to look at the opposite sex and do the natural human thing and think someone in attractive? Ok I will never date anyone ever again.
If I am dating a guy he can look all he wants, I don't care. It's normal. I am going to look too. I love guys. But it is a matter of respect .I want to feel like the hottest one in his eyes. When he is with me, I want the majority of his attention. I don't need all of it. We are adults, we are human and we will always look and flirt, etc. No matter how you feel, learn how to play your cards so your date doesn't feel like a dog. He can gawk on "guys night" but not in the presence of her.
He should have said, "wear something sexy tonight so I can check out your cleavage and your butt when you bend over to shoot" And then when at the bar, he could check out the chicks all he wants but then put his hand in her back pocket, pull her close to him and kiss her and say, "you're the hottest one in this room". He may not really THINK it, but if he wants an AMAZING night, he'll be smart enough to know what to say. It all depends on him. So many guys, "just don't get it". You all could have women eating out of your hands if you played your cards right.0 -
WOW
0 -
There is no guy code. Where do you women get this stuff? LOL0
-
There is no guy code. Where do you women get this stuff? LOL
Touché0 -
Hahaha. I can top it.
Ex started his college course:
"There are a few good looking women in my class but don't worry, they're all way out of my league anyway!"0 -
I hear worse all the time. It's okay though, because I'm cooking up a dish served very cold A new me, and a divorce!
^^Hells yeah to that!!!
I'm not one to overanalyze either. And I'm very secure in myself when things happen to my boyfriend (he used to be a delivery driver and got hit on ALL the time and once we were even at a wedding together and some girls were telling him how cute he was when I went to the bathroom)
Either way, this statement was not okay. If the guy said it, or reversed if the girl said it, it's not okay. Nobody feels good after a comment like that. I think it was a lack of a filter, and usually people who have no filter are, as one girl put it "douchecanoes". I refuse to have anyone in my life that doesn't completely make me feel awesome. This didn't make you feel awesome...it doesn't make me feel awesome hearing it....dump the dweeb! Wait until he says that to the next girl he tries to get with---hopefully she gives him a swift kick in the nads.0
Categories
- All Categories
- 1.4M Health, Wellness and Goals
- 393.6K Introduce Yourself
- 43.8K Getting Started
- 260.3K Health and Weight Loss
- 175.9K Food and Nutrition
- 47.5K Recipes
- 232.5K Fitness and Exercise
- 430 Sleep, Mindfulness and Overall Wellness
- 6.5K Goal: Maintaining Weight
- 8.5K Goal: Gaining Weight and Body Building
- 153K Motivation and Support
- 8K Challenges
- 1.3K Debate Club
- 96.3K Chit-Chat
- 2.5K Fun and Games
- 3.8K MyFitnessPal Information
- 24 News and Announcements
- 1.1K Feature Suggestions and Ideas
- 2.6K MyFitnessPal Tech Support Questions