Do the people you live with support your healthy eating?
cortneysmissionpossible
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I'm just wondering what your support system is like? Does your husband/wife/friends/family members (who you are living with) support and encourage you in eating healthy? And by support I mean like try to join you in eating healthy, encourage you not to have those chips (in a positive way), and do they try to avoid eating those junk foods you ABSOLUTELY love right in front of your face?
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Not at all. My boyfriend will actually go and buy me my favorite candy bars and chips, usually more than one at a time. I think he prefers for me to be heavy. My kids enjoy fruits and vegetables. And they are young, so they don't complain much about food. He's the one that wants fried foods and eat late at night. It's very difficult and very discouraging. That's one of the reasons I am now addicted to this website.0
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Not at all. My boyfriend will actually go and buy me my favorite candy bars and chips, usually more than one at a time. I think he prefers for me to be heavy. My kids enjoy fruits and vegetables. And they are young, so they don't complain much about food. He's the one that wants fried foods and eat late at night. It's very difficult and very discouraging. That's one of the reasons I am now addicted to this website.
It is so insanely discouraging! I can't take it! There is a hot and ready pizza with breadsticks sitting on my freaking kitchen counter right now. ahh!!0 -
I have only been doing this for a couple weeks. For the first week my husband had no intention of eating healthy and didn't seem to care much that I was trying. This week I started making his lunches and dinners and he seems to be okay with the changes in our meals. Last week a man that he knew through work passed away from a massive heart attack at 50 years old. I think that scared some sense into him. I have been gently trying to get through to him that he wasn't headed in a good direction as he is about 70 lbs overweight right now and his parents are both very overweight. I hope that seeing me accomplish goals and be healthier will help him to become more supportive and more involved. Last time I was on here he would eat everything I loved in abundance right in front of me. It was very hard to deal with. You can do it though, even if they aren't supportive or encouraging. Do it for you and if they join in thats a bonus!0
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They're proud of me, but I still have to work my own meals into what we cook at home. But I'm used to it! I was diagnosed with celiac's six years ago, and my family wasn't going to go gluten free with me lol.0
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I still live with my parents as I am a poor student, and luckily my mum understands wanting to eat healthier and so will add what I want onto the weekly shop, just as she adds in cakes, biscuits and crisps for everyone else! My dad thinks I don't eat enough, when really I do I just eat plenty of the right things and not all the 'bad' snacks that are constantly in the house. My boyfriend is good when we're out for lunch/tea and doesn't roll his eyes when I order the salad with no dressing, or the something with a side of veg instead of chips/onion rings. However he will always have dessert and encourage me to share with him!
The most annoying is my friends who give me in trouble for going to the gym 'too often' and for not joining them in eating loads while sitting about, and they will always roll their eyes or say something for for making substitutes at restaurants. It annoys me a little that they don't understand but getting fit just isn't their priority whereas it is mine.0 -
my boyfriend and i are both doing it. He's losing weight for a body building show in the summer and i just want to feel and look better. it helps so much to have that support and someone that is on the exact same page as you. My fridge is full of nothing but good healthy lowfat foods. If i didn't have his support it would be sooo much harder!0
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My live-in boyfriend absolutely supports me, but then again I do NOT think that support means that a person has to eat the exact same things I do. He maintains at 3700 calories and actually wants to gain ten pounds or so, so it would not be practical for me to expect him to follow my diet, since I average about 2000 calories a day. You can only increase the portion size so much before it would be too much volume of food for him to try to eat.
He is so proud of me and tells me that all the time, but I don't want someone being the diet police in my own house. I still enjoy many of my favorite foods, just in smaller portions. If I am eating chips, it is because I've planned them into my day. Nor would I ever tell him what he could or could not eat in his own home. If he wants to eat chips and I don't have the calories left to join him, I have no problem with that.0 -
DH and I are like Jack Sprat and his wife in the old nursery rhyme ("Jack Sprat could eat no fat, his wife could eat no lean..") In our case, I have to be careful not to eat too much and DH, because of some meds (and, possibly the effects of age) that dull his appetite, has to be careful about eating enough. He does have to watch his cholesterol, but I'm a bit more relaxed about that- he's 74 and I want him to eat things he enjoys. Fortunately, the things he really likes that aren't good for me aren't a big temptation- I like cheese, ice cream, peanut butter, etc. but it doesn't kill me to watch DH eat them while I have another serving of salad.
I also work with a group of people who are slim or trying to get there, so no one has a problem with anyone who wants to eat just rabbit food or skip birthday treats.0 -
My entire family is overweight (even our dog!) and so we are trying to get healthy as a whole (minus my stepdad, who doesn't think it's necessary even though he's prediabetic). We recently signed up for a personal trainer at the YMCA and we start "boot camp" as a family on Monday - so yes, my family is pretty supportive. Their motivation levels don't seem to be quite the same as mine but they are still on the road to getting healthy/fit with me
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Not at all. Mom always brings home chips, candy, soda, baked goods you name it.0
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My weight has been up and down. The first couple times I lost and gained back weight it was hard because my boyfriend didn't support my weight loss by eating healthy with me. I thought it would be easier for me if he did. WRONG! This go round I hold myself accountable so I eat healthier regardless of what he does. Its not fair to force him into diet changes because it'll make it easier for me. I needed to learn to have the will power to say no to over eating. I realized that he is not going to be the first or last person to eat something i "can't" have. I can't force everyone to eat by my terms,
Magically he noticed and said he was proud of me and has made changes to his diet! Not anything big but he will eat more veggies now. He even does a few push ups here and there. I'm happier its something he wants and its not forced. Yes he still buys junk food and takeout and eats it in front of me, but it doesn't bother me. Why shouldn't he be able to eat what he wants?Learning not to over eat is about SELF control. Yesterday he bought my favorite candy bar because he thought I deserved a treat lol. I used to eat the whole thing but this time I only had one bite.
*i think he started the push ups because about twice a week I tell him I'm gonna be buff and stronger than him. We laugh about it but i think he secretly believes it lol.0 -
No, not really. That much said, I'm so sick of feeling like an old man that I'm actually looking at the unhealthy foods in my home with disdain as if they were poison.0
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Not at all. My boyfriend will actually go and buy me my favorite candy bars and chips, usually more than one at a time. I think he prefers for me to be heavy. My kids enjoy fruits and vegetables. And they are young, so they don't complain much about food. He's the one that wants fried foods and eat late at night. It's very difficult and very discouraging. That's one of the reasons I am now addicted to this website.0
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me and my son just moved in with his daddy we was separated for about 2 yrs. he doesn't like to eat healthy and he is so dam picky, he comes home from work he works grave yard and he just eats candy chip whole pizza big *kitten* bowl of cereal loaded with sugar, I just wish that he would eat better he does support in what ever I do0
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100% of my huge family - husband, daugther, sisters, brother, my in-laws, nieces, nephews...I have a 40-person cheerleading squad!0
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100% of my huge family - husband, daugther, sisters, brother, my in-laws, nieces, nephews...I have a 40-person cheerleading squad!
consider yourself blessed! that's so awesome!0 -
yes and no. He does most of the time then will "Surprise" me with my favs periodically. he is doing it as a thinking of you thing, but it is tough. Also he can live on cookies and will not keep them out of the house. Makes it very hard for me to resist ! He will not give up eating out 2- 3 x week ( I have asked!) so If I want to spend time with him, I eat too. I try to pick lighter fair, but it is hard and I can only eat so much chicken. ANd fish? good luck finding decent non fired fish here.... Other wise, he does buy more fruit / vega, salad, etc, chicken , lean meats and such, but wants potatoes salad from th store with it.. HA!0
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I just have one roommate and he eats completely differently than I do, but is still supportive of the way I eat and doesn't make any snide/snarky comments to me about it. Most of my friends and family support me. They have known me for a long time and know that i care about what i eat, so I don't get much negativity from them. 0
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For the most part my partner supports me. He does most of the cooking and tries to make me healthy meals now a days.
He seemed to struggle to support me at first, partly because he wasn't sure what to feed me and partly I think because he worried about me getting more attention from other men. Seemed weird to me because I've never thought of myself as attractive and I guessed most of the attention I get is due to my personality anyway and thats not changing lol.
Now he's realized that if eat smart and exercise everyday I'm much happier, a lot less depressed and we get on better as a couple he's much more supportive.
He still gets the hump with me going on about diet and exercise though0 -
My family is very encouraging and supportive. My kids eat what I cook and are fine with an occasional treat and real fruit popsicles that I buy for them. We do have some snacks in the house like chips that I just don't eat. Or if I do, I measure out or weight a serving.
For the first time my husband and I are working on becoming more active together. We're walking together and our walks are like mini dates. We get to really talk. He's logging his food, too. He's also very encouraging about the changes he's seeing in my body. He can't walk by without slapping my heiny. He doesn't want me to quit. It's possible that he wants me to look good more than I want to look good but he's always positive and never critical of my flaws. I always knew he was a good catch. :bigsmile:0 -
nope, nobody supports me at home. Thats why i need this support group!!!!
everybody knew that i was bulimic and just called me "Bad"
thank God i am here!
i am not bulimic anymore, not even want to binge and purge!!!0 -
My husband is quietly supportive. He tells me I look good, he picks up food that I like as treats more now, because I am not over eating them. As in I weigh out my chips instead of eating the whole packet. I haven't made drastic changes, I am eating more vegies, and trying to eat more healthy and regulary, and that is where my weightloss as come from. He is trying to eat healthy in his own way, and we are always trying to get more fruit and vege into our kids lol. People at work have said positive things which helps A big one- you look so much happier and healthier- from one of the guys who doesn't say much.0
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Not really. He's seen me fail too often and gain back, so he always offers me ice cream etc. But is he in for a surprise! My co-worker tries to belittle me, makes fun, yada yada. But I am super thick skinned, that crap is like water off a ducks back. LOL I am down almost 20, with 30 to go. When I am slim and trim, he will still be 50-60 overweight, and she will still be 75 over. Ah, revenge is sooooo sweet!
(I do love them both)0 -
It's just me and my hubby and I'm the one who does the shopping so all we have is healthy food
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I have tried to get my girlfriend on board but she won't bite. She is morally supportive of what I am doing but will eat a small dinner, say she is full, then eat half a block of chocolate, a hand full of licorice and then candied popcorn, all while I'm sitting there counting my calories and weighing my food. Or even worse, while I'm working out. I don't have a sweet tooth at all, so the foods she is eating are not a problem for me, it just makes me feel angry that I'm trying so hard and she couldn't care less.
When I bring it up, she says 'you didn't change until you were ready, so I'm not going to either.' in which I suppose she has a point, but her family has some history of diabetes, and a large percentage of her diet is sugary non nutritional foods. It would be nice to have her on board as well so we can help each other.0 -
By your definition of support, no. But to each their own. I am pretty hardcore when it comes to living a healthy lifestyle and I don't expect others to understand or necessarily join me.0
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I've been going for just about 2 months.. and before that I was on MFP from May 2012 til about September or 2012. In total I have lost 38 lbs.
The people I live with now.. did not support me before.. they didn't really pay attention. Suddenly.. they are on a health kick.. SO now they think it is a challenge! And the one keeps saying I should only count the 11lbs I've lost since I've been here... they do like to try to tell me what to do.. and are like 'Come oonnnnn!!' when I'm having a rest day.. annoying stuff.
Most annoying and unsupportive thing though.. they take supplements (raspberry ketones and stuff to convert sugar to energy instead of fat, carb blockers).. and they try to get me to also take them. Nah! I'm doing this *kitten* the hard way! I'm going to EARN my body and good health.
So no.. I don't exactly have support. My fiancé and my out of state parents are my main support system
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The only support I get is here. On weekends, my boyfriend is constantly bugging me to go to fast food places & smogs OR he'll pick up my favorite treats --- Torture. I've told him not too but I think he's hard of hearing lol Everyone else tells me I look great but they're overweight too.0
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My sons and my husband are very supportive, but my hubby won't really join me in eating healthy. My sons do though.0
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It's just me and my hubby and I'm the one who does the shopping so all we have is healthy food
its also my daughter but this is the same in my house for the most part when he has money on him and he isnt with me he does go buy tacobell or dairy queen.0
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