Do the people you live with support your healthy eating?
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My kids will eat the healthy foods I fix, but they'd rather eat junk. And if they can talk me into it, they surely will.
My husband is mostly supportive--he really tries to be--but he likes to spoil me with wine and chocolate and cheddar peppers. At least he will run and spar with me to work it off.
Supportive family or not, though, I'm the one who is responsible for what I eat.0 -
I live with my cat, and she often offers to eat some of my food for me, so that's supportive, right?
Most of the people in my life don't comment on what I eat. There are a few who offer me unhealthy stuff to eat, but I don't think they mean it in a sabotaging way.0 -
I honestly don't care if my husband is supportive or not. It's my decision to lose weight. and........ I'm going to lose weight regardless.
In our house, food is not *bad* or *unhealthy*. If someone in our house wants to eat something....then they eat it. There is no shaming. No one is made to feel bad. No one is made fun of.(only if they fart) We respect each other. There is laughter and joy around food....no guilt, no impending doom, and no one is chastised. If you don't feel like eating vegetables that day, then don't. If you want a slice of Costco Strawberry Cheesecake, then go ahead. Everyone is accountable, responsible and respected.
I realize this might sound a bit snarky. It's not meant to be. This is honestly how it is in my home. I wish you could come over for dinner sometime. It's a lot of fun.0 -
Mixed. I live with my mum, and she seems to switch between telling me I'm "WAYYYY TOO THIN!" to "Oh wow, you've totally changed your body, your butt sits up in the air!"
So she's either telling me to stop because anorexia (not anorexic at all in any way, shape or form btw) or telling me I'm awesome.
It varies :bigsmile:0 -
No, and I don't expect them too. I'm a grown as man and some of my "healthy" eating habits are borderline OCD. I get really upset when I can't quantify the amount of food I'm eating via weight so it's difficult. I buy all my own food and try not to burden them with my weirdness.0
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Nope! I am all on my own when it comes to my healthy eating. Anyone I know IRL is not supportive at all, but no matter. I will eat healthy no matter what they say :happy:. I even have people buying me unhealthy things and trying to force me to eat it and getting mad at me for refusing to. It's my body and I choose what goes in it.0
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Mixed. I live with my mum, and she seems to switch between telling me I'm "WAYYYY TOO THIN!" to "Oh wow, you've totally changed your body, your butt sits up in the air!"
So she's either telling me to stop because anorexia (not anorexic at all in any way, shape or form btw) or telling me I'm awesome.
It varies :bigsmile:
My mom is kind of the same way!! No one's telling me I am too thin (that would be a hoot LOL) but she does go from "I am so proud of you, your legs look amazing, you have completely changed..." to "I think this is a bit much! A little bacon would not kill you! If you can't drink chocolate milk with your breakfast then is it really worth it???"
and yes. Chocolate milk isn't that important to me, or I'd "budget" for it haha0 -
My husband encourages me and eats healthy with me, but does not exercise. He has a very physical job and figures he doesn't need to. I don't bother him about it because it's his choice. But he does support me in EVERY way and told me he loves me the way I am and doesn't want me to do this for anyone but myself.
Another reason why we're still madly in love after 13 years!
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My boyfriend is very supportive. He eats about 50% healthy and 50% junk, but he has a very physical job and plays sports so he is still in top shape and honestly needs probably 4000 calories a day just to maintain. So yeah, he's going to splurge on dessert more than me and eat huge steaks.
I have steak and dessert too sometimes but rarely now since I am in losing mode, maybe work more in when I am maintaining.
I have taught myself to cook through trying to be healthier too, and my boyfriend really likes it. He loves eating healthy too and is always asking me questions now and thinking of healthy meal ideas - of course he just eats abut a double portion of what I do.
So yeah he is very supportive but I also want him to feel like he can still do his own thing, and I don't mind if he eats certain treats in front of me .We have different sweet tooths so it's ok. Mine is chocolate, and he's more of a candy/licorice person, which I hate that stuff, so I don't care if it's in my face. 0 -
Yes and no. My fiance has been making an effort to eat better, but he does have limitations. He can't process veggies, so those are out and he still loves his spaghetti. However, he eats more healthier sandwiches now, so that's something. He also encourages me to continue doing what I'm doing. We both live with his mother and although she does buy some healthy stuff, the majority of the groceries are carb-heavy and gross. Also, she and her other son like to binge often......so a double-edged sword.0
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I currently live alone in a different state than my family for graduate school. This has made my life a lot easier by putting me in complete control over what I keep in my apartment. I work at the university I attend, which means I get extra vacation time for the holidays. I will be spending both a week for Thanksgiving and two weeks for Christmas at my parents' house. Although both of them are very supportive of the idea of my new lifestyle, they aren't exactly the best influences for healthy eating. I'm going to have to buy my own options to eat while visiting and resist temptation around every corner. I'm already trying to bring up how I don't want extra junk food "treats" when I visit. My mom tends to be big on putting out seasonal candy dishes and making baked goods. Although I eat everything in moderation, I still want to have healthier eating days while visiting! They also are big on going out to eat. I think it's going to be particularly tough for my parents to understand that I won't be able to go out to eat as often despite being home for an infrequent visit.
I think the hardest part is that this is how I've grown up my whole life. With time, I'm sure they'll learn to adapt to my eating habits being different. They're generally incredibly supportive of me.0 -
My husband is pretty supportive, he eats whatever is on the table. If it isn't enough for him (whether it be portion or taste wise) he quietly makes himself a snack after the meal once I'm out of the kitchen. The first four months after I made the decision to change my lifestyle, I requested we keep certain foods/drinks that were too tempting to me out of the house, most of them have come back in now that I have adjusted, but there are a few that I just can't resist that have to stay out. My school aged kids hate it! lol. They rarely like any of "Mom's foods' and complain constantly. As I understand, I'm not the only mom on the block with this problem so I don't sweat it. Most outside family/friends that I frequent are not very helpful. For celebrations and parties I have accepted I will, at the very least, get looks for taking small portions or skipping certain food items all together. Many of them seem to relish in offering my cakes and sweets as soon as I walk in the door. I've learned to accept this is how most of the culture is around me and to not take it personally.0
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YEAH everyone around me is totally supportive. My co-workers, my bff guy friend, everyone!! i have no one forcing me to eat fattening food, i have people giving me compliments, my coworkers are telling me they notice the weight loss, its great!! i have no one telling me im getting to skinny and i must eat cake. its wonderful.
but i want to get down where when i lose 100 pounds where it makes a huge difference so that it really shows.0 -
For the most part, not really on my end. My boyfriend will try to eat better since I am. He doesn't put my choices down or push me in a negative way. His family on the other hand is famous for bringing in fried chicken and junk, and cooking all things fried and loaded in butter.0
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Nope. Not my parents, not ex-boyfriends, not roommates. Nobody! Lol.0
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This morning I walked into the kitchen to see my husband cooking numerous pieces of bacon and two eggs absolutely swimming in oil and butter. He is grossly overweight and paying a lot of money for cholesterol and heart meds. I didn't say anything but opened all the windows and put on the exhaust fan to get rid of the smell (I had had my healthy breakfast). I suspect he does stuff like that on purpose but that's okay. I'll live longer.
So the short answer is, no.:laugh:0 -
Yes, I have a lot of support but no one in my household eats the way I do. I usually a cook meat of some sort and and a couple different sides for my husband and myself since he doesn't like vegetables or anything remotely healthy! I have a good friend that goes out with me when I exercise to make sure I'm safe. (I live in a questionable area) he's taken to skating beside me because he can't keep up anymore.0
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wowThis morning I walked into the kitchen to see my husband cooking numerous pieces of bacon and two eggs absolutely swimming in oil and butter. He is grossly overweight and paying a lot of money for cholesterol and heart meds. I didn't say anything but opened all the windows and put on the exhaust fan to get rid of the smell (I had had my healthy breakfast). I suspect he does stuff like that on purpose but that's okay. I'll live longer.
So the short answer is, no.:laugh:0 -
me tooYEAH everyone around me is totally supportive. My co-workers, my bff guy friend, everyone!! i have no one forcing me to eat fattening food, i have people giving me compliments, my coworkers are telling me they notice the weight loss, its great!! i have no one telling me im getting to skinny and i must eat cake. its wonderful.
but i want to get down where when i lose 100 pounds where it makes a huge difference so that it really shows. 0 -
My daughter supports me 10000%. My dh, not so much. When I tried to eat healthy in times past, he grumbled and complained A LOT about the food and also sometimes sabotaged my efforts. I think he was afraid I would run off with someone else if I got thin. He had a health scare last spring and he stopped complaining about the food. He is morbidly obese. He doesn't WANT to eat healthy but I am the one doing the cooking and shopping. I try to keep heart healthy nuts in the house for us girls to snack on, but if he finds them he will eat the whole container himself (within a day or two). He does not like the idea of paying out money to go to the gym and he doesn't like it if my working out cuts into his time "with me" at home. But, as long as he has food to eat, and clean clothes to wear, he doesn't really say much.0
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No. My dad gets really offended when I refuse to eat what he's prepared for dinner and make my own healthy dinner instead. Mum is happy to see me exercising and eating well again, but I was hoping to be a good influence on them both but instead they're eating McDonalds and pizza at home, AROUND ME. *sigh*
My boyfriend however is very supportive and understanding and is also cutting down on junk food.0 -
Yes. My partner Chris is amazing. He has held me far to many times while I cried about how fat and unhappy I am or watched me worry about what I look like if we have to dress up nice to go somewhere. He knows all my fears and my hang ups. I do have problems with other family members though but I don't live with them so it is ok.0
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Many of them seem to relish in offering my cakes and sweets as soon as I walk in the door.
My Nan is the worst for this - in an hour she will offer me a cake, a biscuit tin, crisps, chocolate and icecream. Then get astrology when I decline all0 -
No - my wife is constantly telling me "eat this" or "just try this" or "your calorie count doesnt matter... you have to have some of this". She is very self conscious of her own obesity (although I would never use the word in front of her) and passive aggressive towards me for it.0
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I live with a bf but he travels a lot for work. I do travel a lot too though.
He fully supports me to lose weight! But he doesn't diet with me, doesn't limit food at home. He eats a lot and I cook for him a lot, including the food I don't eat myself. He supports me emotionally while eating pizza.
My parents also fully supports me, my mom even paid for my first visit to the weightloss clinic. And she doesn't eat desserts in front of me, she's so sweet, my lovely mama! She also always sends me fruit baskets to my home or office.
My dad gives me tough love but still supports me by saying "you finally lost weight and start looking good because when you were fat you looked like an elephant", lol. He always encourages me to eat healthy and to exercise, and now even offered me financial help to go o a thalassotherapy.
When I come home to my parents, they have sooooo much food at home, lst of pastries and breads, that I don't eat. But they also have plenty of veggies and fruits.0 -
My husband is a gourmet cook. Out comes the sauté pan, the 35% cream sauces, the baking! His least favourite methods of cooking are those done without oil, butter, baking, and broiling. We eat better at home than at the restaurant. And he cooks like this every day. Our household division of tasks is this: he does the cooking and shopping, the garden work, and I do all the cleaning.
I was always svelte before we married. Thanks to his cooking, I have gained 65 lbs and as you get older, there is an increasing weight gain.
The only way I lose weight is if we cook separate meals. In order to lose weight, I am going vegan 6 days per week. Indulging in meats, dairy, eggs, and wheat flour on the 7th---I'm not a fanatical vegan---but the rest of the week is is non-wheat grains and pastas, and all those marvelous, delicious veggies and fruits.
As for the junk food, popcorn is our staple. Air popped and eaten without butter, it has the satisfying crunch factor without the calories. I take mine, before he mixes the butter into his portion.0 -
My daughter supports me 10000%. My dh, not so much. When I tried to eat healthy in times past, he grumbled and complained A LOT about the food and also sometimes sabotaged my efforts. I think he was afraid I would run off with someone else if I got thin. He had a health scare last spring and he stopped complaining about the food. He is morbidly obese. He doesn't WANT to eat healthy but I am the one doing the cooking and shopping. I try to keep heart healthy nuts in the house for us girls to snack on, but if he finds them he will eat the whole container himself (within a day or two). He does not like the idea of paying out money to go to the gym and he doesn't like it if my working out cuts into his time "with me" at home. But, as long as he has food to eat, and clean clothes to wear, he doesn't really say much.
You can cook one food for him, and diet food for yourself. Or just eat less. . That's what I do. I cook chicken, meat or fish for example, and he has it with a salad, potatoes, bread and butter. I have it only with salad, no potatoes, no bread and butter. And we all are happy.
It's me who's trying to lose weight, so I eat my food and don't push my choices to him. He doesn't have to limit himself because I need to lose weight.0 -
My husband is verbally supportive. Tells me all the time that he is proud of me for the changes that I have made and the weight that I have lost so far. However, he does eat whatever he wants. He will make bbq ribs and I will have a salmon salad. Both of us can cook very well, so it's not like I'm suffeting from lack of taste. He did try some of my southwestern grilled eggplant one night and loved it. First time he ever ate eggplant. All of us have to remember that our own journey is just that. Ours. Not our partners/family's. My husband didn't MAKE me eat all the wrong foods that has made me so overweight, I did. And I am the one responsible for losing it. Think about it, if we go out to a restaurant, are we to expect the tables around us to eat healthy also? Of course not. It's an ownership issue. I own my body just like I own my house. I try to keep it clean and if something breaks, i fix it. Just have to apply that same reasoning to our bodies.0
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My partner is 100% supportive and praises my efforts daily. He also needs to lose some weight, and is eating healthily too so that helps, but even if he wasn't he would have to eat whatever I cook for myself, as he can't cook and would go hungry otherwise, lol! I also have plenty of support from my mother-in-law and workmates.0
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