How to dump a guy without being mean?

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  • iAMsmiling
    iAMsmiling Posts: 2,394 Member
    I always preferred angry, harsh break up sex followed by a list of my inadequacies and an invitation to never be seen again.
    Yea, it was hurtful, but at least I got laid.
  • n2thenight24
    n2thenight24 Posts: 1,651 Member
    ANH720 said it best by saying this."Hey, you don't seem to be getting the message and I don't want to be mean but your behavior is stressing me out and making me unhappy. Our relationship is over and I don't want to pursue a friendship".

    Then stop responding to him, block him if you have to.

    For all those that said get a order put on him, you are wasteing the courts time, tax payers money... unless he is being threatning or causing harm there is no need to waste the courts time or tax payers money. Simply tell him the truth.

    Don't worry, I have NO intention of calling the police. I did however already block him.
  • aaronlawrenc
    aaronlawrenc Posts: 666 Member
    I always preferred angry, harsh break up sex followed by a list of my inadequacies and an invitation to never be seen again.
    Yea, it was hurtful, but at least I got laid.

    this guy gets it
  • renturne
    renturne Posts: 16
    I don't know what the right or wrong way to break up with a person is or isn't, but please have the stones to break up with someone face to face. The whole text message/Facebook/Twitter/phone call/voicemail break-up is lame and it's weak. I think you're better than that.
  • NewMnky1
    NewMnky1 Posts: 264
    Send Taylor Swift to his house to do it for you.
    LOL, that is hilarious:laugh:
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    I always preferred angry, harsh break up sex followed by a list of my inadequacies and an invitation to never be seen again.
    Yea, it was hurtful, but at least I got laid.

    this guy gets it

    well, closure sex is a given. Unless you've never had sex with said person before...
  • j75j75
    j75j75 Posts: 854 Member
    Ok you are 27. Haven't you dumped a guy before?? Maybe been dumped before as well?? Just tase him in the nuts. He'll get the message...:laugh: :laugh:
  • aaronlawrenc
    aaronlawrenc Posts: 666 Member
    You guys are right. Initially I told him that I would not be contacting him at all, no texts or calls or anything, but I eventually gave in. I shouldn't have. I shall go cold turkey, and if that doesn't work, I will direct him to this thread.

    im already on this thread....

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  • katekross
    katekross Posts: 463 Member
    Be forward, be direct, be honest. Guys need that. This whole "Its not me, its you..." sugar coated crap does not work for ANYONE! He's still a person, and deserves honesty. Its going to be a clean break. "Listen, this isn't working and I don't want to be with you." PERIOD. Don't dare do it over the phone or text. He deserves to be treated like a person in the end.
  • leantool
    leantool Posts: 365 Member
    two very nice people can still be incompatible with each other.
  • AIZZO4
    AIZZO4 Posts: 404 Member
    Tell him he can still have sex with you....lmao
  • n2thenight24
    n2thenight24 Posts: 1,651 Member
    I always preferred angry, harsh break up sex followed by a list of my inadequacies and an invitation to never be seen again.
    Yea, it was hurtful, but at least I got laid.

    this guy gets it

    well, closure sex is a given. Unless you've never had sex with said person before...

    We've never had sex before. Ever. And this was my first test the waters relationship after a 7 year marriage. So yeah, I'm a little rusty on the whole, how to break up with someone thing.
  • dcl3872
    dcl3872 Posts: 20
    The Truth will set you free.................... Just tell him I'm just not that into you! if that doesn't work smack him off the top of his head and say SNAP OUT IOF IT...
  • aaronlawrenc
    aaronlawrenc Posts: 666 Member
    I always preferred angry, harsh break up sex followed by a list of my inadequacies and an invitation to never be seen again.
    Yea, it was hurtful, but at least I got laid.

    this guy gets it

    well, closure sex is a given. Unless you've never had sex with said person before...

    in that case, you definitely have to. Maybe youd change your mind?? ya neva kno
  • katekross
    katekross Posts: 463 Member
    I always preferred angry, harsh break up sex followed by a list of my inadequacies and an invitation to never be seen again.
    Yea, it was hurtful, but at least I got laid.

    this guy gets it

    well, closure sex is a given. Unless you've never had sex with said person before...

    We've never had sex before. Ever. And this was my first test the waters relationship after a 7 year marriage. So yeah, I'm a little rusty on the whole, how to break up with someone thing.

    Ignore these pervs.
  • IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym
    IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym Posts: 5,573 Member
    I always preferred angry, harsh break up sex followed by a list of my inadequacies and an invitation to never be seen again.
    Yea, it was hurtful, but at least I got laid.

    this guy gets it

    well, closure sex is a given. Unless you've never had sex with said person before...

    We've never had sex before. Ever. And this was my first test the waters relationship after a 7 year marriage. So yeah, I'm a little rusty on the whole, how to break up with someone thing.

    Hence the reason I said unless you've never had sex with said person before...
  • AllTehBeers
    AllTehBeers Posts: 5,030 Member
    Is he showing up on your door step? That's stalker and needs policee involvement.

    Um yeah, no. Please do not call the police because a guy you just dumped showed up at your door. If he shows up with a gun, or if he refuses to leave and you truly feel you are in danger, have at it. But being annoyed that someone you actually have a personal relationship with won't get the hint that it's over does not constitute being stalked. The police have bigger fish to fry.

    Just.... thank you....=]

    I'm sorry, if I tell someone I don't want to see/talk/text or be any part of their life, they randomly show up at my door and won't leave when I ask, I think that deserves an escort.
  • Just sleep with someone else and tell him. He will run. Plus it will be fun for you.
  • TR0berts
    TR0berts Posts: 7,739 Member
    Unpossible.
  • aaronlawrenc
    aaronlawrenc Posts: 666 Member
    Ignore these pervs.
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  • AIZZO4
    AIZZO4 Posts: 404 Member
    Just sleep with someone else and tell him. He will run. Plus it will be fun for you.

    Damn! Heartless
  • Laura42012
    Laura42012 Posts: 180 Member
    Wait... What is he still doing? Is he acting like you simply didn't break up? Begging for a second chance? Stalking?


    After all you've done, I'm baffled.

    I changed my textplus number but kept my regular cell number, so he keeps texting, keeps texting, saying he loves me. I finally messaged him back, to tell him AGAIN that I do not want to be with him anymore, I said he couldn't call me on the phone, or come back on my FB, but that we could still talk as friends, he immediately goes right back into asking me who I am talking to and trying to tell me what to do, which is the main reason I dumped him in the first place. So now, I feel like I have to dump him ALL OVER, even though I never said I'd changed my mind. It's just frustrating.

    Ignore him.
  • carrieous
    carrieous Posts: 1,024 Member
    tell him you are going back to an old boyfriend. If he thinks there is another guy in the picture he will usually back off.
  • aaronlawrenc
    aaronlawrenc Posts: 666 Member
    tell him you are going back to an old boyfriend. If he thinks there is another guy in the picture he will usually back off.

    or stalk/kill your old boyfriends...either way you win
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    Get drunk and sleep with one of his family members.
  • corn63
    corn63 Posts: 1,580 Member
    Send one last text: Please do not contact me any further.


    And let that be it. You cannot be friends with him, you cannot communicate with him. He doesn't get it. Ignore him. If he gets threatening, let the authorities know. But DO NOT CONTACT HIM ANY FURTHER (and that includes reciprocation to his texts). By doing that, he still has his foot in the door and will continue to message you.
  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,252 Member
    Wait... What is he still doing? Is he acting like you simply didn't break up? Begging for a second chance? Stalking?


    After all you've done, I'm baffled.

    I changed my textplus number but kept my regular cell number, so he keeps texting, keeps texting, saying he loves me. I finally messaged him back, to tell him AGAIN that I do not want to be with him anymore, I said he couldn't call me on the phone, or come back on my FB, but that we could still talk as friends, he immediately goes right back into asking me who I am talking to and trying to tell me what to do, which is the main reason I dumped him in the first place. So now, I feel like I have to dump him ALL OVER, even though I never said I'd changed my mind. It's just frustrating.

    Hmmm what is he in high school j/k...... Stop answering him block his number and ignore him.. you already told him you didn't want to date him anymore .... Seriously if he escelates get a restraining order

    Edited cause well just cause
  • Just sleep with someone else and tell him. He will run. Plus it will be fun for you.

    Damn! Heartless

    What???? It works like a charm I tell you.
  • iAMsmiling
    iAMsmiling Posts: 2,394 Member
    Get drunk and sleep with one of his family members.

    Unless you're in West Virginia, in which case you'll automatically become a member of the family.
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    Get drunk and sleep with one of his family members.

    Unless you're in West Virginia, in which case you'll automatically become a member of the family.


    Very good advice here....