Best/Worst Thing People Said on your Weight Loss Journey?
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I hope you've all cut the toxic, unhelpful people out of your lives, as much as possible! Some of these worst comments... wow. My "favorites" are people trying to push unhealthy food on you. Ugh.
Best: Despite gaining 20lbs after I moved in with him 5 years ago, my boyfriend never said anything negative. I'm 5'2 so 20lbs is visible on me in all the ways. I'd off and on tried to exercise my weight off, but it didn't work in part because I'd use it as an excuse for treats after. Last year he and I started working out together, yoga then running, but while I was getting stronger it wasn't doing anything for weight. Frustrated, I came to MFP in February.
My boyfriend does most of the cooking. I told him that I need his help with this process, and was he ok with writing down the ingredient amounts. He said sure, anything he can do to support me. And while he didn't see the weight loss for a while ("I don't look at you that critically") he did say he saw I was happier, and he told me he was impressed with my consistency.
I can't imagine doing this if the person I lived with wasn't supportive. Honestly, anyone in my life who isn't supportive of me working to improve myself would quickly find themselves out of my life.
Worst... I haven't had too much. Most comes from my mom, but I live 3000 miles away. Back when I was with my ex I'd gained 5lbs and was 127. He had complained about it, so he was looking at me that critically. And my mom told me I should go to the gym more and lose weight. I did lose weight, after my ex and I broke up and I was so depressed I stopped eating because I had no appetite. I'd have to force myself to eat. My mom told me Iooked great! Thanks mom.
I told her a few weeks ago that I'm counting calories to lose weight. "Why, is it to fit into a wedding dress?" Ugh seriously, is there no reason she won't turn anything I say into a nag about getting married? Nagging hasn't worked for 5 years, what makes her think it'll work now?!!0 -
Best: "Oh my gosh! How much have you lost? You can really tell you're working hard."-- One of the judges at work who is also trying to shed some poundage.
"Wow, look how toned up you're getting already."-- My dear husband. I'm not sure if it was that obvious 2 weeks in, but it made me feel good anyway.
Worst: Various versions of "just don't get carried away," "watch how much you're losing," "don't starve yourself," etc.-- Close family members who knew me way back when when I was struggling with all sorts of emotional and mental issues. I know they're just worried, but sheesh, I know better now. My sister has stopped with the warnings and has started telling me how proud of me she is. So maybe, little by little, those uncomfortable comments will stop.0 -
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The best:
Last week, a lady visiting her step daughter at church who hasn't been there in 3 month walked up, started to speak to me, and she had this puzzled look on her face. I spoke, and she looked relieved. Her stepdaughter later said to me, "you have lost so much weight Pam did not recognize you". That made me feel great.
The worst :
After losing 30 lbs i had someone say to me, that I needed to watch what I was eating I was getting fat. They had not seen me in a while and telling me I looked fat was not what I was wanting to here. However it kept me motivated.
By the way I am looking for new friends add me if you would like. I have lost 60 lbs, with about 45 to go.0 -
Best: You look amazing! How are you doing it?
Worst (from my mother!): You know, when you get too thin, it makes your face look older.
I had some one tell me that since I have lost all of my weight I look 10 years younger, so I asked how old do I look they said 43, I said "thanks a lot I am 44". Before loosing weight I was told a lot that I looked like I was in my mid 30's, so It made me feel like I was looking older.0 -
Worst: Did you get that surgery (gastric bypass)?
Best: A few people including my own father barely recognized me.0 -
Best: "Wow! You you've gotten skinny! I didn't even recognize you!" & "You are such an encouragement!! Keep it up!"
Worst: "Oh my gosh, oh my gosh, oh my gosh!! You look soooo good now!!!" (UMMM....excuse me?!? I didn't look good before?), "Don't get too skinny, guys don't like really skinny girls!", "Oh, go ahead and eat that ice cream- you're skinny now", "Don't worry- you'll gain it all back by eating like that." (cuz, you know, I shouldn't be allowed to eat any junk....).0 -
Best: Every year after I lost the first 30lbs, my tiny choreographer (couldn't have been more than 5 feet tall and 90 lbs of pure muscle!) would tell me how great I looked.
Worst: Every family member I've tried to set an example for has responded with, " I think I've gained what you lost!" (I live with you. You can see how easy it is when you want to do it, so don't try to make me into some sort of magical creature.)
To the "worst" you should have responded "That's what happens when you eat all the extra food I haven't been eating." lol.
What makes people so awful? Jealousy, insecurity, ignorance - or just plain mean!0 -
Best-You look great! ; You're an inspiration!
Worst- by one of my closest friends when I told her I wanted to lose 90 lbs (That will put me at 158 lbs at 5'9, and truthfully I would love to lose closer to 100 to be at 148ish) Anyway, her response was that I was setting my goal way too high and her facial expressions told me that I couldn't do it.
30 lbs down and still going strong, and I can tell she's suprised! I will do this!0 -
Worst: Before I even started this journey someone told me that it was impossible to lose belly fat once you have it. And over the next year I believed it. Until I found this website and decided to give it a try. (Not as hard as a lot of people think, but it's still a challenge.)
My dad told me when I began and still tells me that I'm never going to get real skinny like my half sister. (Who is 160-170lbs). Maybe it's his way of protecting me from my own goals, but his statement just pissed me off and I'm going to prove to him that genetics don't mean squat diddly.
Best: I spent the majority of my life thinking it was genetics that was making me fat, that even if I tried I'd fail and I hate failing. I can't name one physically fit person in my family except two of my older half brothers. Neither exercise at a gym. Anyway, I was watching Dr. Phil and he said, 'Genetics don't say who will be overweight, they say who can be over weight.' Yes, I can do this.0 -
Best: You look fantastic!
Best: Looks like there's some extra room in your jeans!
Worst: Nothing (as in nobody says anything because they don't see a difference, even though I'm working out and counting every caloire)0 -
Best....I can see your collar bone! (me...I didn't know it was missing?)
You've lost an Olsen twin! (first 88#down)
Worst: When are you due?
Oh? You lost weight? NO big deal, it'll come back again.0 -
Best: I was at the pool when a woman with an amazing butt told me she was jealous of mine!:laugh:
Worst: "Fruit is sooo bad for you. You should ONLY eat one a day, at the most..."
LOL!!! I lol'ed at your worst! That person is a duffus!
Best: Being hugged and told they could feel the difference :bigsmile: *Im a cuddler* annnnnd seeing a friend after 6 months and she said "Zoe, you've lost s**t loads of weight!* :laugh:
ETA - Another best, my daddio said 'Those trousers have a right saggy *kitten* now!' Believe or not this is good aha
Worst: .... None, YET! Theres still 30lbs worth of 'Worst's left0 -
Best: You look amazing and we are really proud of you!
Best#2: My husband telling me he thought I was perfect before but he really loves my new body.
Worst: You are becoming anorexic.( I am 5'3 and currently 145lbs) O.o
Worst#2: What did you take to lose the weight?0 -
Best: I find it really nice when people tell me that I'm an inspiration or that I motivate them. It's just nice to hear, and I like knowing that my efforts make others want to better themselves as well.
Worst: "Since you're tall, it's easier for you to look slim!" No....that doesn't have *kitten* to do with it.0 -
Best: Look you have a waist now! I love your figure!
Worst: You look like a buffalo in tights.0 -
BEST: You have lost an average child.
WORST: You don't need to lose any more! Why would you want to? (People badgering me, telling me what I should look like) I absolutely hate this!0 -
Best: Being told I look sexy by a man I have had a wee bit of a crush on for 5 years.
Worse: The nurse at my doctor's office writing a note on my chart to "recommend obesity conselling"0 -
Best: Oh my god you look so skinny
Worst: I lost more weight than you in less time. (Last I knew I was having a competition with myself not with anybody else)0 -
Worst came from my sister who lost 28lbs last year & oh doesn't she love telling people, EVERYDAY: "how did you manage to put so much weight on?" Probably the same way that you did before you lost it... (She is now dietting again because she has put some back on, tehehe)
Best so far came from my boyfriend when we were talking to our friends about me losing 7lbs: "I'm really proud of her, she has said before she wants to lose weight, but this time she really means it & she's doing great" :-) Love him!0 -
Best: None yet, but my jeans feel like they fit nicer
Worst: "you lost 1 lb in 10 days?.. I would get discouraged if it took that long"
another worst: we were looking at bodies online that were same weight as our current weight, she directed me to one that she thought looked like mine.... it was an apple shaped body that was at LEAST 2 sizes bigger, . My body is more like an hourglass but I don't have large boobs. I was insulted by the person she picked to look like me.. .. I sometimes feel like certain people in my life think my flaws are greater than they are.. and I am constantly looking at my own flaws, I don't need additional help.0 -
Best things:
You're definitely the winner of the "person I know who's lost the most weight without bariatric surgery." (therapist)
You've lost more than I weigh! (my husband weighs about 128 pounds.)
You've lost like a teenager!
I want to lose what you've lost - will you freind me? (MFP'ers)
OMG - where'd you go? You look so great!!
Worst things:
Doesn't Spanx make something that can help you with that? (loose skin/fat around the belly area from losing so much weight) my mother
You're as fat as a pig! - my daughter
Why are you so fat? - other kids
Let's be realistic...You can't lose the weight without surgery, otherwise you would have done it by now. - an allergist I once went to
I can't believe your doctor wants you to lose 90 pounds before he'll put in a lap-band! You should go to a different doctor because you need it now. - my mother
Kids are supposed to outlive the parents, and we're so afraid you'er going to die. - my mother
I don't want your kids to grow up without their mother. - my mother
I'll pay you $10/pound to lose weight. - my grandfather
Nice boys don't like fat girls. - my mother
Doctor to Nurse: Last time I saw stretchmarks like these were on a pregnant woman! - a jerk of an OB/GYN my mother took me to, only to find out she asked him to say something to me about my weight.
Going to a doctor appointment one morning, a nurse went to check me in, and said, "You've lost a lot of weight - you must've had surgery...."
You are so fat. If you lost weight you might actually be pretty - all my friends think so. - said my brother and sister
I REALLY don't like it when I go out to eat with others, and when looking at the menu we start asking each other what we're going to get, and people start saying, "I'm getting whatever Beth's getting..." --- HEY people - don't make me responsible for your choices!!
Tub-o-LARD - said my brother0 -
Worst - they called it a Journey.0
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The best/worst thing someone did or said to me while on my weight loss journey is . . .
Best thing. Me and my best friend live far from each other but we text a lot. We decided (2.5 weeks ago) that we would start a weight loss journey together. We both have been supporting each other and encouraging one another to lose the weigh we've been accumulating over the years.0 -
Best - You look tiny! (I have never been decribed that way before, and I aonly half way!)
Worst - Arent you taking this a bit too seriously? (Yes! I have committed to this, how should I be? Not serious?)0 -
EASY;
Worst - "Man, you don't need to lose weight, you look fine". When I looked like I was 9mo pregnant ... and I'm a dude .....< This from almost everybody I know .....
Best - " Bro, I remember when you looked like you could lift a house. Now you're fat as h*ll, you need to lose some weight and get back in shape man ...." < This from my brother up in OH, after I sent him a couple pics from last Christmas.0 -
Best - (after embracing me and 8 months not seeing each other) Oh my god you are so tiny now!!
Worst - You know, you are never going to be as skinny as me. (said by a friend of mine who has always effortlessly been a size 6/us size 2 and I was clearly her "fat friend')0 -
Now that I think about it the Worst thing that has been said "You're too pretty to be that damn fat" as actually become the
Best thing along with "You're doing a wonderful thing and you're a great inspiration, you're looking good" 0 -
Not sure if this is good or bad, but someone once (very concerned) asked me if I was sick, and that's why I'd lost weight...0
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Worst - from my mother years ago. She has no involvement with my life or health now.
'Theres no point in you ever trying to lose weight, you'll just have disgusting baggy skin and have to have it all cut off, which is even uglier than your fat' (I weighed about 145 lbs at the time)
'I told them when they said my daughter was looking very slim that they must have the wrong person because you aren't particularly anything' (I weighed about 115 lbs at the time)
'Oh. I suppose you have lost a bit of fat. It still shows on your face though' (112 lbs)
'People won't like you because you're fat and greedy. If you want them to like you, you have to starve yourself. ' (age 11, 5 foot 1 tall, weighing 74 lbs)
This made me cry! I don't want to believe that a mother could be so cruel to her own child, but sadly I have seen and heard too many examples of this. It is for the best that she is not involved in your life right now. Sometimes you just need to cut out the negative influences in life that hold you down and discourage you - even if they are family. Best of luck to you on your weight loss journey. I hope that you have found good people in life to support and love you for being you! :flowerforyou:0
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