I Need A Man's Opinion

reptilequeenrachel

At this point, would you have a relationship with someone who looked like me, or would you want me to lose more weight first? I am going to continue to lose weight, but I want to know what men really think of me now. Thanks

-Rachel

AZ_Gato

I would prefer to date someone who is secure in who they are.

kaylaandthestarcatcher

I'm not a man but I'm going to answer.

You're beautiful and you should only ever change something about yourself because YOU want to and not because that's what some men might want. Anyone worth being with would adore you at any size.

My0WNinspiration

Smash


8/10

Timshel_

I have nothing against how you look now as far as I can tell. But I always enjoyed the company of girls who were active and had similar interested.

If you are just checking who would bang you...asking men that is kind like asking someone on fire if they want water.

wolverine66

At this point, would you have a relationship with someone who looked like me, or would you want me to lose more weight first? I am going to continue to lose weight, but I want to know what men really think of me now. Thanks

-Rachel

I'm not sure if this is what you're asking, but I wouldn't ever put a condition of weight loss on someone as a pre-requisite to dating them.

reptilequeenrachel

This is nothig about "smashing". Just an honest question on what you think.

NormInv

Yeah, wrong question. Looking for outside validation will never work for you in life.

Self doubt is the biggest boner killer, lady!

artickb22

I'm a girl, but seriously...insecurity is unattractive no matter the shape of your body.

elprincipito

if you really are 18 sure... lol
but yea it's a little annoying when someone is really super insecure of their own body.

GrnEyz80

You need to be happy with yourself. If you lose weight to "get a guy" you will never be comfortable with him because you will always wonder if he'd still love you "fat". When in reality it's your confidence the men fall in love with. When your confident you can be 80 pounds overweight and still sexy in their eyes.

reptilequeenrachel

I'm not insecure at all (maybe a little). I really just want to know if weight really matters to most men.

kaylaandthestarcatcher

Telling an insecure person that insecurity = unattractive can sometimes make that insecure person even more insecure because of their previous insecurities and now new insecurities about being insecure.

...... Did that make sense?

Either way, just speaking as somebody who is extremely insecure who tends to feel even worse any time somebody says that it's not cute. Because, I mean... if it was really as easy as "Okay, I'm not going to be insecure anymore", then I don't think it would be a problem for anybody. But it is a problem because it's not just something that you can turn off.

AZ_Gato

I'm not insecure at all (maybe a little). I really just want to know if weight really matters to most men.

It depends on how you carry your weight. I've dated women of all sizes. What didn't vary was how secure and confident they were. Just learn to be who you are and if you don't like your body shape, then do something about it.

KristenRidl

Telling an insecure person that insecurity = unattractive can sometimes make that insecure person even more insecure because of their previous insecurities and now new insecurities about being insecure.

...... Did that make sense?

Made total sense!! I am happy you threw that out there.

artickb22

Telling an insecure person that insecurity = unattractive can sometimes make that insecure person even more insecure because of their previous insecurities and now new insecurities about being insecure.

...... Did that make sense?

Either way, just speaking as somebody who is extremely insecure who tends to feel even worse any time somebody says that it's not cute. Because, I mean... if it was really as easy as "Okay, I'm not going to be insecure anymore", then I don't think it would be a problem for anybody. But it is a problem because it's not just something that you can turn off.

In my opinion, if someone is insecure and it's affecting the way they percieve themselves and the way they believe others to percieve them, then perhaps the more important issue to work on is the reasons behind those emotions. You can lose all the weight you want and be as fit as a fiddle but if you have deep rooted body image issues it's not going to make any difference. Mental/emotional health have more impact than one might imagine. And you are right, it's not something that you can 'turn off ' by any means.

edited for spelling ...not too good with grammer today ..lol

haroon_awan

I'm not insecure at all (maybe a little). I really just want to know if weight really matters to most men.

To a certain extent yes.

Confidence, honesty and a sense of humour are more important. I don't care how attractive a woman is, if she is a slutty, boring, etc then it won't last.

MelisMusing

OWN your appeal and don't let anyone decide for you. The standards you have should be the ones you set- not anyone else.

I can guarantee you this, as you get older, you will find your place, you will figure out your confidence. Putting yourself out there in the dating world is a intimidating thing, especially if you are not feeling confident about your body. My best advice is to make sure you are in a good place and feeling secure, first.

lloydrt

You re an attractive young lady ,keep losing the weight and trust me, you wont be back asking that question........keep up the good work

piggydog

All my guy friends would bed you but they wouldn't date you because of your weight...

_DaniD_

Some men would and some men wouldn't.

AllTehBeers

I think when you click with someone, it doesn't matter.

I'm the big one in the relationship, we started dating when I was 300 pounds and my SO is 130 soaking wet. Our entire relationship has been nothing short of wonderful.

Capt_Apollo

you know whats attractive? self-esteem and confidence.

PaleoChocolateBear

Don't spend time worrying about the masses finding you attractive as long as one man finds you attractive and wants to be with you that is enough

faceoff4

You re an attractive young lady ,keep losing the weight and trust me, you wont be back asking that question........keep up the good work

This is solid advise and I ditto that comment!

odusgolp

All my guy friends would bed you but they wouldn't date you because of your weight...

Your guy friends sound like a-holes.

vtmoon

Based on looks, I would "hit that". As far as dating, I don't have much to go on, you could be a nut job or a total meanie head. But like others said having confidence increases your stock when it comes to relationships (most of the time).

kaylaandthestarcatcher

Oh, and because this is always important to remember --

vtmoon

All my guy friends would bed you but they wouldn't date you because of your weight...

Your guy friends sound like a-holes.

aholes because they have a certain preference on what they want? that is a bit harsh don't you think?

ranhound

Fitness is always attractive but it is the right personality that one wants to marry.

fatfrost

Wouldn't touch you. You are waaayyy too young.