I want to cry and scream and..

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  • Springfield_Rocks
    Springfield_Rocks Posts: 289
    ok i hope you "pop" BC pills on a regular basis. If his "friend" can talk him into taking pills what else can he be talked into? If he picks any friends over you now, it will NEVER change. Sorry this was harsh but its not a good enviroment for youy to be in. Best of luck to you.

    I habe the mirena IUD un. Could be the reason Im so damn emotional.

    you are emotional because you should be feeling emotional. you are being treated like crap. get to a women's shelter, they will help you find employment and a place to live.

    fear sucks. it's paralyzing. it seems safe to stay where you are because it is something you know. but that's all a lie. you deserve better. but you need to stick up for yourself... no one else will until you do.
    ♥
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    Cant get out. Have absolutely no where to go. No friends.. No family.. Nothing. No job.. No money.. No car.. Im screwed right now.

    I'm sorry to hear that. You will need to get a job and move out. Explore your options.
  • littlebudgie
    littlebudgie Posts: 279 Member
    ok i hope you "pop" BC pills on a regular basis. If his "friend" can talk him into taking pills what else can he be talked into? If he picks any friends over you now, it will NEVER change. Sorry this was harsh but its not a good enviroment for youy to be in. Best of luck to you.

    I habe the mirena IUD un. Could be the reason Im so damn emotional.

    I mean this in the nicest possible way, but I think the fact that your boyfriend is abusing drugs, bringing over a friend who mocks you, laughing along with the friend, and ditching plans with you has more to do with you feeling emotional than the mirena.
  • 91lowharley
    91lowharley Posts: 22 Member
    I definitely don't want to be rude BUT you're the one that is enabling him. It's not the friend that is at fault. It's actually yours because you're letting it happen. You're boyfriend doesn't really care how your feel or think because he's on drugs. It's that simple. Listen and pay close attention to what everyone is posting here and yes, put your "big girl panties" and stand up for YOU. Listen to YOURSELF because you already know what to do - just do it and don't stick up for him "he's actually awesome" HMMMMMMMMM?????? Good luck
  • Sharkington
    Sharkington Posts: 485
    1 - just because your an adult, you are aloud to cry.
    2 - it sounds like you are a prisoner...why can you not leave your room?

    Because I dont want to deal with his friends wise cracks focused at me. Can be anything from my attitiude.. My weight (especially my weight) what im wearing. It dont matter. He picks anything. Worst part is.. My bf doesnt even care. He laughs along with james. No care. Not even when im crying from the hurtful things he says.

    I'm sorry to say, but your boyfriend DOESN'T sound awesome just by everything you have said in this thread. Your exercise and eating patterns should not be dependent on who is in your home. You can't really blame your boyfriend's friend for you not eating because in the end, it's your choice to stay locked in your room. I know you don't want to deal with the wise cracks, but feeling starved just to make a point to your boyfriend is not doing you any good at all. Maybe it is time to think about whether this relationship is worth it. I can't imagine being with someone who laughs with other people insulting me in my own home. He sounds just as disrespectful as his friend.
  • allikat93
    allikat93 Posts: 236
    You are emotional because both of these people are putting your health and life in danger. Here you are on a calorie counting/ workout website. Not far off there are people that are putting OTC or illegal drugs in their body. Do not be unequally yoked. Kick him to the curve. How would you feel if you got pulled over and some loose pills were in the car? You can say it is your boyfriends all you want all the way to jail. That would be horrible. Praying you make the right decision.

    Thats alittle extreme. HE doesnt do pills by himself. He only does them when his friend is over and he brings them. He took 1 pill. (not excusing it.. I hate it). He hasnt done this in about a year. It ISNT a common thing. Im not making excuses.. I hate this but i wish you guys would quit saying stuff like this. And considering I dont drive.. Its kinda hard to get pulled over...
  • crlyxx
    crlyxx Posts: 186 Member
    Straight-up tell him you don't like it. If he doesn't care, then obviously he doesn't deem you worth it. In that case, find another. That's all I can say.
  • CharityGC
    CharityGC Posts: 499 Member
    If he's an *kitten* around this friend and he won't give up this friend, then he's just an *kitten*.
  • juliedor
    juliedor Posts: 72 Member
    Get your gear on, walk out with your head high,get in the car and go to someone else for the night!
    We will only be treated the way we accept being treated.
    You my darling are worth more than this.
  • 3foldchord
    3foldchord Posts: 2,918 Member
    He is awesome when he isnt around this so caled 'friend'. But this 'friend' is an awful influence (i.e... The pills)

    if you are blaming the 'friend', you are making a HUGE mistake.

    don't blame the 'friend'.

    :-)


    ^This

    Double this...

    adding my ditto
  • norcal_yogi
    norcal_yogi Posts: 675 Member
    Throw and break things.

    But I cant cause Im an adult.

    This day keeps getting worse. To much to go into.. But the short version is..

    Boyfriend is being an absolute **** (He is hanging out with his "best friend" so no surprise there)
    This is in my house so I am locked in my room.
    There is no food in said room.
    I dont want to go out and get food because of said "friend"
    Boyfriend is popping pills and being an all around douche whos word never amounts to anything.
    Im starving and stressed out and pissed off.

    Maybe I will find an old protein bar somewhere for dinner. If I am lucky.
    Didnt even get a "workout" in today because of his friend. (was suppost to shoot hoops with the guy but his friend is more important)

    Anyway. Sorry. Just feeling down. Carry on with your cool lifes full of friends and family. I will be laying here on my bed with the only family and friend around. A cat. Go figure.

    lose the boyfriend. yes seriously.
  • AylaishlyBecca
    AylaishlyBecca Posts: 10
    Its Oregon....its gonna rain for awhile yet. I walked after dinner for about 40 minutes...then came home, hung my wet clothes, and calculated my trek on wwwsportsdistancecalculator.com so its doable in the rain friend!! Be strong... be fearless.... I figure that eating and exercise is the only thing I can count on....the only thing I can control with my husband being at 10% liver function...so just get out there girlie :-) Becca
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    I get that it's impossible to get a complete picture of a relationship from one thread and your boyfriend probably has great qualities too. That said, this doesn't sound like a good situation at all. I think you should work hard at finding a job and becoming self-sufficient so you at least have the option to get out of this living arrangement.
  • allikat93
    allikat93 Posts: 236
    Its Oregon....its gonna rain for awhile yet. I walked after dinner for about 40 minutes...then came home, hung my wet clothes, and calculated my trek on wwwsportsdistancecalculator.com so its doable in the rain friend!! Be strong... be fearless.... I figure that eating and exercise is the only thing I can count on....the only thing I can control with my husband being at 10% liver function...so just get out there girlie :-) Becca

    Sorry bout your hubby. When will he get his new liver? Hopefully soon.
    (btw.. I have a phobia about wet clothes.. I freak out if they get soaked.. A little rain is okay. Walking for an hour or so in it.. Big no for me. I would freak out and kinda panic. Its weird.. But true)
  • allikat93
    allikat93 Posts: 236
    I get that it's impossible to get a complete picture of a relationship from one thread and your boyfriend probably has great qualities too. That said, this doesn't sound like a good situation at all. I think you should work hard at finding a job and becoming self-sufficient so you at least have the option to get out of this living arrangement.

    THANK YOU!! Someone who gets it. I am looking for a job and stuff. Just really hard in this economy and living in such a small town it is hard to find avalible jobs anymore.
  • ruckerbenton
    ruckerbenton Posts: 94
    You're still there. I'm sure you've been through this before. Nothing will be different unless a change is made. Good thing you're young. You have the time to waste. Right?
  • sekhmet13
    sekhmet13 Posts: 49 Member
    As a good friend once told me, "If you aren't happy, either *kitten* or get off the pot". If you don't do something, nothing will change.
  • johnsongirls
    johnsongirls Posts: 57 Member
    I don't really understand the point of this. You knew everyone was going to tell you to get rid of him. It is clear you won't. So why come on here to complain about something you have absolutely no desire to change?
  • taliar93
    taliar93 Posts: 111 Member
    He is awesome when he isnt around this so caled 'friend'. But this 'friend' is an awful influence (i.e... The pills)

    Ditch him, seriously, if he's a jerk when he's around this "friend" then it's obvious who is more important to him, and it aint you.
  • Springfield_Rocks
    Springfield_Rocks Posts: 289
    Yes, the "friend" ruined your day, like you made me fat.

    You are more than welcome to join my "Emo Sympathy Begger" group.

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/groups/home/13549-emo-sympathy-begger

    This is why we love you Pu_239! :flowerforyou:
  • JenCatwalk
    JenCatwalk Posts: 285 Member
    As bad as your boyfriend is treating you, demand respect, more importantly practice self-respect. Go out and eat by yourself and enjoy your own company, go out and excersise and dress nicely, for you, not him. He will see you enjoying yourself without him, might even get scared and straighten his act a bit. But if he doesn't think you're worth the effort of sobering up off them pills, then obviously he isnt worth your time.

    I've been through the same ****.
  • 1ConcreteGirl
    1ConcreteGirl Posts: 3,677 Member
    Yup, nothing you could do about that.
  • Beezil
    Beezil Posts: 1,677 Member
    You can't expect anything to change or get better if you're doing nothing to change it. Get rid of the negativity in your life - because you don't want to look back one day and see you wasted years upon years of your life being miserable for no good reason.
  • amandajoy9954
    amandajoy9954 Posts: 8 Member
    wow sounds like a really uncomfortable situation. If it was me I would be going crazy to say the least. Praying for you tonight
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    Ya know, you could...oh I don't know...find a guy who isn't a POS?


    OMG I JUST SOLVED UR PROBLEMZ!
  • amandajoy9954
    amandajoy9954 Posts: 8 Member
    As bad as your boyfriend is treating you, demand respect, more importantly practice self-respect. Go out and eat by yourself and enjoy your own company, go out and excersise and dress nicely, for you, not him. He will see you enjoying yourself without him, might even get scared and straighten his act a bit. But if he doesn't think you're worth the effort of sobering up off them pills, then obviously he isnt worth your time.


    what she said^^^^^^
  • missj1020
    missj1020 Posts: 37 Member
    just remember my dear: if nothing changes....NOTHING changes! Don't make excuses for him, the friend is not a good influence but he is a big boy...he chooses what he does....his choices are not on the same page you are....hang in there!:explode:
  • summersbest
    summersbest Posts: 194 Member
    I was in an unhealthy relationship as well. He liked his alcohol and it got to the point where he kept choosing it over me and his young daughter from a previous relationship. I, too, was scared to leave but then I realized I was better being by myself and lonely than continue in a situation that was obviously never going to work out. He started becoming verbally abusive and I decided that I wasn't about to wait around until it became physical. Of course he always blamed his behaviour on the alcohol but the bottom line was that he continued to drink, knowing what it was doing to our relationship. I am now in a healthy relationship with a guy who is beyond supportive and kind which never would have happened if I hadn't ended things with the other guy.

    The bottom line is that you owe it to yourself to be happy and it sounds like this is never going to happen with the guy you are with. Maybe talk to your landlord/roommate and tell her that you need to stay and he needs to go. You need to stop making excuses for his bad behaviour and move on with your life. Ottherwise, you have no one to blame but yourself for your unhappiness. I know this sounds harsh but unfortunately the truth hurts sometimes. It's not that others on this site aren't being supportive, they are just trying to tell you what is blatently obvious to everyone but you. Get rid of him!
  • corsayre8
    corsayre8 Posts: 551 Member
    How about grab your keys and walk out the door? Seriously, quit blaming people for your choice to sulk in your room. Sorry your bf and his friend as being *kitten*, but you are the one giving them the power to influence your mood and health decisions.
  • iulia_maddie
    iulia_maddie Posts: 2,780 Member
    Stop wasting your time everyone. She needed to vent, but she won't actually leave him.
    Not until he's walked all over her, not until leaving him will be her only option, not until she grows up enough to realize that this is not what a relationship should be.

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