How many dates should a guy pay for?

thatonegirlwiththestuff

I think it's whoever asks the other out. I actually did ask a guy out and did pay for dinner. I have never done that before, and I think I emasculated him a bit with it, although I liked it. It's cool though, he's been paying for the others since then.

salladeve

I guess I'm old fashioned, but the guy should always pay when dating. When I'm serious with someone, I usually do a lot of cooking, I enjoy it and it is a way to show someone how much you care about them. When we go out though they pay.

sentaruu

new dates? all of them.

I've almost always paid for dinner dates. sometimes if it's lunch or coffee i'll let her pay but that usually isn't until later in the relationship.

(it is, however, a turn off when a lady expects me to pay)

SwashBlogger

Guys pay for outings. However, a decent woman would be happy to spend a lot of evenings/afternoons doing super inexpensive stuff. If you want big, fancy dinners, concerts, etc in exchange for your company you may be a call girl.

BurntCoffee

All of them. BUT girls also need to realize that men are not made of money and offer to make dinner for them for a date night in.

TwinkieDong

I would say depends on who you are dating. If they are a foreigner then you should google the dating expectations there. For American born people. I would say women should pay the first 4-5 dates at least. Then the man could pay for 1 if she is really nice.

TwinkieDong

In all seriousness, my time is just as valuable as anyone else. I would agree with who ever asks the other out should pay first. Then after that 50/50 or I pay this time you pay next time. According to this survey below women are cheap.


http://www.businessinsider.com/men-think-women-should-pay-on-dates-2013-8#!I4tt5

A new study out of Chapman University in California says that nearly two-thirds of men believe women should contribute to dating expenses.
The paper — titled "Who Pays for Dates?" — was based on survey data from 17,000 heterosexual and unmarried participants, 4,000 of whom provided written responses.

The study found that 64% of the men surveyed believe that women should pay their own way on dates, with 44% admitting that they would stop dating a woman who never paid.

Yet even though the majority of men believe women should be going Dutch, 84% of the male respondents said that they pay for most of the dating expenses.

The women surveyed seemed more conflicted. While 57% of women said they offer to pay on dates, 39% confessed that they secretly hoped the man would still pay.

But the conventions of dating can only last so long. As relationships progress, 40% of both men and women say that they begin to at least partially share dating expenses within the first month and 83% of women reported sharing expenses by six months of dating.



Read more: http://www.businessinsider.com/men-think-women-should-pay-on-dates-2013-8#ixzz30sRhDRg9

Autk79

Maybe Im old fashioned but I think the guy should be paying untill you are really serious. Once you are together all the time, or live together or are married then 50/50. I will always bring money with me in case but Id prob never go on a date again if I had to pay the first couple times.. but maybe thats just me. If I called a guy and said hey lets go to a concert or baseball game then Id pay but other than that, its prob not gonna happen

laynerich15

1PatientBear

All of them. BUT girls also need to realize that men are not made of money and offer to make dinner for them for a date night in.

Ummmm....no. I will pay for the first few dates, but after that, she needs to pony up as well. I have financial responsibilities just like she does and I'm not going to be her sugar daddy. If she doesn't pay on the 4th or 5th date, I'm out.

The other part of that is I always want a woman to OFFER to pay on our first date. I would never let her, but someone who doesn't at least offer sends up a red flag.

TwinkieDong

Maybe Im old fashioned but I think the guy should be paying untill you are really serious. Once you are together all the time, or live together or are married then 50/50. I will always bring money with me in case but Id prob never go on a date again if I had to pay the first couple times.. but maybe thats just me. If I called a guy and said hey lets go to a concert or baseball game then Id pay but other than that, its prob not gonna happen

so then your father would pay for the marriage? Old fashion is old fashion.....right?

rm33064

I will usually insist on paying for everything, but if the woman doesn't offer to at least leave the tip I won't call her again.... After I've slept with her that is. :bigsmile:

Autk79

Yes mam, he would pay for both mine and my sisters wedding

trojan_bb

All.

Can't remember the last time I didn't pay for a date. Even after 'dating' for multiple years. Probably I can't remember because it never happened.

Ummmm....no. I will pay for the first few dates, but after that, she needs to pony up as well. I have financial responsibilities just like she does and I'm not going to be her sugar daddy. If she doesn't pay on the 4th or 5th date, I'm out.

The other part of that is I always want a woman to OFFER to pay on our first date. I would never let her, but someone who doesn't at least offer sends up a red flag.

Honestly, a woman offering on the first few dates to pay is insulting. For several reasons. 1) it's usually not a genuine offer. You know the type...the casual oh let me slowly reach for my purse while you quickly get your credit card. 2) Do I not look well-mannered and successful enough to pay?

An offer after the first few dates is fine. I will always refuse, but the offer is appreciated.

Autk79

Ive never put out on a first date and never had someone not pay the first date. It was just how I was raised I guess.

Mia_RagazzaTosta

I dunno. He paid for dinner, I paid for breakfast.

kristinsnm

No rule, but it's nice to have the offer.... I'm a person who believes it should all even out, but there is still that nice feeling that comes from being treated like a princess lol