MY HUBBY LIKES ME FAT....SABOTAGING

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  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,984 Member
    Some men don't want you buying new clothes. Big hit on the income.:laugh:

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  • lithezebra
    lithezebra Posts: 3,670 Member
    Make him keep them in his car.....Convince yourself that they don't taste that good anyway. Keep stuff in the house that HE likes and YOU don't! This way he has something he can eat that you really don't like.

    Or Throw it away -- and tell him very calmly. I'm sorry but I'll be throwing these things away from now on. If you want to eat them you'll need to keep them in the car.

    Why such drastic measures? Heaven forbid a spouse brought home some brownies! Jesus have mercy.

    Having my husband keep his treats in his office, or on high shelves that I can't reach, has worked for me. I wouldn't throw someone else's treats away, however if I can't see them, I won't eat them. The other thing that has worked for me is practicing self control, and I mean practice in the sense of repeatedly saying no to food after I've had a serving. It has gotten a lot easier for me to live with someone who is not on a diet.

    P.S. I have no willpower at all.

    I've practiced extreme willpower for almost seven hours now! I hope those brownies are gone by morning...lol

    Good job! Does your husband have a workroom where he can keep them out of sight?
  • Michelle2W
    Michelle2W Posts: 163 Member
    No, he doesn't! I just have to learn, I don't need to eat whatever enters this house :-)
  • froeschli
    froeschli Posts: 1,292 Member
    My husband buys me a 400g bar of toblerone every week. He sees it as a reward for all the work I've done. And we all need a bit of rewarding :-)
    Difference is, he used to bring home donuts, pastries, other desserts, because we both really enjoy them. Now he calls first, to check if its ok with me. And I've learned not to eat a bar of toblerone in 2 days or less. 1 piece a day. 2 if I feel particularly low.

    Our misunderstanding is when it comes to flowers. Apparently I once mentioned that I prefer living flowers (like African violets etc) to bouquets of roses, because I hate to see them wilt. He hasn't brought home flowers since. oops.
  • Michelle2W
    Michelle2W Posts: 163 Member
    What does it say about your relationship in the first place that the first thing you think is 'sabotage' rather than he's trying to make you happy? He wants you to have the treats he knows you like, because he probably assumes you can control yourself. Christ...


    No where in my post did I say sabaotage is the first things I thought. You asked what does it say about my relationship? Let me tell you. It says we've been married 22 of the 26 years he's been in the military (when over 65% of military marriages ends in divorce), 12 moves (2 overseas), 8 deployments to the Middle East (totaling almost 5 years), three happy kids (despite having to leave friends and schools over and over again), worrying sick on the inside when he's deployed to a hostile environment (but you smile on the outside for the kids). Would I do it all over again? YES, YES & YES, because I love my life, I just want less of me to love...lol

    I posted this post lightheartedly. Thanks to everyone for their advice and laughs;-)