HELP: I dont want muscles, Just want to get rid of flab!

CorvusCorax77

I give up.

Hey, I noticed your effort

Thanks. All I have to say at this point is that I do not miss being OP's age. It is hard to remember what it was like to want to be in someone else's body rather than my own.

I was missing out on your whole part of the conversation... but I second what you said. We all have to learn to accept our own bodies and not compare ourselves to others.

danasings

I give up.

Well, I for one appreciated your info, bumblebums.

OP, I want my body to look like Heidi Klum's. but you know what? I'm 5'6" tall and most of my body is torso, meaning I have the leg length of a shorter person. I will never look like Heidi. I look more like a reasonably fit mother of two. my belly area juts out from two pregnancies and my waist isn't narrow. That having been said, I hate to burst your bubble, but you will never look like those women UNLESS you have similar body shape, height, and genetic muscle shape as they do.

ETA: I didn't realize that you are so young. I wasn't trying to be harsh, just pointing out that you need to work with what you have.

kinsa2

I want my body to look like this:



and this



not this:



(if it works)

1) Purchase a copy of Photoshop, and take a course.
2) Use soft focus when taking photos of yourself.
2) Alter all of your pictures so that they do not show any definition anywhere.

Problem solved.

thank u, urs was the most helpful post ever, truly appreciated

darwinwoodka

You're not gonna get "ripped" unless you cut your body fat percentage pretty low and shed a lot of water weight. There are special cutting diets those women do to look that way. You WANT muscles, though. Muscles are what will burn your fat and make you look great.

Jacwhite22

I don't want to go down that path But thanks for the idea anyway :P
I am prepared to lift weights, but I just would like some suggestions at how how much of them to do and roughly how heavy the weights should be so I could get the desired result.

You aren't making sense. Either you want to firm up and retain muscle while losing fat (lifting heavy weights). Or you want to lose as much weight as possible with little regard to muscle retention. I seriously can not tell from your posts what you even want.

I already apologized for using the term muscle. I just don't want the toning to be obvious on my body so I just want to know roughly how may reps I needed to do for how long and what weight so I could achieve this

3-12 reps.....as much weight as you can to stay in that rep range.....Lift as many reps as you can.....eat in a deficit.

kinsa2

I give up.

Well, I for one appreciated your info, bumblebums.

OP, I want my body to look like Heidi Klum's. but you know what? I'm 5'6" tall and most of my body is torso, meaning I have the leg length of a shorter person. I will never look like Heidi. I look more like a reasonably fit mother of two. my belly area juts out from two pregnancies and my waist isn't narrow. That having been said, I hate to burst your bubble, but you will never look like those women UNLESS you have similar body shape, height, and genetic muscle shape as they do.

I understand ur point but the reason I chose those two ladies was because they are both of my height of 5ft 5 and have the same hourglass body shape. I am not wanting something I don't have, I just want the end results to look like that

kinsa2

I don't want to go down that path But thanks for the idea anyway :P
I am prepared to lift weights, but I just would like some suggestions at how how much of them to do and roughly how heavy the weights should be so I could get the desired result.

You aren't making sense. Either you want to firm up and retain muscle while losing fat (lifting heavy weights). Or you want to lose as much weight as possible with little regard to muscle retention. I seriously can not tell from your posts what you even want.

I already apologized for using the term muscle. I just don't want the toning to be obvious on my body so I just want to know roughly how may reps I needed to do for how long and what weight so I could achieve this

3-12 reps.....as much weight as you can to stay in that rep range.....Lift as many reps as you can.....eat in a deficit.

thank you so much: finally

danasings

I give up.

Well, I for one appreciated your info, bumblebums.

OP, I want my body to look like Heidi Klum's. but you know what? I'm 5'6" tall and most of my body is torso, meaning I have the leg length of a shorter person. I will never look like Heidi. I look more like a reasonably fit mother of two. my belly area juts out from two pregnancies and my waist isn't narrow. That having been said, I hate to burst your bubble, but you will never look like those women UNLESS you have similar body shape, height, and genetic muscle shape as they do.

I understand ur point but the reason I chose those two ladies was because they are both of my height of 5ft 5 and have the same hourglass body shape. I am not wanting something I don't have, I just want the end results to look like that

Okay, that makes sense. Then you should focus on fat loss, and there have been many posts here that can help you achieve it. Best of luck to you. (BTW, you are stunningly beautiful girl as you are now. I hope you get to where you are happy with your body.)

CorvusCorax77

I don't want to go down that path But thanks for the idea anyway :P
I am prepared to lift weights, but I just would like some suggestions at how how much of them to do and roughly how heavy the weights should be so I could get the desired result.

You aren't making sense. Either you want to firm up and retain muscle while losing fat (lifting heavy weights). Or you want to lose as much weight as possible with little regard to muscle retention. I seriously can not tell from your posts what you even want.

I already apologized for using the term muscle. I just don't want the toning to be obvious on my body so I just want to know roughly how may reps I needed to do for how long and what weight so I could achieve this

3-12 reps.....as much weight as you can to stay in that rep range.....Lift as many reps as you can.....eat in a deficit.

thank you so much: finally

:sad:

I guess my post where I explained the different weight and reps went unappreciated

:sad:

hungryhobbit1

You cannot have arms just like these women, because even these women do not actually have arms like this. (At least, not from other angles.)

Here is another photo of Ileana D'Cruz in which you can see that she does, in fact, posses arm muscles. (Fortunately)



Please try to be the healthiest you can be in your own body. I gave up trying to find the exercise that would make me 6 feet tall and capable of possessing a gap between my thighs a long time ago.

bumblebums

You cannot have arms just like these women, because even these women do not actually have arms like this. (At least, not from other angles.)

Here is another photo of Ileana D'Cruz in which you can see that she does, in fact, posses arm muscles. (Fortunately)

OMG I see pecs and delts, too!

saxmaniac

A bunch of people here will bust on you for not wanting a hard-body, but this usually a misunderstanding.

They actually look like they both work out and lift weights to me - just that the first has slightly higher bodyfat than the latter for a smoother look. (There's also lighting and other stuff, etc. The last pic is obviously a "fitness" pic where the goal is to look cut, and the first two are not.)

There are two dimensions. Body fat %, and muscle. They are entirely separate things.

You won't gain muscle accidentally, but when your bodyfat goes low enough, it can show more definition in the muscles you already have. Some people think of this as "muscular", everyone has their own definition. You can call it whatever you want. You want a smooth look which implies a certain % of bodyfat. Just figure out what it is and target that.

You won't "accidentally" look like either of them. You have to work hard to get either.

CorvusCorax77

well one good thing came from this post, I'm no longer feeling so bad about my present 23% bf. Cuz those ladies are pretty smokin'.

yomikeya

I'm not a woman but a word of advice. It takes a LOT of weight lifting to develop "masculine looking muscles" ESPECIALLY on a woman. You really need to lift some weights, especially if you are concerned with tightening your skin. Believe me, doing some low weight, high rep lifting (or bodyweight) exercises is going to be really beneficial in the long run and most definitely will not detract from your feminine form.

Clovergirl143

I found this video on Pinterest, and just watching it made my arms hurt, but it's designed to help tone your arms without bulking them up. Hope this helps!

http://www.youtube.com/watch/?v=4dQOBbLnk7o

pcastagner

Just keep you body fat higher and you won't show any muscles.


You are getting a lot of grief instead of a good explanation of what it takes to get what you are after.


1)start lifting heavy and doing high intensity interval training
2)get on a calorie deficit and monitor your body fat instead of just your weight
3)when you hit the look you want, start eating at maintenance and lift just once a week

kellijauch

skin firming lotion

toaster6

Don't worry about muscle definition. You won't get it if you aren't specifically trying for it. My arm exercises are around 70-80 (and working my way up) pounds and I don't think I look bulky or muscular at all. And it did help with the flab-- the arm parts of my clothes are definitely getting looser. I do incline, decline, and military presses at 80 pounds (3 sets with ten reps each) and pull downs at 70 pounds (3 sets, ten reps each). There may be better exercises (I'm not a weight lifting expert) but those are working well for me.

ZoeLifts

You guys are absolutely not answering OP's question. She is seeking the exact formula for the body she wants to achieve and you are all keeping the secret from her.

Dear, you need to buy some 12.18 lb dumbbells (they come in a variety of colors, just check amazon. I prefer purple, some like pink, both are equally effective). Then you need to only do 10 curls, 3 times a day, no more, no less and only 10 minutes before you eat your first meal of the day. At that point you should begin to see the exact level of muscle to body fat ratio that you desire (i.e. toning). Be careful you do not do a single rep more than what I have prescribed or you will have all sorts of muscle popping out everywhere, within minutes in some cases! Good luck on your journey!

csheltra26

Hate to tell you but you body is already covered in muscles. They are literally every where.

This.

I don't know why women are afraid to lift weights and build muscle. You won't look like a huge body builder. And as you get older, you will wish you had more muscle. Helps you burn more calories overall and as you get older you lose muscle thus burn less calories...

Jacwhite22

I don't want to go down that path But thanks for the idea anyway :P
I am prepared to lift weights, but I just would like some suggestions at how how much of them to do and roughly how heavy the weights should be so I could get the desired result.

You aren't making sense. Either you want to firm up and retain muscle while losing fat (lifting heavy weights). Or you want to lose as much weight as possible with little regard to muscle retention. I seriously can not tell from your posts what you even want.

I already apologized for using the term muscle. I just don't want the toning to be obvious on my body so I just want to know roughly how may reps I needed to do for how long and what weight so I could achieve this

3-12 reps.....as much weight as you can to stay in that rep range.....Lift as many reps as you can.....eat in a deficit.

thank you so much: finally

NP. In to add exercises you should utilize in this weight/rep range - (Bench Press, Seated Row, Overhead Press, pullups, Dips, squats, deadlifts)

kinsa2

You cannot have arms just like these women, because even these women do not actually have arms like this. (At least, not from other angles.)

Here is another photo of Ileana D'Cruz in which you can see that she does, in fact, posses arm muscles. (Fortunately)



Please try to be the healthiest you can be in your own body. I gave up trying to find the exercise that would make me 6 feet tall and capable of possessing a gap between my thighs a long time ago.

wow, u know Ileana d'cruz?

MireyGal76

Hi everyone,

I wanted to lose about 25kg in total starting from 86kg to about 55kg. I have lost about 11kg up till not through just controlling my diet and incorporating minor exercises to my daily lifestyle like walking to and from college etc.

I am extremely pleased with my progress, but I would like to firm up my skin around my arms, like when I hold it out the skin under it kind of hangs loosely. Its not too bad, but I would like it to be more firm.

I just want to know roughly how much weight I would have to lift and how often including repetitions so that I don't get muscles and I just firm it up.
I hate muscles on a feminine body and I'm scared I might get it if I lift so please help me out on this!

your post makes me sad.
good luck on getting in shape without "getting muscles on your feminine body"

eta: and yes, I know you probably look at my picture and say EWWWWW, and I'm perfectly fine with that. That is me flexed. I look "feminine" both flexed and unflexed.

Huffdogg

If you lose all of your weight via diet alone without resistance training, you will lose muscle as well. So at the end you will be lighter, but also weaker and still flabby looking.

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Capt_Apollo

Hi everyone,

I wanted to lose about 25kg in total starting from 86kg to about 55kg. I have lost about 11kg up till not through just controlling my diet and incorporating minor exercises to my daily lifestyle like walking to and from college etc.

I am extremely pleased with my progress, but I would like to firm up my skin around my arms, like when I hold it out the skin under it kind of hangs loosely. Its not too bad, but I would like it to be more firm.

I just want to know roughly how much weight I would have to lift and how often including repetitions so that I don't get muscles and I just firm it up.
I hate muscles on a feminine body and I'm scared I might get it if I lift so please help me out on this!

your post makes me sad.
good luck on getting in shape without "getting muscles on your feminine body"

eta: and yes, I know you probably look at my picture and say EWWWWW, and I'm perfectly fine with that. That is me flexed. I look "feminine" both flexed and unflexed.

i'd hit it

_DaniD_

I hate muscles on a feminine body and I'm scared I might get it if I lift so please help me out on this!

Huffdogg

I already apologized for using the term muscle. I just don't want the toning to be obvious on my body so I just want to know roughly how may reps I needed to do for how long and what weight so I could achieve this

The reason you aren't getting much in the way of a straight answer is because there is virtually no way to answer such a vague question with arbitrary numbers. Ideally you want to eat at a deficit and lift weights for all of your muscle groups that are going to present to you a difficulty in the "strength" range of training. Something that is hard for you to lift, say, 8 times with good form. The weight will be different for every exercise. You will be able to deadlift far more than you can bench press, for instance. Once you have identified the weight that is appropriate for each movement, try to do 3 sets of 5 repetitions per exercise.

Honestly, I'd say that starting off with squats, a press (whether bench press or standing press), and deadlifts is an excellent starting point.

danasings

Hi everyone,

I wanted to lose about 25kg in total starting from 86kg to about 55kg. I have lost about 11kg up till not through just controlling my diet and incorporating minor exercises to my daily lifestyle like walking to and from college etc.

I am extremely pleased with my progress, but I would like to firm up my skin around my arms, like when I hold it out the skin under it kind of hangs loosely. Its not too bad, but I would like it to be more firm.

I just want to know roughly how much weight I would have to lift and how often including repetitions so that I don't get muscles and I just firm it up.
I hate muscles on a feminine body and I'm scared I might get it if I lift so please help me out on this!

your post makes me sad.
good luck on getting in shape without "getting muscles on your feminine body"

eta: and yes, I know you probably look at my picture and say EWWWWW, and I'm perfectly fine with that. That is me flexed. I look "feminine" both flexed and unflexed.

i'd hit it

Me, too...and twice on Sunday!

ninerbuff

Hi everyone,

I wanted to lose about 25kg in total starting from 86kg to about 55kg. I have lost about 11kg up till not through just controlling my diet and incorporating minor exercises to my daily lifestyle like walking to and from college etc.

I am extremely pleased with my progress, but I would like to firm up my skin around my arms, like when I hold it out the skin under it kind of hangs loosely. Its not too bad, but I would like it to be more firm.

I just want to know roughly how much weight I would have to lift and how often including repetitions so that I don't get muscles and I just firm it up.
I hate muscles on a feminine body and I'm scared I might get it if I lift so please help me out on this!

Can't tighten skin with exercise (unless you're on a calorie surplus). Just do body weight exercise basics to firm up. Push ups, squats, planks, etc.

A.C.E. Certified Personal/Group FitnessTrainer
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Warchortle

/sigh