introvert or extrovert?

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  • AllonsYtotheTardis
    AllonsYtotheTardis Posts: 16,947 Member
    I hate people
  • kaylaandthestarcatcher
    kaylaandthestarcatcher Posts: 836
    I am an introvert.

    It can sometimes be a problem because my best friend/roommate is an extrovert and there are times when she wants to hang out and I just want to be alone and I sometimes end up unintentionally offending her or hurting her feelings by telling her that I'd rather hang out in my room by myself than spend time with her. But if I don't get enough alone time, I get really stressed out and cranky.

    I also have social anxiety, so that's fun. I have a hard time talking to people and then I am able to convince myself that everybody hates me! Yeah. It's pretty cool.
  • TheWiseCat
    TheWiseCat Posts: 297
    I'm beyond being an introvert. I am a stab-people-in-the-face-trovert.
  • diodelcibo
    diodelcibo Posts: 2,564 Member
    Pretty sure I'm an extrovert.
  • mmm_drop
    mmm_drop Posts: 1,126 Member
    I guess I'm kind of weird. I am both. At work I have no problem at all interacting with my coworkers and clients, even when I am out on a business trip with brand new clients I don't know; people think I am witty and fun to be around. I am a big goof ball and laugh a lot, they see the real me, I guess you could say.

    However, in my personal life I have a really hard when I first meet new people as well. I clam up and get all weird (okay, weirder than I normally am). Once I know people and am comfortable around them I am able to be myself, goofy and fun-loving.

    The funny thing is that I don't really care what strangers think; I play air drums while walking down the sidewalk, I do laugh loudly and often. If people notice or stare, I don't notice or care, but if they approach me I get awkward.
  • TraceyG1971
    TraceyG1971 Posts: 123
    I'm a total introvert. I find it difficult to talk to anyone I don't know. If I make conversation with a stranger, I am forcing myself to do so and end up feeling like I was just talking jibberish. I don't like going to social events or anywhere that has a large group of people. I have very few RL friends. I enjoy "me" time and spending time with my family and friends. What's funny is that most of my friends are extroverts and they are the ones that took the time to befriend me. It's a challenge for them to get me to go out with them. Sometimes I wish I could be more extroverted but I know it's not going to happen.
  • saxmaniac
    saxmaniac Posts: 1,133 Member
    First, a definition - an extrovert gains energy from being around other people and finds being alone taxing. An introvert gains energy from being alone and finds being around people draining. Introverts are not misanthropes.

    I am a social introvert. I like people, a LOT, but it drains my energy but I have to retreat and gather my thoughts every hour or two. If I'm out being social all day then I might need days to recuperate.

    I wish I was an extrovert and could bounce around, being social, without cost, but that's not me. You guys have it made.
  • Increditim
    Increditim Posts: 159
    Very extrovert - like very. That is all I can say. I'm too shy to share any more.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    i don't know.

    I am unassuming and fairly quiet. I don't go out of my way to meet new people nor chat up strangers.

    However, I enjoy performing in front of people. I like getting on a stage and singing and I used to act in plays.

    I am much more comfortable singing in front of 100 people than I am singing in front of a few.
  • Brownsbacker4evr
    Brownsbacker4evr Posts: 365 Member
    I pretty much base everything I do on whether or not there will be people there. And by everything I do, I mean working out and shopping...that's all I do because, I do not care for crowds or any people to begin with. I'd say I show strong signs of introvert-ism.
  • onedayatatime410
    onedayatatime410 Posts: 42 Member
    Introvert...unless drunk, then total extrovert. :drinker:

    EXACTLY!!!! Same boat...
  • QueenGyn
    QueenGyn Posts: 106
    Introvert :glasses:
  • drchimpanzee
    drchimpanzee Posts: 892 Member
    Pervert :)
  • BigDave1050
    BigDave1050 Posts: 854 Member
    I think I'm an attention *kitten*!

    I get allot of looks when I go out (I'm tall) might as well put on a show for them right?
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  • chelseascounter
    chelseascounter Posts: 1,283 Member
    This is so me... sometimes it makes people feel awkward and I'm not even doing anything :ohwell:
  • bookyeti
    bookyeti Posts: 544 Member
    I will recommend the book "Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking" by Susan Cain. It isn't scientific but there are mentions of studies that have been done. It is mostly personal stories that relate to the studies. The beginning is also about how our society transformed from one that valued introverts to one that expects everyone to be extroverted. I know several people who have read and enjoyed it also.
    Yes, it's an excellent book IMHO.
  • nicalexx
    nicalexx Posts: 26 Member
    i'm really uncomfortable around strangers in real life. i can put up a false front of friendliness and make small talk, but inside i find meeting new people to be very awkward and usually don't speak unless i must. when that happens, i mask that awkwardness with humor.

    i don't like to be the center of attention and much prefer to be just another anonymous face in the crowd. i have no idea why some people so desperately want to become "famous". i would find that to be awful. i've always been this way. until i know somebody better, i'm always ill at ease around them.

    i guess you could say i'm an introvert.

    what about you?

    This is exactly how I feel every single day!
  • sauerkrautpolka
    sauerkrautpolka Posts: 266 Member
    Introvert. Oddly enough, I'm pretty outgoing online so some might mistake me as an extrovert. In real life, I'm rather reserved and keep to myself. I enjoy my alone time.
  • wickedcricket
    wickedcricket Posts: 1,246 Member
    introvert. much prefer my own company, a book or movie. I find most ppl are not at all understanding, compassionate or polite about it however so I am a RUDE INTROVERT.
    If I don't want to talk on the phone, I say so
    If I don't feel like company, I say so
    If I'm at your house, party - whatever and I feel like going home, I do.
    Like it or lump it- YOU don't explain YOUR actions to me and I refuse to explain myself
    so introvert - but assertive about it
  • lithezebra
    lithezebra Posts: 3,670 Member
    Making small talk is a lot more likely to lead to genuine friendships than spilling your guts is. There's nothing wrong with being an introvert, but give yourself credit for your social skills.
  • onedayatatime410
    onedayatatime410 Posts: 42 Member
    JUST MY OPINION...
    I think it is funny how a lot of people call Introverts extroverted. In order to really judge a person's preferences, you have to know them and what they think internally. And typically introverts don't tend to give that type of info out unless we trust ya! You only see what we want you to see on the outside, not what we truly prefer most times. Just a thought lol...
  • jmc0806
    jmc0806 Posts: 1,444 Member
    I'm an introvert but working on it...
  • Mommareed4
    Mommareed4 Posts: 144
    Introvert :ohwell:
  • synthetiquecindy
    synthetiquecindy Posts: 44
    I'm a hardcore introvert. I really have to put on a show and "act" the part to appear extroverted. But ain't nobody got time for that, lol. Some really famous people who were constantly in the spotlight were introverted. Michael Jackson is the best example I know of, but there are many others like Michael Jordan and Albert Einstein, as well as numerous actors.

    Ain't nobody got time for that, indeed. Lol.

    Introvert!
  • bookyeti
    bookyeti Posts: 544 Member
    I'm an introvert but working on it...
    Why? There's nothing wrong with being an Introvert. And it's not something you can change even if you want to. Your temperament is something you're 'hard-wired' with. On the other hand...if you're shy, yes, you could work on that. :-)

    MYTH --> Introverts can "fix themselves" and become Extroverts.
    Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race.
  • RedHeadDevotchka
    RedHeadDevotchka Posts: 1,394 Member
    I am a lot of fun at parties, a good convo starter and overall extrovert. Ill talk to anyone and generally people around me end up becoming more talkative as I encourage it.
    I have a lot to say to everyone!
  • ShyGirl89
    ShyGirl89 Posts: 60 Member
    Introvert to the MAX.
  • jmc0806
    jmc0806 Posts: 1,444 Member
    I'm an introvert but working on it...
    Why? There's nothing wrong with being an Introvert. And it's not something you can change even if you want to. Your temperament is something you're 'hard-wired' with. On the other hand...if you're shy, yes, you could work on that. :-)

    MYTH --> Introverts can "fix themselves" and become Extroverts.
    Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race.

    Being shy was really more what I was referring to
  • ilmb87
    ilmb87 Posts: 216 Member
    Introvert.
  • 5erious
    5erious Posts: 469
    pervert

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