to all the "i wanna be soft and feminine" types

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  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    ...I credit the better running to lifting...

    OMG this is my experience, too. I've been a runner forever, but I hadn't been able to improve my race pace until I started lifting. It's amazing how running and lifting complement one another so well! :drinker:
  • Yanicka1
    Yanicka1 Posts: 4,564 Member
    You look awesome.
  • BreakinTheChains
    BreakinTheChains Posts: 381 Member
    Love this, you look GREAT :)
  • Lifting_Knitter
    Lifting_Knitter Posts: 1,025 Member
    so feminine! Good post OP!:drinker:
  • Schraudt814
    Schraudt814 Posts: 496 Member
    You look amazing and I looove your style!
  • aerynth
    aerynth Posts: 34 Member
    I hate this idea that lifting automatically changes your body type! My body type is naturally soft and curvy and when I lose body fat, it has a habit of disappearing from my waist first, leaving me with flabby thighs and hips and a 25-inch waist. With powerful quads, calves, and hamstrings underneath the layer of fat.

    I gave up on aspiring to be something I'm not. Embrace what makes you you and recognize your own beauty. You're stunning, by the way, and this thread makes me happy. Yay for more topics disproving misconceptions about ladies who lift!
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    But I am saying, stop it with the "I don't want to lift heavy because I want to be feminine" crap. What you are saying when you say you want to be "feminine" is that you want a higher body fat percentage than someone who has "rock solid abs." And that's ok. It doesn't have anything to do with lifting or not. Please understand that.

    I'm not sure why you think you should speak for others, but ...

    You can have low body fat and not have rock solid abs.
    You can have low body fat and rock solid abs without ever lifitng a weight.
  • KombuchaCat
    KombuchaCat Posts: 834 Member
    Hot!
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
    But I am saying, stop it with the "I don't want to lift heavy because I want to be feminine" crap. What you are saying when you say you want to be "feminine" is that you want a higher body fat percentage than someone who has "rock solid abs." And that's ok. It doesn't have anything to do with lifting or not. Please understand that.

    I'm not sure why you think you should speak for others, but ...

    You can have low body fat and not have rock solid abs.
    You can have low body fat and rock solid abs without ever lifitng a weight.

    this is in response to a lot of conversation happening earlier today where someone kept saying "I don't want to lift! I want to be feminine and soft" and posting pics of women with abs you can see (as examples of what is "not feminine") vs women without visible ab muscles (her personal ideal of feminine). I know you can have abs without lifting weights because the visibility of ab muscles is a function of body fat percentage, not of the size or strength of the muscles underneath. Everyone has ab muscles. It's a fact. The visibility of those muscles has to do with body fat. I am trying to challenge this myth that lifting a heavy weight is automatically going to turn you into chisled muscles. I wish it were so. But it's not.
  • Lupercalia
    Lupercalia Posts: 1,857 Member
    You're a doll, OP! Super transformation, too. Love it! :flowerforyou:
  • VorJoshigan
    VorJoshigan Posts: 1,106 Member
    I have no idea why this soft/bulky/feminine stuff is so controversial.

    Ripped or squishy:

    The womens, I love them. I love them all.
  • Valera0466
    Valera0466 Posts: 319 Member
    You look great. This is the look I am going for. I lift heavy and my husband keeps showing me pictures of cut women, for inspiration I think. I keep telling him I don't want to lift til I'm cut, I want to look feminine. Always thought I would have to stop lifting at some point. I never considered that I needed to control my body fat. Thanks for the information. BTW, lifting is my favorite form of exercise.
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
    I would add that I don't think it is "unfeminine" to be cut. But maybe that's just me.
  • eringrace10
    eringrace10 Posts: 135 Member
    I'd say you look awesome, and soft and feminine, but also like a rock star
  • yummy_
    yummy_ Posts: 248 Member
    i just love looking at you.
    *sigh*
  • dressagester
    dressagester Posts: 53 Member

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    ^^^ OK... if this isn't feminine, cute, sexy, sweet, girly, then I don't know what is! Gotta luv a girl who lifts!!!
    Inspiring!

    :smile:

    WOW. That's enough to make me change teams! SO feminine and gorgeous.
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    But I am saying, stop it with the "I don't want to lift heavy because I want to be feminine" crap. What you are saying when you say you want to be "feminine" is that you want a higher body fat percentage than someone who has "rock solid abs." And that's ok. It doesn't have anything to do with lifting or not. Please understand that.

    I'm not sure why you think you should speak for others, but ...

    You can have low body fat and not have rock solid abs.
    You can have low body fat and rock solid abs without ever lifitng a weight.

    this is in response to a lot of conversation happening earlier today where someone kept saying "I don't want to lift! I want to be feminine and soft" and posting pics of women with abs you can see (as examples of what is "not feminine") vs women without visible ab muscles (her personal ideal of feminine). I know you can have abs without lifting weights because the visibility of ab muscles is a function of body fat percentage, not of the size or strength of the muscles underneath. Everyone has ab muscles. It's a fact. The visibility of those muscles has to do with body fat. I am trying to challenge this myth that lifting a heavy weight is automatically going to turn you into chisled muscles. I wish it were so. But it's not.

    Yes, I believe I saw the post to which you refer. And while that poster obviously had a chip on her shoulder, probably from another post as these things do seem to breed, I think her point was that many women don't think they are going to end up looking like Dwayne Johnson if they lift weights. It's unfortunate that the OP in that post chose to include insults in her post, but I'm not sure telling those that don't want to lift heavy what they "are really saying" comes acress as much less insulting.

    The fact is, feminine is pretty much an opinion. Whether or not muscles or fat figure into that opinion is personal.

    fem·i·nine/ˈfɛmənɪn/ Show Spelled [fem-uh-nin]
    adjective
    1. pertaining to a woman or girl: feminine beauty; feminine dress.
    2. having qualities traditionally ascribed to women, as sensitivity or gentleness.
    3. effeminate; womanish: a man with a feminine walk.
    4. belonging to the female sex; female: feminine staff members.
    5. Grammar . noting or pertaining to that one of the three genders of Latin, Greek, German, etc., or one of the two genders of French, Spanish, hebrew, etc., having among its members most nouns referring to females, as well as other nouns, as Latin stella “star,” or German Zeit “time.”

    Congrats on your progress BTW.
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
    Bcattoes

    If you identify as a woman, you are feminine.

    If you don't want to lift, don't lift.
    ...."I don't want to lift heavy because I want to be feminine" crap. What you are saying when you say you want to be "feminine" is that you want a higher body fat percentage than someone who has "rock solid abs."

    If you say you don't want to lift because you want to be feminine, and you support that assertion by showing pics of women with visible muscles as what you do not want to become and pics of women with less visible muscles as your idea of "feminine," I am sorry if it offends you but what is being said is "feminine" is a person with a higher body fat percentage than someone who's lower body fat is allowing her muscles to be visible. Maybe you think I consider that a bad thing. I really don't.

    These women are all feminine:

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    Here is some more context for you about body fat (all of these women are feminine):

    body-fat-percentage-women.jpg


    ETA: what I do consider bad is promoting the idea that a form of exercise is going to make you look a way you don't want to look when that assertion is utter rubbish.
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
    and just to be clear.

    You said "I'm not sure telling those that don't want to lift heavy what they "are really saying" comes across as much less insulting." I am not saying anything to "those that don't want to lift heavy" because there are many reasons people might not want to lift heavy, including laziness, injuries, or just a lack of interest. I am speaking to those who say "I don't want to lift heavy because I want to be feminine" I thought that was clear in my OP.
  • demonlullaby
    demonlullaby Posts: 499 Member
    you are beautiful!!!!!
  • meeper123
    meeper123 Posts: 3,347 Member
    I cant wait until my abs start to look better started lifting recently I cant see changes yet (its been 2 days lol) But I know I will :D
  • Hart2008
    Hart2008 Posts: 39 Member
    I would love to be a little less "soft and feminine." Rock hard on a women is hot!
  • christina0089
    christina0089 Posts: 709 Member
    HOT! :devil:
  • PetulantOne
    PetulantOne Posts: 2,131 Member
    You look amazing!
  • LosingMyMarbles
    LosingMyMarbles Posts: 168 Member
    Love the second pic! You're gorgeous!
  • FootsoreRambler
    FootsoreRambler Posts: 80 Member


    These women are all feminine:

    PicMonkey+Collagefinal.jpg

    I just found her blog, and she is awesome.

    As for the OP, yep yep yep!
  • danasings
    danasings Posts: 8,218 Member
    Looking fantastic!!
  • NoWeighJose74
    NoWeighJose74 Posts: 581 Member
    Not only does she have a smokin bod, she's also sharp as a tack.

    The woman's got brains yo. :drinker:
  • CorvusCorax77
    CorvusCorax77 Posts: 2,536 Member
    Not only does she have a smokin bod, she's also sharp as a tack.

    The woman's got brains yo. :drinker:

    awww, thanks mexipino! You and Taso have been immeasurably helpful in me learning how to squat right! Thank you!!
  • KatLifter
    KatLifter Posts: 1,314 Member
    But I am saying, stop it with the "I don't want to lift heavy because I want to be feminine" crap. What you are saying when you say you want to be "feminine" is that you want a higher body fat percentage than someone who has "rock solid abs." And that's ok. It doesn't have anything to do with lifting or not. Please understand that.

    I'm not sure why you think you should speak for others, but ...

    You can have low body fat and not have rock solid abs.
    You can have low body fat and rock solid abs without ever lifitng a weight.

    I'm pretty sure that every thread I see this poster on, she is being contrary...

    Awesome job.
    You look great.
    I lift heavy but have higher body fat and you made me feel better about myself today.
    Love the artwork.
    Haters gonna hate.
    I read something that Gwyneth Paltrow said today about when you read something nasty that someone writes about you, they are hurting, so imagine they are writing it to themselves.
    :heart:

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