"You're so lucky to be so thin"
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Thank you, OP for starting this topic...there are so many good points everyone has made and comebacks to remember for the next snooty comment I hear.
I am by no means perfect in my diet or exercise routine, but I have lost 10 lbs this year (with just basic calorie watching and some limited trips to the gym). However, around the holidays last year my mom commented to several people standing around the buffet table that my husband and I are health nuts :huh: Then later on she told me I was lucky I don't have a weight problem :huh: folks, I was at least 30 lbs over (which may not be a weight problem to some), but I didn't like the direction my lifestyle habits were taking me. This may sound like an excuse to some, but it's hard for me to have the energy to get up and do because I am still fighting cancer. I am tired all the time, but I swear if I can get my butt off the couch and do any type of exercise - than anybody can do it. Even if you can't workout, most people can practice portion control. My mom has told me she was jealous of me for other things, guess this is part of it too, but her feelings are hers to deal with - in other words, people with mean things to say are the ones with the problem, not us.
I am sorry to the chronically thin people who have posted on this thread...I do hope you reach your goals as well - I honestly, cannot imagine the frustration of trying to gain weight, as gaining seems to be easy for most people. I would get sick/tired of others making comments about me being skinny/thin too.0 -
Drives me nuts when people say why are you eating only healthy food, you're thin as it is. I eat healthy food because I like it. I go to the gym because there's some body composition changes I want to make & I like the way it feels. I don't make comments about them being chubby & constantly eating fast food at work /end rant
Thank you!! Why do soooo many people have a problem with people who like to eat healthy foods? It's not like we are making them eat it. There is nothing wrong with liking fruits and veggies...0 -
Im down this road for a second time after gaining 70 lbs with my pregnancy. I lost 105 lbs the first time. I couldn't STAND when people said that to me. They just assume I don't do squat to be that thin. Or when im at a bbq and don't pig out on junk food...people say, Oh your so think why are you so worried about eating, eat something! UGH...That's why I was 230 lbs in the first place...because I ate junk. If I start that again ill blow up in no time! People...I think they are just jealous.0
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I understand OP. For me it's the same but different. Where you are "lucky" I have over heard people say and have also been asked that I must be on steriods or if I am on them. I just laugh and simply reply its all in the diet and exercise but some folks are ignorant to that and just continue to assume other wise anyways, LOL srlsy. With these type of folks they cannot perceive others to look a certain fit way out with out some sort of pill or other substance to magically transfrom them. Heaven forbid hard work and a good diet can do all that.
Well thank you supplement industry for all your bs propaganda & mind ******* people! lol.
Edit: Yes I know I need a tan.. thank you. haha0 -
I have to admit, before I started dieting I would look at a lot of people and think that, "They're so lucky, they're skinny and here I am, fat".
But then I got up and started working my *kitten* off, and now I really do realize that a lot of people who are thin weren't born that way, and for all I know, they're doing exactly what I do now.
Exactly. That's been my motivation lately. I saw this really attractive girl at my work the other day in workout gear and she was super thin - then I thought she does the same thing I'm doing!0 -
I'm not a big fan on anybody making comments about anybody else's body. We come in all shapes and sizes. Some part of it is natural, and some of it is hard work.
When people do make this comment to me, I try to approach it with empathy rather than anger. I remind them that I am vegetarian, bike to work every day and spend my weekend with > 35lbs and a rope strapped to my back hiking to cliff faces, and then dumping the pack to scale a cliff. Do I do that to stay thin? Not really. I do that because I enjoy it. The result is being thin (and muscular). Can everybody do that or something similar? Sure. But I don't blame them if they don't. And people usually enjoy learning about my climbing excursions and nutrition ideas.
Try to turn it into a positive. They are paying you a compliment and you may end up inspiring someone.0 -
I don't understand why "you're so lucky to be so thin" is a rude comment? I think it's likely that person trying to compliment you without being awkward...? If I heard that and I have, I say thank you because I assume its them complimenting me and then I tell them I run everyday and eat good and that helps. Because I don't see it as them assuming I just burn a billion calories by existing. I see it as "wow, you've got it together, lucky. that's awesome." Maybe I am naive, but I am not offended when someone takes notice. I work hard and I turn down treats a lot. but in my mind, they dont need to know that. for me, I don't mind at all that they think it's effortless! I'm not working hard for them so I am not looking for any sort of acknowledgment on that...but sure, I will take a compliment on the end result!
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I don't understand why "you're so lucky to be so thin" is a rude comment? I think it's likely that person trying to compliment you without being awkward...? If I heard that and I have, I say thank you because I assume its them complimenting me and then I tell them I run everyday and eat good and that helps. Because I don't see it as them assuming I just burn a billion calories by existing. I see it as "wow, you've got it together, lucky. that's awesome." Maybe I am naive, but I am not offended when someone takes notice. I work hard and I turn down treats a lot. but in my mind, they dont need to know that. for me, I don't mind at all that they think it's effortless! I'm not working hard for them so I am not looking for any sort of acknowledgment on that...but sure, I will take a compliment on the end result!
Often times they aren't complimenting the person they're saying that to. They think you're thin because it's easy for you. There's a difference between "Oh, you're so lucky that you're thin" and "Wow, you look great!" Often the thin comment is said in a disparaging or dismissive way.0 -
I've never said that to anyone, however I have to say it makes me sick to see a thin person that eats garbage all the time and never gains a pound. I however can tell the difference with a naturally thin person that is not healthy, and a person that works hard to maintain a healthy weight and body.
Wow, what a condescending thing to say. Did you totally miss the point of the post?
When I was a young teenager, I could not gain weight, no matter what I tried. I was VERY thin. But healthy and active. Some people were so rude, constantly made ignorant comments, alluded to eating disorders. I would eat anything and everything I could, all the time, including "garbage", just to try to get some curves. I was so self conscious and insecure, I HATED my body. I would have done anything to put on 5 lbs. And it was the judgemental people in the background saying "it makes me sick to see how thin you are" that made me feel even worse.
Ugh. That comment just took me right back to 7th grade.
this is the thing i STILL get to this day.
So unbelievably rude. No one's allowed to say "Wow, you got fat" without being considered rude, but they're allowed to comment unsolicited on anyone who's thin. A woman at work told me to "Go eat a candy bar" and I was so shocked I didn't know what to do. It really hurt my feelings and made me very insecure. To have your body judged and commented on by anyone that feels like dropping a comment isn't fun for anyone, regardless of weight. Everyone has their own issues.0 -
Often the thin comment is said in a disparaging or dismissive way.
I have never felt that anybody ever said this to me as a put down. It's always been more along the lines of 'I wish I could be like you'.0 -
To have your body judged and commented on by anyone that feels like dropping a comment isn't fun for anyone, regardless of weight. Everyone has their own issues.
True. It's not nice to make comments about other people's bodies. Period. As women, we are subject to it and judged by our bodies all the time. It's not healthy.0 -
Reminds me of something Royce Gracie said back in the old UFC days. When someone said he had a lucky win, he would reply something like, "Maybe so, but the more I train, the luckier I get."0
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I've never said that to anyone, however I have to say it makes me sick to see a thin person that eats garbage all the time and never gains a pound. I however can tell the difference with a naturally thin person that is not healthy, and a person that works hard to maintain a healthy weight and body.
Wow, what a condescending thing to say. Did you totally miss the point of the post?
When I was a young teenager, I could not gain weight, no matter what I tried. I was VERY thin. But healthy and active. Some people were so rude, constantly made ignorant comments, alluded to eating disorders. I would eat anything and everything I could, all the time, including "garbage", just to try to get some curves. I was so self conscious and insecure, I HATED my body. I would have done anything to put on 5 lbs. And it was the judgemental people in the background saying "it makes me sick to see how thin you are" that made me feel even worse.
Ugh. That comment just took me right back to 7th grade.
Time to grow up then! You were unhealthy, as I said, eating garbage to put on weight is not healthy.0 -
The more I work at diet and exercise, the luckier I get at being in shape.0
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I do feel there are people who have a genetic predisposition to gain weight, and I grew up being bitter that I was one those people. I do have things that I am lucky to have, though. I am lucky to have a Mom who got me into fitness and working out. I might not have gotten into working out if I was naturally thin, and working out makes me so much healthier and happier. Sure, sometimes it's annoying that I have to work really hard to be thin, and it just comes naturally to some people, but I'm often healthier and stronger than those people. My parents work hard to be healthy and fit, and I'm glad that I had them as an example. They look really good for their age, and people tell me I look younger than I am, so I really shouldn't be complaining about my genetics.0
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That's when I reply: Lucky is what lazy people call dedicated people.
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I used to be one of those people that would look at someone and say "you are so lucky to be thin and skinny. Must be nice to not have to wear xl". :grumble: At one point I was ready to throw in the towel and continue letting my myself get bigger but that changed with my son.
But now:
I can't wait for someone to say it to me, because then I can whip out my engagement photo and say "you see this? That was me at 243, and with watching what I eat and exercising I'm now this and I beat some odds." And then just watch the jaws drop.:bigsmile:
Side note though: when I went into the doctor for an eye infection last week, she asked me if I had done weight watcher's or anything of the sort and the expression was priceless when I told her "nope. Those diets in my opinion don't work. I watch my calories, portion size, and exercise." :laugh:0 -
Wat.
I hate when people say this to me. I somewhat understand in the cases people that eat McDonald's every day and never go to the gym but I hate when people assume I'm one of those "naturally skinny" people. Most of the people that say this to me are fat and too lazy to do anything about it so they make excuses for themselves by thinking that everyone that's skinny is naturally that way.
I put a lot of time and effort to see these results. I fast all day, train fasted, then eat one meal that I meticulously plan to fit my macros within at least 3% and I always come in under my calorie goal (except for structured refeed every few months). I'm not complaining because I love doing it and I'm more than happy with my progress but I feel like people don't understand that this has taken a lot of time and thought. It's almost insulting to hear that I'm "lucky" when really I'm just hard working and dedicated.
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Anyone else experience this?
I just remember what it felt like to be in a carb induced coma when people mention how "skinny" I'm getting. I thank them and tell them I'm working hard to be healthier to keep up with my kid.
I'd just tell them, "wasn't luck" and smile. You can't let their insecurity hurt you.0 -
Wat.
I hate when people say this to me. I somewhat understand in the cases people that eat McDonald's every day and never go to the gym but I hate when people assume I'm one of those "naturally skinny" people. Most of the people that say this to me are fat and too lazy to do anything about it so they make excuses for themselves by thinking that everyone that's skinny is naturally that way.
I put a lot of time and effort to see these results. I fast all day, train fasted, then eat one meal that I meticulously plan to fit my macros within at least 3% and I always come in under my calorie goal (except for structured refeed every few months). I'm not complaining because I love doing it and I'm more than happy with my progress but I feel like people don't understand that this has taken a lot of time and thought. It's almost insulting to hear that I'm "lucky" when really I'm just hard working and dedicated.
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Anyone else experience this?
Sometimes, people are lucky to be thin. My brother doesn't work out. He eats what he wants and stays rail thin. He has to work to gain weight. He's been that way all our lives while I'vee always been one to look at a doughnut and gain weight. The difference is in the way our bodies are shaped and built. My brother is built like my mom's family, tall and thin. I'm built like my dad's family, round. If I want to be thinner, I have to work at it. I don't think it is fair, but who said life was fair and I value things that I work for more than I value things that I can do easily. But for some people, they won the genetic lottery and don't have to work at it at all. (This would be my brother.)
Obviously, you fall into a category of having to work for your body and you should be proud of it. You should definitely tell the people who say you're lucky about your accomplishments. 0 -
Yeah I would say unless it is someone close to you that knows you are working hard, I wouldn't get upset if someone were to say you're so lucky to be so thin. I would just take it as a compliment (even if a little back-handed). Say thanks and mention you have worked hard and unfortunately can't eat whatever you want though.
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Often the thin comment is said in a disparaging or dismissive way.
I have never felt that anybody ever said this to me as a put down. It's always been more along the lines of 'I wish I could be like you'.
I get if it there's a discussion on fitness or food or anything. Totally stonewalled because "You're lucky you're thin" kind of attitude. I need to hang out with your kind of people!0 -
Randomgirl,
I am curious. Do you eat one meal a day because it helps keep you dedicated and focused on fitness, or is there a metabolic reason? Does eating once a day let your body process the food better? Or is it like the reasoning of the monks who eat one mindful meal a day?0 -
I've never said that to anyone, however I have to say it makes me sick to see a thin person that eats garbage all the time and never gains a pound. I however can tell the difference with a naturally thin person that is not healthy, and a person that works hard to maintain a healthy weight and body.
Wow, what a condescending thing to say. Did you totally miss the point of the post?
When I was a young teenager, I could not gain weight, no matter what I tried. I was VERY thin. But healthy and active. Some people were so rude, constantly made ignorant comments, alluded to eating disorders. I would eat anything and everything I could, all the time, including "garbage", just to try to get some curves. I was so self conscious and insecure, I HATED my body. I would have done anything to put on 5 lbs. And it was the judgemental people in the background saying "it makes me sick to see how thin you are" that made me feel even worse.
Ugh. That comment just took me right back to 7th grade.
I felt the same way about losing 20 lbs. I did not think I could lose weight and felt very self conscious and insecure. I hated my body and stayed at home most of the time because of it. People in this thread should not judge heavy people. They have their own issues. People can be very disciplined in nearly every area but lack in this one. Some people are not addicted to drugs, to alcohol, TV, sex or anything similar but just have problems controlling their food intake. They may even be active. You can't really judge a person. People are holistic beings. They may be healthier in other areas but just suck at keeping their calories in check.0 -
I used to get this ALL THE TIME when I was younger. One friend would say " I hate you, you're so skinny" every time we had to change clothes in the same room or wear swim suits, etc. etc. Meanwhile, she was stuffing Funyuns in her mouth or eating candy/cookies
but honestly, they were probably right. I was just lucky that I didn't gain weight. I could eat whatever I wanted, exercise very little and never gain weight. Granted, I have always stopped eating when I was full (even when I was a toddler.. I wouldn't even accept cookies if I was full) and I was always busy with school and work...but other than that I didn't do anything to stay thin. However, when I got older it all started to catch up with me. Hints: why I am here now!
Now I am trying to un-learn all those bad eating habits so I can stay thin and become healthier/fitter for my future. I don't want to try and do this when I am 30-40, it is only going to be harder.0 -
Several reasons. I find it effortless to resist food during the day, especially after doing IF for more than a week or two because your hormones adjust so your ghrelin doesn't spike several times a day. I get really hungry at night so I get to have an entire day's worth of calories in one sitting. Short fasts (12-72 hours) increase metabolic rate. Skipping breakfast keep your IGF, testosterone, and adrenaline higher which increases energy and alertness while fasting and helps to put on muscle while losing fat (which is normally almost impossible). Fasted training increases muscle growth. Intermittent fasting reduces risk of heart disease and metabolic disorders, increases insulin sensitivity, and increases lifespan. By eating one meal directly after lifting I've been able to be in a catabolic state during the day so I lose fat and an anabolic state right after I workout so I gain muscle. I'm down a total of 28lbs (-36lbs fat, +8lbs muscle) and up 1" on my arms and 1.75" on my thighs. It's good stuff.Randomgirl,
I am curious. Do you eat one meal a day because it helps keep you dedicated and focused on fitness, or is there a metabolic reason? Does eating once a day let your body process the food better? Or is it like the reasoning of the monks who eat one mindful meal a day?0 -
Both. I workout every day and eat one meal directly after.
I put a lot of time and effort to see these results. I fast all day, train fasted, then eat one meal that I meticulously plan to fit my macros within at least 3% and I always come in under my calorie goal (except for structured refeed every few months). I'm not complaining because I love doing it and I'm more than happy with my progress but I feel like people don't understand that this has taken a lot of time and thought. It's almost insulting to hear that I'm "lucky" when really I'm just hard working and dedicated.
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Anyone else experience this?
Does this mean y ou eat one meal a day, every day? Or just when you are working out?
Your are officially my new HERO! I don't think I could eat one meal a day unless of course the one meal lasted all day, but you are an inspiration, I WILL work out today! Thank you0 -
Rndomgirl.
Thanks, fascinating. Im going to give it a try. My father-in-law fasts once a week for 24 hours and has been doing this for 50 or so years to decrease the effects of ankylosibg spondylitis, a severe arthritis of the spine. At almost 80 he still runs 5 miles a day, so it must be working. Thanks for the info.0 -
There are various ways the "thin" or "skinny" comment is made where it's negative. Perhaps some say it to be a compliment, but I find a compliment about weight is usually "You look slender." Or "You look fabulous" It usually isn't a reference towards weight and size.Often the thin comment is said in a disparaging or dismissive way.
I have never felt that anybody ever said this to me as a put down. It's always been more along the lines of 'I wish I could be like you'.
The comment "You're so lucky to be thin" is probably one of the worst, because for those that are that "lucky" often they'd rather be able to put on weight, or are simply tired of hearing about their weight. For the ones that worked their butts off to get to being "that thin" feel it's sort of a slap in the face towards all of their hard work. The bright side is those that know better will ask "How did you get so fit?" I love that comment!
I recently had my daughter (January 2013) and went back to work after only one month. I was 190lbs before she was born, and when I returned to work I was 155lbs (5'8") everyone made comments about my weight. One person, even after I said it was mostly baby weight, and my body just bounced back reasonably fast pulled me aside and asked "Seriously, what did you do to lose weight so fast?" As if losing weight can only be obtained by some miracle drug, or by starving ones-self.
Now I just say "Well, it's the crack!"0
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