That awkward moment when...
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Seriously, OP, what is the game?0
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If you have anxiety issues there is proven medication to help. Otherwise dont allow yourself to be put in these situations.0
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Not much of a war. I don't fight unarmed opponents.
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coming from you. lol0 -
That awkward moment when I walk in on my cat masturbating and I'm not sure what to do, so I lay the box of tissues beside him and leave without getting what I need from that room.
The conversation started to go down hill so I thought I would just add that in there.0 -
If you have anxiety issues there is proven medication to help. Otherwise dont allow yourself to be put in these situations.
Not helpful at the moment. She's already there. Maybe she's already taking medication. Maybe it's not to that point yet. Bottom line, let's just get her through this awkward night before we all start digging out our Rx pads, mkay?0 -
Seriously, OP, what is the game?
I was just about to ask that. Also, what kind of crowd are they? Stuffy? Friendly?0 -
Why not go sit beside someone and ask them how to play the game? People love to teach others about the things they're good at. And quite frankly, if I invited someone over and they were anti-social and refused to participate I would wonder why they bothered coming at all.0
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lol well that was fun.
anyways
that awkward moment when im sitting down faceing away from the door and im using a shake weight hammer curl style...dad comes in and thinks im jerking off and yells out...dont worry son thats perfectly normal0 -
Where'd OP go? C'mon and just be nice or IM eachother0
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That awkward moment when. someone admits to using a shake weight...0
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I can understand where you are coming from OP. I am a shy introvert and my husband is an outgoing (imagine that) extrovert. I am very fortunate that he is also very sensitive to me and my feelings and has always made an effort to include me when we are at a gathering, especially with people I don't know. If I am not into what they are doing, such as they all came from the same town in NY and went to high school together, so they tell stories about way back when, I will still sit with him and he'll hold my hand or rub my back to let me know that he is still aware I am there and that he knows that I might be uncomfortable. That's enough to make me more comfortable and make me happy to let him have his good time with his friends. I don't want to ruin his good time with friends.
Maybe tell your BF that you need him to make sure he continues to connect with you when you are in such an awkward situation like you were. It's obvious you aren't/ weren't happy to go hang with them. If his company isn't enough to keep you happy, then plan on staying home the next time. I'm not being snarky, just saying that if you aren't happy there, you'd probably be happier at home.0 -
i'm pretty sure it's not a board game, but a video game. or a computer game.
as an aside: drunk cranium is pretty awesome.0 -
that awkward moment when my deliviry on my awkward moment was bad....its from romanatwoods on youtube0
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Hey OP,
I bet you are not only regretting going to that party but starting this thread now, am I right?
I know just how you feel - although I rarely have a phone to fall back on in these situations, I just stand around awkwardly, being... awkward.
I guess I have social anxiety too, although I've never thought of it that way, I just know that being in social situations where I don't know anybody bums me out. I don't make an effort to small talk with people because I don't think I'm good at it and because if I do make an effort & I get the "wrong" response it makes me feel not only infinitely more awkward but like I am a failure at being a regular human being.
You are SO not alone in feeling like you do, just as the people who are telling you to get off your phone or jump in on the conversation/activity are not alone in feeling the way they do, they are just different personality types, which, you know, makes the world go around and all that.
I used to blog & when I wrote about this topic the response I got was massive - 90 percent of the comments were from people who could relate, who felt the same way & thought that they were the only ones, and while that doesn't help any with being in these situations, it does help one's mental state to know that we aren't the only freaks who feel like this!
It's hard when the only person you know is ignoring your plight too. I am wracking my brain for a solution but I can just SEE the exact scenario in my head & know what it must be like. Lots of my SO's friend's thought I was standoffish or even just a *kitten* in the early days, because I kept to myself so much, but I just didn't know what else to do when they were all involved in something & getting along famously. Look around. Is there anyone at all who isn't involved this second? Smile at them. Ask what their favorite game is. Tell them that you have a few old games yourself but are way out of your depth amongst all this knowledge. They might offer you an in! Or just a distracting chat.
Good luck, and, since I have NFI what time it is over there, if it's all over by now, yay you, you survived. xx0 -
This is more of an issue with the age barrier than anything. You lack the social skills to bridge that gap. It is unfortunate, but it is what it is.
Sorry to the OP, but I agree.
Get off your phone and be polite.
^^This. OP my husband is 12 years older than I. So are all of his friends. We have plenty to talk about since I make an effort. Get off the phone and grab a beer and chat. Its eaiser than you think.
ETA - Well I guess this is what happens when you don't read the whole thread. Let me apologize OP. I used to have social anxiety so bad (along with claustrophobia) that going through a fast food drive thru would cause me to vomit; being in a theatre to see a movie i would hyperventilate and pass out. I'm sorry you are having a rough time.0 -
i'm pretty sure it's not a board game, but a video game. or a computer game.
as an aside: drunk cranium is pretty awesome.
this counts me out for help but then it took me two weeks to learn crib0 -
Seriously, OP, what is the game?
I think the game is see how many folks we can rile up in Chit Chat, then bounce from the scene.
Hope she bumped for later.
While some of these other folks are getting butthurt0 -
"I think the game is see how many folks we can rile up in Chit Chat, then bounce from the scene.
Hope she bumped for later.
While some of these other folks are getting butthurt"
Well, good for her. Achievement unlocked, I guess.0 -
I didn't read the whole thread.
I'll say that I have massive social anxiety. To the point that it crippling to be in any social gathering. I'm perfectly content to sit in a room full of people and not say one word and just be there... Except it sucks. Its pretty boring after a wile.
I don't have great advice, except that you just have to fake confidence. Try stupid comedy, some jokes and steer the conversation to a place you can talk about. I just do that. Its tough and hard, but what else are you going to do?0 -
That awkward moment when none of these moments are awkward and you start to wonder if anyone remembers the definition of the word...0
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Social anxiety is something someone can overcome. On the books, I have what's known as "Avoidant Personality Disorder"....which is a very severe form of social anxiety. I can be the life of the party. I can talk and joke with everyone. Inside? Well, I'm dying inside and I want nothing more than to avoid it at all costs.
I could not see another living soul for years and be perfectly fine with that....and that's not an exaggeration. I want nothing more than to buy some land out in the middle of nowhere, live off the grid, and never come in contact with anyone again. That's my retirement plan.
Unfortunately, I need money to live right now. That means I have to swallow my initial instinct to bolt from social settings. It means I can't stammer, stutter, and sweat like I used to. It means I have to leave my house at some point everyday and deal with different people with very different personalities than mine.
So, when I say it can be overcome, it really can. I never expected to work in Corporate America and have to learn these skills, but here I am. Sink or swim. I sank quite a bit in the beginning, but even the most socially inept can adapt when they have to.0 -
I have social anxiety as well. even around family, if were at a gathering of more then 3 people I will often isolate myself in another room or the corner of a room and not say anything to anyone. I don't like large crowds or groups of people. I only tolerate it when its family but even then like I said I still find ways to isolate myself and will just observe the gathering more than participate in it.
When its people I don't know, or know very little, I flat out refuse to go or be apart of the gathering. Im socially awkward, I don't know what to do say or act around such large groups, I don't know social queues or requirements or protocols for certain events. I also I have OCD, mild germ phobia and a rather large touch phobia. I don't like being around people, I don't like interacting more than nessciary with people, im EXTEREMLY shy and basically It just comes down to the fact that large groups, large crowds unnerve me and can even scare me. Im much more comfortable in an environment of small people that I know really well.0 -
Just came across this & thought it apt.
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That awkward moment when I walk in on my cat masturbating and I'm not sure what to do, so I lay the box of tissues beside him and leave without getting what I need from that room.
The conversation started to go down hill so I thought I would just add that in there.
Ok, no lie but my cat, Slim Shady, gets off on my daughter's stuffed animals! He is neutered but still will steal them off her bed, hide in the closet, and have his way with Elmo. More than once I've caught him and he couldn't care less. He just gives me a look like "what? You mad?" and continues molesting whatever poor stuffed animal he abducted for the day. One time at 3am he decided to molest my dog's squeaky stuffed chicken. I woke up, flipped on the light, and there was Slim Shady doing the nasty with a chicken. He never leaves any "evidence" since he's neutered but OMG it is funny. Sorry for the rambling but that made me think of my cat!0 -
That awkward moment when I walk in on my cat masturbating and I'm not sure what to do, so I lay the box of tissues beside him and leave without getting what I need from that room.
The conversation started to go down hill so I thought I would just add that in there.
Ok, no lie but my cat, Slim Shady, gets off on my daughter's stuffed animals! He is neutered but still will steal them off her bed, hide in the closet, and have his way with Elmo. More than once I've caught him and he couldn't care less. He just gives me a look like "what? You mad?" and continues molesting whatever poor stuffed animal he abducted for the day. One time at 3am he decided to molest my dog's squeaky stuffed chicken. I woke up, flipped on the light, and there was Slim Shady doing the nasty with a chicken. He never leaves any "evidence" since he's neutered but OMG it is funny. Sorry for the rambling but that made me think of my cat!
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Hi everyone, I apologize that it seemed like I bailed from the post but as a wrote earlier I was on my phone that wasn't even going to last through the night so for everyone that agreed for me to get off of the phone I was forced to once it died lol. I should've mentioned from the beginning about my social anxiety but since it was kind of a personal thing I didn't really want to I guess...but seeing people giving responses that I felt I made them angry I had to explain my reason. I tried to talk with people but I couldn't hold a long enough conversation and then they'd turn and continue conversation with who they knew. There were three different tvs set up for video games so they were all very focused on playing their games and pretty sure could care less with what I was even doing. By the end of the night as people were leaving, four of them including my boyfriend all scooted to a different tv to play a game and one boy sat on the tv I was in front of, he was pretty easy to talk to but if only he sat there earlier I probably wouldn't of even posted this lol. I'm not going to blame my boyfriend either, once we left I simply explained to him that that should be his "guy time", his night to hang out with the boys. Also I wasn't here for people to entertain me, just for company to have a simple conversation with and I didn't want for anyone to get into a fight or mad... :[ I'm really sorry for causing anything, but I sincerely appreciate the support, hearing your opinions and all of your experiences for those who also have social anxiety.0
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This is more of an issue with the age barrier than anything. You lack the social skills to bridge that gap. It is unfortunate, but it is what it is.
*Sorry, but I must agree with this.0 -
Talking a little bit, and then talking to somebody else, is how you get to know people.
I find small talk agonising, I'd always be the person at a party hanging out on the stairs or in the garden with the smokers and the divorced. However, I started with just passing comments, sometimes chatting for a while, sometimes sitting in silence (giving up and going home, too) and sometimes talking for hours with somebody I really got on with.
The result of this? A bunch of friends ranging in age from 22 to 47. Plus seeing people I know most times I go into town. It's so much better that way.
You don't overcome or manage social anxiety by sitting at home or in the corner playing nyancat jump. You chip away at it, day after day, week after week and eventually, things aren't quite so hard anymore.0 -
Hi everyone, I apologize that it seemed like I bailed from the post but as a wrote earlier I was on my phone that wasn't even going to last through the night so for everyone that agreed for me to get off of the phone I was forced to once it died lol. I should've mentioned from the beginning about my social anxiety but since it was kind of a personal thing I didn't really want to I guess...but seeing people giving responses that I felt I made them angry I had to explain my reason. I tried to talk with people but I couldn't hold a long enough conversation and then they'd turn and continue conversation with who they knew. There were three different tvs set up for video games so they were all very focused on playing their games and pretty sure could care less with what I was even doing. By the end of the night as people were leaving, four of them including my boyfriend all scooted to a different tv to play a game and one boy sat on the tv I was in front of, he was pretty easy to talk to but if only he sat there earlier I probably wouldn't of even posted this lol. I'm not going to blame my boyfriend either, once we left I simply explained to him that that should be his "guy time", his night to hang out with the boys. Also I wasn't here for people to entertain me, just for company to have a simple conversation with and I didn't want for anyone to get into a fight or mad... :[ I'm really sorry for causing anything, but I sincerely appreciate the support, hearing your opinions and all of your experiences for those who also have social anxiety.
Hater's gonna Hate. While you should generally put that evil phone away, the key bit of info you did include was the Eff'n video games. I don't know how you can have a get together that is any kind of social, w/video games involved.
I play one game (an autoracing game) and if company comes over it gets shut off immediately.0 -
Yea... well at least it's over now lol I'm sure I'll get over my anxiety in time, I only get it in certain situations. In my opinion there are just some places where people don't belong, like I said I only went to support my boyfriend because he was afraid of being alone. Now that he knows he will do just fine the next time they do this (they planned the first Sunday of every month) he will be confident that he won't be the oddball out and won't need me there. Things like this happen sometimes, all you can do is learn from it, buy anyways thanks for your inputs.0
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