Are people crazy or do I have an eating disorder?

lattarulol

I can't decide whether people are just trying to hate or if I really do have an eating disorder. I think my behavior is normal for someone watching their diet and eventually it will become second nature to me. I will summarize and let me know what you think!

Since Jan I've lost 30 lbs at a slow, steady pace. I exercise most days and watch what I eat. I use my food scale religiously and am very meticulous with it. I don't often bring it out to public places but I have once or twice (I wanted to know what I typically eat at Souplantation.) I pre-log most meals and plan a week's worth of shopping and cooking. I am of the mindset that I can eat anything (I had two donuts yesterday) as long as I plan for it and and log it. I do get some satisfaction out of eating my planned meals - it is my personality, make a plan and execute! I am up to about 1650 cals per day and I plan on going up weekly until I reach a maintenance level. I still go out to eat with everyone, just usually look at the menu ahead of time so that I know what to order. I still go to parties and have a good time so my workouts and eating habits have not made me anti-social. I have naturally stopped drinking most alcohol because after being pregnant and breastfeeding for the past three years I kind of lost a taste for it and get a headache almost immediately from drinking. I don't harp on other people for what they eat. I don't limit the food of my kids or husband (though i cook healthier now so they eat healthier as a by-product).

Anyways, I think these are all normal things but three people from work (they all know each other and talk about this so its not three isolated incidents) have said I have an eating disorder. Am I in denial? What signs should I look for that indicate I have an abnormal relationship with food?

skinnyforcruise2013

Sounds like you are being healthy. They are crazy!

TriShamelessly

Sounds like a combo of ignorance and/or jealousy on their part. Good luck with your continued success. I'm sure you'll get a plethora of "Haters gonna hate" replies to this as well.

graceylou222

What? You do not have an eating disorder, you might be a control freak because you are so well planned, but I see nothing wrong with that! Continue on girl, I'd say you're doing great!

Annie83uk

that seems perfectly healthy to me, are you still trying to lose weight or just maintain? my calories are lower than that

KellySue67

This is basically what I do as well. I can't say that I've taken my food scale out in public, but I use it and measuring cups faithfully at home. I do the same thing with restaurants- looking ahead is a great way to make healthier choices. I am still losing weight so not trying to maintain, but It sounds like you are doing things the right way. I think maybe others are just jealous of your success.

tanashai

Yeah.... no, doesn't sound like a disorder to me! I also do weekly planned meal shopping (have for a while though; it's easier on the budget), I measure what I eat (though I don't have a food scale so I just make sure I always have extra calories left over) and it sounds like you're doing the sensible thing! Haters gonna hate.

millery2

It may just be jealousy on their part that you're sticking to it and getting results where as they are not?? It sounds fine what you're doing to me. Sometimes people just like to talk and make a negative out of something good.

Adirafox

I think that all sounds really healthy. Yeah, you might like control a bit much, but that's part of your personality. They might be jealous, or feel threatened by your losses (really, your gains!).

RiannonC

You don't have an eating disorder. Sounds like they want to reassure themselves that their unhealthy eating habits are normal so they have to tell themselves that it's you who has the problem. Don't let them make you second guess yourself!

sarahsunshine1217

i dont think you have an eating disorder. I do the same thing and have been for over three months now. That is the only way it seems to help me. Keep it up and eventually you will be a little more relaxed as you get more confident.

JewelsinBigD

You have a job, two kids, a spouse and you are this meticulous? Do you sleep? Workout? Something has to give...I just don't have time to be that meticulous about this - if someone could do it for me - I would be all in and eat whatever was in front of me- but I like spending too much time playing with my kids. Maybe because mine are 10-8-4-2 I am busier with them - but I would not have the time to do all you do associated with my food. Therefore I am losing slower...but I am Ok with it. If it works for you- go for it.

cmeiron

Haters gonna hate.

You're fine.

IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym

I was expecting either a really low calorie intake or vomitting afterwards. This is healthy.

becky6m

If you have one, then count me in your club. I am the same way. How do you know how much you are eating or how many calories you are putting in your body if you don't weigh it? I am at maintenance mode and still exercise and use my scale, daily. I think really it's the lack of education on their part. I say do what you know works and let the haters hate.

Tbias78

Sounds like they're just hatin' Great job!

fitwithcurves

That sounds normal. They're probably just not used to someone being so health conscious!

k8blujay2

Sounds pretty healthy to me. Shoot! It's what I should be doing.

laserturkey

I agree that you do NOT seem to have an eating disorder. I mean, what happens if your scale breaks down? Do you have a complete nervous collapse because you can't control your food? I'm guessing it wouldn't be that big a deal to you.

If you have an eating disorder, then I do too.

And I don't, so. . . .

helloheatherbray

I am living my fitness journey the exact same way...I am a control freak and I get a great deal of satisfaction planning my meals and keeping close tabs on what's going in my mouth. At times I've thought to myself "do I have an eating disorder?" "Is this normal behavior?" As long as I'm eating healthy and living healthy I'm staying on this journey

Elif84

It looks like you live a healthy lifestyle. I get the same thing. I've been told I'm too thin and that I need to eat something. Meanwhile I help them finish their meal.

barb1241

Are they fat and jealous, or just crazy and jealous?

Sounds like you are doing the right thing the right way.

jessimacar

I am not a professional.. but I would never assume you had an eating disorder from reading that.. I mean, I don't know you. There may be an obsession with fitness and food, but I don't know if it's severe enough to warrant being called a disorder. There is a good chance these girls are jealous and your healthy habits are making them feel bad or guilty for their less healthy choices.. That's no reason to change. If you are close to them and their opinions matter to you, you should talk to them and see why they feel this way, and get a chance to tell them what you wrote here. You're being healthy. As long as you are getting the nutrients you need and don't let this become an obsession that rules your life, I don't see the issue from here across the interwebs. Lol.

Fitnin6280

I think people who have never had to get themselves back to a healthy weight just don't understand how much work it truely is. It may look excessive to them, but in reality, it is perfectly fine. Don't let them get to you. You are just doing what works for you to be healthy. Good job!

potluck965

I don't think your friends have a clue as to what an eating disorder really is.

xadian

Haters hating on you! Your doing a great job! Ditch those bringing you down! x

MyChocolateDiet

I can't decide whether people are just trying to hate or if I really do have an eating disorder. I think my behavior is normal for someone watching their diet and eventually it will become second nature to me. I will summarize and let me know what you think!

Since Jan I've lost 30 lbs at a slow, steady pace. I exercise most days and watch what I eat. I use my food scale religiously and am very meticulous with it. I don't often bring it out to public places but I have once or twice (I wanted to know what I typically eat at Souplantation.) I pre-log most meals and plan a week's worth of shopping and cooking. I am of the mindset that I can eat anything (I had two donuts yesterday) as long as I plan for it and and log it. I do get some satisfaction out of eating my planned meals - it is my personality, make a plan and execute! I am up to about 1650 cals per day and I plan on going up weekly until I reach a maintenance level. I still go out to eat with everyone, just usually look at the menu ahead of time so that I know what to order. I still go to parties and have a good time so my workouts and eating habits have not made me anti-social. I have naturally stopped drinking most alcohol because after being pregnant and breastfeeding for the past three years I kind of lost a taste for it and get a headache almost immediately from drinking. I don't harp on other people for what they eat. I don't limit the food of my kids or husband (though i cook healthier now so they eat healthier as a by-product).

Anyways, I think these are all normal things but three people from work (they all know each other and talk about this so its not three isolated incidents) have said I have an eating disorder. Am I in denial? What signs should I look for that indicate I have an abnormal relationship with food?

it's the bolded part. that was probably too much for anyone to take. i personally have lost almost the same weight in the same time exactly as you and seeing as it's almost your entire goal, I'm gonna guess that you are close to goal weight and so that means are getting pretty thin. i'm still a long ways from goal weight and so the difference between me and you is in my case people see an overweight person who has lost a little and so "yay, her" it's high-fiveable. In your case people see a thin person getting thinner and it causes concern and backlash. I think you just stick with what you know and let your own judgement, stats in the gym, and dr's office info guide you to how and when to stop and switch to maintenance. In the meantime leave your scale at home and just guesstimate during those times or eat what you know the cals of. Don't give people like that any more ammo.

mmoonstars

I think you are just very serious and committed to your weightloss and goals. From the information you provided I think you are doing things in a very positive and realistic manner.

shadow2soul

Sounds normal to me. This isn't at all what I expected to read when I opened the thread. :flowerforyou:

Donners185

Definitely not from the examples you have given. I do all of those things as well. I have scales in work that I use during the day and scales at home that I use in the evening. Also when I go to my auntie or gran's house to eat the scales come too!!!!! Its the only way I can stick to my calorie plan without going over or under. There's nothing wrong with being organised. Planning and prep gets results!!! Your calorie limit doesn't seem too low so I'd say continue as you are. Screw them, sounds like jealousy over your awesome self control!!! :happy:

DopeItUp

If that's an eating disorder, then this site might as well be renamed to "MyEatingDisorderPal" because we're all in the same boat. You're fine, monitoring your intake is normal amongst those who are trying to become/stay healthy, athletic, strong, etc..

Let me guess, the ladies who accused you of having an eating disorder, are they "bigger", maybe?