I need your opinion on how to respond to a text...
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My biggest reaction to this is not that she blew you off to go golfing. My biggest WTH moment with this was that she never approaches you at the gym.... she waits for you to approach her...
This strikes me as someone who wants to be the center of attention... someone who is using you to make her feel better about herself... When you approach her, it makes her feel desirable. If she were to approach you, it would feel less like you were chasing her, and therefore isn't something she wants.
Personally, my advice is to stop approaching. If she really is into the friendship for the friendship that it should be, there should be mutual approaching...
In regards to the text, I'd respond with something along the lines of "Upset or not, you can still come say hi."0 -
So the woman you want to cheat on her husband with you is cheating on you with her guy friends? Stop. Just stop.
You clearly missed the part where I said that I've never made a move on her and that I have no intention in the world of being involved in an extra-marital affair.
I don't think it was missed at all, I think she's spot on. You need to STOP. I have never in my life seen a guy over analyze a situation like this. If you are this bent out of shape about her, you are in WAY too deep and need to do just what this poster said, just stop. She's married and that means you need to get her out of your head...stat.0 -
say that you were insulted because after telling you she was so busy with chores and couldn't find any time to hang out, she went out and did something else instead.
she sounds like a rude b!tch and people deserve to have better friends than that.0 -
Uh...you sound jealous. Like, boyfriend jealous. Maybe you don't *intend* to do anything, but I think this is headed down a bad path.
Great point.0 -
Sexual tension between you and a married woman is not a healthy relationship.
Do yourself a favor and just chill with people that don't upset you. Too many fish in the sea for friendships and romantic relationships to being getting miffed over this nonsense.0 -
You clearly missed the part where I said that I've never made a move on her and that I have no intention in the world of being involved in an extra-marital affair.0
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So I have a friend that I always get into fights and arguments with. She always turns it around and makes me out to be the bad guy/ a-hole. I think we fight so much because there's some sexual tension between us. She's married and of course doesn't want to cheat on her husband. And I have no wish to have or be apart of an extra-marital affair. I have never made a move on her, etc.
Anyway, we will occasionally hang out or go out to dinner together for our cheat meal. Lately we haven't been hanging out a lot, even though I've made time for her and tried to get her to get out of the house to have some fun.
So last weekend I had the weekend off and she had Sunday off. I texted her on Saturday seeing if she wanted to hang out, go shooting, or do something else fun. She said she would be too busy doing things around the house and running errands. Ok, no biggie, we're all busy with day to day chores.
So, y'all are dating, just not having sex? Sorry, I should've stated this way.... So, y'all are dating, just not having sex.
(note the change in punctuation? subtle, but it's there.)0 -
This woman is not your wife or SO. You are friends. It's not that serious and it makes no sense that you feel this way unless you have feelings for her that really aren't warranted. Shouldn't be building that close of a relationship with a married woman anyway. There are plenty of women that are single in this world that would love your company, bro.
That's just my opinion.0 -
She is married, end of story. She should not be having dinners with you unless her husband is aware and joining you both. You sound like you have more invested than you want to admit, regardless of what your "said intentions are". Saying hi at the gym is one thing, dating another man's wife....not okay, dude...0
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Damn! Just call her husband and talk to him about her to see what's going on! No one probably knows her better than him. Maybe he can help you out with this.0
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She is married.. sure people have friends of the opposite sex, but it sounds like you talk to and see her a lot more than the average friend of the opposite sex. And then she goes hanging out with OTHER guys besides her husband? Something doesn't sound right here.0
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How old are you both? Sounds more like teenagers than adults. She's married and not to you. And if she is hanging around all these other male friends, she doesn't sound too serious about her marriage. Best bet - leave.....0
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Damn! Just call her husband and talk to him about her to see what's going on! No one probably knows her better than him. Maybe he can help you out with this.
OMG - THIS!! lol0 -
Omg! Are you a teenage girl or what? So much drama for nothing. She has a life and doesn't have to include you in anything if she doesn't want to.0
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Um, she probably knew you'd cry about her having other plans and not including you - so she lied.
Take that for what it is -- somebody telling you that you're being too clingy/needy. If you just didn't like that she lied, I don't see why you wouldn't just tell her the truth. But methinks you know you sound -- jealous, possessive and kind of sad.0 -
this is a married women. she is not available for a "relationship". you need to look else where for a better class of person. say hello at the gym, be nice. but leave it at the gym.
Yup. This!0 -
"Nothing is wrong, I'm busy with chores, I mean golfing, I mean chores."
DEFINITELY THIS!0 -
You are 25 years old, she is a married lady (I didn`t read the whole of the thread) I am presuming she is younger than you?
With the greatest respect I would say move on...this `friendship` is never going to go anywhere.0 -
what pisses me off is that told me she had chores to do so she can't hang out, and then goes and hangs out and doesn't even include me. Along with that she never texts me first, comes up to me at the gym (it's apparently my job to initiate conversation), etc.
Alllll right so she's too busy doing chores but has time to do all that?? So I said screw it. I'm going to ignore her all week
You're secretly a girl?0 -
Damn! Just call her husband and talk to him about her to see what's going on! No one probably knows her better than him. Maybe he can help you out with this.
This is excellent advice!! LMAO!!0
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