Stop calling me too skinny!

F*%k what everyone else has to say! It pisses me off everytime I think about no one ever telling me that I was getting too overweight but, when I lost the weight, I am now too skinny. Healthy and fit is what I am and if they don't like it, they can K.M.A.! I am happy with how I feel and look and you should be too.

Don't spend your life trying to please everyone because you will NEVER be happy.

I think it'd be better for you to lose your fat from muscle toning and moderate weight lifting compared to just losing more lbs. That way you won't have the jiggle and if people see some muscle they can't claim you're "skin and bone" but if your family and husband are concerned, you may want to listen. Their hearts are in the right place, compared to co workers and their crappy remarks.

I have definitely been getting that and "you don't need to watch what you eat" or "you're so little. you really don't need to work out/lose any weight/etc". I was seriously unhealthy, out of shape and overweight (though never obese) and decided to change my eating habits and start working out. I still log because I don't think that I would be able to approrpriately gauge and control my calorie intake without doing so and I get made fun of for that as well. I think some of it is people genuinely trying to be nice and tell me that I look great but I know that others are jealous and may feel that I'd be judging them or feel self conscious that they have failed to make the changes that I have made. I take the genuine compliments in stride and politely accept them while also acknowledging that I haven't yet reached my goals. For the others, I don't know what to do anymore because if they feel the need to cut me down to boost themselves up, I'm not sure there's much I can do other than offer up advice if they ever want it. For the record, I don't judge unless people continually complain to me about how they can't lose weight, are too out of shape, etc while chowing down on high calorie/fat, nutritionally void foods and complaining that they don't have time for a 20min workout. At that point, I still don't judge...I just don't wanna hear it

I"ve told this story on other message boards. I go to a fairly large church. 5 weekend services with about 2500-3000 people. About 20 adults meet in my home mid week from our church. I had one woman that comes to my home, who is VERY pear shaped (seriously tiny through the shoulders and rib cage and a BIG ole booty, hips, calves, ankles) tell me that people like me (and a handful of us who are pretty serious about getting more fit) are too tiny and make fat people not want to go to our church! I was floored!! I'm 5'5" and weigh 133-135 ish. Not exactly a light weight by any means. However, my being "skinny" (her term) is going to cause others to look for another church. Are you kidding me??? That one really ticked me off.

You need to concentrate on being healthy about your weight. If you are, then ignore the critics. If you have even the slightest inkling that you've gone a bit overboard (not saying you have) then consider if the critics statements have any truth or if it's simply out of jealousy.

In any event, I hope the critics move on to another subject, and you enjoy many healthy years!!

I'm 5'3", 138lbs and most everyone is already calling me too skinny too and I have another 15 to go.. and still have a fat tummy! I think that the tummy is hidden well and since I'm naturally small boned, they arent used to seeing any of my bones and therefore think I'm too thin! I used to weigh 179 so there is a BIG difference in how I look.
However, this is my body, my health and I believe that I have healthy goals. I want to weigh 120lbs but no less, due to my small bones. If I look too thin when I get there, I'll build more muscle. For me, it's about being at a healthy bmi WITH a healthy look with muscles!
I will also add that I am a recovered anorexic/bulimic so I know that I am at risk of going back where I was. I have healthy goals and knowing the risk of 'not knowing how to stop' and recognizing it, I'll get help if I need it.
I think that some of the people remember when I was anorexic and are afraid I'm heading back to that dark place. I am not! I also think that some of them wish they could get control of their health and be like me and are threatened. True friends and the family who really care about you will care about your outcome but also support the fact that you want to be HEALTHY.
I'd worry about you, re-evaluate if you need to, be aware of what people are saying but blow it off if need be.
Good luck and <hugs>.

Oh, I totally hear you! I was just asked yesterday if I could even shop in the women's section, or if I had to shop in the kids' section. WHAT??? lol

People do not take into account that
1) Short people can weigh less
2) Skinny does not equal healthy
3) Our culture has made fat normal, and obese "chubby"

If you think our culture currently has made fat normal, you need to look at some historical paintings/drawings/photographs.

Sorry, I just found that slightly irritating. I hate when people act like this is a "new" thing that people are "heavy". It's not new.

To the OP, you need to do what you want to do - I have totally different goals than you, and that's okay - I admire you setting goals and working towards them, and I would hope that people would give the same respect. I know they don't, but wish they would!

I HAVE had this happen...all my life until I was fat.

I think that it is all relative. We live in such a fat culture that people really don't know what 'normal' is anymore. They simply don't see it often enough.
As well, I truly believe that when people point out how 'skinny' you are, it somehow justifies why they may not be at their ideal size and body image.

People truly don't GET that is just as rude to point out how skinny someone is as it is to point out how fat someone is. people just don't know how to be civil anymore.

I know it's hard to expect you to ignore it, but there isn't much more you can do, short of telling them all to go bleep themselves..and well, that simply isn't the nicest way to approach it either.

It would be funny to ask them what their weight and height was and calculate their BF or BMI and point out just where they fit on the scale!! That might shut them up!

Chin up and good luck....As long as you are healthy and happy, that really is all that matters!

I'm 5'2" and weigh 118. I'm not trying to lose weight, I'm trying to gain muscle. And whether you know it or not if you are trying to get to 17% body fat you are too. I don't understand being bothered by what ignorant people think or say.

I've been getting that comment alot lately!! Pisses me off too. I'm 5'4" and 135lbs with a BMI of 23.2 and 20% body fat. So yes, i'm thin, but NOT skinny and I have muscle tone. I eat 1600 calories a day and actually eat more than my other coworkers. I think it's just jealously on their part but it still stings when people flat out ask you, "you're not going to lose anymore weight are you?". I wish people would say something nice or nothing at all.

I used to ge that all the time. Before I had kids I was 5'7" and 100 lbs. I was eating like a maniac (not healthy at all). People would shove food at me like I was going to keel over at any moment. I just had a really high metabolisim; wish it would come back.

You know your body. I think maybe getting an actual body fat test done would be a great idea. That way you will know, instead of guess.